Back to Reality

[twinmomma]

Anyone else getting hit hard with life, now that they long weekend is over? 

I came into work to a MAJOR issue with our website. A huge, important piece is broken. Turns out, it's been broken since Friday morning, so I could have addressed it before the weekend. But, the entire team dedicated to monitoring that feature didn't think it was important to tell me it was broken. Just found out today when their boss came back from vacation. I'm so pissed/frustrated. How do you not notify someone when one of the sole things you're responsible for suddenly stops working?! 

Couple that with needing to have a major heart to heart with my employee who is dropping the ball like crazy, and I'm ready to retreat back into the long weekend ASAP. 

[2chatter]

Nothing is on fire, but I’m in a wait for it mode for a couple of things I needed last week. Because deadlines. Which apparently only matter to me, until people don’t get what they want because they were late. No magic wand here people, the process is not a mystery.

Super nervous to have DH home most of the time. This morning he was like “what is WRONG with the kids???” Because they were moving slow and mildly whiny. Already looking forward to his orientation trip in two weeks.

[kimberlybb]

I had a great weekend so it was tough to get going this morning. After some long weekends I’m practically running into work because I need a break from the kids. The stars aligned this weekend though and they were really well behaved and I really enjoyed the extra time with them. This week is going to be crazy. I have a big project due by midnight on Friday. I will probably be here till about the deadline that night because the other support departments don’t give me what I need till the last minute. twinmomma , how did the birthday party go?

[xctsclrx]

twinmomma , I would be livid about that.


I am not in a good place right now. Mostly because I can't sleep and I am in constant pain. Now I have a rash all over my arms and stomach. I and 99% sure it is due to pregnancy. I had when I was pregnant with DS too. I itch constantly, nothing seems to help. I am going to have to go get the expensive smelly soap ETA ( that helped last time) DH is OOT until the 13th.

I am really thing about reducing my hours at work for the next 2 weeks. I just can't seem to keep up with everything at home plus everything at work while being out of the house 11 hours a day. I have the leave time. I just feel like a wimp leaving a desk job early because of pregnancy.

[supertrooper1]

This weekend sucked. It was busy at work, so I ended up with mandatory OT Saturday, Sunday and Monday. And of course I volunteered for OT today. I'm very tired. I keep focusing on how much my paycheck will be. My mom keeps emailing me after 10pm at night (she knows I go to bed well before) with bad news. She had a minor stroke last week, but after a trip to the emergency room she seems ok. And her doctor couldn't find anything wrong. My cousin passed away yesterday from cancer. It was expected, but still sad. My other cousin that passed away around Thanksgiving has a memorial in a couple weeks, so I have to request time off to go to that. Just one funeral after another it seems.

[HeartofCheese]

"Back to reality. Oh there goes gravity. Oh there goes rabbit, he choked. He's so mad, he won't give up that easy."

Am I only the only one who's going to have this song from 15 YEARS AGO stuck in my head all day?

I have a settlement conference today. We have 90 minutes to settle everything. Oh the irony.

[twinmomma]

kimberlybb, It was great! Super hot out, so we only lasted at the park for about an hour and a half, which turned out to be a great amount of time anyway. Ice cream truck was a big hit and a lot of the other parents loved the idea of such a low key party. There was one lady from the general public who was super rude about the ice cream truck serving us instead of her kid first. But thankfully only to me and the driver, not the rest of our crew.

[covergirl82]

twinmomma , I would be pissed too.

xctsclrx , don't feel bad about asking for leave if you need it. I asked my OB to write me a note so I could work from home (also a desk job) the last few weeks I was PG with DS. With your H being gone for a couple more weeks, it sounds like you could use the rest mentally and physically.

supertrooper1 , I'm sorry about all the bad news and to hear of your cousin's passing. Hopefully your mom continues to be ok.

No major issues to come back to today. One of my coworkers is leaving for another job, and this is her last week, so we're going out as a team for lunch today.

We had a good weekend. DS enjoyed his first baseball tournament. There were 6 teams in his age group (8U) and his team was seeded 5th. They played 2 games on Saturday to determine the order of play for Sunday.  On Sunday, they ended up winning their first two games, so they played in the championship game, but lost. Over all, I was really proud of DS and thought he played well , especially in the 90+ degree heat (which is very unusual for MI in May - we had record temps over the weekend) and despite having a cold coming on. DD did pretty well over all hanging out at the fields. (We were there for about 4.5 hours on Saturday and almost 8 hours on Sunday.) None of us got sunburned, so that was a win too.

[justcheckingin73]

The two meetings I had scheduled for today have been cancelled which I’m so grateful for. I had a priority project last week which pushed out all of my other projects plus I gained a couple of new projects that I haven’t even been able to start on. I’m hoping I can start closing some of these because right now I’m overwhelmed just thinking about them.

