First week of May Thread

[shauni27]

I realize today is actually the last day of April, but the majority of the week is May, so here we go. Did you all have a good weekend?

S is all of a sudden, out of nowhere, ALWAYS clingy to me when he has a choice between H and myself. If it is just me and my mom or MIL, he has no issues. If it is just H and S does not see me or know I am around he is fine. But if I get him and hand him off to dad he reaches out to me, cries and says "mama." It is heartbreaking for all of us, exhausting and frustrating. What gives? I am hoping this phase does not last long. This is mostly bad when he first wakes up and is going to bed, but really any time he might get upset he is reaching for me and saying "mamamamama" and if H tries to help it makes things worse.  We are going to try to have H get the baby first thing tomorrow morning (I usually go in and get him, bring him in to bed with us and then H gives him his morning bottle in our bed) to see if that makes a difference. If he does not see me right away perhaps it will help. We shall see!

Anyone else have babies going through a funny phase?

[cactuscookie]

shauni27, H went through phases like that when she was around that age. It was hard for everyone. I think it's fairly common though.

[starryfish]

yup we just went through that phase....it was exhausting.....

So I am home from being gone for 2 weeks! First week in Japan for work and second week family cruise to the Bahamas! So much fun but also SO glad to be home!!!!!

S had so much fun on the cruise! Everyone loved her and doted on her. She LOVES dancing and danced every night in the dining room! She knows how to twerk and drop it like its hot....she is 16mo and NO idea where she learned it!!!!!!

[loira]

Broken record alert: A did SO WELL on the toilet this weekend. I think she's finally getting the hang of releasing on purpose. And I thought we were going to have to night train to deal with poop (she likes to poop in her bed after I put her down for the night) but last night she asked to poop on the toilet and then she did! Even if it's not consistent yet, it's one less poopy diaper I had to change, lol.

starryfish, sounds like you guys had a great time!

[starryfish]

loira, awesome news on PTing!!!!!!! I am dreading that time.....I at least have another year lol....

[G22]

We are in the thick of the terrible 2s. I need a drink or 3.

[G22]

That's great she picking it up so fast loira!

Z is hit or miss. One minute he'll tell me he need to pee and I can get him to use a big toilet in public, and the next he would prefer to pee in his underwear right after I stick him on to try to potty. I can't figure out how to really motivate him to go consistently. I thought maybe he's not ready, but he threw a huge fit when I put him in pullups for bedtime. I can't win. LOL

[ivy]

We are solidly in the "I do it phase." It's exhausting sometimes. She is physically incapable of doing some of things she insists on doing, or insists she does it (like undress herself at night) but refuses to actually do it and throws an all out fit if we try to help her. It can be a lot of fun watching her independence grow and we do everything we can do to foster it, but dammit kid, just take your shoes off.

[cactuscookie]

Apr 30, 2018 14:06:31 GMT -5 ivy said:

We are solidly in the "I do it phase." It's exhausting sometimes. She is physically incapable of doing some of things she insists on doing, or insists she does it (like undress herself at night) but refuses to actually do it and throws an all out fit if we try to help her. It can be a lot of fun watching her independence grow and we do everything we can do to foster it, but dammit kid, just take your shoes off.

Seriously. H is like this too, and even if it is something she can do, she's so. freaking. slow. And that's even without the ten distractions she'll run into on the way. It can be so frustrating.

[shauni27]

G22, ivy, I was like out of commiseration, not that I like that your kids are making life difficult. I think every parent has been there, and those of us with babies too young know we will be there at some point.

starryfish, glad you enjoyed your cruise! I love vacation but it is also really nice to come home and be in your own space, too.

loira, WAU TO GO A!!!!

[loira]

G22, we haven't tried public toilets yet and I'm dreading tackling it. She is also nowhere near consistent with telling me she has to go. I'm going to stick with prompting a few times a day for now.

ivy, A is in a super independent stage too. It's awesome but exhausting, so I feel you.

