Valentine week chatter

[oneslybookworm]

I'm so sorry for your loss, mpc. huge hugs!

[Mushe]

Who’s used a home Doppler? Like/dislike/brand/where to buy? In my old moms group, there was a Sonoline B that was passed around and resold, but I think it’s finally been sold out of the group.

I’m officially past my last loss milestone, but I have 2 weeks between appointments, and the worry is setting in.

[mpc]

hugs Mushe. I was determined to be so zen and not worry this time, but as each day goes by it gets harder and harder. As for a doppler, I only ever borrowed a friends once and couldn't find the heartbeat so I quit trying.

[pandora89]

Feb 13, 2018 11:12:04 GMT -5 Mushe said:

Who’s used a home Doppler? Like/dislike/brand/where to buy? In my old moms group, there was a Sonoline B that was passed around and resold, but I think it’s finally been sold out of the group.

I’m officially past my last loss milestone, but I have 2 weeks between appointments, and the worry is setting in.

I used a doppler. It did help in the beginning in that I could listen to it daily and hear the heartbeat. I think it may have added to my anxiety a bit as I would listen to it for a long time and then start panicking that there was an irregularity in the heartbeat and that there must be wrong with baby's heart.

I used it up until week 17 when I felt movement and have only used it once since.

I used the sonoline b and had no complaints, I was able to pick up the heartbeat around 9 weeks. Had no complaints and I bought it used for pretty cheap on a buy/sell/trade group but I think Best Buy also sells them.

[shauni27]

Feb 13, 2018 11:32:12 GMT -5 pandora89 said:

Feb 13, 2018 11:12:04 GMT -5 Mushe said:

Who’s used a home Doppler? Like/dislike/brand/where to buy? In my old moms group, there was a Sonoline B that was passed around and resold, but I think it’s finally been sold out of the group.

I’m officially past my last loss milestone, but I have 2 weeks between appointments, and the worry is setting in.

I used a doppler. It did help in the beginning in that I could listen to it daily and hear the heartbeat. I think it may have added to my anxiety a bit as I would listen to it for a long time and then start panicking that there was an irregularity in the heartbeat and that there must be wrong with baby's heart.

I used it up until week 17 when I felt movement and have only used it once since.

I used the sonoline b and had no complaints, I was able to pick up the heartbeat around 9 weeks. Had no complaints and I bought it used for pretty cheap on a buy/sell/trade group but I think Best Buy also sells them.

I did this as well, starting at 10 weeks and until we had our anatomy scan. Then I would go crazy every now and then (for example, when our (Mushe) mutual friend had a loss) I went back to using it again daily. 

I bought one from a friend and already gave it to someone else so I do not remember what it was. I would just buy something on Amazon with decent reviews.

I hope it gives you some peace of mind!

[grover]

Feb 13, 2018 11:12:04 GMT -5 Mushe said:

Who’s used a home Doppler? Like/dislike/brand/where to buy? In my old moms group, there was a Sonoline B that was passed around and resold, but I think it’s finally been sold out of the group.

I’m officially past my last loss milestone, but I have 2 weeks between appointments, and the worry is setting in.

I have one sitting in my closet if you'd like it for the price of shipping. 

[Mushe]

Feb 13, 2018 20:07:49 GMT -5 grover said:

Feb 13, 2018 11:12:04 GMT -5 Mushe said:

Who’s used a home Doppler? Like/dislike/brand/where to buy? In my old moms group, there was a Sonoline B that was passed around and resold, but I think it’s finally been sold out of the group.

I’m officially past my last loss milestone, but I have 2 weeks between appointments, and the worry is setting in.

I have one sitting in my closet if you'd like it for the price of shipping. 

Oh my gosh, that’s so kind!  I’d be happy to ship it back to you too.  

[pooh8402]

I'm not sure where to post this, but I'll do it here.

So as some of you are aware, we did a FET last week (I'm 7dp6dt now). 2 at home tests have been negative so far, but I *may* have gotten a squinter today (DH says no). Beta is for Friday.

Anyway, today on the way home from daycare, E, who is 2.5, said we have a baby. It's probably related to the fact that one of his classmates has a new sibling and has been talking about the baby in class. Of course, I hear little kids have a 6th sense about these things. So I can't help overthinking.

[loira]

pooh8402, we're going to need to see the maybe squinter.

[pandora89]

Yes, need to see the squinter!

[pooh8402]

In the trash, at home, and I'm at work right now. I'm sorry, I'm a bad TTTCer!

[Mushe]

Good luck, Pooh! It’s hard not to read into these things. Hoping you see a for sure line tomorrow.

[daisyfay25]

Good luck Pooh!

[shauni27]

pooh8402, I am thinking good thoughts for you!
daisyfay25 congratulations!!

[knx9211]

Good luck Pooh!!


