Hump Day Frustrations

[seeyalater52]

I’m sorry. Waiting to ovulate sucks.

I’m irate because my HR department totally flakes on me. After setting up my promotion interview for today even though I was on vacation because there were “no other times” HR director canceled it 20 mins before the meeting. She rescheduled it for tomorrow morning without checking my calendar so I had to reschedule two other meetings to accommodate it. Then she sends me this whole email about how she’ll do her best to make it but she’s on duty to watch her granddaughter and “you know how babies are.” First of all, fuck you because you know I’m infertile and hurting and that sucks to hear. Second of all, I am so over having a part time, semi-retired HR director and the search for a new one is moving at a snail’s pace.

I swear if this gets canceled again because of someone else’s baby I’m going to lose all my shit.

[seeyalater52]

May 30, 2018 13:07:53 GMT -5 @slk4117 said:

May 30, 2018 13:00:38 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

I’m sorry. Waiting to ovulate sucks.

I’m irate because my HR department totally flakes on me. After setting up my promotion interview for today even though I was on vacation because there were “no other times” HR director canceled it 20 mins before the meeting. She rescheduled it for tomorrow morning without checking my calendar so I had to reschedule two other meetings to accommodate it. Then she sends me this whole email about how she’ll do her best to make it but she’s on duty to watch her granddaughter and “you know how babies are.” First of all, fuck you because you know I’m infertile and hurting and that sucks to hear. Second of all, I am so over having a part time, semi-retired HR director and the search for a new one is moving at a snail’s pace.

I swear if this gets canceled again because of someone else’s baby I’m going to lose all my shit.

I literally gasped at this. What in the actual fuck. Responding, "no, you fucking bitch, I don't know" probably wouldn't be the best recourse when dealing with HR, eh?  

Oh believe me I was tempted. This is the same woman who spent the last 10 mins of a meeting I scheduled to discuss the discrimination issues I was having with our health insurer refusing to cover me for fertility treatments because I’m gay (a conversation that required sharing a lot more personal information than I would have preferred and during which I cried almost the entire time) showing me pictures of her brand new granddaughter and remarking that we got married around the same time. I KNOW LADY. Don’t you think that I’m the least thrilled of all that this has taken more than two goddamn years!?

[seeyalater52]

I am full of hate and rage. Bitter, party of one.

Also I’m so sorry about your best friend being jerky about her pregnancy. That sucks big time.

[seeyalater52]

May 30, 2018 13:17:01 GMT -5 @slk4117 said:

May 30, 2018 13:10:44 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

Oh believe me I was tempted. 

What. The. Fuck. Is she stupid, or just completely tone deaf? How did you avoid throwing your shoe or a book or something at her face? That's a level of self-control I aspire towards.

I just kept crying and crying and crying until she let me leave. She’s known for being the worst so I dont take it personally but I’m ready for her to fully retire and be done, especially since she can’t even commit to a meeting time during a day when she’s being paid to work! Not very helpful!

[seeyalater52]

May 30, 2018 13:23:40 GMT -5 @slk4117 said:

May 30, 2018 13:12:11 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

I am full of hate and rage. Bitter, party of one.

Also I’m so sorry about your best friend being jerky about her pregnancy. That sucks big time.

I feel you. And I'm only in this for 9 months so far. I realized last weekend in the amount of time we've been trying, I could have gestated a human and been really close to birthing it by now. I remember back when I was worried about possibly giving birth in August, because "oh noes, what would we do when they go to kindergarten if the cut off is 9/1?" JUST KIDDING, GOD, IF YOU'RE UP THERE. I'D BE MORE THAN HAPPY TO GIVE BIRTH IN AUGUST IF I CAN JUST GET KNOCKED UP ONCE. JUST FUCKING ONCE.

I think BFF wants to hear all the gory details, and besides this board and my H, I'm not saying anything to anyone. No, I don't want to tell you about how often I check my fucking cervix and CM and pee in cups and cry when every test comes back negative when you randomly decided one month to try and got knocked up. Fuck off. 

I feel that so hard. All of it. I calculated once recently that I’ve had so many TWW weeks that I could have gestated a full-term pregnancy in the same number of weeks.

I also don’t blame you for one bit not wanting to share the intimate details with your friend who doesn’t have the same experience. And not wanting to hear about hers! It sucks but right now you are two worlds apart and she’s just going to have to deal. I find that most people really just don’t get it. My coworker who has had 2 kids in the amount of time I’ve been trying for 1 (she’s 4 years older than me) told me the other day that I’m young and have plenty of time. She knows we have to do IVF now. How is that helping!? How does anyone think their commentary is helpful?

[seeyalater52]

May 30, 2018 13:37:23 GMT -5 @slk4117 said:

May 30, 2018 13:27:24 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

How is that helping!? How does anyone think their commentary is helpful?

My eyeball is twitching now. I love her, but her brother having a baby literally turned her into an idiot. 

Oh dear. That is unfortunate. And it puts you in such a bad spot both as a friend and someone who is taking longer to conceive. The whole thing is just shitty. 

[seeyalater52]

Now I’m bleeding through my birth control suppression. Happy Wednesday! 🙄

[seeyalater52]

May 30, 2018 15:11:36 GMT -5 @slk4117 said:

May 30, 2018 14:37:50 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

Now I’m bleeding through my birth control suppression. Happy Wednesday! 🙄

 Gahhhhh. Seriously, today can go screw. 

