Tuesday

[bullygirl979]

mags, if we get married at your house, will S. serve tequila shots all night long??

[doglove]

You do whatever you want bullygirl979, you know what's best for yourself and what you want. I know I wouldn't want to wait 2 years for a nice trip, so that's why I posted that. I also don't give a crap really about how our house looks though as long as we can function in it, so stuff to do there is pretty low on the priority list (for both of us).

[bullygirl979]

doglove, I get it and appreciate it. You are trying to make sure that I'm happy with these decisions. I know that most people would think I'm crazy to put off a honeymoon/trip, like most people walk in to my kitchen and think I'm crazy when I complain about it and say I want to rip it out, lol. I go in to major planning mode when I vacation plan and I feel so burned out from all the stress of the job stuff in the last 10 months. For my sanity, it feels right to me to put it off and do something smaller than try and psych myself up for vacation planning. Plus, I've always wanted a kitchen that excites me and I've never had one. I cannot wait to do this renovation.

[udscoobychick]

Feb 14, 2018 11:51:47 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

mags , if we get married at your house, will S. serve tequila shots all night long??

Lol, now THAT sounds like a fun reception!

[doglove]

Feb 14, 2018 12:13:40 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

doglove , I get it and appreciate it. You are trying to make sure that I'm happy with these decisions.

Yes - that's what I was making sure of in that post!

[mags]

Feb 14, 2018 11:51:47 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

mags , if we get married at your house, will S. serve tequila shots all night long??

You know he will

[mags]

I'd be pissed if he were taking a 3 week trip.

I know it is ok with you, but i'd be pissed! If we didn't have money for a wedding trip there is no way he is taking a 3 week trip. 1 week would be perfectly adequate@

[doriswe]

*shrugs* bullygirl979, I'm team "you do you, boo" on this. You and P will make decisions that work best for you and your relationship. I also didn't see where you said you didn't have money for honeymoon because of P's trip. I guess I read it like you were more focused on directing funds to making your dream kitchen because that's a more immediate desire vs. a fancy trip. Plus you guys are really awesome about taking smaller trips together, so I assume that will still happen with a huge amazing trip in the future.

[bullygirl979]

Feb 14, 2018 21:54:20 GMT -5 mags said:

I'd be pissed if he were taking a 3 week trip.

I know it is ok with you, but i'd be pissed! If we didn't have money for a wedding trip there is no way he is taking a 3 week trip. 1 week would be perfectly adequate@

I can't be pissed at him if I'd rather spend the money elsewhere, too I'd rather have my open concept, renovated kitchen than a take a trip right now.

[bullygirl979]

doriswe, P can't swing both right now. I mean, he could if he went in to debt, but neither one of us are about that. And, I'd rather spend the money on my kitchen now. So, yeah, we are more directing our funds in ways that are more important to us right now. Andplusalso? P rarely does things like this. I mean, the guy plays his life WAY safe. This trip has always been a bucket list item for him. *I* was the one HOUNDING him to do this. And part of me is still kind of shocked that he is doing it. Facing my own mortality has really instilled in my how important it is to chase your dreams (cheese, I know). This trip is a dream for him. Italy sounds awesome, but it's not a bucket list item. I'd rather he check off an item on his bucket list. That would honestly make me happier than taking a trip. Plus I want my fancy 48" range in my kitchen