Week of June 4

[thoseareradishes]

Good morning!

E is 15 months old today!  She seems to have had some developmental leaps since her surgery - she is understanding so much of what we say, trying really hard to walk, and finally putting things into her basket instead of just dumping them out.  She also cut a molar, which may explain some of the crappy sleep lately.  Family is also visiting and she has been spoiled with attention - she is going to be so bummed when everyone leaves and it is just me and her again!

[mpc]

thoseareradishes, sounds like E is doing really well! DD is almost 14 months and it's so interesting to see when she actually understands me. She wants so bad to be able to communicate. Also, teeth are the worst and I bet that has so much to do with her sleep. We are only working on teeth number 6 and 7 over here, so I'm afraid we have a looong way to go. blah.

[shauni27]

great to hear that E is doiing so well right now (minus the sleep)! I think Sage is about to cut another tooth as well. Is it normal or even possible for back teeth/molars to begin before all of the front teeth? he keeps chewing everything in the back of his mouth and has been a bit of a bear and waking a few times at night as well. Wondering if that is what's going on.

[mpc]

I used to think there was an order to teeth, shauni27, but DD has had them pop up randomly throughout her mouth. I call her my little jack'o'lantern because her teeth are so random. Of course, we haven't gotten to molars yet, or even canines, so I really have no idea about that.

[Mushe]

Yay, June! I’m excited but overwhelmed at how much I have to do for all areas of my life. DS started “camp” today, basically summer daycare. We’re charging forward on the au pair hiring, but it’s so complicated! We painted the nursery this weekend, and next weekend will try to add this detail on the back wall with molding/trim. Who knows if it will turn out!

I had a regular OB appt this morning, and all is well. I somehow lost .5lbs in the last four weeks, so I’m up 8, but they said my weight is fine, so 🤷‍♀️. I still haven’t gotten any actual bills for any OB care. I should probably check on that. 😆

Two sweet friends are planning a shower, so we had lunch today to talk about it. I’m not good being the center of attention, but they’re so excited for us.

[scm1011]

I'm glad to hear E is doing well, thoseareradishes!

You're getting so close, Mushe! I put on minimal weight with C (about 12lbs total) and my OB was never concerned either. Yay for a shower!

DH and I have set some higher expectations for C lately and its going well (having him pick up food he throws, putting away his toys, bringing us his bowl when he's done, etc.). Its all so basic and things we should have been doing for a while, but out of laziness/exhaustion have let things slide because its quicker to do it ourselves. I think the increased structure is helping to minimize the meltdowns.

[shauni27]

Mushe, all total I only gained about 18 pounds with S, most of it in the last few months. I lost a lot at first, but they were never concerned. Now, of course, I weigh more than I did when I was 9 months pregnant :/ Blah. Anyway, I am glad that you are letting your friends throw you a little shower! You very much deserve it

scm1011, I hear you with the doing stuff yourself. I CANNOT get S to use his cups or bottle on his own. He is capable of holding them, but then just throws them around and does not bring them up to his mouth to drink. I just give up and hold it for him but I really need to stop. The same with letting him use a spoon on his own. It just creates a bigger mess and bigger messes = more work for me! I did finally let him feed himself his own pouch last night and there was only minimal mess so that was good.

mpc, I figured out why S was being a bear--another tooth! Just right in front. Although I complain about it, knock on wood, it has not been too bad when he gets his teeth so far. Just a little fussy and clingy, but nothing crazy.

[scm1011]

Jun 5, 2018 7:56:30 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

scm1011 , I hear you with the doing stuff yourself. I CANNOT get S to use his cups or bottle on his own. He is capable of holding them, but then just throws them around and does not bring them up to his mouth to drink. I just give up and hold it for him but I really need to stop. The same with letting him use a spoon on his own. It just creates a bigger mess and bigger messes = more work for me! I did finally let him feed himself his own pouch last night and there was only minimal mess so that was good.

 

Yesss on the spoon. Especially since C refuses bibs anymore so any spoon meal just means he wears half of it, but I've learned to just let it go and embrace the fact he will end up wearing yogurt at some point in the day lol. 

[shauni27]

Jun 5, 2018 8:49:19 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Jun 5, 2018 7:56:30 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

scm1011 , I hear you with the doing stuff yourself. I CANNOT get S to use his cups or bottle on his own. He is capable of holding them, but then just throws them around and does not bring them up to his mouth to drink. I just give up and hold it for him but I really need to stop. The same with letting him use a spoon on his own. It just creates a bigger mess and bigger messes = more work for me! I did finally let him feed himself his own pouch last night and there was only minimal mess so that was good.

 

Yesss on the spoon. Especially since C refuses bibs anymore so any spoon meal just means he wears half of it, but I've learned to just let it go and embrace the fact he will end up wearing yogurt at some point in the day lol. 

when did you really start teaching him to use a spoon? I feel like S is nowhere near ready, but wtf do I know?!

[scm1011]

Jun 5, 2018 9:23:43 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

Jun 5, 2018 8:49:19 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Yesss on the spoon. Especially since C refuses bibs anymore so any spoon meal just means he wears half of it, but I've learned to just let it go and embrace the fact he will end up wearing yogurt at some point in the day lol. 

when did you really start teaching him to use a spoon? I feel like S is nowhere near ready, but wtf do I know?!

I think S is still really young. Around a year C started getting possessive over the spoon so we let him try (he was terrible lol) and then once he switched to the toddler room at 15 months he was kind of forced to (and daycare taught him to hold the bowl with one hand and scoop with the other). He's actually pretty good with it now, I don't give him enough credit.

