I mean, I talk to him about the specific issue (i.e. please just send what I pack for lunch and don't give her extra treats because she won't eat the healthy food, please send milk with her lunch instead of Gatorade because she needs the extra protein, please read labels and choose food without red dye). He looks guilty, says ok, and then does it again at some point in the future. Maybe days, maybe weeks, maybe months. Maybe now that I have a name for it (undermining me), he will be able to see why it is harmful, moreso than just one treat one day.
I also think there's a comfort for him there somehow. Like, if he doesn't help choose what we have for dinner or where we go on a weekend, he doesn't get blamed when DD doesn't like it. And that is really getting my goat lately. I'm basically just done making these decisions. I'm just tired of it.
Dhs issue I think is he is usually pretty laid back. Then he gets a bee in his bonnet that no one is listening to him here, or at work. Then he blows up on some random issue and thinks he is putting his foot down when everyone is just wondering WTH his problem is. I'm tired of being on the receiving end of his blown up, exaggerated acts of assertiveness.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Mar 20, 2018 12:54:51 GMT -5
Random and partially SO Vent: We have a lot of stuff going on and so I need to update the calendar. And I don't want to b/c once it's on the calendar I will see how busy our life is or realize we have conflicts that have to be sorted out and I just don't want to do the work.
And also DH will probably tell me he had some thing that can't be moved blah blah blah.