So, DH has two brothers that he hasn’t talked to in years (since before we started dating, so at least 9+ years and I think more like 16 years). They also hadn’t been in touch with ILs until around Thanksgiving this past year (which we found out about last night). The older brother is in trouble, was in jail. MIL called last night and told us that the older brother found the little brother dead...he must have overdosed either on drugs or alcohol. DH is sad but not devastated...he figured he would never see them again...but his little brother is the one he would have wanted me to meet (he blames a lot of the issues on the older brother). I just can’t imagine everything MIL is going through. She just lost her mom and now this, which is her worst nightmare.
luv2rn4fun, I am really sorry for your family's loss That is a lot to deal with emotionally, beyond just the loss itself. I'll be praying for your MIL to somehow feel some peace.
Post by luv2rn4fun on Feb 17, 2018 16:28:20 GMT -5
Thanks ladies. It’s all so shocking. I think all of us knew that this would be a possibility but I think I wondered if ILs/DH would ever find out if anything happened to either of them (since there had been no contact for so long). I think we only found out because of the recent arrest and the older brother contacting ILs for help. He was only 36. FIL is flying out of state to bring the older brother and the younger brothers body home to be cremated.
In better news...we went for a hike on a trail that goes along the golf course where we got married! It was a nice distraction, good to get some exercise, and nice to relive some memories from our wedding day (and show the venue to the boys)!
Your poor MIL, luv2rn4fun! It makes me so sad for her that two of her sweet babies ended up turning into troubled adults and that she lost one. I can't even imagine.
We get to go on a five-hour date tomorrow night, and I'm trying to determine what sounds better: 1. Dinner (with margaritas!) and a movie (relaxing and nobody can talk to me!!!) 2. Dinner at an upscale vintage arcade place, followed by skee ball and Space Invaders (normally I love this, but it's kind of noisy and there are kids, and I kind of want a break from noise) 3. Dinner and an escape room (thinking this would be more fun in a few months when my brain is firing on all cylinders again) 4. Any other ideas?
Post by estrellita on Feb 17, 2018 18:39:57 GMT -5
krystee The escape room would be so fun but I agree I wouldn't have as much fun right now. I think out of those I'd pick dinner and a movie! How often do you get to watch a movie uninterrupted with the good popcorn/snacks? Plus there are some good movies out right now!
krystee I would do the dinner and uninterrupted movie. Whatever you pick, enjoy!
So SIL went away last week with the flu, now I have it. This sucks!
We got a few inches of snow last night and our landlord was plowing at 6am, on a Sunday. During the week he never plows that early and I have to struggle getting out of the driveway.
DH is going to buy me a shamrock shake today since my throat hurts. It’s horrible for my diet but I’m excited lol.
Good luck to your H on his first day, bk1! So exciting!
I got two hours of sleep last night so my date turned into shopping at two stores, going to lunch with H (I did get a delicious margarita!), and now laying in bed by myself watching the Olympics and dozing off. It's actually kind of nice.
H has a third interview with a job that would be a 30% increase to his salary on Thursday AND would let him work from home occasionally. Please send good thoughts/vibes/prayers if you can spare them!
I'm incredibly proud of him. He was offered a position right under management and told by 2 different people they rarely bring in an external candidate that high. This is huge for us and after the last year seems like a true miracle.