Week of 3/5

[icedcoffee]

I gave notice today at work.  I wasn't looking, but a great opportunity fell on my lap.  I am super stressed about a new job with a 1 year old and even more stressed about eventually needing maternity leave for potential #2 at a new job.  Current job has 12 weeks fully paid and I have no idea what new job will have.

Silver lining is my new job is in a state with mandatory IVF coverage and we have no frosties!

I really hate change.

[shauni27]

AH! That is so exciting (and totally overwhelming, too)!! You know this is what is best for you, hence taking the job. It is also great that you have mandatory IVF coverage. The new job might not have as comprehensive as a leave policy, however, you don't have to spend any money on IVF so I bet it balances out. When will you start the new job?

S has been saying mama all weekend and also using his hand to make fun sounds with him mouth. He is trying SO hard to crawl and pull himself up on things.

He also ate an entire bagel on Saturday. So funny--he loved it. (also loved bacon, lox, eggs, peanut butter bambas and peas. All in the same day. Oink Oink!)

[cactuscookie]

icedcoffee, change is hard! DH and I recently changed jobs, and even though it was very clearly the right decision, it was still stressful.

[icedcoffee]

shauni27, in 3 weeks! It all happened so quick. If need IVF again it will be really nice not to shell out another $30k. That's for sure.

DS can also eat an insane amount of food. Most meals I just sit there in shock at how much he can fit in his little body.

cactuscookie, I totally hate change, but when I got the offer I turned to my husband and was like "Umm...I can't not take it, right?" It also should reduce my commute significantly. Just need to keep reminding myself of the good things.

[thoseareradishes]

Good luck with the new job icedcoffee! Change really is hard, but it sounds like a great opportunity.

E's birthday was yesterday. She seemed to have a fun time. She had some cake and tator tots and thought that was great, and got some really nice toys and clothes. She warmed up to my family pretty quickly so I was really happy with that, no screaming! I can't believe it's been a year already. It's weird too since I think of her as an 8.5 month old, not a 12 month old.

However, her naps were awful all weekend - only one nap Saturday and Sunday she only took a 20 minute nap in the afternoon (she did nap in the morning thankfully). I'm beyond frustrated with it, but don't know what to do to help.

[mpc]

DS's birthday went great on Saturday! He's so excited to be 5. I told him that 5 year olds brush their teeth twice a day (we had only been making him do it once a day) and he accepted that and has been doing it. I foresee lots of other "5 years old do this" kind of statements to come.

H is traveling for work today, coming back really late wednesday night. My MIL on saturday said to me, "let us know if we can help while he's gone" so I responded, "actually if you could come over monday or tuesday night that would be great!" and then.... *crickets*. I can only laugh. She was the one who brought it up in the first place! So yesterday I texted "when you come over can you bring dinner too?" lol. then she wrote back oh yes we can come and bring dinner.

[mpc]

icedcoffee, congrats on the new job! change is hard but it sounds like this will be a good one!
shauni27, DD will just eat and eat and I never know when to stop giving her food. Usually when I start to get bored. But sometimes I wonder how long she would go if I let her.
thoseareradishes, happy birthday to E! how did she like the cake? I think DD will go nuts with it when she has her birthday.

[shauni27]

thoseareradishes, glad the birthday went well! I know you were having some anxiety about the milestone, how are you feeling now that it has passed?

[loira]

It's a slow month for my clients so I'm using the time to catch up on all the errands for moving H here. Also he is coming to visit on Friday! Only for a week (boo!) but will still be so good to see him!

[icedcoffee]

Mar 5, 2018 15:25:21 GMT -5 mpc said:

shauni27 , DD will just eat and eat and I never know when to stop giving her food. Usually when I start to get bored. But sometimes I wonder how long she would go if I let her.

We end meals for DS when I get bored or tired of cutting his food up.  I do think he would just eat forever.  My pedi makes us fill out surveys before each appointment and one question is "Does it take more than 30 minutes to eat?" and I think they're looking to make sure they're not taking too long to eat, but I'm always like "Well--yes, but that's because he will literally inhale food for an hour if I let him".

