Mother's Day

[loira]

What do you guys have planned? This year it falls uncomfortably close to the day we said goodbye to V, so I probably won't do much. Plus H won't be here yet, so my ideal Mother's Day (spending the day alone haha) is out. H said he got me a gift... but he is the world's worst gift giver, like socks bad, so we'll see what I end up with. Usually I tell him what to buy me and save everyone the trouble, but the man has been married to me for over 8 years now. I'm not hard to please. He needs to step up the effort because I love surprises, lol.

I also wanted to tag King26 and maybe she can help me tag anyone else who was involved last time - were we going to get a little something for Kristin to let her know we're thinking of her and baby Cal? I can't remember what the exact plan was, but the first Mother's Day (not counting the one I was in hospital) was the hardest for me and I've been thinking of her lately.

[Mushe]

Oh loira , I’m so sorry. I know we’ve all been on tough journeys, but I think of you often. I have hard memories of Mother’s Day, as I was newly pg on mother’s day one year with what turned out to be our first loss, and it was already not looking good. Blah.

H is not awesome about this or my birthday, but I’ll have them take me to brunch or something. He usually takes DS to buy a card the day before. I just told him today that I’m going to order some Bluetooth headphones that I want, and my running group got a fantastic deal for chapter leaders.  Totally don’t need them, since I have a pair, but just don’t like them, but I really want them.  😄

Doing something for Kristin is a great idea! I’m in.

[King26]

Yes I want to do something for Kristin for sure. Any suggestions? We have about $60 left. I'd like to do something meaningful but I'm not sure what.

[King26]

No clue what we are doing but I hope dh has something planned. I've mentioned it multiple times. J and I are doing a mommy and me mini photo session the day before and I can't wait!

[konapoppy]

I am just excited to celebrate as a family. My family always spent a lot of time together for mother’s day and father’s day, and I am glad we get to do our own thing now (I love my parents and we see them weekly, but the pressure around this from my mom was a lot and the planning always started in March).

[oneslybookworm]

We don't have any plans so far, but we'll be in Puerto Rico during Mother's Day, so I'm hoping a massage and maybe a mani/pedi will be suggested by the dear husband. We shall see!

[thoseareradishes]

I'm going to lunch with my mom and sisters, I'm really looking forward to it. Then on actual Mother's Day I'm sleeping in. Not sure what else we will do with E, if it's a nice day probably go outside somewhere.

[shauni27]

King26, I think even a big bouquet of flowers from all of us would be lovely. I would have been very touched by that. And just a card saying something sweet and simple message. I am awful at thinking of what to say so that it does not sound trite, you know? But I can try if you need help. Thank you, loira, for remembering this. I am sure this is a really tough time for her.

Also, loira, are we married to the same guy? lol. He is the worst at gift giving. It has been 17 YEARS, he should know what I want. And I wish he would put in some GD effort into thinking about what I would want, you know? I love a good gift, and love giving them as well. When I asked G last week if he had started thinking of what he is going to do for mother's day for me, his response was, well, have you thought about father's day for me, yet?? And I was like, well, yes, as a matter of fact...even though I have an extra month!

My hopes for the day include: sleeping in, being treated very nicely, some champagne or cocktails and H doing some gardening so I don't have to I should do something with my mom but I am not sure what.

[cactuscookie]

I don't know. I should talk to DH about it, but my mom is fairly demanding, so I bet I'll end up spending it with her. Maybe I can call Saturday my day...

DH and I don't exchange gifts - less pressure for everyone!

[loira]

shauni27, King26, yes, a nice arrangement or maybe some chocolates and a card with something simple like "Wishing you a Mother's Day full of love." I don't think more needs to be said. I swear I read a recent article about Mother's Day cards for loss mums, but can't seem to find it now. I think a beautiful card that's blank inside would be a good alternative.

Shauni, my H is a very practical person and he can't stand the thought of wasting money so he prefers me to tell him exactly what I want. That way he won't get it wrong. It's not an awful system, but I LOVE presents. I love it when someone gives me a gift I never would have thought of, or picks out something beautiful for me that I wouldn't have bought myself. The problem with telling my H what I want is I fall into the trap of "oh, I don't really NEED this or that" which is how I approach shopping for myself. He is also the worst gift receiver. I don't know if this is an American thing, like saying "uh huh" instead of "you're welcome" or what. I know my in-laws have manners so I can't blame them, but he's said "Oh, thanks but I didn't ask for this." after receiving impromptu gifts from me in the past. No shit, M! Of course you didn't ask for it, it's a gift! How hard is it to plaster a smile on your face, say "thank you, I love it!" and if you hate it, regift?

[starryfish]

I plan on sleeping in and being lazy most of the day. Might go out to eat. I buy my own stuff so we don't do presents.

[G22]

I didn't even remember Mother Days was so soon until the other day.

I asked H to do some family pictures as my MD gift. I really want some pictures of us with the countryside where we live as the background before we move. We've got an appt to do with the a photographer here on MD weekend!

[mrsgoontz]

I can't remember if we got Kristen a necklace with the original donation or if we were thinking of doing that for MD.

I will be out of town so I dont think we will do anything major on the day. We are having family photos done tomorrow actually and it's part of my gift.

[pandora89]

I’m scheduled to be induced on the 8th so I don’t think we/I will be up for anything on Mother’s Day, I told H I wouldn’t mind trying to go to brunch or afternoon tea the weekend after at my favourite spot but once again, who knows if we will be up for it.

[shauni27]

pandora89, OMG SO SOON!!!!!!!!!!! I cannot wait to "meet" that little guy!!