Post by supertrooper1 on Mar 21, 2018 7:53:06 GMT -5
Dear snow, I'm not sure if you're a blessing in disguise or not. I came to Virginia for only 3 days to be a part of a great opportunity. Day 1 was amazing, being in a room with like minded people who are passionate about the work like I am. But snowing so much that you shut down the government is annoying. Although I will love a day laying in bed in my quiet hotel room watching Netflix all day. Singed, Snowed in.
Dear colleagues, Let me take a group photo. You got free shirts and paid time off to go do a volunteer event. Is 30 seconds for a group photo truly too much of an inconvenience? The way I see it, if I gave you a logo shirt, you owe me a photo. Signed, Marketing
Dear world, I don't have enough spoons for this week. I'm exhausted and sore and my brain is just not functioning at 100%. (Have you all heard of the spoon theory for chronic illness? 2chatter you might find it helpful for your DD). Sometimes I'm glad I have a diagnosis to explain why I feel this way, but then I just get frustrated that I can't really do anything about it. I wish shortened work days were possible sometimes. Signed, I need a break
Dear DH, When I said I wanted to go to marriage counseling, I didn't mean that you and I should stay up late every night hashing out every issue we've ever had. The whole point is to hash this out with a neutral third party. I'm concerned that you won't want to bother with counseling because we'll have "discussed it all" by the time we find someone and schedule it. Also - you're stealing my spoons like crazy and not acknowledging it. Signed, Tired in all the ways
Dear crazy applicant- I discussed the schedule with you two times and you verbally agreed it worked for you twice. In fact I was so upfront that you wouldn't have to come in for the interview if it didn't work for you. So saying I mislead you untrue. . If I gave you a choice in shifts (which I didn't remember doing) then you need to select a shift. Not show up and act horrified after the fact that you didn't get a shift.
Also saying my description verbally didn't follow the job description is a lie since I have been doing this job for 9 years and know the job like the back of my hand. Everything I said was true. You were just mad because you made assumptions on percentage of time and training. You seem to be one of those people that don't process things verbally or deliberately misunderstand. My assumption is that you need an excuse not to work.
Dear Students, I appreciate that the test I will be giving you this afternoon is hard. But it's been on the syllabus for the entire semester. You all seem to be flooding my office today with questions, which makes me wonder how this exam will go today. Signed, Tired Professor
Dear Family, Yay, we leave for Disney World tomorrow! I am so excited to go somewhere warm with all of you. I haven't made a ton of reservations, so we can have a more chill vacation. Love, Mama
Dear DH, No, 4 carry on backs for 8 days (1 bag per person) is not excessive. This airline charges for carryons, which is why we are checking everything. Also, packing snacks for the kids for the flight is not a crazy idea. They like to eat more often than you do, and will do better with food they like. In part because DS is still a picky vegetarian, who will forgo eating if nothing looks good to him, and then is super cranky. Love, Wife who has flown solo with the kids many times
Post by mustardseed2007 on Mar 21, 2018 9:21:25 GMT -5
Dear Kids,
Thank you so much for being awesome and just wearing what I wanted you to wear on school picture day! It's like I don't even know you. But in a good way?
Dear DD, Thanks for being awesome. I can’t believe you are 14. I just can’t say enough good things. Love Mom
Dear SIL, Thank you for picking up the marshmallows DD can have from your local WS and not side eyeing the fact that I spent $40 on marshmallows. Regular retail price would have been $140 so it’s a steal! Not to mention I already bought out the two stores closest to me. Appreciative SIL
Dear MIL I am loving the random texts you send me. Please keep it up - somehow it makes me like DH more - he has an awesome mom. I suspect you know he’s been a jerk for the last couple years and you are trying to make sure I’m Ok. Grateful DIL
Dear SS, I am so glad you aren’t the Austin bomber. I felt bad for thinking that until DH called to tell me he had confirmed that you are at home where you belong. Why is the even remote possibility that you would do anything awful not more alarming to DH? Step mom who hasn’t forgotten your high school bomb making or the Nazi flag you raised at your high school and who still abhors both scenarios
Yes, DS is a jerk in the mornings. He’s also 3. We are lucky he isn’t a jerk all the time! And guess what. You are ALSO a jerk in the mornings, and you are 43. So this morning, my letting DS eat before getting dressed ended up with DS ready 15 minutes earlier than usual. Whether you want to admit it or not, that’s a huge success! I don’t care that it doesn’t follow your Rain Man-esque demands that the kids get dressed in exactly the order you do (brush teeth, then clothes, then hair, then breakfast). It freaking WORKED and we had A HAPPY MORNING THREE YEAR OLD.
