Week of May 21

[mpc]

New week, new thread How's everyone doing?

[mpc]

My mom outed my pregnancy on Facebook yesterday. Saturday was preschool graduation and she posted pictures of DS getting his diploma and all of us standing together afterward. I definitely look pregnant so she said something about how a baby sister was coming in the fall to take his place at the daycare. Anyone else and I would be really upset but I have trouble being mad at my mom. I understand why she did it, and I don't think she quite gets Facebook etiquette. I'm 19 weeks now and had planned to do a cute announcement post after my anatomy scan, so soon. She had tagged me, so I deleted the tag, and figured I'd let it stand for her friends to see. But then a friend and a cousin both commented mpc are you pregnant? and tagged me in their comments, so I don't know if that puts it on display for all my friends. Sigh, I will admit I'm a little disappointed, but it also kind of seems silly to let it matter that much. I guess I can do my "announcement" post anyway? I'm not really sure why I waited this long anyway, just that it took me longer to believe it was really happening. Even now I am full of anxiety because I haven't seen a heartbeat in 5 weeks and I cannot wait for my appointment tomorrow morning to put my mind at ease.

[mpc]

In other news, graduation was so cute! They had this guy there to hand out diplomas, but he wasn't there exactly when they were ready for him so they spent about 10 minutes trying to stall and keep 20 5 year olds calm on stage til he showed up. DS was really confused about why he had to go back to preschool today since he graduated. Makes sense, kid.

PDQ

[kellikans]

Sorry about your mom outing you on FB, mpc. Hopefully only a few people saw. I would still do your cute announcement regardless.

I found out last week that we don't actually have a spot in my work daycare until September. I go back to work at the end of June. What the hell am I going to do with my kid in July and August? We don't have family nearby, so that's not an option. And I have no idea how long wait lists are to get in to daycares around here since I never looked.

[scm1011]

Oh man, mpc . I'd be bummed too. I'd bet there will still be a ton of people surprised when you make your announcement. For what its worth, as your FB friend, I didn't see any of this!

kellikans , that's stressful. Maybe you can find a teacher or a college student to watch him for those two months if you can't find an open center slot?

I have my day 3 bloodwork tomorrow and my hysteroscopy on Friday. It feels weird to be heading back to the RE in preparation for my FET later this summer. Hopefully everything looks good, especially since I mentioned to my in-laws that we were planning #2 this fall (damn wine making me all loose lipped!).

[kellikans]

scm1011, I have trust issues, lol. At least with him at work, he's right across the street and I work at a hospital (and a children's one at that), so if anything happened, he'd be right there and I'd be right there.

We're going to inquire at 2 daycares that friends use. Worst case, DH will have to work from home 3 days a week. Or we'll have to look at me going part time for a few months and him staying home 2 days.

[scm1011]

kellikans, I get it! I'm glad you guys have some work flexibility if you can't figure out a slot.

[turboteal]

mpc, that's a bummer, but I bet a lot of people didn't see it. Do you have your privacy settings so that you have to approve anything before it goes on your timeline? You can do that and leave stuff in limbo until after you do your own announcement, which I think you should definitely still do!

kellikans, how stressful! Do you know anyone who already has a nanny that you could do a short term nanny share with, or part time while one of y'all works from home a few days? Otherwise trying to find a spot in a daycare for just a couple months seems like a lot of extra work.

We did our announcement, and I loved how it turned out! In one of our ultrasound pics baby looked very much like a pokemon (Squirtle) to us, so I had my sister do a little photo editing to add squirtle coloring and sunglasses to the pic, so we announced with the comment that we're excited to share the news and also really excited that we're pretty sure it's a squirtle! I love it! So now it's out there and I'm happy I can talk about it and ask all my questions of my coworkers who have kids. Next appointment isn't for a few weeks, that will be the anatomy scan, so hopefully everything will be smooth sailing until then. Now I'm working on researching various gear and getting registries/shopping lists together. We want to cloth diaper, so that will take some good research to figure out what all we need and hopefully do it without spending a fortune.

[loira]

turboteal, cute announcement! Not sure what's available in your area, but we used a cloth diaper service. It saved SO much time and energy! It was actually cheaper in the first 6 months than disposables, and I didn't have to think about laundry, which was amazing.

[thoseareradishes]

Oh bummer mpc! Do your announcement anyway, I'm sure lots of people didn't see what your mom wrote.
kellikans, I hope you figure out something quickly so you can enjoy the rest of your leave.
turboteal, I bought a bunch of best bottoms diapers. We didn't end up using them much, but they were pretty easy to use and wash.

