It's Monday - Vents/Celebrations/Randoms

[covergirl82]

Just another manic Monday....wish it was Sunday...

[covergirl82]

Vents - The weather is my biggest vent. I am SO OVER winter. We had freezing rain/sleet/ice/snow most of the weekend. Yesterday was the worst in terms of weather. School was cancelled today (thankfully I don't have any meetings today, so it was easy for me to work from home), and the kids are getting cabin fever (they didn't go anywhere all weekend). It finally looks like this extended winter will be over starting later this week.

Celebrations - My friend and I did make it to the Vera Bradley annual outlet sale on Saturday. We left at 6 am and got there a little before 9 am. We've gotten there around the same time a few years ago and it had been really busy then - super long line to check out. This year we walked right in, shopped, and didn't have to wait at all to check out. We stopped at a Panera before heading home, and were back on the road by 11 am and then home by 2. We didn't hit any bad weather or accidents, so it was a pretty great trip. I got my mom a leather purse for Mother's Day (and I ended up getting myself the same one in the same color I liked it so much), a blanket (Sherpa-lining on one side), a couple beach towels, a pair of shoes, a blanket that turns into a travel pillow for DD, and a few other small gift items.

[mae0111]

Weekend was good, but busy. DD had a play date on Fri afternoon, then we all had dinner with friends. They have a trampoline at their house, which I hate, and there were 9 kids on it, which I also hate. But they were so cautious of DD2 since she is 1/2 the size of the other kids that I felt a bit better.

Saturday we did a ton of yard work and DH used the smoker I got him for his birthday. We did a chicken and a turkey breast, and had our neighbors and their kids over for dinner.

So my kids were luggage yesterday. Crying, fighting... awful because they were so tired. They are on spring break this week so I’ve threatened them with sitting at home all week of behavior doesn’t improve. I’m hoping things are better today. I have a nasty cold in my head and chest, and it is currently 33 degrees and raining sideways, so I’m cool with staying home again today.

[xctsclrx]

I am probably the only person on this board who is happy about the weather. The longer it stays cold outside the less time I have to spend in miserable heat while pregnant. 8.5 more weeks and this kid is being evicted.

Our play date went well I think. She brought her entire family and it was only DS and I. DH opted to stay home, told him next time he is coming. They both work full time and don't have any family in town. They might actually take us up on babysitting swaps. DS had a blast and did nothing but talk to about his friend for the rest of the weekend.

Our nursery is almost complete. We have to set up the swing, put batteries in the things that need batteries. (noise machine, swing and bouncer) And we have to bring down the glider from upstairs then DONE! We finished all of our laundry (and put it away) plus meal prepped for lunch this week. We were productive.

[librarychica]

Apr 16, 2018 6:49:12 GMT -5 covergirl82 said:

Just another manic Monday....wish it was Sunday...

This song is now in my head.

I had a rather nice weekend but I didn’t get much done around the house, so this morning was chaotic. I made a school mom friend this weekend when we engaged in mutual oversharing outside a bounce house (or as I told H “We discussed the emotional fragility of our mothers. We are friends now and going to have wine.”) so that is nice.

This morning was chaotic, my computer took 35 minutes to boot up and I feel really broody lately. It makes me feel like I crazy person but I swear to god I want a baby but only a certain part of the month. The rest of the month I am mildly wistful but mostly content with the way things are. H needs to schedule and actually attend his damn vasectomy because I’m tired exercising self control. Men!

[justcheckingin73]

Wow xctsclrx! I swear you just told us you were pregnant and you only have 8 1/2 weeks left? It will be here before you know it.

It really didn’t feel like a weekend since DH worked the entire time. He feels like he’s in a good place today but there is still a lot to do after the rush of tax season. He’s seriously re-thinking his potential partnership and wondering if going out on his own would be better.

On Saturday DS had his First Communion retreat which I volunteered at. It went quickly. After that, I picked up DD and we all went to lunch and the mall to look for a Confirmation dress for her.  Found one but they didn’t have her size so I ordered it online. $30 with shipping - score!

Sunday I did a little work mostly because my SS had his friend over and I am just so over him being here. He lays around, plays video games and only gets up to go to work or get food. The last time he lived here, he was a teenager and I really don’t think he’s grown up at all in the 6 years since then. I also overheard a conversation he had with his mom and I inferred (still have to have DH verify this) that he may not be moving into his own place until June. WTF?? I felt bad for venting to DH but I stopped by to see him on Sunday and told him I am pissed that I was fed this two week line. He’s not happy either but obviously can’t deal with it until later this week when he’s actually home.