Wife Who Is Brilliant
Dear Son:
You are so funny and weird. Thank you for gagging your way through eating two slices of steamed carrots last night. That was great! Plus you ate all your chicken! Good job!
Mommy Who Wants a Healthy Eater
Dear Daughter:
I can’t believe you ate an entire grapefruit yesterday and drank the juice that was left over! Why is it you eat things like grapefruit and dark chocolate and asparagus but will not touch anything made of potatoes? And why do you act like ketchup was created by the devil?
And no, I have no idea why it looks like an orange but doesn’t taste like an orange or why it’s called a GRAPE fruit when it has nothing in commmon with grapes.
Love, Mommy Who Is Often Surprised By Your Taste Buds
Post by erinshelley21 on Mar 21, 2018 9:57:46 GMT -5
Dear mommyatty, If I could eat like your daughter and my DS, I'd probably have a sexier bod. Signed, erinshelley
Dear Town, Please, please, please for the love of God, vote YES to improve our schools at the primary in May. I know it seems like a lot of money and I know in a town where a lot of people live paycheck to paycheck it seems like it's going to take food off of your table, but I promise this will make our community better as a whole. Usually when a city starts thriving and growing, good schools come first and then jobs and opportunity follow. The academics, teachers and heart are all there. We need the buildings, facilities and extra curriculars to support them. I am willing to bet money that if this passes, it will create so many more jobs we won't know what to do with ourselves in about 10 years. Also, I don't want to move. If this doesn't pass, I'm about 75% sure we will move out of town and that breaks my heart. Love, the hometown girl who wants to stay here forever
Please let me know what I am doing tonight. Going to your moms, out to eat for your birthday, home? I like to have a plan.
Also Dh,
I if you are going to try to buy me something you know I want, such as a table, don't involve me in the transaction, because I won't want to spend the money. Just bring it home. Money takes the fun out of it. However you somehow took the money for your item just fine.
Dear Sister - Remember that awesome time when DH thought he was going to be stuck out of state for your kid's First Communion, and I was concerned about bringing a cranky 2 year old to the Mass during naptime by myself, so I told you I may have to skip the Mass and then come to the party? And remember when, after I told you that, in tears because DH had been gone for the better part of 2 months and I was alone working 60+ hours a week with a 2 year old, you stopped talking to me for 3 months because I said I might miss the Mass? And remember DH made it home and I made it to the Mass, and you still wouldn't talk to me?
Of course you don't. Because if you did, you wouldn't be telling me that you're missing DD1's First Communion because one of your kids has an f-ing BASEBALL GAME.
Love, Sister who doesn't forget.
Dear DH - You have a problem, but you don't want to acknowledge it. That's your decision, and I am done talking about it. But now I have to take care of myself and our kids. I will compartmentalize to the best of my ability. It won't be perfect, but I will do my best. But please don't think that I'm going to see your family or any of your friends any time soon. Or, like ever again. Because I don't care to watch you get drunk for days at a time. I'm all done with it. You've made your decision. This is mine. Love, Wifey who has drawn her line in the sand (and who suspects you're reading this anyway, so now we REALLY don't have to have a conversation about it)
mommyatty, DD I wish you could eat lunch with my DD. She likes all the none kid foods too but has gotten into the habit of saying she doesn't like it even though she does. I think she has now noticed the other kids don't eat it and she doesn't want to be different.
Dear DH I know you don't like being sick. I know you hate disappointing your boss by taking any time off. But you have the FLU that you got from work because your boss and secretary have been working while sick. You go out in public fixing and installing doors so you are spreading your FLU all over the place and you don't seem to care. No DD, daycare, and I are not being mean staying away from you or saying you can't pick DD up. We are being cautious as we don't want to get the FLU! Frustrated Wife
DD I know you are going to get your back hip circle at gym. You just need to believe in yourself. You can do it! Cheerleader mom
Dear Cold invading my body Go the F away. Waking up to no voice doesn't work. Frog-voiced me
mustardseed2007 - yeah, SS has done some shady (understatement) things. And the consequences weren’t harsh enough. I don’t think he for real is any kind of threat, but then again I would not be surprised to see him do something violent as a “prank” because he’s kind of an idiot. And his parents let him be.
Which leads me to ...
