4 day weekend here. DD went to camp at the gym while DH and I spent the day dealing with a basement flood. Fun.
Last night was super great though! We did an escape room with some friends and had a blast. First time for all of us and we beat it with 15 mins to spare!
Today, art class for DD, lunch out with DH’s parents. They drove to visit us, which never ever happens, but then only stayed for 4hrs cause they got worried about snow. Whatevs.
Tomorrow gym, grocery shopping. Monday, I don’t know! Gotta think of something free to do so DD doesn’t go stir crazy and I don’t go broke.
Post by sandandsea on Feb 17, 2018 22:01:25 GMT -5
Dh and I both have to work over the weekend. He went in all day today and worked for 2 hours while ds1 played and Ds2 napped. Tomorrow we will hopefully make it to church but it’s looking like dh will have to work again. Monday is a holiday for both kids but dh and I both have to work so we hired a babysitter.
Post by freezorburn on Feb 17, 2018 23:30:48 GMT -5
Yesterday and today were errand days. I've been pretty tired. I had thought about skiing tomorrow, but the roads look challenging and my body is tired. I'm coming off 2.5 weeks with no parenting breaks and this last week being our busiest of the year, I worked double my normal schedule. So maybe rest is in order, since I'm scheduled to work full-time next week while DS is away with his dad. So I might just continue to putter around the house, maybe do some cooking for the week tomorrow.
We went to my parents for most of yesterday so my grandmas and brother could meet DS2. We have no plans today except to start getting the house in order for when h goes back to work next week.
Well, SIL birthday plans went the annoying route. I'm so pissed. SIL2 was guilting me into attending this thing for SIL1. According to SIL2, we were all going to go see SIL1 in a play, go out to eat, celebrate her birthday, etc. This involves me paying for 2 play tickets for DH and I, along with 6 hours of childcare, and dinner. This morning I find out via MIL, that SIL2 is not even going anymore - she bailed a week ago and didn't tell me. Never even bought a ticket for the play. And SIL1 made plans with friends for after the show, so the family birthday dinner isn't even happening. She's blowing us off. So now we're paying all this money and giving up our entire Sunday for no real reason. And my sister in laws wonder why the family hasn't embraced them with open arms. Um... maybe because you pull this BS?
Part of our weekend plan and I guess life plan since my son is the most stubborn person on the planet was potty training. I am confident that DS knows what to do and how. He has had 3 accidents since Friday. However stubborn child has only peed 5 times since Saturday morning. I don't understand him.
sunbutter DD has an early bedtime of around 7. She can stay up later but then mornings are pure hell and since she has late nights on Mon/Wed due to practice I would like bedtime to be at normal time if possible the rest of the week. I have the kid that still needs 12 hours of sleep. I also want to enjoy the 1/2 hour of time we get together when I get home and not have to mess around with homework, shower, dinner.
DD and I talked about her voicing her needs to daddy and how she is a big girl and can dictate how much she eats and what book she reads. DH says he is fine just busy at work. I really think he misses his "me time". I also need to ask him if he wants to start therapy back up and I will figure out a sitter to pick up DD so he can go as it is obvious that it was helping at least somehow.
Just to play devil’s advocate, 186momx - if I were a SAHM, or worked part time, or even just got home earlier than my spouse and he expected me to have my kids’ homework done, dinner fed, and showers done, just so he could have ‘quality time’ with them when he got home, I would laugh.
I don’t think it’s fair that you expect him to do all the not fun stuff just so you can get home and not have to worry about it. Dinner likely has to happen before you get home, and there wouldn’t be enough time for homework after you get home, but I think you should at least handle the showering part after you get home. He doesn’t seem to be communicating well, but I think the issue is about more than just his loss of ‘me time.’
Just to play devil’s advocate, 186momx - if I were a SAHM, or worked part time, or even just got home earlier than my spouse and he expected me to have my kids’ homework done, dinner fed, and showers done, just so he could have ‘quality time’ with them when he got home, I would laugh.
I don’t think it’s fair that you expect him to do all the not fun stuff just so you can get home and not have to worry about it. Dinner likely has to happen before you get home, and there wouldn’t be enough time for homework after you get home, but I think you should at least handle the showering part after you get home. He doesn’t seem to be communicating well, but I think the issue is about more than just his loss of ‘me time.’
I agree with this. There is very little weeknight "fun" in our schedule in our house, but that is just part of being a working parent IMO. We get home around 5:45, DD goes upstairs or outside to play or watches some tv while I make dinner, we eat and then it's pretty much time for bath/reading/bedtime. And she goes to bed at 8, not 7. Occasionally we go to the park or skating, but that means eating dinner there and skipping bath and possibly reading (or I read a short baby book and we skip her reading). As my dad would say, that's just part of it.
I think maybe your expectations are a little high here. Also it isn't a "succeed or fail" situation. He can be successful at some of that and leave some of it for you also. He also should get to have some of the less stressful fun time with her. I think maybe you should consider working out what looks like a reasonable schedule to the both of you. Maybe they get 45 minutes to play before homework, limit homework to 20 minutes plus 10 minutes of reading (more than adequate, and if it doesn't get finished, that's ok), you pre-make a crockpot meal or casserole he just heats up, you all eat together, then you do shower and bed. I'm also thinking the structure of a schedule might benefit him and your DD.
Aftercare closed at 6. He gets off between 4-5. I get home about 6:30. He has texted me before 4 each day this week saying he was done, but DD said he didn't get her until 5 and I feel like me wanting them to eat dinner, read, and DD shower before I get home should be easy even with an after 5 pick up. His time management skills are none existent. Maybe I should take back the reading part to make things easier?
186momx, I have the same time frame with after care. I think your expectations may be a little too high. We are lucky if we're done with dinner by 6:30. The reading, homework and bath usually happen after that. Does she need to shower every night? We read right before bed and it makes them sleepy.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Feb 21, 2018 15:16:38 GMT -5
We wash the kids every other night because it takes up too much time. One parents bathes them while the other makes dinner. Although mayhaps she could shower while dinner is made since it seems like she's pretty self sufficient in that regard?