I’ve been dying to tell you all this incident that happened yesterday. I’m in the kitchen, doing I don’t even know what. DH and DD come in. Here’s the conversation:
DH: let’s ask mommy. Mommy, DD would like a snack but since her belly has been hurting, we wanted to check with you about what she can have. DD: yeah! Because you do the deciding! Daddy is the asker and you’re the decider! Me: ... [trying not to snort with laughter] DH: we ask mommy because she’s smart about healthy bodies. Daddy can decide things too. He just likes to get mommy’s opinion. DD: [totally not listening to him at all. I give her a snack and off she goes]
Later that night... DH, cooking dinner: Hon, did you get parsley at the store? [3 minutes pass] what do you think DD should eat? [3 minutes pass] are all these green beans for tonight? [long pause] wow maybe I really do ask you a lot.
I'll start. I went down to our basement this morning to grab a few bags of frozen breast milk for daycare to use today. ALL of the bags of milk (3 month stash) and the food was thawed out. I feel sick and cried all the way to work. I only have one day's worth of milk left in our fridge. DH has been cleaning out our basement in preparation of finishing it and moved the freezer around yesterday. We think the outlet reset without him realizing it.
ETA: I should add that I feel even sicker because DD1 has a severe dairy allergy and DD3 has a 50% chance of also having one so we've been hoping to avoid formula as long as possible.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Feb 26, 2018 10:26:10 GMT -5
Today...is going to be a grind.
I went to bed way too late and got up to swim way too early.
At least it was a lovely weekend.
Friday - Movie night at the kids school. The movie was Up. We got there and missed the first part, which was absolutely perfect b/c that part always has me sobbing.
Saturday - Went to a friend's child's birthday party. My friend, not my kid's friend. I got to catch up with people. It was awesome. Saturday afternoon I did a 12 mile run in the park...did some math wrong and ended up going 14 miles. So that sucked.
Sunday DS had his baseball practice. It was rained out so the coaches moved it to an indoor baseball place. Which, by itself, is pretty profesh compared to what we're used to. DS did GREAT. I mean, there is a range of abilities and he's technically on the lower end, but he didn't hang back or refuse to participate. He got right in there and tried his best and he, himself, reports that he did a good job. LOL, if he's happy I'm thrilled.
I leave for my huge work trip on Saturday. I currently have zero voice. So that's not ideal. I'm trying to avoid all talking and stay super hydrated so that it comes back before I'm in charge of giving speeches and organizing events.
I haven't started packing yet, so that's on my to-do list for tonight.
Also on the hunt today for a good thank you gift for our resort contact person. She's amazing and we usually get her something pretty nice - like $200ish range. Any ideas?
mellym I feel sick for you. Can you possibly get banked breastmilk? I’m vaguely aware that some insurances cover it - I looked into this as DD was anaphylactic allergic to all milk proteins until age 5, and I was worried about subsequent babies (neither of whom ended up with any food allergies).
I’m continuing the trend of unfocused time at work. It sucks. But I think I am closer to improvement and asked for resources for five projects, so I am hopeful. It is still tight even with those resources, but it is an improvement if I get them.
Also, I started watching Big Love. It’s perfect mindless entertainment.
I'm off today! DD doesn't have school because of inservice day; everyone's paperwork for next year was due today so they are figuring out what the classes will look like. I already know one kid is leaving so I am curious. Aka nosey. We are chilling out this morning, and I will take her to a movie and the park this afternoon. Last therapy appt was canceled for tonight, which is good because player evaluations for roller hockey was postponed until tonight.
Had an AMAZING weekend with DD. She is doing so well on current meds now. Hoping it lasts. Saturday was her last basketball game and she was incredible. I took the DSLR and got some great shots of her and the team playing. They were defensively terrific (and offensively awful). They kept taking the ball from the other team. There were some BIG kids on the team. One was probably 4" taller and a good 25 pounds heavier than DD, and they ended up on the floor together several times. Another looked like she was in 5th grade, and our girls were not intimidated. It ended up 6-16, so we lost every single game, but the other team was much better and it could have been 20 more points on their side if our girls had not played so well. It was a good ending to the season.
Good luck twinmomma! I hope everything goes smoothly.
We had a really great weekend even though DH was out of town. DS had a basketball game which I couldn’t attend since DD and I were volunteering at her school for a band competition. We got done at 11:30, grabbed some lunch and then took DD to a friend’s house. DS and I laid around for hours watching TV, reading, playing on our iPads and I even took a very short nap. It was so awesome!
Sunday I got in my 5 mile run, we went grocery shopping and then I surprised the kids with a trip to Dave and Busters. It was so much fun but we were all ready to leave after 3 hours of eating and playing. Stopped for frozen yogurt on the way home and had a low key night finishing up homework and getting ready for today.
Thursday DD gets her braces off and she couldn’t be more excited. I am too.
And I am still sick. Hit the couch Friday and stayed all weekend minus a trip to convenient care. Dh was working. Thankfully the kids got out some. Dd and some friends went to laser tag and putt putt Saturday and mom took both to the movies Sunday.