Anyway - you’ll probably get sick of hearing me vent about that situation. I’m looking forward to my work trip this Saturday through Thursday - I don’t even care that I’m losing my whole weekend because at least I’ll be alone!

Plus, it’s snowing

[twinmomma]

Dh had a 2 hour delay due to weather. WTF. I'm so, so over this cold/rain/snow situation. Will probably spend my lunch break browsing for sun lamps so my family doesn't totally lose our minds.

Our weekend was pretty good. DH and I had lunch out and saw a movie and then the girls had a friend over yesterday for a play date. I felt really bad though - the kid wouldn't eat anything I had for lunch. I had double checked ahead of time with her parents to make sure we'd have stuff she likes on hand, but then she just refused to eat everything I offered and kept telling me she was hungry. I don't know how to parent other people's kids in that situation... But her mom was nonchalant about it when she picked her up. I guess it's a phase she's going through? How do you guys handle that kind of thing? We're very much NOT a short order cook kind of house. I put food on your plate, you eat it or you don't. But I didn't feel comfortable doing that with someone else's kid.

We also officially decided that instead of spending money on a house cleaner, we are going to start outsourcing laundry. There's a place in town that will wash/dry/fold and we estimate it will cost about the same as we'd spend on a house cleaner each month and will have a bigger net impact on our day to day life. DH also seemed on board with a quarterly deep clean, so that should help.

[xctsclrx]

twinmomma, I don't think that is a failure on your part, but on her parents part. Even in kindergarten I knew when I went over to someone's house I was to eat what I was given and not complain. (no allergies here). I think I would have treated her the same way that you do your kids. especially since you took the time to ask her parents what she liked. I guess next time you could ask the parents how they handle the situation at their house and how they would like you to handle it. That way there is no grey area, and if there are growth issues or nutritional concerns you know about it.

[rere]

Vent. It was snowing when I walked out this morning. It is April. I do not live anywhere that would be considered remotely north. I am wearing flats today in rebellion. I am not putting boots back on until October.

Celebrate: DD and her team crushed it this week in volleyball. It was pretty impressive to watch.

Random: I spent way to much at TJ MAXX with DD this weekend. I found some cute tops for me and some shorts for her. She also managed to come out with some rings and sunglasses because apparently I owed her $20.

[phdmomma]

Vent: It is still snowing here, we've gotten about 5 inches. Thankfully the schools are open though, because work is nuts. DS told me this morning that he has a hole in one of his boots. I sent him to school with extra socks, it's April, I'm not buying another pair of boots that he will just outgrow during the summer, and we won't be able to use next year.

Celebrate: We survived the 2.5 hour baptism mass yesterday with a full immersion baptism. DH and I are the godparents, and it took forever. However, there were other people there, whose kids were way louder than mine and one who made a break for the fountain. So I am calling that a win.

[polecat8]

The weather was gorgeous here over the weekend - 80 degrees, partly cloudy, cool breeze. We went to the botanical garden on Saturday and DD had softball practice yesterday. It started pouring as soon as we got home.
Now it is 42 degrees and raining, which will turn in to snow later. WTF?

MIL is still in the hospital making very small improvements. FIL just signed the paperwork to get her in to a rehab facility, although I'm not sure when she'll be released (maybe another week?).

[mommyatty]

I spent a lot of the weekend recovering from my adventure of getting home from DC when there were storms in Dallas. I finally got home a little before 2 am. I’m still dragging.

Saturday both kids played tee ball in 40 degree weather. OMG. It’s Texas in mid-April. What the actual F?? So cold.

Then we went and got our taxes done. Big time FWP here that I cannot mention to anyone IRL. More than half my income is bonus. Our bonuses pay out in February but because of weird Sarbanes-Oxley stuff I cannot comprehend, I have to tell them way before I know how much my bonus is what percentage I want them to withhold. So trying to estimate taxes just sucks ass. This year, I had them over-withhold to the tune of about $23,000. Holy refund, Batman! And she said if all else stayed the same, next year due to changes in the tax laws, our refund would be about $46,000. I really need to get a handle on this because that’s just dumb!

Sunday we went to a birthday party for a now-former coworker’s kiddo. It was fun but sad. And my children acted like crazy people from the moment they woke up to when they went to bed. Not bad. Just... crazy. Hyper, excited, bouncing off the walls, into EVERYTHING. I was glad to send them off to school today.

[k3am]

Apr 16, 2018 7:42:48 GMT -5 twinmomma said:

Our weekend was pretty good. DH and I had lunch out and saw a movie and then the girls had a friend over yesterday for a play date. I felt really bad though - the kid wouldn't eat anything I had for lunch. I had double checked ahead of time with her parents to make sure we'd have stuff she likes on hand, but then she just refused to eat everything I offered and kept telling me she was hungry. I don't know how to parent other people's kids in that situation... But her mom was nonchalant about it when she picked her up. I guess it's a phase she's going through? How do you guys handle that kind of thing? We're very much NOT a short order cook kind of house. I put food on your plate, you eat it or you don't. But I didn't feel comfortable doing that with someone else's kid.