We're having a rough time here. E is sleeping poorly, especially at night. I'm guessing nightmares or night terrors. I'm so angry about the way she was treated at the hospital. No adult would be treated the way she was, so I don't understand why it is okay to treat a child that way, with so little respect or concern for her feelings. They really need to re-evaluate how they place IVs and have some damn sensitivity training. I need to decide what I want to do about it. I filled out the survey they sent, I need to decide if I want to call and try to talk to someone directly at the hospital about it

[mpc]

I had an appointment this morning and heard the heartbeat again. <3 <3 I'm halfway done now so I shouldn't be worrying but I was anyway. Now to call and schedule my anatomy scan for next week maybe. Ah, I feel so much better.

[mpc]

turboteal, we do cloth diapers. I do pockets and all-in-ones. No prefolds/covers. And we are doing disposable overnight. If you have any questions related to those kind of things I'm happy to share!

thoseareradishes, I'm sorry she's still have such a hard time. poor girl has been through so much.

[cactuscookie]

thoseareradishes, that's so frustrating. It's hard enough to watch your baby go through what she did, much less feel that she wasn't treated well. I hope things start getting easier for you guys.

[knx9211]

mpc, oh no! Definitely still do your cute announcement.
kellikans, Ugh that's so stressful, I'm sorry. I hope you guys can come up with a plan that you're comfortable with.

P is going to be one in slightly over two weeks. I can't believe it. I've decided to cut down pumping to once per day since I'm barely getting anything anyway. I only got 5 ounces today, which isn't even enough for one bottle. I'm done pumping entirely on his birthday. Then I'm going to cut one nursing session per week until he's done. Honestly, the only one that I think will be hard to cut is the morning. He's always really eager to nurse then. Lately, he's been very clear about wanting to nurse - pulling my shirt open, etc. What do I do when he does that and I'm trying to wean? I think it'll make me so sad to refuse. But I want to have him weaned so that we can get our testing done and hopefully do a FET in September. I'm terrified and excited.

[shauni27]

mpc, I cannot believe you are already half way done!
thoseareradishes, I am so, so sorry. You and E have been through so much already, I hate that you had a bad experience with this round in the hospital.
knx9211, SHUT UP. 2 weeks?! No friggin way.

S has pink eye. And therefore I have pink eye. He has responded REALLY quickly to his meds (though putting them in are near impossible).

[Mushe]

Hi guys! I am STILL sick, and so over it. I’m seeing my GP today, to ask for antibiotics. I’m using a nasal rinse kit, which is disgusting and satisfying, but not enough! I am just a mess in general - I twisted my ankle on our weekend trip to Seattle, and have a swollen bit there, that’s tender if I sit on it (that’s how I climb onto my bed). Gah. My left foot is in pain, and I’ve made an appointment with a podiatrist in June. The receptionist laughed when I said I’m a runner. 😆

In good news, they’re working hard on the pool, and gunite is going in this Friday, so long as we pass pre-inspection for that phase! I also worked on our au pair profile, and heard about a continuing au pair that the local contact recommends. I’ll be so glad to have that pinned down.

[Mushe]

May 23, 2018 6:28:48 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

mpc, I cannot believe you are already half way done!
thoseareradishes, I am so, so sorry. You and E have been through so much already, I hate that you had a bad experience with this round in the hospital.
knx9211, SHUT UP. 2 weeks?! No friggin way.

S has pink eye. And therefore I have pink eye. He has responded REALLY quickly to his meds (though putting them in are near impossible).

OMG, I’m so sorry! Did you catch it in both eyes? Mine cleared up quickly, and I hope it’s the same for you. Glad S is responding well.

[shauni27]

May 23, 2018 9:38:07 GMT -5 Mushe said:

May 23, 2018 6:28:48 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

mpc , I cannot believe you are already half way done!
thoseareradishes , I am so, so sorry. You and E have been through so much already, I hate that you had a bad experience with this round in the hospital.
knx9211 , SHUT UP. 2 weeks?! No friggin way.

S has pink eye. And therefore I have pink eye. He has responded REALLY quickly to his meds (though putting them in are near impossible).

OMG, I’m so sorry! Did you catch it in both eyes? Mine cleared up quickly, and I hope it’s the same for you. Glad S is responding well.

yup, though one eye is worse. 

It does seem a lot better today than it did last night and this morning, so hopefully by Friday I can wear my contacts again. I HATE wearing my glasses, they just get in the way! Running with glasses in the summer, is there anything worse? lol.

[Mushe]

Ahhhh, I forgot you wear contacts, shauni27! Yuck.

[loira]

I'm sorry, thoseareradishes. I hope things are improving bit by bit.

My H is on his way here! He only has to drive from the bottom tip of Texas up to the Canadian border on the west coast - no biggie, haha. He seems to be making good time, but I keep telling him not to overdo it. I'd rather wait a few more days to see him than have him get into an accident.

A is making big plans already. "My papa is coming to see me. We will go to the beach and go camping. I'll ride in the backpack."

[cactuscookie]

May 23, 2018 15:44:37 GMT -5 loira said:

I'm sorry, thoseareradishes . I hope things are improving bit by bit.