[G22]

Apr 30, 2018 15:17:16 GMT -5 loira said:

G22, we haven't tried public toilets yet and I'm dreading tackling it. She is also nowhere near consistent with telling me she has to go. I'm going to stick with prompting a few times a day for now.

ivy, A is in a super independent stage too. It's awesome but exhausting, so I feel you.

Trying public toilets weren't even on my radar til today. We were out running errands and Z told me he needed to pee. I ran him to the bathroom and low and behold he actually went. I didn't set out to do it and so far it's been a 1 time thing.

[thoseareradishes]

E's surgery is finally scheduled - for next Thursday. Guys, I'm freaking the fuck out. I thought it wouldn't be until September. I'm glad we are getting it over with, so she can heal and enjoy the summer, but omg. Someone is taking my baby and opening up her skull. Also, she has a cold or something (stuffy nose and cough), so I'm worried that is going to screw things up.

[loira]

Wow, thoseareradishes that was very quick! I'm sure sooner is better, but preparing and planning for it must be so draining. I'd be freaking out, too. ((hugs))

[shauni27]

thoseareradishes, of course you are worried! That is normal and it is really scary. I think it is good that it is so soon, less time to be freaked out about it, you know? But scary none the less. Huge hugs.

[thoseareradishes]

I've been waiting for a month to be scheduled, and was getting really irritated about how long it was taking. The coordinator called yesterday and said we were going to be scheduled for August, but a cancellation came up and they bumped us to next week. I am glad it soon, less time to worry over it. I'm more nervous about recovery, since I know it's going to be hard on her and us. We're trying to figure out accommodations downtown or in the hospital now, so we have somewhere to escape to once in a while to try to get some sleep.

[cactuscookie]

Huge, huge hugs, thoseareradishes. I can hardly imagine how stressful this is for you guys.

[shauni27]

May 2, 2018 9:23:23 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

I've been waiting for a month to be scheduled, and was getting really irritated about how long it was taking. The coordinator called yesterday and said we were going to be scheduled for August, but a cancellation came up and they bumped us to next week. I am glad it soon, less time to worry over it. I'm more nervous about recovery, since I know it's going to be hard on her and us. We're trying to figure out accommodations downtown or in the hospital now, so we have somewhere to escape to once in a while to try to get some sleep.

Does your hospital have a family center for children staying in the hospital? We have a "home away from home" support location at our big hospital that provides free housing for families whose children are receiving treatment at our children's hospital (and are not local). Or speak with a coordinator at the hospital to see if they work with any local hotels to offer discounts for families of children receiving treatments.

Good luck, I cannot imagine how overwhelmed you must feel.

[mrsgoontz]

Hugs thoseareradishes, I can only imagine. I like Shauni's idea of seeing if the hospital has resources to help with families needing to stay. I know our local hospitals have something like that for families.

glad you had a great vacation starryfish!

We are having 10+ people come in from out of town/state for a big crawfish boil my street has every year. We had at least 150 people show up last year, it was nuts. It's going to be so much fun having all of my H's friends and some family in town though. H's brother is coming and bringing their daughter who is 1 month older than C. They play so great together, I'm glad they are close enough to hang out often.

[thoseareradishes]

I called hospitality, and they found us a hotel, but it's not within walking distance to the hospital. Boo. So I requested a spot at the Ronald McDonald House, but you don't know if you get a room until the day of. However, they have super discounted rates at hotels that are within walking distance, so that might work. No rooms in the hospital to stay in. CHOP is so overcrowded that she will probably be sharing a room once she is out of the PICU. Of course we can stay in the room with her, but it would be nice to be able to take turns napping somewhere comfortable every once in a while.

[oneslybookworm]

I can't believe it's May already! I feel like this year has FLOWN by. It's finally starting to feel like summer here, so that's nice...lots of evening walks as a family around the neighborhood, things like that. We are less that two weeks out from vacation, so that is VERY happy to think about! I'm so excited to just have a week of family time and hang out together.