So you basically had my kid at your house. You handled it fine. I'm usually 100% annoyed by my kid not eating stuff and could care less how the host handled it... I hate when people go out of the way to cater to her. 

[callmekd]

I think we ended up with 12 inches of snow. a big WTF. my H snowblowed 4x this weekend.

the good news of the week is that we are getting a tax refund - we haven't had one of those in 4 or 5 years. I'm having it applied to our quarterlies for 2018. apparently it helped that I paid our 2018 property taxes on the last day in 2017. (not to mention having 2 extra dependents)

[erinshelley21]

+whatever to being over this f'ing weather.

We had a decent weekend. My arm is still f'ed so I'm trying to rehab it the best I can without a doctor.

I applied for the job I mentioned last week about 20 minutes ago. Fingers crossed I get called for an interview!

[traveltheworld]

Celebration: We went out biking, even though it was 35 degrees, because we were so sick of being stuck in the house. We put ski helmets on everyone, it actually worked out well.

Vent: DH and I had a really nice dinner at home Saturday night after the kids went to bed. I really felt like we connected. Then last night we got into this huge blow-out fight over nothing. I was so mad I slept in the guest bedroom, work up at 4:00 a.m. because I was too cold, went out to try and grab an extra blanket, tripped over DH, who was sleeping in the hallway outside the guest bedroom. I mean, WTF dude? He ALWAYS does stuff like that - makes me feel like a total b*tch. We both went back to our room to sleep, just to have DS, then DD, both come into our bed at 5:30. We were both too tired to kick them out, so none of us slept well and all woke up cranky.

Another Vent: we are getting our rental townhouse ready for sale. Looking at current listings, it looks like we are going to have to list it for lower than what we had hoped. I'm bummed. And stressed about having to pay the carrying costs and staging costs while it sits on the market.

[katrine05]

Weekend was up and down. Friday night was a mess. I was working on my online grocery order after dinner and the kids were running around like crazy people when I realized I hadn't seen the dog in a while (he was outside, but usually sits by the door, or barks at us to let him back him). I couldn't see him from the door so I went out, and found him stuck in a big mud pit in the corner of our yard. We're not too sure how long he was stuck there. Took me and DH a few hours to get him out, and then into the bath and all cleaned up. He couldn't even stand up his back legs were so caked in mud (he's also 15 and has major problems with his hips). We didn't think he'd make it. He's still kicking though.

Saturday I took DD to a playdate at a playplace and go to sit and chat with the other mom for 2.5 hours, that was nice.

Yesterday DD had her first skating lessons, she did great! She's already talking about wanting to play hockey next year.

She doesn't have school today so I sent her to the dayhome with DS. She was so excited.

Snowing like crazy here. I'm about to have a mental breakdown. We had a few hours of sun and warm weather Saturday and we soaked it up on our deck as much as we could (the yard is still buried in snow and a swamp).

[waverly]

Friday was dinner out with co-workers so nice to have the night off.

Saturday visited my friend with a broken foot- poor thing. She really did a number on it and has a blood clot. I think we are going back next Saturday too.

Sunday was work and lazy morning. Today was supposed to be repair guy for water heater but his kid was sick to they rescheduled for later. Went to Once Upon A Child and got a bunch of clothes for DD. I think they need socks and underwear and DS always needs pants, and they don’t have that at OUAC, so I need to go to Target but I’m running out of time until DH flies out and repair guy comes.

[k3am]

You can add NorCal to the weird weather crew - lightening/thunder, hail, rain, etc.

I've been sleeping really poorly lately. Maybe a couple of hours a night. I'm jumpy and fidgety and was pretty sure I hallucinated an earthquake, but the internet tells me I'm not that far gone yet and there was indeed a small earthquake.

I ordered some sleeping pills for same day delivery to try... hopefully they help. If not, I'm spending a ton of money on some CBD caplets, which has basically been the only thing that's lead to good sleep in the last few months, but are stupidly expensive.

[sweetptater]

Friday was the elementary school fun fest. I use the term "fun" loosely. The kids loved it though. I told H that that they could easily quadruple their fundraising dollars if they had an open bar. I had another mom say as much to me as we were leaving, so I feel validated.

Saturday we took the kids to see Peter Rabbit. H and I were planning on napping during it, but it ended up being highly entertaining. Didn't expect that. I also ate enough movie theater popcorn with extra butter to give myself a stomach ache. We ran a bunch of errands too.