The weekend was really nice even if I didn’t get to my decluttering projects. DH opened the pool and typically it’s a weeklong process to get the chemicals working but he bought a new tarp before he closed the pool for the winter so the water was still blue and we were in the pool by the evening. It was high 90s here so it was awesome even though the water was freezing.

twinmomma, I’d be pissed. I hope you can get everything up and running without any issues.

supertrooper1, I’m so sorry, that sounds rough.

HeartofCheese, that song really gets me amped up on my runs

[rere]

The weekend was way too busy. We had something Friday-Sunday. DS worked two days- he has been looking for odd jobs such as mowing, etc...so that he can fix up DH's old truck by the time he is 16 - so getting him back and forth was an extra layer of running. DH was off Monday, but I was exhausted, and we had yard work to do.

I have 2 grants to put in by June 15. That sounds like a long time, but when I look at my calendar, there are not many days actually in the office to sit down and do it.

[welly01]

supertrooper1, so sorry you had to work all weekend!!

DH and I are going OOT Wed-Sun and today I'm listing all of our bank accounts, retirement account, life insurance, etc to leave in our safe in case anything happens to us. The people we've named as guardians for the kids have the combination to get into the safe. It's making my stomach do somersaults thinking about it. It's a work trip for DH that I'm tagging along on but now I'm kind of regretting it. But my mom has already taken PTO to watch the kids, so there's no backing out now.

[polecat8]

My weekend was ok. On Saturday, we took the kids to the aviary and going out to dinner.
On Sunday, I woke up feeling like crap. I slept until noon and then headed to a massage. I took the kids to my parents' place for a cookout. DH went to visit his mom at the hospital. Every time the doctor says she is ready to be released the next day, MIL has a setback. FIL is still insisting on bringing MIL home, but has agreed to PT/OT and a home health aide. MIL still has days where she is very confused. DH thinks MIL's mind is gone and this will be her new normal.
On Monday, I woke up with a cold (seriously? when it is 85 degrees outside?). But I still managed to get my workout in, plus clean up the entire house and the back patio. Now we have a place to chill while the kids play in the yard.
Today DD has a softball game. It is going to be 90 degrees with 90% humidity. I'm going to melt...

[k3am]

We went from mid 60's on Saturday to 90's yesterday. Not cool weather, not cool. I also refused to test out the air conditioning because I wanted to see how well the new house is able to handle the heat.. the answer is, not well. The first floor actually isn't too bad, but the second floor is miserable. And even when it cooled off at night, it did not cool off inside. I am pretty confident the A/C is on its last leg and we can't afford to replace it anytime soon.

[divanerd]

Sorry ladies the week is off to a tough start! supertrooper1 sorry you had to work all weekend and family sad news!

I'm not in the office yet(hope office is fine) decided morning was better spent taking son to spend morning at summer camp he will start next week.

I'm certain this is the calm before moving STORM we move this weekend!
Apologies for bitching in advance. I will be happy to be settled soon.

[2chatter]

k3am - that is the worst thing about moving - the things that don’t really work/break that are $$$. And home ownership in general yuck.

Our most recent - DH had to replace the pretty new pool filter. Which is only in the 100s range, not thousands, but...it was because our pool service didn’t clean it, so it broke. We have so much cottonwood blow into our yard that it literally breaks the filter if it isn’t cleaned. I need to remind DH to call them - they forgot to turn off the water last week so the pool overflowed into the creek - I am thinking these two things combined equals a month of free service and a new tech.

I got the kids’ soccer schedules. Literally only ONE conflict with other already scheduled activities. It’s a miracle!!!!

[phdmomma]

I made it home from Europe without any major issues, which was great. We went up north right from the airport, it was 90 which is crazy, but the kids lasted more than 5 minutes in the lake, which was nice. I am grocery shopping and Costco shopping this morning and then heading into work. Two weeks of work travel back to back was not a good plan.

[rere]

Celebration: I had to tell DS how proud I was of him this weekend. He has been hustling looking for work to help pay for a truck when he turns 16 in a year-He won't get a full license until 17. He worked in the hot sun all weekend, talked to a friend of the family who said he would use him putting in fencing, jumped on an offer to haul in hay. We've never told him he needed to work, this is all him.

A friend of mine's son was offered some of the same work and said no. He plans on his parents paying for his ride. I would be so mad if DS was offered a chance to work and earn money and turned it down. Even if he didn't need it, you will learn a work ethic and how to save. It can always go in the college fund, or savings. Things won't be handed to you in life.

Off soapbox now, but I am pretty proud he already has a good mindset when it comes to saving and work.