[grover]

We did A's one year pictures yesterday because it was the best time the photographer had availability. The sneak peek is so adorable, and you can't tell A was super crabby at all! Mailed her birthday invites out today, can't believe she's almost a year old! How time has flown, in a good way.

[loira]

Mar 5, 2018 15:54:36 GMT -5 grover said:

We did A's one year pictures yesterday because it was the best time the photographer had availability. The sneak peek is so adorable, and you can't tell A was super crabby at all! Mailed her birthday invites out today, can't believe she's almost a year old! How time has flown, in a good way.

Why do you tease us like this?

[grover]

Mar 5, 2018 16:20:06 GMT -5 loira said:

Mar 5, 2018 15:54:36 GMT -5 grover said:

We did A's one year pictures yesterday because it was the best time the photographer had availability. The sneak peek is so adorable, and you can't tell A was super crabby at all! Mailed her birthday invites out today, can't believe she's almost a year old! How time has flown, in a good way.

Why do you tease us like this?

It's times like this I wish there was a grads FB group.  

PDQ, limited time only

[cactuscookie]

Mar 5, 2018 16:52:27 GMT -5 grover said:

Mar 5, 2018 16:20:06 GMT -5 loira said:

Why do you tease us like this?

It's times like this I wish there was a grads FB group.

So cute! I love the colors. And those are perfect smash cake pictures!

[loira]

grover, those are fab pictures! Agree with cactuscookie, I am loving the colours!

[kellikans]

good luck with the new job, icedcoffee!
she's adorable, grover!
happy birthday to E, thoseareradishes! glad her party went well.

I'm hanging in there trying to relax and enjoy my last few weeks before baby. trying not to think about the things that can go wrong during surgery. and trying to tell myself that baby boy is going to be just fine. I'm scared about how small he's going to be. basically, I'm a ball of anxiety right now.

I've been trying to contact a photographer for a newborn session and her website isn't working for sending her an email. so I sent her a message on FB and I still haven't heard anything back. she's really the only affordable photographer I have found, so I'm really hoping she gets back to me. we've also been trying to find someone to come deep clean our house before the baby comes and it amazes me how no one returns your phone calls or text messages. it's like no one wants our business. hello! I want to give you money and you don't want to take it! I don't get it.

in case baby boy comes home for Easter, I bought a little Easter outfit. none of the actual Easter outfits come in preemie size, so I got one that has cute little ducks on it.

[thoseareradishes]

mpc , she loved it! I made a boxed cake and iced it with whipped cream tinted purple with blueberries. We just gave her a small piece and she tried to shove it all in her mouth!

shauni27 , thanks, I'm not doing great but I'm trying to shake myself out of it. I'd love to go to the support group at the hospital but I'm nervous to take E. We need to be so careful not to get her sick since her lungs aren't 100%.

kellikans , that outfit is so sweet. Are they anticipating NICU time?

grover, love the pictures!

[kellikans]

thoseareradishes, he'll probably be there for a little bit. We aren't anticipating him being much more than 4 pounds. So they'll want to make sure he can regulate his temp, eat on his own and gain some weight before we bring him home.

[Mushe]

grover, what a sweetie! 😍😍😍

thoseareradishes, I’m glad your DD had a good time! I’ve been thinking of you, and hoping you’re able to find some good support there.

kellikans, that is so frustrating! I hope you can find both a photographer and cleaner soon. Super annoying. That outfit is precious.

[Mushe]

Hey all! We finally decided to pull off the band-aid, and start telling people about the baby. We hadn’t told our parents or DS. He’s old enough that I want to minimize the risk of disappointment, and for parents, it felt like I’d jinx things if I talked about it.

DS was SO excited! H videotaped me telling DS on Saturday, and it was just adorable. He has been telling me about all these things he’s going to teach himself to do, so he can show her, and that he’ll do a lot of the work, so we don’t have to do it all. ❤️ We let DS tell my parents (in person) and ILs (FaceTime as they live across the country), and it was awesome. They’re all so surprised and excited.

ETA: 13w tomorrow

[kellikans]

oh Mushe, how amazing. I'm so happy for you!

[scm1011]

Wow, so much big stuff going on this week!