I missed dance practice and the performance is Saturday. I realize this is all fun and most of the audience and performers will be several drinks in, but I don't want to forget the entire thing.
mellym, oh no. That sucks. Milk making is serious business.
We had DD's party yesterday. There were far too many people, but she had a great time. I usually go way overboard buying food for parties, but this one wasn't too much leftovers. And they cut the cake in such huge slices so that what should have fed all the kids AND parents only served the kids. I'm also not too upset about that... no leftovers. I really hate leftovers.
More house shopping this weekend. I'm pretty sure we toured at least 10 this weekend. We have one house we want to put an offer on. Our agent will humor us and prepare it, but doesn't think we'll get it... we'll go in at our max budget (well the 3rd adjustment for our max budget... it keeps getting higher) at 23% above list. Most things are selling 17-25% above list. He trying to get us to focus on another house and I... just don't love/like it.
mellym, I'm sorry, that sucks. What about soy formula? Both of my kids have had/ still have significant issues with dairy. And both ended up on soy formula, because even the lactose digested ones still made them sick. It can be a little rough on their systems, but thankfully it worked for us.
It's Monday, and I'm tired. So the usual. It was a good weekend of the usual stuff, like swim lessons and grocery shopping. My parents are cleaning out their house and down sizing, and keep offering stuff. So I spend a lot of time saying no.
Post by covergirl82 on Feb 26, 2018 11:27:05 GMT -5
We had a pretty good weekend. DS played a normal amount of time during his basketball game on Saturday. He made 2 baskets and got 1 free throw, so I thought he did pretty well for being sick the past week and a half (although he was pretty much in the recovery phase since Wednesday of last week).
Other than that, the weekend was pretty laid back.
I already knew this because DH told me, but MIL told me at DS's game that she won't be at his next 2 games because she's going to WDW with SIL and her family. I told her I was really happy for her that she was invited to go with them (which I honestly am), but I told her that if she would like to do a long weekend trip to WDW with us next year, we won't be able to pay her way like SIL is doing. I just wanted to get foundation laid and her give her realistic expectations about that trip. (DH and I make what I would consider good salaries, but we also don't have what I would consider a lot of "extra" money due to a mortgage, 2 car payments (although soon it will be 1), DH's student loans, child care, saving for retirement and college, and general kids-in-school-and-activities costs), etc. And when we do have extra money, it goes to paying off debt, or savings, or a family trip for us.)
2chatter and phdmomma, those are two possibilities I'll need to look into. We found out DD1 had an allergy when we started supplementing so we switched to a soy based formula. I'm still in shock and wonder if I should've called in sick. Right now, my plan is to find a way to add a pumping session each day. I already feel like I'm at my max but I guess I'll need to get up a bit earlier and do it then.
2chatter, tell me more about her outgrowing the milk protein allergy? That's DD1's allergy and we've been testing her blood every year but she's still at a level 5. Were her levels decreasing? She's going to be 6 so I'm losing hope that it will happen before she's a teenager if ever.
shakinros That is my house. I love it when we are in the car and it's mom, mom, mom. Dh is in the seat beside me and I'm like what about dad? HE'S LITERALLY RIGHT HERE!. They know it's going to come to me anyway.
mellym, DD2 had a milk intolerance that we figured out through blood in her diapers. Like, a lot of blood, when she was about a week old. We tried soy, and she couldn’t tolerate it (but was technically not allergic - no blood). My milk never came in with either kid, so we tried Enfamil Nutramigen. She was like a new kid almost immediately. Happy, smiley, and clearly comfortable.
The formula was crazy expensive - $27 for a 12oz can, about twice the price of regular formula. After many hours of phone calls, my insurance covered it as a durable medical good, NOT a prescription. I had to order it through a medical supply house, and they delivered it.
Insurance cut off at 1 year, so we switched to coconut milk - has the fat and vitamin D of whole milk, and she tolerated it well.
I am declaring my son daytime potty trained. He has to be reminded to go, but he goes in the potty now and last night started telling me he needed to go. Now on to night time training (I worry about this one) He has been waking us up between 4 and 5 saying he wet the bed. DH and I are tired and crabby, but we don't want to go back to pull ups in fear that he will start holding it all day again.
I am declaring my son daytime potty trained. He has to be reminded to go, but he goes in the potty now and last night started telling me he needed to go. Now on to night time training (I worry about this one) He has been waking us up between 4 and 5 saying he wet the bed. DH and I are tired and crabby, but we don't want to go back to pull ups in fear that he will start holding it all day again.
Congratulations!
With DD1, she used to go to bed around 7pm, and we'd get her up around 10 and put her on the potty. She barely woke up - we'd just put her there and turn on the faucet, and she'd go. Then, we'd put her PJ's back on, and then put a pull up over her PJs. It would contain the pee if she had an accident (so you're only changing PJs, not the whole bed), and she could feel the wetness (whereas with a diaper or pull up, she'd pee and sleep right through.
None of this worked for DD2, but it might work for your DS?? Good luck!
So.........I forgot about that phone interview I was halfway debating canceling and had to stumble through it like a bull in a china shop.