[HeartofCheese]

My I-keep-shitting-the-bed attorney just canceled our MFing settlement meeting today. He has been resistant to the damn thing this whole time, then sends a letter on Friday with certain terms, which he then agrees with the other side to review before having a meeting. WTF. My attorney fucking sucks. Why the fuck can't I get fucking divorced already? What the fuck!!! We were going to settle this thing within 90 minutes. Now I have to pay for a bunch of prolonged back and forth and drafting letters and emails and faxes and bullshit instead of just fucking sitting down at a table and agreeing in writing on the 90% of shit we fucking agree on and then work out the details on the rest. WTF? WTF? WTF?

[callmekd]

xctsclrx - are you okay? did you call your doctor? (wanting to make sure you don't have cholestasis)

[supertrooper1]

I'm so sorry HeartofCheese.

[k3am]

So old coworker has a "better" office than I do. (It's bigger, has a bigger window, and doesn't have a direct sight line down a hallway to the kitchen. But then again, my current office is already bigger than DD's old room. And it's not like I use the whole thing. Or spend much time looking out the window. But the location is definitely better, even if it's only one door down) My boss suggested that I take it, but... that's a lot of effort. I'm super lazy. I've got this one set up the way I like it.

It now occurs to me that I probably should have taken it. I forget that there are politics involved in everything. Misstep? No big deal? Ask to take it? Stay where I am?

[k3am]

HeartofCheese, have you bitched at him to try to figure things out?

[callmekd]

our weekend was so busy - date nights on Friday and Saturday. so we were exhausted by Sunday. plus the heat - it hit 100 which is insane for MN in May. kids got lots of outdoor water table/kiddie pool time. but we all have weekend hangover. I'm lucky I made it to work by 8am.

DS is getting ear tubes on Friday so it's a 3 day work week for us.

[traveltheworld]

HeartofCheese, could you insist on still holding the settlement meeting to finalize the material points? If you haven't already, I'd make your feelings of dissatisfaction very well known to your lawyer. I'm sorry you are dealing with this.

We had a good weekend. I cleaned out our garage and unpacked the last of our moving boxes (from a year ago!)

[covergirl82]

HeartofCheese, I'm so sorry. It sounds like your attorney needs a come-to-Jesus talk.

[xctsclrx]

May 29, 2018 10:50:45 GMT -5 callmekd said:

xctsclrx - are you okay? did you call your doctor? (wanting to make sure you don't have cholestasis)

I have not called him yet.  Last time I had this issue one nurse (on the phone) said it might be PUPPS and the doctor said it looked like an allergic reaction.

I looked up cholestasis, I do have a rash with the itch so I think that rules it out,  and no other symptoms other than the itch. I have an appt on Thursday, but If I start to feel really bad I will call. I talked to him about it at my last appointment, at the point it was localized on my stomach so I figured stretching and dry skin. 

I think I just have sensitive skin and pregnancy makes it worse. 

[mellym]

HeartofCheese, I'm so sorry, your attorney is supposed to be your advocate!

k3am, is the office still vacant? If so, I would ask about taking it.

We had a fun but busy weekend. DD1 turned 6 so I took her to get her ears pierced and she was a champ. She didn't even make a sound and was so happy about her earrings. We had a family party on Saturday and it was hot (90s)but everyone stuck it out and we had a cookout in the backyard. The kids had a blast swimming in the kid pool, sprinkler and bounce house. In all the running around, one of the earrings fell out and we noticed it while she was opening gifts. I called the piercing shop and they offered to give her a new earring and put it back in but we had to do it soon before the hole closed. Nothing like leaving your own party but we were only gone 30 minutes and she was so happy to have it back. DH camped in the backyard with them that night. We went to my parents' for a cookout Sunday and hung around home yesterday catching up on chores. I finally got the carpet shampooed from when we all had the stomach flu. We spent a lot of time outside because my kids don't seem to mind the heat. I'm tired from it and all the running around so it's nice to sit at my desk in the AC.

[HeartofCheese]

I talked to him. Obviously I don't want to repeat it all here, but I couldn't get the conference back on the calendar for today. I may be able to get it scheduled for tomorrow, but if not, I'm fucking firing that fucking attorney and begging my first one to come back to settle the case - which if you all recall, I dropped her b/c she refused to consider any kind of challenge to the attorney for the child's recommendations. Jesus fucking Christ, WPs. If any of you ever get divorced, find an attorney you really, really trust who will stick it out with you to the end.

[2chatter]

HeartofCheese - that blows. Fingers crossed for tomorrow.

[rere]

HeartofCheese, That sucks and obviously so does your attorney. Hoping for tomorrow so that you can finally be free.