May 7 weekly thread

[cherryvalance]

Oh, congrats, pandora!!

[scm1011]

turboteal I had similar reservations, but in the end announced on FB at around 13 weeks. I figured that IF had already robbed so much from us that I wouldn't let it steal a joyful announcement.

Hello all! I've been MIA a bit the last few weeks. I've started a new job and I have much less downtime. The new job means longer days at daycare for DS (I used to pick up at 4:00, now its 5:30/5:45), which gave me SO MUCH GUILT in the beginning, but we're all adjusting. His bedtime has moved back from 6/6:30 to 7:30 which is great to fit in some extra time with him during the week, but tough because its that much less relaxing time for me. By the time I eat dinner and prepare for the next day I have maybe 45 minutes to downtime before bed. So its been an adjustment, but I'm enjoying the new job (and bigger paycheck )

[pooh8402]

May 9, 2018 8:37:35 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

turboteal I had similar reservations, but in the end announced on FB at around 13 weeks. I figured that IF had already robbed so much from us that I wouldn't let it steal a joyful announcement.

Exactly!

Don't let IF steal the joy of your pregnancy. I enjoyed the shit out of mine and I loved being pregnant, especially once we reached viability (24 weeks).

scm1011, glad you're enjoying the new job!

[shauni27]

scm1011, so nice to hear that the new job is going well!
I think it is up to you, turboteal. I took a similar approach to loira because with our first pregnancy which we announced at 13 weeks ended in a later loss and I hated untelling people. I did finally make "an announcement" just by posting a picture of me with my mom and MIL to honor them on mother's day--and I was 30 weeks pregnant, so it was pretty obvious.


pandora89, CONGRATS! I cannot wait to hear your birth story! Make sure when you share it to let us know over here where it is posted!

[Mushe]

May 9, 2018 6:18:24 GMT -5 cherryvalance said:

turboteal , I get where you're coming from. We did announce on FB because we were overjoyed. Not that it makes a difference, but our announcement was centered around how long it took us to get to the announcement--how many days, surgeries, shots, etc. So we also outed ourselves and invited anyone to ask us about the process. I've been very open about our IF experience since then and a few people have reached out about starting cycles, so it was a good experience all around.

I struggle with the journey part related to my personal story, because people are already saying dumb shit like, ‘see, I told you, you just needed to relax and stop trying!’  Uh, no.  This is actually my second pg after we stopped treatment, and came over a year after we stopped.  There’s no “just” in any of this.  

[cherryvalance]

May 9, 2018 9:18:09 GMT -5 Mushe said:

May 9, 2018 6:18:24 GMT -5 cherryvalance said:

turboteal , I get where you're coming from. We did announce on FB because we were overjoyed. Not that it makes a difference, but our announcement was centered around how long it took us to get to the announcement--how many days, surgeries, shots, etc. So we also outed ourselves and invited anyone to ask us about the process. I've been very open about our IF experience since then and a few people have reached out about starting cycles, so it was a good experience all around.

I struggle with the journey part related to my personal story, because people are already saying dumb shit like, ‘see, I told you, you just needed to relax and stop trying!’  Uh, no.  This is actually my second pg after we stopped treatment, and came over a year after we stopped.  There’s no “just” in any of this.  

Ugh, yes. People are so ridiculous. I also try to be really upfront with the fact that, while there could be surprised, for many people treatment is it and it doesn't always end happily.

[mpc]

May 9, 2018 9:18:09 GMT -5 Mushe said:

May 9, 2018 6:18:24 GMT -5 cherryvalance said:

turboteal , I get where you're coming from. We did announce on FB because we were overjoyed. Not that it makes a difference, but our announcement was centered around how long it took us to get to the announcement--how many days, surgeries, shots, etc. So we also outed ourselves and invited anyone to ask us about the process. I've been very open about our IF experience since then and a few people have reached out about starting cycles, so it was a good experience all around.

I struggle with the journey part related to my personal story, because people are already saying dumb shit like, ‘see, I told you, you just needed to relax and stop trying!’  Uh, no.  This is actually my second pg after we stopped treatment, and came over a year after we stopped.  There’s no “just” in any of this.  

I've had people tell me that this time and I just grit my teeth. I do think there are things that could've contributed to this 'surprise' pregnancy - low carb diet, breastfeeding (so my PCOS hormones were still in check), and sheer dumb luck - but none of it had anything to do with relaxing. 

[Mushe]

May 9, 2018 10:14:54 GMT -5 mpc said:

May 9, 2018 9:18:09 GMT -5 Mushe said:

I struggle with the journey part related to my personal story, because people are already saying dumb shit like, ‘see, I told you, you just needed to relax and stop trying!’  Uh, no.  This is actually my second pg after we stopped treatment, and came over a year after we stopped.  There’s no “just” in any of this.  

