Monday's Suck

[mustardseed2007]

Brought to you by the lady who looked for her car keys for hours last night and still hasn't found them. No luck this morning either. 

FML. 

[xctsclrx]

mustardseed2007, oh no! That does suck. Although loosing them at the house definitely means that they are somewhere near the house right? When I have done this I have either A. washed them, B. Left them in DH't truck or C. Put them some where "safe" and forgot where that was..


I slept like crap last night. Probably because i took a nap at 4 yesterday, but I had an awful headache. Going to pay for it today.

[rere]

mustardseed2007, Check the trash, that's were I found mine a couple of months ago.

[sunbutter]

May 14, 2018 6:43:42 GMT -5 mustardseed2007 said:

Brought to you by the lady who looked for her car keys for hours last night and still hasn't found them. No luck this morning either. 

FML. 

Have you looked in the front door? This is where I leave mine...

[2chatter]

We just found DH’s airbuds in his laptop bag where they belong after a weekend long search. Try places they legit belong again? Good luck!!

I hate all of the specific tasks I have to complete this morning. It’s making me super grumpy.

[HeartofCheese]

Found mine in the freezer once, although usually they are at in the bottom of whatever pants STBXH wore the day before. (B/c everything is his fault until further notice. EV. REE. THING.)

Monday sucks for me b/c I went out to buy sexy capris and sandals yesterday and ended up with $47 worth of heart-shaped rainbow sunglasses, bootcut jeans, and coral patent leather pumps.

ETA: I've also been finding stuff a lot in my bag where they're supposed to be, but for some reason, I am regularly not finding them until the 2nd or 3rd try. I'm sure that's STBXH's fault somehow too.

[rere]

They suck because the weekend was so nice. Beautiful weather. I got breakfast, DH and I walked for an hour in my favorite neighborhood, steaks on the grill. The kids cleaned the house. And now I am here. All day. Nothing on the calendar, end of year reporting. Yay.

[mae0111]

Mother’s Day was kind of lousy. I don’t know why I expect anything from my family anymore. DH literally tossed a card on me when I woke up and demanded sex. Nope. My kids didn’t even wish me a happy Mother’s Day AFTER I TOLD THEM IT WAS MOTHERS DAY. I told DH last night that I’m tired of being disappointed. I get two days a year that are supposed to be kind of nice for me, and they never are. I didn’t expect much. But I got nothing. DH will have a similar Father’s Day.

I’m sure he will send flowers or something today since he’s on a trip. Too little too late.

/end whine

ETA: Flowers just showed up.  Still not happy.

[polecat8]

My Mother's Day weekend was not what I envisioned at all.
On Saturday, we went to visit MIL at the nursing home. Imagine squeezing 11 people (including 5 kids under the age of 8) in a 10 x 10 foot room that is hovering near 80 degrees. It sucked. That put DH in an agitated mood because the kids were going crazy, even though we brought games and puzzles for them to do. It was better when we went down the hall to a meeting room that was a little bigger. FIL said MIL is coming home next Saturday and DH and I really don't think she is ready. FIL wasn't honest with the PT staff and said MIL just had to be able to walk 20 feet and go up one step. He neglected to tell them that there are 2 steps to climb down plus 20 feet and one step up to get in their house. He also didn't tell them that there is only a powder room on the first floor. If MIL needs to bathe, she has to go up a bunch of steps to get to the bathroom. This is going to be a nightmare! DH is already going over there next Saturday to help get her in the house. She'll have a bunch of doctor's appointments and DH is already dreading it.
On Sunday, I slept in a little. No breakfast in bed for me since I'm on my new diet. We went to brunch with my parents and one of my brothers and his kids. I had fun talking with my mom and brother. Then I found out that my other brother wasn't speaking to my mom because his new wife was upset that my mom sat with ex-wife at niece's softball game. So he ditched our family for Mother's Day. My mom was upset because my brother didn't even call to say happy mother's day. I'm so done with his new wife's antics.
When we got home, DH was in a terrible mood. He was pissy and yelling at the kids. I had a CTJ talk with him. His attitude needs to change. I will not stand for him yelling because he is frustrated with himself. I realize he is stressed because of his mom, but that is no reason to take it out on us. I suggested he go back to counseling for a bit to get through his feelings of resentment and anger with his mom and dad. I also told him to book some alone time for himself. We'll see if he follows through.
So didn't get any rest or relaxation this weekend. But DH did book me a massage at the end of the mom. Hopefully I'll get some relaxation then...

[mustardseed2007]

HeartofCheese, I think the fact that I can't find my keys is your STBXH fault.

