TWERKS: Long Weekend Edition

[shakinros]

Birthday do-over sdlaura. I hope you have a nice weekend day coming up.

[186momx]

My update-had my 10 year wedding anniversary yesterday. DH only posted on Facebook as an acknowledgement of it nothing sent directly to me or him telling me himself. When DD and I got back from practice there was a card, flowers, and a lemon curd pie on the table he had gone out while we were gone. I hate lemon, don't eat lemons unless in a marinate, haven't eaten over the top lemon stuff since we have been married. It just really hit me that DH still doesn't know what I like or don't like in food. He got takeout Tuesday due to no power and had to call to get my order. I get the same thing each time. So I felt like crap and then he wanted sex and all I wanted to do was feel sorry for myself and no he didn't get any.

[2chatter]

186momx - that sucks. Is it something you can discuss with him? Is he just oblivious in general or specifically to you? I’d probably make him flash cards. But my DH would use them. For real. DS at three could tell DH I wanted a grande decaf nonfat mocha from Starbucks - DH could never remember. When that started it somehow made DH competitive. He still occasionally totally messes up - like gets me a food order that is something I don’t eat and then acts really confused. On an anniversary - esp a big one - it would really hurt.

[186momx]

2chatter, I kind of tried to and all I got was "I can't do anything right" boo-who from him. He is oblivious in general to both DD and my likes/dislikes. A lot of the stuff with DD, I just tell him to let her order herself or did you ask her and the answer is always no. His whole attitude of I do nothing right drives me crazy and I wish he would just man up to his mistake and either apologize or fix it. Now if I listen to his therapist this is all my fault because I'm the one being picky and expecting too much. I had no expectations he would do anything yesterday as he had given me a card when we had dinner out last weekend.

[mae0111]

DD1 has about a month left in her awful school. I was approached today by the mom of one of the kids in her class that has been mean to DD1 off and on all year. She told me that DD1 told her daughter that Paw Patrol was a baby show. And that it really hurt her feelings. I was like um... ok. And said nothing else.

This kid has left DD1 to eat alone at lunch, encouraging others not to sit with her. She periodically ignores DD, and I’ve watched her turn her back on DD when she says “good morning”. Her mom has seen this too, and makes up excuses.

But saying Paw Patrol is babyish is very hurtful? *blink blink*

[2chatter]

186momx - DH has the same victim thing happening and it’s really frustrating. I’m can’t imagine it being validated by a therapist. Is couples counseling on the table so you don’t lose your mind while he finds his?

And I cannot get over the self centered Paw Patrol mom. She is what is wrong with kids these days.

[traveltheworld]

Saw the pediatrician : he doesn't think DS's hand moving thing is neurologically related, more of just a bad habit thing, albeit a very strange one. He suggested we just confront DS about it and ask him to stop, so I guess we'll try that. He did say he's going to refer us to a pediatric neurologist just to make sure, given his seizure history. But it's unlikely we'll get an appointment for a few months.

[mustardseed2007]

Yesterday was DS' last normal day of being a kindergartner. I actually cried last night b/c I'm a sap. Today is his kinder graduation, which, since he's at a very small school, is a large graduation for kinder kids and their 6th graders and I've cried at it almost every year, so this year will be the same I'm sure.
The lead teacher gets up with each kindergartner and makes an individual speech to each one about their particular accomplishments over the 3 years they've been together and what, in particular, the teacher will remember most about each child. Tear fest.
Then the 6th graders each make a speech thanking their parents and friends. Very often they cry while doing it. Which has made me cry every year.
Fuck, I'm starting to cry this morning just typing this out. So I'm going to cry all day today. Good times!

[shakinros]

mustardseed2007 I’m crying into my bagel just reading about it! Good luck today.

186momx I’m sorry. That’s terrible.

[mustardseed2007]

186momx, his therapist makes me rage. He needs a different one. Which you already know. So.

[2chatter]

DH slept downstairs because I refused to have him push the blankets off the bed all night. I slept great last night and the night before with him out of town.

Discussed after the kids were gone this morning and he will sleep in linen PJ pants and try sleeping without his own blankets and a pillow between us - he pushes the pillow until I have no room in a king bed.

Marriage is ridiculous. I mean seriously??

[xctsclrx]

2chatter, haha I am sleeping better now that my DH is OOT. He gets mad because I take up the entire bed, and he wants to cuddle. I swear that man only wants to cuddle while I am pregnant and I hate being touched. I want a King size bed so much, but we paid a lot of money for our bed and it is still somewhat new. (5 years)

[mae0111]

2chatter my DH does that with the pillows. This typically results in DH getting hit in the face with a pillow at 2am.

Sleep is precious. I don’t get much of it. Woe unto him who f’s with it.

[librarychica]

mustardseed2007, that’s precious.

I confess that I was a tad disappointed in DD’s Kindy graduation. Like yours, small school, but the whole first half was like a commercial — the director discussing the accomplishments of some seniors I don’t know, lots of lecturing about the importance of small class sizes and a sheltered environment (we are switching to public next year so I guess we are bad), a speech from another admin person telling parents to “enjoy every minute” and “don’t be sucked into your phones.” 🙄 Like, get to the kids! They’re why we are here.

[mustardseed2007]

It's over and it was good. The class size was even smaller than last year, and it was emotional. Although actually maybe not as emotional as last year was. When it was DS' turn his teacher brought him up and was giving her spiel and he actually had a running commentary rather than just hearing her speech about him.

Teacher: When you came to us, you were a shy little 3 year old.
DS: I remember that day. I WAS very very shy!
Teacher: And now you're a confident kindergartner.
DS: Sometimes I'm confident, sometimes I get nervous.
Teacher: your kind, funny, and enthusiastic.
DS: I try to be.

and it went on from there.

Then DS' class sang "Remember Me" from Coco. Oh my heart.

[twinmomma]

mustardseed2007 that song! Oh my heart!
I have to control legit sobbing at the end of that movie every time. Makes me miss my grandmother.