Oddly enough, they want to bring me in for an interview. I'm putting the breaks on it. I told her I needed to think about it and would be out of town this week and would discuss more next week.
mae0111, we have the bed pads which make cleaning up easy. I think he is sleeping through the peeing and then when he wakes up or comes out of his REM cycle he realizes he is wet and gets upset. Then he is up for the day. We don't like getting up that early.
Post by ilovelucyvv on Feb 26, 2018 13:48:38 GMT -5
shakinros, My H does that, i.e. makes the kids ask me if they can eat something or do something. The twist is that he does it because he wants me to say no to them instead of him. But in reality, I am the more lax parent and more likely to say yes... so I say yes then he gets mad about it.
Post by erinshelley21 on Feb 26, 2018 14:19:02 GMT -5
xctsclrx, how old is your DS? Do you think he could understand that pull ups are just for bedtime? My DS is 4 and has been day trained since 2.5. We've had him in pull ups at night since and I don't see an end in sight. I'm not mentally prepared to do the waking up and he's sleeping right straight through peeing at least once, if not twice per night. Until he starts waking up dry for several consecutive days, or he reaches kindergarten maybe, we're going to stick with pull ups. Ain't nobody got time to wash and change sheets everyday in our house.
Post by erinshelley21 on Feb 26, 2018 14:24:41 GMT -5
mellym, is there a breastfeeding support group of some kind near you? We have one affiliated with our hospital and there were mom's in the FB group requesting milk all the time. I hate this for you. Breastfeeding is stressful enough as it is.
erinshelley21, He is 3 not quite 3.5 yet. I think he would understand, but I want him more in the groove of using the potty before we go back. Previously when we potty trained he would hold it all day and pee all night. I was afraid that he was going to cause bladder issues. I am also kind of hoping that if he keeps waking up wet it will click in his head. Not sure when my breaking point will be though.
mellym - it was like someone flipped a switch. She reported that her teacher accidentally gave her real cheese instead of soy cheese and she had a bite. Small rash.
So we talked with the ped and allergist and started food trials very gradually. I don’t know how we would have known. DD hit all growth spurts early - she started her period the summer after 4th grade and hit 5 feet in sixth grade. So there may still be hope!
Oh and on the overnight PT topic - I can’t remember how much I have shared this here (it comes up allll the time IRL). But DD is 10 and in pull-ups. She has a bladder condition. It sucks. But for anyone struggling, a pediatric urologist around 7-8 is a great idea.
Post by traveltheworld on Feb 26, 2018 15:48:42 GMT -5
My weekend wasn't great, to say the least.
I noticed a few dark spots on my toes while I was taking a bath Saturday night, made the mistake of googling, and convinced myself that I had melanoma. Of course being the obsessive personality type, I then staid up till about 4 a.m. googling. I then went to a walk-in clinic at 8:30 Sunday morning to have it checked out. The doctor thought I was nuts. He told me that he doesn't think it's anything sinister (probably just new moles or a minor fungal infection), but would run some blood tests. Of course now I'm paranoid and worried since I haven't done a blood test in years, and am now convinced I have some underlying health issue that I've ignored, and will perish imminently. To top it off, my ILs were all in town this weekend, so between cooking/cleaning for everyone, working on and off all weekend, and ridiculously obsessing over this minor matter, I'm totally exhausted.
I hate how I can get obsessed with something so easily, and then have little ability to control my downward spiral.
On a brighter note, my MIL told me that she has really noticed a big improvement in DD. She used to be so easily frightened and reserved, but seems way more open and happy this time. It's something we've worked on quite a bit, so I'm glad there's a noticeable change.
shakinros , My H does that, i.e. makes the kids ask me if they can eat something or do something. The twist is that he does it because he wants me to say no to them instead of him. But in reality, I am the more lax parent and more likely to say yes... so I say yes then he gets mad about it.
Our house is an endless cycle.. Mom can I have cheese? I don't know, what did your dad say? He said to ask you... also happens frequently the other way around.
Post by erinshelley21 on Feb 26, 2018 16:51:32 GMT -5
16 days until sales season is over. 16 more days I have to have the patience of a freaking saint and not lose it on my brother. He's already talking about what we need to do to get the agency closed. Dude. Slow your roll. We don't even have any offers on the office and no showings since the beginning of January. There's no real rush at the moment and there are only 16 days left of our sales season I know of at least 6 clients we still have to tie up loose ends with.
Vent: Our office hasn't had any showings in almost 2 months. Our realtor is a cousin who is also in this same type of insurance business. I'm hoping it picks up soon.
Vent: DS has been very, very challenging for the last 6 days. 5 out of 6 have ended in him screaming at me at bedtime over various things. It's been exhausting and if moving his bedtime up and me trying to have more patience with him than I do my brother, I might lose it.
Whelp another one bites the dust. Another hire that I had just quit. It's for the best because she is not especially bright, but it's a huge waste of time to keep having to hire people. And we 100% worked around her schedule at her other job. She got more hours over there. This is what happens when your boss force retires 3 people on your team, and you are hiring during Christmas time. All I have done is hire people this year and last year ugh.