Co-signed!

[seeyalater52]

Except the one really really good thing that happened in my professional life (posted a thread on the politics board.) Which admittedly is really good. But still.

[seeyalater52]

May 30, 2018 15:20:29 GMT -5 @slk4117 said:

May 30, 2018 15:14:44 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

Except the one really really good thing that happened in my professional life (posted a thread on the politics board.) Which admittedly is really good. But still.

I saw that! Yassss!! I'm in NC now, just tell me who to call. I really need to do some more research on everyone. 

The real push is going to be during the 2019 leg session. It’s all about the election! It could make a big difference. I tend to think some of the cross-state competition helps too. No one wants to be the very last one standing, and Cooper is willing to do what it takes. I will keep you updated!

[grover]

I was supposed to do an IUI cycle this cycle, and then my period started four days earlier while we were traveling for the long weekend. Now we're stuck waiting til July because H's appointment for SA was yesterday, and thus, not completed before CD1.

[seeyalater52]

May 30, 2018 16:51:50 GMT -5 grover said:

I was supposed to do an IUI cycle this cycle, and then my period started four days earlier while we were traveling for the long weekend. Now we're stuck waiting til July because H's appointment for SA was yesterday, and thus, not completed before CD1.

Ugh I’m so sorry! These kinds of delays really suck.

[lillaguma]

Super ick on both the HR director and the best friend.

My complaint today is that my period started and the last few months with my period comes this nasty enormous under-the-skin zit right between my eyes. It hurts, it gives me headaches, I can't seem to get rid of it. It never comes to a head so I can't pop it. It's lower this time and right between my eyes, it looks like a third eye. It's extra insult on top of not being pregnant.

[seeyalater52]

May 31, 2018 23:01:43 GMT -5 lillaguma said:

Super ick on both the HR director and the best friend.

My complaint today is that my period started and the last few months with my period comes this nasty enormous under-the-skin zit right between my eyes. It hurts, it gives me headaches, I can't seem to get rid of it. It never comes to a head so I can't pop it. It's lower this time and right between my eyes, it looks like a third eye. It's extra insult on top of not being pregnant.

Progesterone, whyyyyyyy. I’m sorry your body is trolling you, it definitely adds insult to injury.

Guess who canceled on me yet again yesterday? Trying to reschedule for this morning but who even knows. I only had a 2-day work week this week and I’m already over it.

[seeyalater52]

Jun 1, 2018 7:32:02 GMT -5 @slk4117 said:

Jun 1, 2018 5:46:19 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

Progesterone, whyyyyyyy. I’m sorry your body is trolling you, it definitely adds insult to injury.

Guess who canceled on me yet again yesterday? Trying to reschedule for this morning but who even knows. I only had a 2-day work week this week and I’m already over it.

Nooooo... Is there anyway you can go over her head to someone? That's completely ridiculous. 

She’s head of HR, so not really. My boss is super pissed and I think will fight to have my salary increase apply retroactively if it gets delayed too much but it’s still annoying. I have come in “interview ready” 3 days in a row now, it’s exhausting!

[lillaguma]

Jun 1, 2018 7:34:07 GMT -5 @slk4117 said:

May 31, 2018 23:01:43 GMT -5 lillaguma said:

Super ick on both the HR director and the best friend.

My complaint today is that my period started and the last few months with my period comes this nasty enormous under-the-skin zit right between my eyes. It hurts, it gives me headaches, I can't seem to get rid of it. It never comes to a head so I can't pop it. It's lower this time and right between my eyes, it looks like a third eye. It's extra insult on top of not being pregnant.

I feel you. The right side of my chin is SUPER broken out with bright red cystic acne - and trying to cover it with makeup makes it looks even more noticeable. 

It's awful! And makeup just makes it look worse. Fortunately I think mine has started shrinking back down. Ugh. 

[lillaguma]

Jun 1, 2018 5:46:19 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

May 31, 2018 23:01:43 GMT -5 lillaguma said:

Super ick on both the HR director and the best friend.

My complaint today is that my period started and the last few months with my period comes this nasty enormous under-the-skin zit right between my eyes. It hurts, it gives me headaches, I can't seem to get rid of it. It never comes to a head so I can't pop it. It's lower this time and right between my eyes, it looks like a third eye. It's extra insult on top of not being pregnant.

Progesterone, whyyyyyyy. I’m sorry your body is trolling you, it definitely adds insult to injury.

Guess who canceled on me yet again yesterday? Trying to reschedule for this morning but who even knows. I only had a 2-day work week this week and I’m already over it.

I'm so sorry, I wish there was someone you could complain about it more to, because that is ridiculous. Definitely fight for the raise to be applied retroactively. 

[seeyalater52]

Jun 3, 2018 13:45:24 GMT -5 lillaguma said:

Jun 1, 2018 5:46:19 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

Progesterone, whyyyyyyy. I’m sorry your body is trolling you, it definitely adds insult to injury.

Guess who canceled on me yet again yesterday? Trying to reschedule for this morning but who even knows. I only had a 2-day work week this week and I’m already over it.

I'm so sorry, I wish there was someone you could complain about it more to, because that is ridiculous. Definitely fight for the raise to be applied retroactively. 

Thanks! Thankfully it will be retroactive, especially because it’s been canceled and rescheduled 3 more times since I wrote this post. :/