Mother’s Day Plans

[mommyatty]

It’s next weekend! What has everyone planned?

I have asked for a quiet day at home. More specifically, I’ve asked for a day where I get to sew if I want to sew and not have to be “on” for even a minute. So if my MIL comes over, that’s on DH. I’m not being a hostess. I’m wandering in and out at will, going to the fabric store if needed and puttering in my sewing room. Alone. I might cook if I feel like it since I like to cook. Haven’t decided yet. Maybe we will use the new fire pit and grill hot dogs and marshmallows by the pool. It’s supposed to be in the 90s, so maybe we will even swim. 

[rere]

Usually, I spend the early afternoon going to my moms to drop off flowers, then going to DH's moms. His mom's visit requires an hour or two on their back porch. Then finally I get to come home and have my day.

This year, I told DH to ask his mom to our house. At least I will get to stay home on my own porch and have some wine while DH cooks us steaks. I am not going to put myself out, just sit back and drink and eat.

[covergirl82]

I like how your day sounds, mommyatty!

We are going to church in the morning, then having lunch with my parents. I have no idea if we'll eat a meal at our house or go out somewhere. Not sure if we're doing anything with MIL, that is up to DH (which more than likely means we won't have plans to get together with her, which is fine with me). I'm going to ask DH to do bedtime and lunch box prep that night so I can go and get ready for bed early and then watch Hulu or Netflix in our room.

[2chatter]

I asked to have a quiet afternoon and evening and grill on Sunday. I wanted to swim, nap, drink mojitos and wake up to eat. Instead....

Because SS is out of rehab, we can’t do Mother’s Day with ILs and family on Saturday night as planned (because no drinking around SS). Instead SS is coming over to our house Saturday night (so no wine for me and we are staying home - no idea why this was the solution). DH told SS to come over on Sunday if things go badly with his mom. SS said he doesn’t want to be there all day so he’s coming over Sunday too (so no mojitos). ILs are also coming over Sunday (no nap, and I will have to entertain and provide appetizers and then get the kids showered, etc.). Skids don’t celebrate Mother’s Day for me, but SD is probably coming with SS to get away from her mom. So DH wants to order pizza instead of grilling.

DH doesn’t see how he took a chill weekend and removed down time and all the things I was actually looking forward to.

Lunch with my mom Sunday after church. Which is more like a chore.

I’m cranky. It will be fine. Glad I can vent here.

[twinmomma]

This is a momentous Mother's Day for me. Not a single person in my family is obligated to work with MIL at a stupid, stupid fair that she suckered us all into for years. I've been either working it or solo parenting because DH was working every.damn.year. since I became a mother. We also technically already celebrated this past weekend with my mom and kind of with MIL too. They both already got their gifts. I'm totally off the hook!

So, I want to spend Saturday getting the yard all cleaned up and the patio furniture out. (We didn't have time last weekend) Then Sunday, I want to go to yoga class in the morning and relax outside for the rest of the day sipping mimosas and grilling yummy food. DH is on board with this being the plan and has already told me that this year we are actually going to celebrate me for once. My girls are insistent that they have a very special breakfast surprise for me, so that will be cute.

The only way this may go awry is if the in laws invite us over. In which case, I will be drinking in their yard instead of my own. Not terrible and I won't be that upset.

[186momx]

2chatter, I'm sorry that just sounds stressful. Can you plan a do over next weekend?

DH wants us to go over to the coast for the day. Weather forecast is for rain and chilly. I would love to walk on the beach but do not want to have to go and walk in the rain/wind/50s/Oregon beach weather. So the day is up in the air. I probably wont get anything. And he will take DD the day of to get a card.

My idea would to be to buy all my flowers and garden plants on Saturday and then spend Sunday planting after I got to sleep in to my hearts content and not have to cook anything all day. Dinner out would be fine or take-out would be okay too.

DD and I took my mom two different sets of flowers over the weekend and we have cards to drop off this weekend. My mom is great and doesn't ask for me to come over at all so I can maybe have a day for me. MIL who knows if DH will do anything.

[akafred]

No plans. DD has her last hockey game, but otherwise no plans. We don't have mothers locally; MIL is afar and mine is aheaven.

[k3am]

2chatter , can you have a replacement Mother's Day? That's what I've been offered up.

My IL's are coming for Mother's Day. We're going to brunch at a little cafe in our old neighborhood (that I'm sure IL's will complain about), and both kids will be rowdy and not enjoy it because they don't serve PBJ or Mac N Cheese. Afterward, I will be stuck entertaining the inlaws because that is my compromise for my mom staying with us the next week.

Also, Mother's Day is DS's birthday, which is really the only reason I compromised on them coming. My mom would come either way.

[2chatter]

DH and DS are camping the next weekend and DD has two formals that weekend, then we head to the lake...I’ll never get a redo. The weekend will be fine, I’ve realized I am more annoyed that DH doesn’t get it and as usual is snowed by his kids. It’s just bad timing it’s on Mother’s Day, but the holidays always bring out drama in their mom, so....kind of par for the course.

[waverly]

Likely we will be making the 5 hour drive on Fri or Sat to visit my Grandma who is dying, and then returning on Sun. So my Mother's Day is not going to be great either. But you can't pick the timing I guess. We were planning to go Memorial Weekend, but we aren't sure if she will make it that long.

[librarychica]

We have work on the rental we need to do — hopefully the last of it! — so nothing special. My family has invited us to the beach the weekend after so that will be my birthday/Mother’s Day celebration and then we will visit H’s family for a combo Mother’s/Father’s day thing in June.

[rere]

waverly so sorry about your grandma.

[mae0111]

I’m sorry waverly.