Checked the back door, trash, all the bags...it's a proximity key so you just have to walk up to it with a bag rather than finding it in there. So we've been walking up to the car and while holding all the things trying to lock the door. At least the door is unlocked.

Also, it would start if they were in the car.

After looking all night long and all day this morning I called a lock smith. Which...they come to your home in an hour for half the price of the dealership so...

I'm still looking.

[supertrooper1]

I worked 16 hours on Friday and 12 hours yesterday, so we celebrated Mother's Day on Saturday. I had bought everything in advance and DH actually stepped up and prepped everything before I got home. Saturday went well. But I'm still tired from all of my OT. Tomorrow and Wednesday are my days off this week, but I have to get up at 4am tomorrow to go to a work conference that work wanted me to go to, then said they couldn't allow me to go because it would create OT. I really need to go, so I'm going on my day off.

[mommyatty]

This morning I’m meeting an employee who was just assigned to me but will be doing exactly zero of the work my team does. So basically I get another annual review to do with zero benefit to my core function. Lovely.

But otoh, it was a really nice weekend, besides DS yakking all day Friday. DH took DD to the aquarium while sick DS and I were home, and they had a blast. I’m hopeful good experiences like that will encourage him to rely on himself and stop letting his mom treat him like he’s an incompetent parent. Yesterday was exactly as I asked for. Oh, and DH let DD pick out my Mother’s Day gift, and she chose Prada sunglasses! Lol. My almost 6 year old has exquisite taste.

[mustardseed2007]

The locksmith came. He drives a mercedes work van. I need to be a locksmith.

Now the other problem with all of this. My gym card was on those keys. A couple months ago I had a bad patch where I had to get 2 new cards in 2 weeks (one I couldn't find in my bike bag. And then found it later. One fell off my key chain and then was turned in the next day at my office...I feel that one wasn't my fault).

The front desk people were like: Lol really?? Stuff like that embarrasses me so much.

So. I'll be scouting for new gyms. No other solution makes sense, right?

[supertrooper1]

mustardseed2007, I think you need this:
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[justcheckingin73]

I had a really nice Mother’s Day weekend. Probably because I completely lowered my expectations. Saturday, DH took the kids out to go shopping which ended up being a nice little day to myself. I went grocery shopping, ran some errands, got whatever I wanted for lunch and didn’t feel rushed. I even got some alone time when I got home. They gave me my presents on Saturday right when they got home which was cute. Saturday night we went to our neighbors house for some cocktails and pizza and got home at 10:00 which was perfect.

Sunday I went for a 5 mile run and then we went to a local Mexican place for their Mother’s Day brunch and then to Cold Stone for some cake batter ice cream - my favorite. The rest of the day was mostly lazy, helping out with laundry and making some dinner.

The only “issue” is that I really wanted to declutter around the house and I didn’t get to that so I may do some during the week or just do it next weekend.

[covergirl82]

DH was side-swiped while on his way to work this morning. The other driver didn't stop, so now it's a hit-and-run. DH ran into the curb to avoid a worse accident, and now he's worried that the suspension and/or wheel alignment is messed up now. DH called the police and was supposed to get a text with a link where he can file a police report. He was able to take a picture of the other driver's license plate, at least. And thankfully he's fine and the accident wasn't worse.

[mustardseed2007]

May 14, 2018 9:25:54 GMT -5 supertrooper1 said:

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I order the sports version this morning although I ordered it directly from tile and not through amazon. Dammit, I could have had free same day. 

[mustardseed2007]

covergirl82, I'm so sorry.

I know 2 other people (People I know IRL) who also got into car wrecks this weekend. Apparently this weekend was a rough one.

[k3am]

mustardseed2007, you won't find your keys until you've replaced all things on your keychain. Unfortunately, it's the way of the world. Get your gym card sorted and you'll find them.

[k3am]

DS turned two yesterday. TWO! Where does the time go?!?!

I spent Mother's Day with my inlaws. Spoiler alert - it went as well as anyone would have guessed. In case you were wondering, we got an unwanted home inspection by a man who has no handy skills, and FIL "pities" us because our house is on such a "busy" street. The top priority buying their home was that it wasn't on a busy street because the safety of his children came first. Apparently, we just have different priorities.

I've asked for a do-over.

[judyblume14]

We went to MIL's house Saturday evening for dinner to celebrate DH's birthday and mother's day. I spent 4 hours parading around in all of my mean-mom glory whisper-screaming at my kid for being an asshole and threatening "if you do that one more time ...insert random threat that I didn't follow through with." The visit ended with my marching her out to the car and lecturing her on all of the things she did throughout the day to piss me off. When she asked why we were leaving, I told her it was because she was being a brat. My kid is 3. Parenting low-point for sure.