Dear SD, No, using my name and DOB to try to set up online ordering for birth control was not smart. The insurance company you did this through isn’t the right company, as they aren’t our prescription provider. so now I have lost access to my flex spending claims, which is the only benefit they administrate for us. I’ve spent at least 16 hours on this since January and may lose 2017 money as a result. If you were my child you would be 1) fixing this 2) not receiving any extras of any kind at all 3) if you refused (as you have) the car we purchased would be gone. You have no idea how mad I am
Post by erinshelley21 on Mar 21, 2018 10:57:06 GMT -5
2chatter, you are a SAINT for putting up with half the shit you do from not only your H but his kids as well. All while doing a million and one things for the rest of your family.
erinshelley21 I really needed to vent about that!! I haven’t been at all nice about it. DH is mad at me “let’s get to a solution and stop blaming SD” - when the solution is to punish his kids so they stop doing whatever they want and for her to spend hours on end to resolve this. I’m hoping she isn’t coming to Easter because I am not sure I can be civil. She’s 19, not a child, so if she is coming to Easter and this isn’t resolved, hopefully the kids and I won’t go. I have just reached the end of my ability to tolerate this circus.
DH tried to tell me she’s busy. 12 hours at college and one hostess shift a weekend. He’s delusional!
erinshelley21 I really needed to vent about that!! I haven’t been at all nice about it. DH is mad at me “let’s get to a solution and stop blaming SD” - when the solution is to punish his kids so they stop doing whatever they want and for her to spend hours on end to resolve this. I’m hoping she isn’t coming to Easter because I am not sure I can be civil. She’s 19, not a child, so if she is coming to Easter and this isn’t resolved, hopefully the kids and I won’t go. I have just reached the end of my ability to tolerate this circus.
DH tried to tell me she’s busy. 12 hours at college and one hostess shift a weekend. He’s delusional!
The problem with kids nowadays, highlighted in those 3 words. It blows my mind that some parents don't understand that kids need consequences in order to learn how to be moral, ethical people.
You have my blood absolutely boiling over how you handled this situation and your response to me. Ask anyone who knows me and it takes a lot to get me mad, I'm usually extremely passive.
Signed, Pissed off
Dear self,
Start putting a plan in motion to look for another job. You are not happy and have many many years left of working, you might as well enjoy them.
erinshelley21, yeah he is pretty happy about not having to deal with DD. He just doesn't get why everyone is treating him like he has the plague. Plus with my mom picking DD up she is feeding her dinner so I'm not using the crock pot so he has to fend for himself, poor baby. Truthfully I don't think he realizes next week is spring break and DD has other things going on even.
2chatter, your SD tried to fraud the insurance co. That isn't a small thing. YH will be bailing his kids out for their entire lives if he can't put his foot down.
erinshelley21, yeah he is pretty happy about not having to deal with DD. He just doesn't get why everyone is treating him like he has the plague. Plus with my mom picking DD up she is feeding her dinner so I'm not using the crock pot so he has to fend for himself, poor baby. Truthfully I don't think he realizes next week is spring break and DD has other things going on even.
2chatter, your SD tried to fraud the insurance co. That isn't a small thing. YH will be bailing his kids out for their entire lives if he can't put his foot down.
This was my thought! I would be in the “fix this or I’m calling the cops” camp! Honestly, actions need to have consequences!
186momx- DD loves that her food grosses other kids out! She often tells DH stuff like “Pack an extra lot of spinach! Audrey will gag!” Then she laughs like an evil cartoon villain.
erinshelley21 , yeah he is pretty happy about not having to deal with DD. He just doesn't get why everyone is treating him like he has the plague. Plus with my mom picking DD up she is feeding her dinner so I'm not using the crock pot so he has to fend for himself, poor baby. Truthfully I don't think he realizes next week is spring break and DD has other things going on even.
2chatter , your SD tried to fraud the insurance co. That isn't a small thing. YH will be bailing his kids out for their entire lives if he can't put his foot down.
SD really is just an idiot. Because everywhere else pertaining to insurance they require my name and DOB, she thought that was the first step. I am absolutely certain she wasn’t trying to create MY profile. Because if she was, in her mind, she wouldn’t be able to get HER birth control. If she was sharper she might have tried to set things up as me, but she just isn’t.
And yes, my skids are exactly what’s wrong with millennials. When I told skids I had three jobs, played rugby, graduated with honors with a 3.9 and was in a sorority in undergrad and graduated a year early their response was “people don’t really do that”. DH somehow agrees with them saying things like “not all kids are like you”. And even “not all kids are like your kids”. They don’t need to be like me or my kids, but how about not being lazy excuse makers with little intelligence or accountability? Upside: MIL has cut SS off. Because her tolerance for his idiocy is like mine - nonexistent. You lost your job waiting tables (again) because you punched someone and now you can’t pay bills? Good luck.
2chatter, So the better question is what do you think should happen as a consequence for all of this? Not what you think will happen, but given free reign, what would you do? That seems like the starting point to me. Also, speaking as a millennial, I agree these are the folks who give my generation a bad name, particularly for those of us who were more like you, working jobs in college, and generally just busting butt.