Poll: Does your SO ask how your day was at work?

[melissa]

It dawned on me last night that although DH and I talk about other things, he rarely asks me about work. Wanted to see what it was like for others.

[wambam]

No, but I don't really want to talk about work so it doesn't bother me. He does always ask me how my workout was though.

[circa1978]

Yep. Even though I almost never want to talk about it because by the end of the day I'm over it. Our first question for each other and Henry is always, how was your day/tell me about your day.

[noodleoo]

Yes. When we sit down for dinner the first thing we both ask each other was "How was your day?" or "How was work?".  Even DD does it too now, it is so cute.  

[rupertpenny]

We often ask the other how their day was and there is basically nothing to talk about besides work. If he won’t listen to me complain about my boss who will?

[cabbagecabbage]

I’m almost a SS since I a SAHM with side gigs but no clear job but for the purposes of this question I chose yes. We always ask each other about our days at dinner or while we’re getting it ready. I know all his coworkers through stories and he knows about the playground moms, the babysitting challenges, and whatever happens in our day.

[W.T.Faulkner]

I always ask him, but he doesn't ask me. He tells me it's because he knows I'll tell him anyway, which isn't untrue, but it annoys me. lol

[clippy]

Yes but I don't think we spend more than 10 minutes total talking about it.

[Deleted]

We do. We usually text as we're leaving for the day and ask each other how the day went. The person to leave work first (usually me) asks first and the other reciprocates. It's such a time suck of every day, seems logical to ask.

[icedcoffee]

Yes--but I almost never want to talk about it and I just say it was fine and change the subject.

[mccallister84]

I usually ask but it’s more out of routine. He responds with a trite answer normally. He’s not allowed to talk about work (like legally) which works for us since I find it all incredibly boring (what he can share).

[cjcouple]

Nah, my job is boring so nothing to talk about. lol

I do ask him though. He works locally in retail and sees people we know and stuff so he actually has things to tell me.

I work out of town and in an industry he doesn't know much about and there really is nothing to ask about. I process emails all day.

[CheeringCharm]

Yes, it’s just basic courtesy imo. I wouldn’t be happy if he didn’t.

[lolalolalola]

Sometimes, especially if we know there's something going on. Not always. 

[bex]

He always asks me but it kind of annoys me because I'll tell him what I want to tell him anyway. LOL. Besides he walks in the door and says "how was your day" as the dogs and kids are going nutso so no I'm not going to take that moment to complain or share a good story, so I always say "fine" and we move on, and then I tell him later.

We do make a point at dinner of always asking the boys how their days were and they reciprocate which is nice.

I usually ask him "how was work" but usually during or after dinner.

We text, email and call throughout the day so by the end of the day we both pretty much know how the other's day was, ha.

[thebreakfastclub]

Yes, but we do similar jobs for different companies, so we understand more of what each other is talking about when we tell stories.

[mcmel]

Yes, every evening when we sit down to dinner.

[closertofine]

Answering for when I was married. No, he never, ever did. And it bothered me. Growing up, my parents always talked about their days over dinner, so it was always strange to me that he never asked. I had the same coworkers for the 12 years we were together, and even in year 12, he had no idea who I was talking about sometimes when I shared things on my own.

[lilypad1126]

Yes, though usually in reaction to me asking him how his day was. I'm going to tell him regardless of if he asks me, so it doesn't really matter, haha.

[raangoli]

Yes, we ask one another how our day is going about mid-way through the day via text and then at dinner we talk about our respective days. It's pretty predicable, but its a nice thing we have started to do with BB.

[undecidedowl]

He used to ask me right when I got home which annoyed me. I didn't use to ask which annoyed him. We talked it out and now I always ask toward the beginning of the evening and he asks later in the evening.

[BaliHai]

Not always. I always ask him, and many times he'll say "and how was yours?" but he never asks unprompted. I don't really care.

[donthasslethehoff]

No, but he knows it's because I try very, very hard not to bring home work with me. I like my job, but it's super stressful, and I literally talk non-stop to people all day about work related things. I rather gouge my eyes out than talk about work when I am no longer AT work. He'll usually text me once during the day to ask how my day is going and we leave it at that.

He, on the other hand, could talk about work non stop.

[calle28]

Yes. We carpool and that's usually one of the first questions we ask each other. Sometimes we'll give a one word answer, sometimes we actually have something to talk about. Just depends on the day and our mood I guess.

[konapoppy]

Yep. We chat on the phone on the way home in our cars and check in on how our days were. When we get home it all about the babies, chores and relaxing.

[iamgrace]

Sometimes. Not all the time. I don’t really care as long as he occasionally does, I guess. I don’t always ask him either. We usually have kids and other stuff to deal with and sometimes chit chat gets in the way lol.

[wildrice]

Not every single day, but often enough. Sometimes if I ask him first, he'll start telling me all about something on his mind and forget to ask about me. Or he'll just jump in and tell me stuff the second he gets in the car and we don't end up really talking about me that much.

Sometimes it irritates me on principle, but mostly I chalk it up to personality and job differences. If he gets caught up in telling me about himself, it's because he's stressed and anxious. I am rarely stressed and anxious so I don't usually have much important to share anyway. At this point my job is generally a lot less challenging to me than a lot of what he's doing so I have less to talk about.

Regardless, I'd say at least 50-75% of the time he does ask!

[galaxy8227]

May 23, 2018 8:22:13 GMT -5 W.T.Faulkner said:

I always ask him, but he doesn't ask me. He tells me it's because he knows I'll tell him anyway, which isn't untrue, but it annoys me. lol

This is us!  It bugs the crap out of me that he never asks me!  Even when I ask him he doesn't reciprocate?  WTF!

[Linie]

Only when we see each other (so on Friday) as we do not live together

[tacokick]

Pretty much. I work from home so I normally tell him about whatever I did and neighborhood gossip. He is a talker and tells me about work all the time prompt or no prompt.