Dating 101

[stellarose]

Where’s the sticky dating advice guide
Because I need one. How do we start navigating that big scary world?

[kanga1]

This board is super slow but thought I'd put in my 2 cents. I never did online dating which is super popular so this will be my perspective on other ways. I've met most of my dates either through friends of friends or while I was at a bar with a group of friends. Go to as many social events as you can and put word out to your friends that you want to get back in the dating scene. They might have a coworker or friend or relative to introduce to you. Some people worry about doing that in case things don't work out but I figure we are all adults so what is the harm.

[freezorburn]

Well, I'm still stuck on the question of When, so I'm not even thinking about How yet.

I know I'm not ready. Because right now I have zero desire to put any effort into dating. I put everything I had into my marriage, and whatever I had that I could give to another person, has been seriously depleted. I'm focusing on taking care of my son and getting my career back online.

Yes I feel lonely and I miss having a partner, and it would be great to have romance and sex in my life again. But I don't want to do any of the work it would take to have those things in my life. Not yet. I guess I'll know when I'm ready.

I have a lot of divorced friends who find themselves dating someone who was not fully healed from their previous relationship, and often they find those relationships are not sustainable, because the other party is still working through some things, they just didn't realize it. It seems to happen fairly often.

[doriswe]

I will say there is no medal for being quick to jump back into dating! Take your time to heal and trust yourself.

[fordi]

Also single here. Any personal stories? Advice how to not get scammed?