My H is on his way here! He only has to drive from the bottom tip of Texas up to the Canadian border on the west coast - no biggie, haha. He seems to be making good time, but I keep telling him not to overdo it. I'd rather wait a few more days to see him than have him get into an accident.

A is making big plans already. "My papa is coming to see me. We will go to the beach and go camping. I'll ride in the backpack."

That is adorable.

This morning H said, "Pick me up. I hold your hand" and then like a second later, gave me a look of utter disgust and asked what was on my eye.

[loira]

May 23, 2018 16:09:28 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

May 23, 2018 15:44:37 GMT -5 loira said:

I'm sorry, thoseareradishes . I hope things are improving bit by bit.

My H is on his way here! He only has to drive from the bottom tip of Texas up to the Canadian border on the west coast - no biggie, haha. He seems to be making good time, but I keep telling him not to overdo it. I'd rather wait a few more days to see him than have him get into an accident.

A is making big plans already. "My papa is coming to see me. We will go to the beach and go camping. I'll ride in the backpack."

That is adorable.

This morning H said, "Pick me up. I hold your hand" and then like a second later, gave me a look of utter disgust and asked what was on my eye.

Haha, that's priceless. A often watches videos with my mum on weekend mornings while I shower, but has recently taken to telling me "go take a shower, Mama!" whenever she wants me to go away.

[turboteal]

I hope y'all are doing better thoseareradishes. Did they not have someone come to try to start her IV using an ultrasound? That's what we do when we have a hard stick (usually we try twice, maybe another person tries a third time before we call for the ultrasound IV team). I think they should have someone like a family advocate that you can talk to about the experience. That sucks

[oneslybookworm]

hey ladies!! knx9211, I can't believe P is nearly ONE!!! OMG...just yesterday we were on baby watch!

ugh, sorry about the pink-eye, shauni27, that sounds like the worst!!! Hope it's gone quickly!

We are heading into the 11th month and coming up on G's first birthday as well! I have the invites sorted, but trying to figure out the guest list for the party. In other news, our trip to Puerto Rico got cancelled, which was actually for the best because G was in the ER on Friday night (the day before we were supposed to leave) with a super high fever that wouldn't respond to meds, and a few days later, J was down with stress fractures in his foot. It would have made for a really crap vacation anyways, so best we didn't go. Instead, we stuck around home and just relaxed, which was honestly exactly what I needed.

In other news, I did my first open water swim for triathlon training today. I'm trying to get into the best shape I can prior to my knee surgery next month, in the hopes that I bounce back fast enough to do a triathlon in September. We'll see!

[thoseareradishes]

Hope you're feeling better quick shauni27!
Glad you had a good staycation oneslybookworm

turboteal, IV attempts 5 and 6 were done by physicians using ultrasound, and they still couldn't get one in. There were two nurses and a physician holding her down, and a second doctor trying to put the IV in. She was screaming and it went on for at least 10 minutes; it felt like a lot longer. She eventually stopped screaming and just laid there. The doctor at one point tells me that she isn't in pain, since the needle was already in her arm. I'd like to see how she felt if someone was digging a needle around in her arm.

[loira]

thoseareradishes, that sounds hellish. Your poor baby! Even if pain weren't an issue, I'd be raging that they didn't at least sedate my kid (if that was an option) or try something other than holding her down. Any kid would find that awful, but I seem to recall you saying E is pretty sensitive to new people and new situations, and I know that would have traumatized A as well.

[cactuscookie]

May 23, 2018 19:11:39 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

turboteal , IV attempts 5 and 6 were done by physicians using ultrasound, and they still couldn't get one in. There were two nurses and a physician holding her down, and a second doctor trying to put the IV in. She was screaming and it went on for at least 10 minutes; it felt like a lot longer. She eventually stopped screaming and just laid there. The doctor at one point tells me that she isn't in pain, since the needle was already in her arm. I'd like to see how she felt if someone was digging a needle around in her arm.

Oh my gosh, that's horrific, for her and for you.

[Mushe]

thoseareradishes, what a horrible ordeal! I am so sorry you all endured that. 😥

[thoseareradishes]

May 23, 2018 21:15:55 GMT -5 loira said:

thoseareradishes , that sounds hellish. Your poor baby! Even if pain weren't an issue, I'd be raging that they didn't at least sedate my kid (if that was an option) or try something other than holding her down. Any kid would find that awful, but I seem to recall you saying E is pretty sensitive to new people and new situations, and I know that would have traumatized A as well.

Yeah she doesn't really warm up to new people very fast.  She also hates going to the doctor anyway, so future doctor visits should be fun.  I regret so much not making them stop.  Like, what is wrong with me that I didn't demand that they stop?  

[shauni27]

thoseareradishes, that made me cry. Poor thing.

oneslybookworm, Nice job on your OWS! You are so inspiring to me, doing all of this with the baby. I had all these plans to run a half next weekend and do another tri this summer but...I am far too exhausted to train. My hope is a fall half and then more next summer. You are amazing.