G is doing well...he'll be 10 months on Friday, but not quite 9 months adjusted yet. He's such a happy little guy, so it's really been a lot of fun! I'm still planning the birthday party, so that's been great as well. I had my first try with the decorated sugar cookies this weekend, and they turned out much better than I expected, especially as the first time I've ever decorated cookies! I'm getting more and more excited for this party!

[G22]

I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers as her surgery approaches thoseareradishes!

[ivy]

Big hugs thoseareradishes I'll be thinking about you and sweet E.

[King26]

May 2, 2018 18:59:26 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

I called hospitality, and they found us a hotel, but it's not within walking distance to the hospital. Boo. So I requested a spot at the Ronald McDonald House, but you don't know if you get a room until the day of. However, they have super discounted rates at hotels that are within walking distance, so that might work. No rooms in the hospital to stay in. CHOP is so overcrowded that she will probably be sharing a room once she is out of the PICU. Of course we can stay in the room with her, but it would be nice to be able to take turns napping somewhere comfortable every once in a while.

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Big hugs to you. I can't imagine. The Ronald McDonald houses are awesome. DH and I volunteer in the one next to our hospital and we go in and bake a lot of treats foe the people staying thete. Ours is never full. There is always plenty of food t hiugh and I know people enjoy the fresh baked treats when we make then. We've talked to a few families there and they all seem to think it's a great place to stay .

[pandora89]

Thinking of you guys thoseareradishes ((hugs))

[turboteal]

That was so quick, thoseareradishes! I can't imagine how scary it must be for y'all. I hope you get a spot at the RMH and that her surgery is easy and successful!

[turboteal]

So I'm a couple days shy of 14 weeks, and I don't really have a bump going yet. But the last few days my bloating has come back with a vengeance, and yesterday as I was leaving work a former co-worker (from my old unit) totally pointed at my super bloated potbelly and said "oh no, not you too!" (They were discussing another coworker due in June) I was shocked she would do that, and in front of a couple other coworkers too. I was like "Uhhhh, I'm super bloated, thank you" and they kinda laughed it off. I'm so pissed though, because now apparently they are all talking about it and asking around if I'm pregnant. Which, yes I am, but I haven't made it public, and also what you were pointing at is absolutely not a baby, it's literally gas and constipation. I think hormones have me extra sensitive b/c I cried about it today. Ugh people are so rude.

When did you start to really show, like where it didn't fluctuate anymore? I'm not sure if I can expect this bloating to go back down again and I'll keep looking normal for a while (b/c I can totally suck it in and it looks normal, I just can't hold it in indefinitely), or if it will just stay like this until my actual uterus fills it in with a solid mass. We're also trying to figure out when we want to let people know, I feel like I might say sooner if this crazy bloat is permanent. Also, my abdomen feels pretty tense with the bloating, does it feel tense all the time once your bump starts really growing? Or do you adjust? I guess I will find out but I'm just curious what to expect.

[seaturtle]

turboteal, I'm a little over 12 weeks and am having the same thoughts about showing. For some reason I was expecting to be, but am not (or having any other symptoms), which is obviously good but just makes me nervous that something is wrong. Curious as well when others starting showing their first time!

Also, people suck. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

[mpc]

turboteal, I completely relate to everything you said! I'm sorry they were making comments. and pointing! omg. In what world is pointing at someone's stomach an ok thing to do?! I posted a couple weeks ago about finding out that all the daycare workers were speculating about me and it was really hurtful.

I'm just about 17 weeks and pretty sure I'm showing for real but it's so hard for me to tell vs my normal chub. Actually it's the top of my stomach that I think looks the most bump-ish and obviously the uterus is no where near there now. I think it has just expanded so much now it's pushing everything else up and out.

[King26]

turboteal I didn't tell my kids at school until I was 23 weeks and even then they didn't believe me because I was barely showing. I didn't even wear maternity clothes until 20 weeks.