I've had people tell me that this time and I just grit my teeth. I do think there are things that could've contributed to this 'surprise' pregnancy - low carb diet, breastfeeding (so my PCOS hormones were still in check), and sheer dumb luck - but none of it had anything to do with relaxing. 

🔪🔪🔪

[cactuscookie]

The "relaxing" thing has always seemed so illogical to me. We all start out relaxed, right? And when relaxing doesn't work, and it begins to become clear that there's a problem, that's when it gets stressful.

I liked the idea of outing myself as infertile with my social media pregnancy announcement, but I was pretty sure I'd want another kid and have to confront infertility for that too, and I didn't want to out myself as infertile until I felt like I'd finished fighting the battle, I guess. I didn't want all the questions and wondering the second time around any more than I did the first time.

[thoseareradishes]

turboteal, if you want to, go ahead and post on social media! Don't let IF rob you of enjoying your pregnancy.

[turboteal]

Thank you everyone for your thoughtful comments!

Many of you put into words things I didn't realize I was feeling. I just felt a kind of general guilt and almost like I needed permission to act like this is a "normal" PG experience and enjoy it. You are all so right about not letting IF take away any more joy from this experience and I actually cried reading that, so thank you for helping me realize that!

I'm so glad I have this group of awesome women to talk to!

[grover]

Ugh A (13 months) is allergic to hazelnuts we found out today. I feel so bad because it's because of me (I developed tree nut allergy two years ago). I feel so bad for her that she had a reaction today, and so bad that she'll have to navigate life with a food allergy while young. It's not so bad for me because I was an adult when I was diagnosed.



I go in on Friday to have my uterine polyps removed. My other baseline testing came back in all normal or slightly borderline ranges. H needs to go get his done next week so we can plan on IUI in June.

[pandora89]

Finally getting a chance to sit down!

Here are some pics of the little guy. He is a champion sleeper (so far) but having trouble staying on the boob. My milk came in today and I have been able to pump for most of his feedings.

Trying to keep this short - water broke at 3am on the 7th, since I was GBS positive I headed straight to L&D, they confirmed water did break and I was 3cm dilated. Got the epidural around 6:30 because contractions were coming hard and strong. Got to 7 by 9am, and then was fully dilated by 1. He wasn’t fully sunny side up but almost so the Ob managed to spin him in uterus and then had my push twice to lock him in place. Then they had me wait until almost 4 to start pushing because they wanted me to labour down and then the nurses went on break. Starting pushing at almost 4 and baby was born at 4:39pm. I have a second degree tear which isn’t awful but things are still quite a bit uncomfortable.

But he is the cutest and H and I are both so in love.

[turboteal]

pandora89, He's adorable!! Congrats!! And 40 minutes of pushing is not too shabby for a first baby, way to go!

[kellikans]

Congrats pandora89! He's a cutie for sure!

[shauni27]

pandora89, he is literally perfect. I am so, so happy.

[mpc]

pandora89, he's lovely! congratulations!

[cactuscookie]

pandora89, he really is the cutest, you're right! I'm so glad everything pretty much went smoothly!

[seaturtle]

Congrats pandora89, he's adorable!!

[thoseareradishes]

He's a sweetie Pandora!!

They took E back for her surgery. She had her Kitty wubanub and was loopy on giggle juice. Now we just wait, they estimate 2pm finish.

[kellikans]

Hugs thoseareradishes. Wishing E a safe surgery and quick recovery.

[cactuscookie]

May 10, 2018 8:22:59 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

He's a sweetie Pandora!!

They took E back for her surgery. She had her Kitty wubanub and was loopy on giggle juice. Now we just wait, they estimate 2pm finish.

I'll be thinking of you all day. So many hugs.

[oneslybookworm]

Absolutely adorable, pandora89!!!!


turboteal, you do you, lady!! We told people about our being matched for adoption, which I wish we hadn't, because when it fell through we had to "untell" everyone. The second time around was a "show up, the baby is born and come get him" so we didn't have ANY time to tell anyone. But, we also couldn't really do any major FB/IG announcements until rights were terminated, due to legal concerns. It was so hard not being able to share anything over social media, so in some ways I feel very "robbed" by that. If you want to tell, you shout it from the mountains, girl!!

[turboteal]

Thinking of you and your baby, thoseareradishes! Hope everything goes great!

[Mushe]

thoseareradishes, so many good thoughts for Baby E!

pandora89, he’s just perfect! Congratulations! 💕

[King26]

Thinking of you and baby thoseareradishes

[King26]

pandora89 he is so cute!

[Chrysanthemum]

(((thoseareradishes)))

[thoseareradishes]

Thanks everyone. She's in the picu, struggling to get comfortable and her preemie lungs are giving us trouble. Going to be a long night.

[dellabear]

Aw, congrats pandora89, he's so adorable!!