Daily Poll - Tuesday

[hensmum]

SSG - over the past several months, there were times when my percentage was far from 50/50. While my situation isn't exactly the same, I do know that feeling of facing "fix it" time and feeling totally overwhelmed. In my experience, once the mutual work started, it got a little easier to cope with. I hope things calm down for you soon and that you can find happiness soon. You know where to find me if you need a friend.

[rikkiandjulie]

Sept 18, 2012 16:57:00 GMT -5 ssg73 said:

Sept 18, 2012 13:52:04 GMT -5 thiswillbe said:

I wonder how many would have checked a box somewhere in between "absolutely" and "it could go either way."

I said our marriage would absolutely last. I wouldn't have always said that, though. There have been times over the years where I would have checked the "it's sad to say, but I doubt we'll make it long term" box. We've been through some really, really rough times, but thankfully are well on the other side of those now.

I mention that because when we were walking through that hell I really wouldn't have thought it'd be possible to get back to where we are right now. I was fully expecting, at one point, to be a single parent to newborn twins. I am thankful we were able to stop that train, and honestly kinda amazed that it was even possible. So if anyone reading this feels like you're heading towards divorce, just know it's not always the final outcome. /end PSA

I really needed to hear that today. If you are on the other board you already know what is going on. But to catch you all up. I found out that S has been cheating on me a week ago. Things are up in the air and horrible right now. My normal life has turned into a lifetime movie in a moment. I am trying to be open to rebuilding my relationship but at this point I would say I am 50% 50% of this working for us and that is the generous way of looking at this. The hard work is just beginning regardless of the outcome. I need to hear that we can get back to were we used to be. Even the possibility eases my heart a little. Life sucks sometimes.

((HUGS))

[2brides]

Sept 18, 2012 17:12:05 GMT -5 hensmum said:

SSG - over the past several months, there were times when my percentage was far from 50/50. While my situation isn't exactly the same, I do know that feeling of facing "fix it" time and feeling totally overwhelmed. In my experience, once the mutual work started, it got a little easier to cope with. I hope things calm down for you soon and that you can find happiness soon. You know where to find me if you need a friend.

Ditto. While we haven't been in your situation, we've been at the place (more than once) where one of us was planning on moving out/ending the relationship. It is a horrible, scary, intimidating, and daunting place to be. And even worse when you have kids (we've been at this place pre and post kids) because you can't take time to heal as a spouse/woman when you have to be Mommy too. Take care of yourself. :heart:

[joyseattle]

Can I just say that hearing that others have been in rough relationship places is soooo reassuring?!
In those moments I often feel discouraged and wonder whether this is a common phenomenon or a sign of our relationship. It's encouraging to have a reminder that no relationship is perfect and that we all have our unique struggles.

[rikkiandjulie]

Sept 18, 2012 22:47:42 GMT -5 joyseattle said:

Can I just say that hearing that others have been in rough relationship places is soooo reassuring?!
In those moments I often feel discouraged and wonder whether this is a common phenomenon or a sign of our relationship. It's encouraging to have a reminder that no relationship is perfect and that we all have our unique struggles.

Agreed!

[thiswillbe]

Sept 18, 2012 16:57:00 GMT -5 ssg73 said:

Sept 18, 2012 13:52:04 GMT -5 thiswillbe said:

I wonder how many would have checked a box somewhere in between "absolutely" and "it could go either way."

I said our marriage would absolutely last. I wouldn't have always said that, though. There have been times over the years where I would have checked the "it's sad to say, but I doubt we'll make it long term" box. We've been through some really, really rough times, but thankfully are well on the other side of those now.

I mention that because when we were walking through that hell I really wouldn't have thought it'd be possible to get back to where we are right now. I was fully expecting, at one point, to be a single parent to newborn twins. I am thankful we were able to stop that train, and honestly kinda amazed that it was even possible. So if anyone reading this feels like you're heading towards divorce, just know it's not always the final outcome. /end PSA

I really needed to hear that today. If you are on the other board you already know what is going on. But to catch you all up. I found out that S has been cheating on me a week ago. Things are up in the air and horrible right now. My normal life has turned into a lifetime movie in a moment. I am trying to be open to rebuilding my relationship but at this point I would say I am 50% 50% of this working for us and that is the generous way of looking at this. The hard work is just beginning regardless of the outcome. I need to hear that we can get back to were we used to be. Even the possibility eases my heart a little. Life sucks sometimes.

OMG, SSG, I had no idea (must have missed your post)! I am so, so sorry to hear that; how awful!! Sending you lots and lots of hugs.

If you ever need a place to take a breather, we have a guest room waiting for you (and E!).