Please settle this debate - did I steal? Am I wrong or right

[miso]

It's absolutely yours!

[mcsangel2]

What is a lost and found drive? Did the other mom pay money for the jacket? Or is it a thing where kids and parents come to look for their stuff?

Either way....this totally sounds like something I'd do too. ::shrug::

[mcsangel2]

May 18, 2018 16:48:04 GMT -5 @stilljustash said:

i mean, it's definitely your kid's jacket, but he totally can't wear it to school anymore lol.

I was thinking this too. lol

[Deleted]

It's yours. You're right.

[mcsangel2]

I would be giving that mom the stink eye if I ever saw her again.

[onomatopoeia]

Nope, not stealing. It’s yours, you found it and took it back. Put his name in it ASAP.

I’d totally have him wear it to school again. The other mom will be too embarrassed to say anything - she knows the truth. Tell your kid that if the other kid asks about it to just say “oh, my mom found it again”. Which is true.

[mcsangel2]

May 18, 2018 16:51:43 GMT -5 farmvillelover said:

Now he's saying I'm fucked up bc the kid probably doesn't have anything this nice (my H knows the kid he's volunteered for months in the 2 classrooms). He said we should get him a jacket

God I'm so fucking annoyed right now

WTF no.

[mcmel]

She’s a liar. You did fine. He definitely can’t wear that jacket to school though lol

[orangello]

lol. You are totally right. If anyone questions this, your mom can provide a receipt AND act as a witness to the purchase (lol). It's your jacket.

[gummybear]

You are right and I bet you won’t hear a peep from Liar Mom bc she’s the thief. And the liar. Consider this case closed!

[fivechickens]

You are not wrong. The mom clearly lied when asked about it but you know she is going to know what happened/who took the coat.

[fivechickens]

May 18, 2018 16:55:20 GMT -5 mofongo said:

LOL, it's definitely yours. Are there cameras by chance? That would be awesome if you were caught in the act.

Haha my girls’ school have cameras in all the hallways. You’ll have to let us know if you are ‘caught’.

[Yankees21]

No way in hell would I give it back. The nerve of that mom! 😡

[Leeham Rimes]

Your h is being dramatic. Also, how is it even jacket weather right now? I don’t imagine this child is going to freeze to death

[calle28]

You're right. Your H is wrong.

Why is your kid upset?

[mcsangel2]

You have all kinds of evidence that this is YOUR kid's jacket, so kindly make your H explain why it's wrong to take something that belongs to YOU.

[Deleted]

Your H has lost his mind. Buy this kid a $$$ jacket because he doesn't have a $$$ one?

Tell him I don't have an SUV. I will PM him my home address and await the delivery of a new car. TIA FarmerH!

[teeah22]

A similar thing happened to me. Cole’s jacket went missing at daycare, it was a winter jacket DH sent him in a size too small for some freakishly cold spring day. It didn’t come home, we couldn’t find it, I wasn’t super concerned since it was too small and it was spring, whatever. Fast forward to next fall, I randomly see it hanging in a class. I look and for once I wrote his name in it. Told the girl this was Cole’s jacket, I’m taking it (it didn’t fit him anymore but I wanted it for Easton). She says “oh I think Andrew has been wearing it.” I show her Cole’s name, she’s like “yup that says Cole” and I take it home (it wasn’t cold that day so I wasn’t worried about freezing some poor kid). The director stops me the next day, apparently Andrew’s mom was pissed and wanted my number, claims her mom bought it at a garage sale. Uh no lady, it was lost at daycare, you probably saw it hanging there unclaimed and took it. My kid’s name is written in it, it’s mine.

I have no regrets, and Easton wore that jacket for a year. Whether that jacket was a “nice” jacket for Andrew or not doesn’t matter, it was MY jacket.

You are right, your husband is wrong.

[TrickyBob]

You are right. Your husband needs to let it go.

[pantsparty]

What the fuck? Your H is so wrong! It's already yours!

[RoxMonster]

I don't get your DH's reaction here. And you are absolutely right. It's your kid's jacket!

I agree with having him wear it outside of school just to avoid further awkwardness (for you and for your kid), though there's also nothing wrong with wearing it to school if he wants to.

[BaliHai]

Team you. WTF to your DH?

[sarahbear]

Your husband is wrong. So wrong.

[miso]

Hypothetical:

Does your opinion change if the family who took the jacket is poor?

[onomatopoeia]

May 18, 2018 17:20:00 GMT -5 liteningme said:

You absolutely are right. This shit is so annoying. Reminds me of when I was in first grade and my bully stole a special pencil from me, then used it all year insisting it was hers. We were 6. It’s worse when parents do it.

I had similar stuff happen to me when I was young, and my parents actually WOULD say things like “well, bully doesn’t get many nice things. You have more than her. Be nice and just let her have it”. The only thing it taught me was not to stick up for myself, and that I didn’t deserve nice stuff. OP your H is nuts.

ETA: not nuts to get the kid a jacket. That’s sweet. Nuts to think you shouldn’t have taken your own jacket back.

[pantsparty]

May 18, 2018 17:23:08 GMT -5 miso said:

Hypothetical:

Does your opinion change if the family who took the jacket is poor?

I think you can have more empathy for the family, obviously, but that doesn't change the fact that taking something back that belongs to you isn't stealing.

[miso]

May 18, 2018 17:24:55 GMT -5 farmvillelover said:

He's getting the kid a jacket

This is nonsense.

He is rewarding a thief.

[miso]

May 18, 2018 17:25:52 GMT -5 pantsparty said:

May 18, 2018 17:23:08 GMT -5 miso said:

Hypothetical:

Does your opinion change if the family who took the jacket is poor?

I think you can have more empathy for the family, obviously, but that doesn't change the fact that taking something back that belongs to you isn't stealing.

I think everybody knows my stance on stealing.

[miso]

May 18, 2018 17:25:09 GMT -5 onomatopoeia said:

May 18, 2018 17:20:00 GMT -5 liteningme said:

You absolutely are right. This shit is so annoying. Reminds me of when I was in first grade and my bully stole a special pencil from me, then used it all year insisting it was hers. We were 6. It’s worse when parents do it.

I had similar stuff happen to me when I was young, and my parents actually WOULD say things like “well, bully doesn’t get many nice things. You have more than her. Be nice and just let her have it”. The only thing it taught me was not to stick up for myself, and that I didn’t deserve nice stuff. OP your H is nuts.

ETA: not nuts to get the kid a jacket. That’s sweet. Nuts to think you shouldn’t have taken your own jacket back.

Oh, I think it's most definitely nuts to get the kid a jacket.

[circa1978]

This is not comparable since you are positive this jacket is yours, but over the summer we sent DS to camp with a fairly $ water bottle. He came home without it about a week later. The next day, he says he saw it in some other kid's stuff. I was like, well, live and learn and forgot about it but the next afternoon DS is all "I took it back." Except, when I looked, it was NOT his water bottle - it was super similar but not the same. So he legit DID steal the other kid's bottle. Oops. We took it back and got it straightened out with the camp but I was really glad I never had to run into those parents.