Things that are (ir)rationally annoying you about TTC today

[seeyalater52]

Being told that I’m “still young” and shouldn’t worry about having trouble trying to conceive because we have plenty of time.

People helpfully informing me about the existence of foster care and all the children who need homes that I’m selfishly not providing by trying to get pregnant.

My 8 (!!!!!) pregnant coworkers. Including 2/4 of the members of my immediate team. Planning coverage for all of their work which means I’ll have a lot of extra things to do at work this summer and fall when I’ll most likely be going through IVF. Should be fun.

Planning for my teammate’s baby shower luncheon, which doesn’t have a date set yet, thus making it impossible for me to bow out using an excuse.

[seeyalater52]

Completely rational annoyance:

Paying $900 for a vial of frozen sperm that includes roughly 1/3 of a normal ejaculate and having it thaw poorly and only contain 6.7 million sperm after washing.

[katespade]

Being 13DPO, sitting and waiting for the inevitable disappointment of AF showing up.

Getting an email invite to a surprise baby shower for someone you don't even know, at an office across the country from where you live.

Everything about social media.

[katespade]

seeyalater52 - You got two vials, right? Are they expecting to have the same thawing issue with the second one, or is there a chance that the count will be better next time?

[seeyalater52]

May 3, 2018 17:23:14 GMT -5 katespade said:

seeyalater52 - You got two vials, right? Are they expecting to have the same thawing issue with the second one, or is there a chance that the count will be better next time?

It’s totally random so who the hell knows. The good news is that we will be using that vial for IVF if we need it and IVF requires way fewer motile sperm, so even if the thaw sucks it should be more than enough.

[katespade]

May 3, 2018 17:50:04 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

May 3, 2018 17:23:14 GMT -5 katespade said:

seeyalater52 - You got two vials, right? Are they expecting to have the same thawing issue with the second one, or is there a chance that the count will be better next time?

It’s totally random so who the hell knows. The good news is that we will be using that vial for IVF if we need it and IVF requires way fewer notice sperm, so even if the thaw sucks it should be more than enough.

Oh good! Hopefully, you won't need to go that route, but at least that's good news for if you do.

[katespade]

Also, if YouTube could stop only showing me Mother's Day and pregnancy related adds in between videos, that would be great. 

[katespade]

May 3, 2018 20:38:40 GMT -5 @slk4117 said:

May 3, 2018 17:22:34 GMT -5 katespade said:

Everything about social media.

I think I’m going to delete FB again if I’m not pregnant this Cycle. I can’t handle the constant announcements.

I took a break from FB and IG starting in February. Every month or so, I think I'm ready to wade back into the nightmare. Then, as soon as I start scrolling every post is pregnant, pregnant, baby, baby, pregnant, baby... aaaaaaaand I'm done again.

[RITS]

“Surprise, we didn’t realize we were pregnant and weren’t trying at all!”

😒

[megstoo]

Family sticking their noses where it doesn't belong. There's a reason we have chosen not to tell family about our struggles. Neither of us need a constant reminder or them asking questions or offering "suggestions" (the best - maybe we're not having enough sex).

[bcv513]

"Time for another one"
"Are you going to have another one"
"You don't want them to be too far apart in age"
"You're not getting any younger"

[Susie]

For two months in a row, I've had a yeast infection during my FW.  Last month it was understandable, I was on the tail end of an antibiotic course for a sinus infection and it was just bad timing.  This month, I don't know WTF is up, so I went to my ob/gyn this morning.  Will have to wait til next week to see what the culture says.  In the meantime, I've had two months go down the drain, and I'm uncomfortable (adding insult to injury).  I'm not getting any younger here!

[grover]

"please tell me you're drinking tonight.'
"Say what? I'm in line at the drink cart aren't I?"
"I mean please tell me your are getting alcohol. You aren't pregnant again, are you?"

I may have responded with "you remember you are talking to your infertile cousin, right?"

[katespade]

May 5, 2018 10:49:09 GMT -5 grover said:

"please tell me you're drinking tonight.'
"Say what? I'm in line at the drink cart aren't I?"
"I mean please tell me your are getting alcohol. You aren't pregnant again, are you?"

I may have responded with "you remember you are talking to your infertile cousin, right?"

That really, really sucks. I’m sorry they said that to you. ☹️