Shauni, I’m late to the party, but I’ve never puréed meat. It seems way too gross. I make all our food (with the exception of prunes) and have just taken to putting chicken and eggs in a really small food processor I have that chops it up into really really tiny pieces it would be impossible for him to choke on. He loves chicken. With fish, we just break off tiny pieces of what H is eating and give it to him.

We have a serious eater on our hands.

[pooh8402]

BFN this morning, not even a squinter. I even took a picture and messed with the white balance.

[thoseareradishes]

Oh crap pooh8402, I'm sorry.

[cactuscookie]

Feb 14, 2018 8:54:44 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

BFN this morning, not even a squinter. I even took a picture and messed with the white balance.

TTC while IF is the fucking worst. I'm sorry.

[cactuscookie]

We moved last weekend, from a small town we've never liked to the city I grew up in. It's going to be a great change for our family - my parents and sister's family is here, and DH and I love the city.

But right now, I'm struggling with H's new daycare. We didn't have a chance to tour daycares, and it turns out that the one we chose might not be a good fit. The first impression wasn't good - there are still a few Christmas decorations outside, the playground out front is a little messy, and every single toy is broken. Inside the building, it seemed loud and, again, kind of messy. Fortunately, H's room is tucked down a hallway, so it isn't as loud. But the playground for her age group is literally a fenced-in alleyway.

Still, I know what really matters is the caregivers. The director is nice, and her teachers seem nice. But for the first couple hours that H is there, there's only one teacher in H's room for about 7 kids. That's not a bad ratio on a normal day, but H is struggling with adjusting, and the teacher is too busy keeping the other kids safe/changed/etc. to give H much one-on-one time. We've only been leaving her there for 3 hours in the morning, and yesterday when I picked her up, the teacher said she spent all morning crying.

Before we moved, I asked her old daycare director about the best way to help H adjust to a new daycare, and she said what she would do is assign a person to the new kid to stay with them until they're comfortable exploring. This daycare doesn't have the staff to do that. (There's a video camera in the room, so we can watch H sitting in a chair with her blanket by herself.)

We decided to check out another daycare nearby, but they won't have availability until April. So for now, we have no choice but to push her to adapt to the first daycare without much support. I'm sure she'll be fine in the end, but right now, it's breaking my heart that she's spending hours a day unhappy.

[oneslybookworm]

This week is rapidly turning into the shittiest week ever. We moved my father to the hospital on Monday because he'd been vomiting all weekend and they were concerned about pneumonia. Turns out he has aspiration pneumonia, from the Parkinson's, and his throat no longer is working to push food to his stomach but rather to his lungs. After turning down an NG tube and a PEG line, we found out we can feed him purees and he will do ok on those, but that there is still an aspiration risk. That was yesterday.

Today, labs came back, he has a blood infection. We've stopped all treatments and he will likely turn septic soon. My father is dying on Valentine's Day and this week can just end now. We've been preparing for this (Alzheimer's and Parkinson's are both incurable and terminal), but it's so damn hard when it's actually happening.

[cactuscookie]

Feb 14, 2018 11:02:26 GMT -5 oneslybookworm said:

This week is rapidly turning into the shittiest week ever. We moved my father to the hospital on Monday because he'd been vomiting all weekend and they were concerned about pneumonia. Turns out he has aspiration pneumonia, from the Parkinson's, and his throat no longer is working to push food to his stomach but rather to his lungs. After turning down an NG tube and a PEG line, we found out we can feed him purees and he will do ok on those, but that there is still an aspiration risk. That was yesterday.

Today, labs came back, he has a blood infection. We've stopped all treatments and he will likely turn septic soon. My father is dying on Valentine's Day and this week can just end now. We've been preparing for this (Alzheimer's and Parkinson's are both incurable and terminal), but it's so damn hard when it's actually happening.

I'm so sorry. That's heart-breaking.

[mpc]

I'm so sorry pooh.

[mpc]

oh oneslybookworm, i'm so sorry. that has to be so hard.

[thoseareradishes]

(((oneslybookworm)))

[scm1011]

I'm so sorry, oneslybookworm. Huge hugs to you.
You too, pooh8402. I'm so sorry for the BFN.

[Mushe]

So much hard stuff this week. 😥

cactuscookie, I am so very sorry about the poor fit. I wouldn’t be happy about any of that either. We always used a center for our own comfort, so I’m not sure if you feel the same, but if you’re not totally opposed to it, are there any good in-home options? I have an acquaintance who runs an awesome in-home daycare, and I’d use her if she didn’t live an hour away.

oneslybookworm, huge hugs. I can only imagine the pain of seeing your dad in pain, and slipping away like that.

Pooh, I’m so sorry about the BFN. Big hugs for you.

[shauni27]

oneslybookworm, my heart just broke for you. I am so, so sorry.

[kellikans]

I'm so sorry oneslybookworm

[kellikans]

((pooh8402))

[knx9211]

I’m so so sorry oneslybookworm and Pooh