*TW* What are you doing this Sunday?

[seeyalater52]

I absolutely hate it and it’s fucking me up.

I’m supposed to be celebrating with my mom and my sister at my mom’s (about 2.5 hours away) overnight Sat and on Sun and I just really, really do not want to go. But I guess it is better than sitting at home and sobbing.

Every Mother’s Day for the past 3 years I’ve thought that I might get pregnant in the coming year. This is the first year where that is incredibly unlikely to happen based on our low probability of success this cycle and timing for IVF this summer.

[jennistarr1]

I'll be honest with you, Mothers day probably only has a few good years to it. It's sad for women who want to desperately be a mom, and it's sad for people who have lost their mom (that's me). So even with my daughter, I'm really trying to downplay mother's day so that even through those rough phases, it's just kind of no big deal for her. So this year, the big meal is centered around my MIL whom I thankful we still have to celebrate. There is a me part of the day too but I said I just wanted to go to a nice café with counter service for brunch. No reservations, not sit down.

[Susie]

I need to go sit next to jennistarr1 for MD.

My mom died 2 years ago, when Hobbes was 5 months old, and her funeral was about 10 days before MD.  My first MD was totally lost in that grief-filled period.  Then my 2nd MD, I spent feeling like it was Groundhog Day:  I spent the weekend flying down to say goodbye to my mom's older sister, my favorite aunt, who was also dying of cancer too.  She looked like my mom... it felt like it did with my mom... it played out like it did with my mom... I couldn't drink the free champagne for moms on the AA flight home that day; I just watched the video I'd made for my mom's funeral on my iPad and cried.  I was about to leave for a work trip to Spain, and I hoped I'd be back by the time the inevitable funeral would happen (I was).

This year is my 3rd try at MD since being a mom, and I ... don't know how to do it?  and I don't have a mom to celebrate/focus on.  So it's just a difficult thing.  I know my hardships with this day are only one flavor of hardship that people can have with holidays like this.

So my general approach is a non-approach.  We don't really do anything for MD, and we go really light on FD too.  I give myself as much space as I can this time of year to feel whatever I'm feeling and try not to feel badly about it.

[compassrose]

I'm pretty much going to be in a terrible mood until it's over. It has sucked since my first miscarriage in 2010. It's 2018. JFC.

[megstoo]

Mothers day sucks for me. We're still ttc so no kids. I lost my mom 5 years ago at Christmas and my MIL passed away 6 years ago. Sad to say I plan to work at my part time job all day. (from 10-7). DH is supportive but this year is harder than others because we finally started seeing an RE after wasting all the time with the ob which I regret.

[compassrose]

((megstoo))

Hugs all around.

[Jalapeñomel]

Hugs to all of you. It’s really hard, this whole TTC thing, especially this time of the year.