Mushe, that made me tear up. I'm so happy things continue to go well. And did I read "her"?! I must have missed you found out it was a girl! Congrats!!

Congrats on the new gig, icedcoffee! I'm currently looking and understand where you're coming from. Its more than time I moved on (I haven't had a raise in almost 6 years ), but I worry about not having the crazy flexibility I have here. Basically I come and go as I please as long as I get everything necessary done, and I know that won't be the case with a new job.

Happy birthday to you littles, thoseareradishes and mpc!

Those pictures are fantastic grover! I love the one of her looking at the cake on her hands

Hugs to you, kellikans. I'm sorry you've had such a stressful pregnancy. I hope baby boy arrives safely so you can finally relax.

shauni27, that IG video of S saying mama as the cutest. I love all his facial expressions. He's such a little ham

[mpc]

oh Mushe I love it! Your DS is going to love being a big brother so much! And I see he got over the ambivalence about a sister pretty quick, lol!

[scm1011]

I got The Call from daycare that C was sick yesterday, and picked up a miserable baby with a 103 temp. We were just saying over the weekend how he made in January and February without a sick day, so clearly we jinxed him. DH is home with C today and he seemed better this morning, so hopefully he's on the road to recovery.

Otherwise he's been awesome. He's such a curious little bug these days, he points to EVERYTHING and asks "this?" so I spend my days saying "that's the trash can. that's mama's coat. that's a tree." etc lol.

[icedcoffee]

Mar 6, 2018 8:18:18 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Congrats on the new gig, icedcoffee ! I'm currently looking and understand where you're coming from. Its more than time I moved on (I haven't had a raise in almost 6 years ), but I worry about not having the crazy flexibility I have here. Basically I come and go as I please as long as I get everything necessary done, and I know that won't be the case with a new job.

Yes!!  These were all my worries.  I was looking for a new job right when I got back from ML, but then I decided that I had a good situation and I wanted to put it on the back burner until I was done having kids (especially since their ML policy is unheard of).  A recruiter contacted me 2 weeks ago and the opportunity basically fell on my lap.  It's a pretty significant raise and title change so I just couldn't say no, but in a lot of ways I was hoping I wouldn't get the offer.  I currently work from home 1 day a week and they said they won't allow that so that made it even harder.  I'm going to have to work my ass off at the new job.  I really hope I made the right decision.  BTW--no raise in 6 years is bananas.  I would be so livid.  Hopefully the one day a week work from home thing is something I can bring back up in a couple years.  I will miss that dearly.

ETA:  It's also a much closer commute by about half.  My current commute takes 70-100 minutes each way.


Mushe ,  I am so happy for you!  Your post made me cry!

[shauni27]

omg Mushe! YAY! text me the video
that is a darling little outfit kellikans. I think it is totally understandable to be freaked out right now.
Yay on the visit with your hubbie, loira!
HOLY MOTHER OF CUTENESS, grover! I cannot believe she is already one.

[scm1011]

icedcoffee. I hear you. I WFH 2 days a week and it make a huge difference, but girl that kind of commute reduction plus a significant raise is AWESOME!! And yes, my raise situation is ridiculous. Not a COLA raise or anything. Ugh.

[Mushe]

Congrats on the new job, icedcoffee! How exciting for it to fall in your lap. I hope you’re pleasantly surprised by the culture at the new place.

[Chrysanthemum]

Congrats icedcoffee!
Happy birthday, baby thoseareradishes!
scm1011, C loves to play this game, too! At Target today, i narrated our entire shopping trip. Those are bottles. Yes, lights. Car. Lady, cart. Kids.” Hahahaha

C is 14 months and I’m in the beginning stages of arranging for our first babysitter! All our family is out of state so we’ve only had even family members watch him alone a couple of times. The assistant teacher at daycare offered to babysit for us, so I told her today that I was ready to take her up on the offer. I think we’ll do dinner close by and keep it to a couple hours, but AHHHH. I love this teacher and don’t worry about that part at all, but how do you all do this? Tips?

[Mushe]

Yay for a trusted sitter, Chrysanthemum! With someone like that, I’d do your best to roll with it and go. I like to make a list of times my kiddo likes/needs to be doing things, and tips if he was fussy.