Mother's Day was decent in that my kids and husband were extra nice. And we had a nice time at my sister's house. But that didn't stop me from ending the day sobbing into my pillow because I miss my mom and feel like crap each year when I promise myself I'm going to honor her by being the best mom I can be. And then I'm not (see above).

And now it's Monday, I have a crybaby hangover, will be rushing around packing tonight and heading out of town for the next 4 days making my "Best Mom Ever" teddy bear mother's day gift feel like even more of a sham.

[waverly]

The weekend sucked like I thought it would. 5 hour drive there and back to visit Grandma who is in hospice. My mom complained about everything she could think of while I was there- so that was fun.

The kids and husband were great, and I felt like I was bringing them down.  

[mustardseed2007]

judyblume14, you are being waaaaay too hard on yourself. You know, part of our job as parents is to try to teach our kids not to be assholes. It's really hard! And EVERY mom, at some point, gets pushed to the point of handling things differently than they would normally handle them. Particularly when their kids are being assholes. You are a good mom!

[callmekd]

May 14, 2018 10:14:27 GMT -5 mustardseed2007 said:

judyblume14 , you are being waaaaay too hard on yourself. You know, part of our job as parents is to try to teach our kids not to be assholes. It's really hard! And EVERY mom, at some point, gets pushed to the point of handling things differently than they would normally handle them. Particularly when their kids are being assholes. You are a good mom!

this x1000!

my 5 year old was being a total diva yesterday. it was super annoying and we told her so.

[callmekd]

my mother's day was good - especially considering my birthday (a few weeks ago) was a complete cluster.

we had a lazy morning home (as lazy as you can be with 1 year old twins) - took the kids for a walk down to the lake and had lunch. little kids napped, big sis played on her leap pad, my H did yard work and I went for a pedicure. then all the kids played outside, we grilled, kid baths/bed and then I worked out.

[twinmomma]

Hugs judyblume14, I feel you. Parenting is hard. I made my kid cry at her fun run on Sunday because we made her separate from her friends for not listening. We're all just doing the best we can. If you feel bad about it, that means you are a good mom. Good moms care!

[2chatter]

judyblume14 - start that now so she knows! I only feel marginally bad - Saturday night DD whined relentlessly at a zoo concert so we left. Bees, she wanted cotton candy, she wanted to see more animals - I was like you are TEN stop! Then she cried the thirty minutes home because she “ruined it” and I agreed with her and told her we will do fun things like that when she has other plans if she doesn’t find them fun. She doesn’t have to find them fun. She does have to suck it up more sometimes. I’m over it - I don’t see any point in being less straight up with her. She needs to know.

[k3am]

Last week, a coworker went outside of protocol and excluded me from a new deal. My credit guy forwarded me the package with no commentary, then came to my office and explained that he was bothered by (a) J going around me and (b) being presented a package that didn't have even the basic preliminary analysis/info included.

So I forwarded the package to my coworker, and asked some of the questions my credit guy wanted more info on before moving forward.

His response was basically, "The way I structured it is fine, but if it matters that much to you, then your way is fine. But I'm sure others will be smart about that."

That's basically an "eff you" without saying eff you, right? Because that's the way I'm reading it, and if I shouldn't be, I'd like to know.

[callmekd]

k3am - I can't believe your DS is 2!

and yes that sounds like a big eff you re: your co worker

[akafred]

My weekend was good. Saturday was a slow morning, we had a nice lunch then DH took DD shopping for "shorts" and came back with three bags of shirts and panties and like 2 shorts. But I binge watched "The Rain" while they were gone. Sooooo good! Then Sat night we had a parents night out thing at school and went to dinner and worked on our mystery box and made some progress, I think.

Sunday I slept in. Unfortunately that means I woke with a migraine, but it mostly went away after lunch (and a little more of "The Rain"). After lunch I went to visit my dad at his new nursing home, and unfortunately ran into his wife who was leaving while I was going in. Awkward! The new place is so much nicer though, so that is good. He was sleepy and dozed off quickly so I left and got Sonic drinks before the hockey game. It was SO HOT! Around 100F with heat index. Poor kids were soaked, but DD played better than she has all season. I think she took some of our advice, finally. Then after the second period I took some water to her because I figured she had drunk all of hers and/or poured it on her head by then (I was right), and joked with her to score one for me for Mother's Day. First play in P3 she scored! Then she scored another soon after. So that was really cool! I think she scored in the first game and not since, though she has had a few assists this season. Sadly (or not) it was the last game of the season. Tournament next weekend, and I don't even know how that works with only 2 teams in her division...?

Also it is the last week of school! Next week starts summer camp madness .