Maybe it's because I haven't given birth yet, but there are some child-rearing-related terms that for some reason just bother me.
Here are mine: -Lovey -"Love on" -"Outside baby" or "take-home baby" -"Mommy"/"mama" or similar from another adult. Since I've been pregnant, a few acquaintances have taken to calling me "mama" and it just bugs me.
That's all I can think of for now. Any terms you can't stand?
Post by theintended on Sept 17, 2012 19:39:31 GMT -5
I spent most of my life hating the word mommy, but that's usually what my daughter calls me. But yes, don't refer to other women as "mommies," or often (and worse) "mommys."
I can't use the word binky, either. As a result my daughter would say ass-ah-fur (for pacifier). Payback.
This may not count since it is a difference between british and american english but my husband is british and calls pacifiers dummies and diapers nappies and even though he has done it since our son was born 4 years ago it drives me up the wall. And my son says them too, when talking about his sister.
And my IL's say they need to 'change her bum' when dd has a dirty diaper and it irks me too.
So here's my opportunity to sound like an asshole. "Take-home baby" is a term used by people who have had pregnancy losses; the context would be, "After miscarrying last time, I hope this pregnancy gives me a take-home baby." "Outside baby" is used to differentiate from an unborn baby. On my BMB, I'll see posts titled, "Question for mommies with outside babies." :-(
Post by drloretta on Sept 17, 2012 20:12:12 GMT -5
Outside baby vs inside baby. Instead of unborn vs born. Take-home baby means one you actually take home, often said by people who have had losses. I much prefer that term over sticky baby. That one always weirded me out.
Not even a parent yet, but preggers and prego drive me nuts. I'm also creeped out by adults referring to grown women (or worse, themselves) as mama or mommy. I have a FB friend from high school who is 38 wks pregnant who regularly refers to herself as all of the above.
I'm so glad adult women referring to each other as mommies bothers other people too! I am soooo sick of my SAHM friend talking about "my mommy friends" and "the other mommies." GAG.
Post by barefootcontessa on Sept 17, 2012 20:25:38 GMT -5
I dislike when people refer to my husband as "watching the kids" or even worse "babysitting the kids." If others want to use these terms to describe their husbands, fine, but it bugs me when they say that about mine. He is their father.
So here's my opportunity to sound like an asshole. "Take-home baby" is a term used by people who have had pregnancy losses; the context would be, "After miscarrying last time, I hope this pregnancy gives me a take-home baby." "Outside baby" is used to differentiate from an unborn baby. On my BMB, I'll see posts titled, "Question for mommies with outside babies."
Thanks to the several responses to this question. I'm actually quite relieved, to be honest. I won't even say what I was worried that it meant.
I agree with preggo/preggers, and other adults calling me mama. Drives me crazy.
Take home baby used to drive me crazy. But, after giving birth to a baby that I *didn't* get to take home with me, the phrase has taken on a whole new meaning.
I hope with all my heart that this is my take home baby.
ETA: "I hope I get to take home this baby" has a gentler ring to it than "I hope this baby doesn't die"
Post by caramia17 on Sept 17, 2012 22:34:56 GMT -5
Push present Referring to grown women with whom you socialize as "mommies" if they are not, indeed, your mother(s) Preggo/preggers Referring to a father caring for HIS OWN KIDS as "babysitting" "Not, not trying" "Real" parent and/or "adopted child" to define parent-child relationship formed with adoption (e.g. "Jerry Sandusky is alleged to have molested his adopted son", as if that mitigates the horror or "Celebrity X died today at age 81. She is survived by her adopted daughter, Jane X-Doe, age 56" Wtf, people?
Lovey does not bother me at all. Andplusalso now I want to watch at Ah-ah the monkey video again.
Ditto for preggers/preggo. I also hate the term "knocked up." I told DH right away that he was NOT allowed to call me any of those. I'm a grown woman who had been trying to get PG for over a year, not the main character in a comedy movie.
Not really parenting related, but I do not allow people to call DS "fat." Yes he is a big baby at 7 months and 22 lbs, but I don't want him labeled at such a young age. He's a healthy little guy, he's not eating bon bons a guzzling soda KWIM?
I hate it when women call each other "mommies" but I am totally guilty of calling other moms "mama." I understand it makes little sense. But "hey mama!" just seems super friendly or something lol.
I agree--"mommy" said my anyone other than one's kid drives me nuts, but I think "mama" is totally fine.
I also kind of like the term knocked up. I don't know why.
I agree that preggo and mommy martyr have got to go. And referring to fathers "babysitting" their own kids is pretty much at the top of my "most annoying" list.
lovey is a technical term you guys! Wte even uses it!
I kid. Blankie is much better. Or not, but I use it.
I don't consider a lovey and a blankie the same thing. But maybe I am just confusing the English "lovey" and the French "doudou." A doudou is any soft object a child is attached to, so can be a blankie or stuffed animal or other soft toy. Wouldn't the word lovey also apply to other things besides blankies?
Mama/mami doesn't bother me at all as they're terms I use for DD as well. I know this is a weird Hispanic thing, but such is life.
Mama/mami doesn't bother me at all as they're terms I use for DD as well. I know this is a weird Hispanic thing, but such is life.
I never knew this was a cultural thing. I never 'punderstood when parents called their kid 'mama'.
I call her mamita, too. It's not something I set out to do with DD, but just slipped out of my mouth. If I ever have a son, I am pretty sure I will mindlessly call him "papi" or "papito."
I HATE when people just refer to the child as "baby" - ex. What is baby eating now? I see this on the bump all of the time. Please use "your" or "the" unless you named the child "Baby.". It should be - what is your baby eating now?
Also, preggo/preggers - but I think those are generally disliked.
I hate it when women call each other "mommies" but I am totally guilty of calling other moms "mama." I understand it makes little sense. But "hey mama!" just seems super friendly or something lol.
I actually agree with this! As I see a few others do too. I had people say "hey mama!" to me, and that's fine. Doesn't bother me. I see it as a light hearted term of endearment.
Calling your friends who are moms "my mommy friends" just sounds juvenile to me and like you can't indentify w/ anyone outside of being a "mommy".