State of the Ute 5/28

[Jalapeñomel]

@slk4117 sorry to hear about your SIL. My LO was born at 33weeks2days.

Gift certificates for food are the best thing. And if she’s breastfeeding, all the supplies that go with pumping (hands free pumping bras, magazines, bottles, ice packs, etc).

[Jalapeñomel]

May 28, 2018 20:02:19 GMT -5 @slk4117 said:

May 28, 2018 17:54:18 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

@slk4117 sorry to hear about your SIL. My LO was born at 33weeks2days.

Gift certificates for food are the best thing. And if she’s breastfeeding, all the supplies that go with pumping (hands free pumping bras, magazines, bottles, ice packs, etc).

Thanks Jalapeñomel we tried to get some info out of her about what she was needing, and she had no clue. I think she’s just super overwhelmed right now. My H said she sounded normal, but I assume she’s still in shock. They’ve actually already released her from the hospital. I guess she was just looking at breast pumps on Friday, but obviously this is all going to be dependent on the next few months.

I just feel awful, and my H is keeping it bottled up. We don’t talk a lot of baby stuff because of our struggle, and this came totally out of left field. He talked to her on Sunday around noon ET and she was fine - baby was born at almost 10pm PT. Thankfully he has great vitals and he was bigger than they anticipated (all 2lbs of him).

It’s really freaking hard to leave the hospital without your baby, maybe the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It’s a big blur, but I remember eating a lot of McDonalds and spending hours in the pump rooms hoping for colostrum.

Also, hiring a housekeeper or a dog walker is a good idea too, or sending her laundry out to be cleaned. All that stuff goes by the wayside.

Sending lots of positive thoughts to her.

[jennistarr1]

May 28, 2018 20:02:19 GMT -5 @slk4117 said:

May 28, 2018 17:54:18 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

@slk4117 sorry to hear about your SIL. My LO was born at 33weeks2days.

Gift certificates for food are the best thing. And if she’s breastfeeding, all the supplies that go with pumping (hands free pumping bras, magazines, bottles, ice packs, etc).

Thanks Jalapeñomel we tried to get some info out of her about what she was needing, and she had no clue. I think she’s just super overwhelmed right now. My H said she sounded normal, but I assume she’s still in shock. They’ve actually already released her from the hospital. I guess she was just looking at breast pumps on Friday, but obviously this is all going to be dependent on the next few months.

I just feel awful, and my H is keeping it bottled up. We don’t talk a lot of baby stuff because of our struggle, and this came totally out of left field. He talked to her on Sunday around noon ET and she was fine - baby was born at almost 10pm PT. Thankfully he has great vitals and he was bigger than they anticipated (all 2lbs of him).

My experience is the hospital will give her one to use there and she can rent a hospital grade one when she's discharged. Get her a pumping bra so she can be hands free

[greengables]

Lots of prayers for your SIL and her baby @slk4117. I would go ahead and send baby gifts to her. When my DS was in the NICU I brought in my own swaddling blankets for him, I liked them better than the ones the hospital provided, and it made me feel like I was doing something for him. If mom likes to read, maybe a Kindle (of Amazon gift card for books if she already has one), she will have lots of time just sitting in the hospital while baby sleeps and while she pumps.

[greengables]

Also @slk4117, depending on how close your H is with his BIL it might be nice to check on him. I think that NICU dads tend to kind of get lost in all the craziness. Everyone calls and checks in on the mom, but it is hard on the dads too.

[megstoo]

1. Where are you in your journey?
ttc 1, cd39, lost count on the cycles

2. Any testing this week?
nope

3. Non-BFP AWs/vents/randoms?
I just emailed the RE to order the next round of meds so we can start IUI. If I don't get AF by next week I'll have to force it using progesterone. Every single month I have to force it thanks to PCOS.

4. Do you have a certain type of decorating style?
I like simple looks and can't stand clutter. We tend to gravitate towards the grey's and softer colors. I like a little more color, DH doesn't.

[katespade]

megstoo - Is there a reason your doctor is having your cycles go for so long before starting progesterone? Mine had me start it on CD16, whether I'd ovulated or not, to try and get my cycles regulated to 28-30 days each. That way, at least each anovulatory cycle didn't take up as much time as it used to, just waiting for AF to finally decide to show up.

[megstoo]

katespade, Not sure why but they have me going to CD40 before starting, I think that's what my ob/gyn had me doing so the RE just picked up the same cycle days. Part of it my fault because I'm going to be in a friends wedding next weekend and the last thing I want to worry about is AF. The nurse was ok with me starting AF after but let me know that next cycle it'll be 28-30 days. We are doing IUI this cycle so I know it'll just push everything back a week or so.

[achi]

1. Where are you in your journey? Not TTC/not TTA #2, cycle 1, 11 dpo

2. Any testing this week? Yes, in a couple more days

3. Non-BFP AWs/vents/randoms? It is so hot here already. I am not a summer person at all. Give me mid-70s with low humidity and I’ll be happy.

4. Do you have a certain type of decorating style? Kind of a mix between shabby chic and modern.