Sunday H rebelled against the cold, windy, sleety day and smoked a 6 pound pork shoulder, a 4 pound chicken, and a full rack of ribs for dinner. For the two of us. I'm......not a fan of smoked meat, yet I'll be eating it forever. Blah.

[mae0111]

An American woman won the Boston Marathon for the first time in 33 years!!! Desi Linden!! The poor runners today. 42 degrees and pouring, pelting, sideways rain...

I love to watch the marathon. I will never run it, but I love to watch.

[mustardseed2007]

mae0111, hooray!!!

[erinshelley21]

Job search question: There is a second opening I'm interested in at the company I applied too earlier today. It's actually in the same department. I submit applications for both correct? And also change my cover letter to match this position?

[librarychica]

Apr 16, 2018 12:34:13 GMT -5 erinshelley21 said:

Job search question: There is a second opening I'm interested in at the company I applied too earlier today. It's actually in the same department. I submit applications for both correct? And also change my cover letter to match this position?

That’s how I would do it.

[erinshelley21]

Apr 16, 2018 13:00:23 GMT -5 librarychica said:

Apr 16, 2018 12:34:13 GMT -5 erinshelley21 said:

Job search question: There is a second opening I'm interested in at the company I applied too earlier today. It's actually in the same department. I submit applications for both correct? And also change my cover letter to match this position?

That’s how I would do it.

Okay good. I did that so I could get it done before my brother got here and started getting all weird about it. 

In doing so, I discovered I made an error in my cover letter, saying I had obligations to fulfill in July and August. I really meant for it to be June and July. I had August in there as my full-time start date, but then DH came in and made that explanation sound 100x better than I did (being the charmer he is) and I didn't see that part. I'm going to email the HR person that I got the automated thank you from and hope for the best. It was a legit email address and has a picture of a woman. 

I also didn't take my adderall until like lunch time. I probably would have caught it otherwise.

[saraml13]

It snowed overnight / was snowing this morning, just enough to make it slippery. We had a very Monday morning full of grumpy kids with colds and too much gear to carry. As usual, I did daycare drop off and it was one of our rougher mornings, but fine, whatever, I lived.

I got to work and saw a group text from DH. He apparently decided to WFH and had a fire going in the fireplace. Seriously?! If you’re going to WFH and the morning is a mess, how do you not volunteer to do drop off?

[justcheckingin73]

Apr 16, 2018 16:06:54 GMT -5 saraml13 said:

It snowed overnight / was snowing this morning, just enough to make it slippery. We had a very Monday morning full of grumpy kids with colds and too much gear to carry. As usual, I did daycare drop off and it was one of our rougher mornings, but fine, whatever, I lived.

I got to work and saw a group text from DH. He apparently decided to WFH and had a fire going in the fireplace. Seriously?! If you’re going to WFH and the morning is a mess, how do you not volunteer to do drop off?

Sounds like something my husband would do too. 

[erinshelley21]

Another day of ending the work day talking about the same freaking shit with my brother. The should haves, the "was your job really so hard that you can't keep doing this" questions, me telling him for the 274th time that he can do this, and me being told there are plenty of people who aren't paid what they are worth.

Another freaking day of him not respecting my desire to leave at a certain time and it interfering with my marriage to the point that DH has been pissy all evening. Rightfully so since my brother keeps getting put first and I don't even mean to do it.

I can't make either of them happy lately and it's exhausting.

[librarychica]

erinshelley21, I know it is hard because family but, frankly, it does not even matter why you made your decision. It is yours to make. From now on, when he brings it up I would say something like “I know you disagree, but I have made my decision and it is not up for discussion. If you can’t deal with that, then we just cannot talk right now.” And don’t engage. Don’t argue, don’t justify. It doesn’t matter if you were being paid $200K to eat cookies — you made a decision and that is the end of it. If he can’t respect that, he can at least shut up.

[erinshelley21]

Apr 17, 2018 7:31:34 GMT -5 librarychica said:

erinshelley21, I know it is hard because family but, frankly, it does not even matter why you made your decision. It is yours to make. From now on, when he brings it up I would say something like “I know you disagree, but I have made my decision and it is not up for discussion. If you can’t deal with that, then we just cannot talk right now.” And don’t engage. Don’t argue, don’t justify. It doesn’t matter if you were being paid $200K to eat cookies — you made a decision and that is the end of it. If he can’t respect that, he can at least shut up.

It's been difficult to not engage. The conversations start out as me reassuring him that he can handle all of our book alone then transform into him talking about the past and the reasons I wanted out. I don't even realize it's happening.