Recently, there was a local high school student who was arrested after he made threatening statements in school. Other students turned him in because they knew he had a gun. The mother was arrested too because she let him keep multiple guns and knives in his room to help him grow up (link here: www.newsweek.com/pennsylvania-uniontown-high-school-school-shooting-plot-us-805491). WTF is wrong with people?
Just this morning, there were 2 threats of school violence made through social media. One of them was from snapchat with the picture of a gun being held by the suspect. Where did this kid get the gun from? Where are the parents? How much did they know? How much did they try to help?
The school shootings make me nervous, angry, and scared and I don't know how this can be fixed. Especially when Trump implied that the students were to blame for the shooting. Those students did speak up and the suspect was removed! I need to take a step back because this is all so infuriating...
waverly - I asked specific protocol questions about mental health. I don’t think schools and counselors are direct enough in dealing with these issues. Some of the kids who have taken guns to school were given those guns by their families. I can’t help but think if they were told not to, if a discussion was had, some people would hesitate to arm their children. It’s so obvious to the rest of us. But having a mentally ill parent, I have always been shocked at how little practical instruction is given to caregivers and how much a focus on well being and medication leaves a serious gap. I know for a fact that my Dad had a weapon in our home. No one told him not to and he didn’t think about it. My mom brought it in my room when I came home from college to visit. It went away after that, but it could have been really a bad scenario. Caregivers are both over and underwhelmed. Schools need to fill that gap with education of parents where they can.
What's hard with this argument is that schools are also overwhelmed. They have a million things that they are responsible for, with very little resources to do it. The list of things that they have to worry about is growing, and the support for our schools seems to be going down. Around here, in some of the smaller towns, there is one guidance counselor to cover all the schools - so they drive between 4 or 5 schools during the week and are expected to keep up with all that is happening in each of them. If we can't even get a the money to get ONE dedicated counselor for each school, how are the schools supposed to do more than what they are now?
We're lucky that "guidance" is one of the classes our kids get, just like art or music. The counselor comes in biweekly to work on concepts like kindness, respect, responsibility, etc. and to build a rapport with all the students so that she's not a stranger to them if/when she's needed. But I think that's pretty rare. And it's still just one person responsible for hundreds of kids.
It all just sucks and needs change on so many levels. It makes me feel really helpless.
I talked to a recruiter today. I have very little interest in moving at this exact moment, so I don't know why I took the first call, let alone scheduled a second with the internal recruiter. I am above what she's authorized to pay, but she likes me. She'll see if they can get a range high enough to entice me and let me know next week if they want me to come in.
k3am, WOW you move fast...just kidding, you are looking to see what is available if you would relocate to see if your long term tentative plan is feasible. How easy is it for your DH to change locations for work? You work in big banking I can see that being a little bit harder to shift jobs/locations.
k3am , WOW you move fast...just kidding, you are looking to see what is available if you would relocate to see if your long term tentative plan is feasible. How easy is it for your DH to change locations for work? You work in big banking I can see that being a little bit harder to shift jobs/locations.
This is for a job pretty much down the street.
DH's company has offices in several places in the country and he could transfer reasonably easily. I would actually push for him to move into industry vs. continue consulting if that were the case, but end of the day, up to him.
If we were to move, my condition is that we move somewhere that we can thrive on one salary so that I would have the opportunity to reasses my career and find something I enjoy doing vs. doing something just for the sake of it paying well.
k3am - just saying - TONS of jobs here and affordable. You could buy three houses...or one and not have to work.
twinmomma - we have more than one counselor per campus and specialized roles too. I am just doubtful they are engaging at quite the level they could. I’m over worrying about people’s feelings. Won’t their feelings be hurt when they plan a funeral for a child? Anything they avoid for ego reasons (from parents) and not legal reasons - step it up.
Post by covergirl82 on Feb 16, 2018 15:16:40 GMT -5
We had talked with MIL about going on a Disney trip with us and then moved it back to next year. She has a strained relationship with SIL, but apparently it's been a little better lately. Anyway, SIL and her family are going to Disney World in March; apparently BIL's dad backed out of the trip, so now they've invited MIL. I'm happy for MIL because I know how much she wants to spend time with those grandkids and also go to Disney World. I just hope that she and SIL get along the whole trip and it doesn't end up making things worse.