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[achi]

Hello ladies! I was here several years ago when H and I were TTC-ing our son who will be 3 in a couple months. We had always planned on our kids being 3.5-4 years apart so we’ve recently decided to not try/not prevent until DS is 3 and then actively TTC after that.

We did pull the goalie earlier this week and I had a + OPK but it was just one time and it took us 7 cycles to get our son so I’m not expecting much from this cycle.

Best of luck to everyone here!

[melsamoony]

Welcome. Hope your stay is short.

[RITS]

Welcome!

[cherryvalance]

I only lurk here to answer IF/PGAL questions, but I remembered the SN. Whatever happened with your brother and SIL with IF? I've always wondered how that played out.

[achi]

Jun 7, 2018 14:42:50 GMT -5 cherryvalance said:

I only lurk here to answer IF/PGAL questions, but I remembered the SN. Whatever happened with your brother and SIL with IF? I've always wondered how that played out.

Still no baby. She reached the age that her OB & RE told her was her max age for having babies due to some health issues.

She’s struggling still and ultimately needs therapy but won’t go because she’s afraid if they do try to foster or adopt that the therapy would be held against her. I’ve offered to put her in touch with a friend who had multiple losses and ended up adopting (who went through therapy) but she’s never actually reached out to my friend.

After we told the family I was pregnant all those years ago my SM ended up telling me that SIL was able to conceive twice but lost the first around 8 weeks and then had a multiples pregnancy that had to be TFMR. I feel like she probably struggles with it extra hard because she was able to get pregnant but they had to stop trying for health reasons.

I generally don’t ask about it because I figure if she/they want me to know they’ll tell me. Our relationship has improved a fair bit and after a lot of thought we did ask them to be our guardian for our toddler in our wills.

[cherryvalance]

Jun 7, 2018 14:51:25 GMT -5 achi said:

Jun 7, 2018 14:42:50 GMT -5 cherryvalance said:

I only lurk here to answer IF/PGAL questions, but I remembered the SN. Whatever happened with your brother and SIL with IF? I've always wondered how that played out.

Still no baby. She reached the age that her OB & RE told her was her max age for having babies due to some health issues.

She’s struggling still and ultimately needs therapy but won’t go because she’s afraid if they do try to foster or adopt that the therapy would be held against her. I’ve offered to put her in touch with a friend who had multiple losses and ended up adopting (who went through therapy) but she’s never actually reached out to my friend.

After we told the family I was pregnant all those years ago my SM ended up telling me that SIL was able to conceive twice but lost the first around 8 weeks and then had a multiples pregnancy that had to be TFMR. I feel like she probably struggles with it extra hard because she was able to get pregnant but they had to stop trying for health reasons.

I generally don’t ask about it because I figure if she/they want me to know they’ll tell me. Our relationship has improved a fair bit and after a lot of thought we did ask them to be our guardian for our toddler in our wills.

How terribly sad for them. I'm sure it's a struggle no matter the reason.

Did you do the whole dramatic announcement? I'm guessing not, if your relationship improved because wasn't it terrible or something and that's why you wanted to announce in front of them?

[achi]

Jun 7, 2018 14:58:54 GMT -5 cherryvalance said:

Jun 7, 2018 14:51:25 GMT -5 achi said:

Still no baby. She reached the age that her OB & RE told her was her max age for having babies due to some health issues.

She’s struggling still and ultimately needs therapy but won’t go because she’s afraid if they do try to foster or adopt that the therapy would be held against her. I’ve offered to put her in touch with a friend who had multiple losses and ended up adopting (who went through therapy) but she’s never actually reached out to my friend.

After we told the family I was pregnant all those years ago my SM ended up telling me that SIL was able to conceive twice but lost the first around 8 weeks and then had a multiples pregnancy that had to be TFMR. I feel like she probably struggles with it extra hard because she was able to get pregnant but they had to stop trying for health reasons.

I generally don’t ask about it because I figure if she/they want me to know they’ll tell me. Our relationship has improved a fair bit and after a lot of thought we did ask them to be our guardian for our toddler in our wills.

How terribly sad for them. I'm sure it's a struggle no matter the reason.

Did you do the whole dramatic announcement? I'm guessing not, if your relationship improved because wasn't it terrible or something and that's why you wanted to announce in front of them?

Oh it is absolutely hard no matter what the reason, I just feel like it’s probably extra hard because there was a timeline attached to it and she was able to get pregnant during the time but couldn’t carry to term.

Our relationship was pretty terrible for a long time but that was not the motivation behind wanting to do a big announcement. We ended up doing a big announcement for my dad and SM privately and just “FYI” told my brother/SIL on their own.

[cherryvalance]

I'm sure they appreciated that and it's great your relationship improved. I figured there was no coming back from that level of pettiness, so it's nice to see a happier ending.