We will be making our way back from a wedding, which requires a short drive to a ferry, a 2 hr ferry ride, and then a 1.5 hr drive home. Then we might start the process of opening the pool. Super exciting and/or relaxing all around.

[msn06]

We are doing a weekend away. We have a hotel with a pool and will do the children’s museum one day and the zoo the other.

I also took Friday off for a day of me before our weekend away. I used to take the Monday after off but with my current position Friday is easier.

My mom lives out of state and I mailed her card yesterday.

We will most likely see MIL Monday after Mother’s Day or possibly late Sunday night.

[msn06]

waverly sorry to hear about your grandma.

mommyatty love that you worked in sewing time.

[supertrooper1]

Mother's day has snuck up on me, like it always does. I will work, but get off at 2pm. My plan is to have my parents and MIL over and I will grill. I like grilling, so I don't mind doing the cooking. DH will probably complain about this plan, but he will complain about any idea unless he gets to park his butt in a chair and watch tv.

[freezorburn]

Potluck with a bunch of my single mom friends.

[erinshelley21]

We are leaving on our camping trip to Sandusky on Sunday, so that will be most of the day: packing up, driving, getting the camper set up. I haven't decided what I want for a gift. Either heart rate monitor or car detailing.

We will go to an early dinner with my mom, brother and SIL Saturday. We are getting MIL a chair with an umbrella for her patio area. She got the kids a water table for her house so she'll be spending a lot of time outside this summer since they are both obsessed. SMIL and extra mom will just get cards and a flower.

[polecat8]

On Saturday, we will go see MIL at the rehab facility/nursing home if she is having a good day. SIL will be making the drive in. If MIL is having a bad day, I will send DH by himself.
On Sunday, I hope to sleep in a little then we will meet my parents and one of my brothers for brunch. We'll probably hang out for a bit after brunch at my house.
I told DH that I wanted a massage for Mother's Day, but to book it for next weekend when I can actually enjoy it because I'll have nothing else to do that day.

[oldbaylover1024]

waverly - I'm so sorry.

2chatter - You deserve a redo. Possibly call out of work on Monday the 14th and stay home in PJs all day... alone... eating and doing whatever you want!



This weekend is my DD's 5th birthday and my parents' wedding anniversary and Mother's Day AND my mom is having surgery on the 15th. So you can imagine where Mother's Day falls on the priority list LOL

Saturday we're meeting my parents to go out to dinner, celebrate DD's birthday and their anniversary. My mom and I did MD last weekend - we went to brunch and I bought her a pretty summery wrap.

Sunday we're heading to my ILs to celebrate DD's birthday and MD with my MIL and SILs.

We basically did MD early this weekend. MH gave me 3 hours of alone time on Sunday, which was nice. The kids had cards ready. It was okay. With DD's birthday being MD weekend basically every year it's just not a priority.

My son was born 3 days after my birthday. The universe really got me LOL

[kimberlybb]

I think my in-laws are spending the day with us on Saturday for mother's day. Every year DH says he will take care of everything but that usually doesn't happen so I end up making food and cleaning which makes me salty. On Sunday I want to go to church, the farmer's market, and out for brunch/lunch. waverly , sorry to hear about your grandma!

[phdmomma]

I have to teach Sunday school at church, and then we are heading the MIL's (about an hour away), to spend the day. Which is fine, they have a big backyard and I don't have to cook. DH ordered a mother's day gift awhile ago that is super secret, no idea what it is. But even if its not something that I love, I'm excited that he thought that far ahead.

[covergirl82]

I'm sorry about your grandma, waverly.

[mellym]

We have a birthday party Saturday aft/evening to go to and then Sunday I wanted a day to myself or go to the zoo as a family. My mother is giving me guilt trips. She keeps asking me about having a cookout or could we go to the park and have a picnic. This is after I told her we were planning on going to the zoo. She doesn't want to go to the zoo. It's MD so we should spend it with her and what she wants to do apparently. I will probably cave because I always do.

My MD was ruined last year when BIL showed up to our house drunk so I don't want to make any plans with the in laws for Sunday. I asked DH when we are going to celebrate with them and he said, can't we say that's Friday since MIL and FIL will be at our house babysitting for us?

[justcheckingin73]

I’m not sure :\ I’d like a lazy day so after a run and a casual lunch out, I may just be a bum. Or maybe I’ll go shopping. I could use some new shirts. DH asked what I wanted gift-wise and I’m stumped. What I’d really like is a necklace with my kids names on it but I’d say it’s too late for that, although I could suggest it and get it later but at that point, I could just buy it myself.

[sweetptater]

waverly, I'm sorry about your grandma.

We don't have any plans as of yet. Ideally, I wouldn't have to make any since I'm the one who is always "on" about what we're doing and the logistics. But I think we all know that relying on H to surprise me is a recipe for disaster, so I should probably figure out what I want to do and let him know.

[callmekd]

I've also requested some alone time. my brother was trying to coordinate a family GTG with his mom and future MIL. however, I have declined and he understands. I'm hoping to get a pedicure and read. at least for a couple of hours.

[HeartofCheese]

Last year we went to a trampoline park where moms jump free and lunch afterwards. I'm thinking it might be a nice tradition, b/c mommy likes to jump! (And the place was really empty...)

[shakinros]

I don’t know. DH and I haven’t discussed it at all. It’d be neat if he’s planned something but everything is always so crazy that I doubt he has. I hope he remembers to take DD to get me a card.

I asked for gardening gloves. Cause I’m so fancy.

[campermom]

We are going camping. It’s nearby so I’ll probably still take DD to her soccer game on Saturday while the boys go fishing. Sunday will be the unloading/unpacking that comes w camping. Hopefully there will be patio drinking Sunday evening.