Daycare has definitely led the way in a lot of these kind of milestones with C because I don't know WTF I'm doing half the time. Hopefully he'll come home potty trained one day lol. 

[shauni27]

Jun 5, 2018 10:06:58 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Jun 5, 2018 9:23:43 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

when did you really start teaching him to use a spoon? I feel like S is nowhere near ready, but wtf do I know?!

I think S is still really young. Around a year C started getting possessive over the spoon so we let him try (he was terrible lol) and then once he switched to the toddler room at 15 months he was kind of forced to (and daycare taught him to hold the bowl with one hand and scoop with the other). He's actually pretty good with it now, I don't give him enough credit.

Daycare has definitely led the way in a lot of these kind of milestones with C because I don't know WTF I'm doing half the time. Hopefully he'll come home potty trained one day lol. 

ha! We say the same thing about daycare. They are the experts--let's let them help with all of the milestones, lol. 

literal LOL at coming home potty trained.

[janegold]

Jun 5, 2018 10:06:58 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Jun 5, 2018 9:23:43 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

when did you really start teaching him to use a spoon? I feel like S is nowhere near ready, but wtf do I know?!

Daycare has definitely led the way in a lot of these kind of milestones with C because I don't know WTF I'm doing half the time. Hopefully he'll come home potty trained one day lol. 

Ha, I am secretly hoping the same.  

Also, B won't let me brush his teeth anymore and I am telling myself it's okay because they brush them at daycare.  I just let him suck on the toothbrush every morning and hope that good habits are forming there somewhere.  Argh.

[loira]

shauni27, A didn't learn how to use a sippy cup on her own until 16 months, and didn't use a spoon until she went to daycare at 20 months. I wouldn't sweat it.

[belovedbride07]

I'm so glad to hear E is doing well, thoseareradishes!

DD was an absolute demon last week; for almost two days she threw nearly constant unprovoked tantrums and it was so bad we took her to the doctor because we thought surely she had an ear infection or something (we have all been sick off and on, so that would make sense). Nope; it was possibly her 2-year molars bothering her, but so far nothing has erupted so we have no idea. She's still throwing the occasional fit, but she's mostly back to herself.

I'm on CD2, my cramps are terrible, and despite my recent adventures in the terrible twos, I have a saline sonogram scheduled for Thursday to prepare for an August FET. We also just closed on a house and move in less than two weeks, so clearly we like a challenge or have an aversion to stability.  What are we thinking!? 

[loira]

Congrats on the house, belovedbride07! I feel your pain on the 2 year old tantrums. A's molars took FOREVER to come in, made her super emotional and ragey, and the worst was before they erupted. I finally figured out it was her teeth when I decided to try giving her a dose of tylenol and discovered she became a much happier kid.

[shauni27]

Jun 5, 2018 13:54:29 GMT -5 loira said:

Congrats on the house, belovedbride07 ! I feel your pain on the 2 year old tantrums. A's molars took FOREVER to come in, made her super emotional and ragey, and the worst was before they erupted. I finally figured out it was her teeth when I decided to try giving her a dose of tylenol and discovered she became a much happier kid.

This may be terrible, but with S he is really only fussy if he is tired. If he is acting fussy and clingy but has no fever or any other signs if sickness, we just assume something is making him uncomfortable and give him some tylenol. It isn't often because in general he is not fussy, but it always seems to do the trick.

I figure, the kid is growing more in this one year than he will in any other year. His body might be achy, he is getting teeth, etc. So a dose of pain reliever once a week is not going to hurt him.

[loira]

Jun 5, 2018 14:59:56 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

Jun 5, 2018 13:54:29 GMT -5 loira said:

Congrats on the house, belovedbride07 ! I feel your pain on the 2 year old tantrums. A's molars took FOREVER to come in, made her super emotional and ragey, and the worst was before they erupted. I finally figured out it was her teeth when I decided to try giving her a dose of tylenol and discovered she became a much happier kid.

This may be terrible, but with S he is really only fussy if he is tired. If he is acting fussy and clingy but has no fever or any other signs if sickness, we just assume something is making him uncomfortable and give him some tylenol. It isn't often because in general he is not fussy, but it always seems to do the trick.

I figure, the kid is growing more in this one year than he will in any other year. His body might be achy, he is getting teeth, etc. So a dose of pain reliever once a week is not going to hurt him.

Not terrible. We do this too. It's gotten easier because now A can tell us when things hurt, but she's got quite a high pain tolerance (none of her other teeth ever bothered her, she almost never cries when she takes a tumble or gets a bruise). When her molars were coming in, I was dosing her daily - usually once in the morning before daycare and once at night before she fell asleep. I figured they were probably REALLY bothering her, so she needed it.

[cactuscookie]

Jun 5, 2018 13:54:29 GMT -5 loira said:

Congrats on the house, belovedbride07 ! I feel your pain on the 2 year old tantrums. A's molars took FOREVER to come in, made her super emotional and ragey, and the worst was before they erupted. I finally figured out it was her teeth when I decided to try giving her a dose of tylenol and discovered she became a much happier kid.

We went through this a few days ago! H was a DISASTER Saturday morning. She was whining all morning. We went out to lunch and she wouldn't eat her  macaroni and cheese because of the stretchy cheese strings. Then she threw a cheese sauced fork at me. I grabbed it from her and she started screaming.

So later, after her nap, she was laying on the floor, crying "owie, owie, owie" and pointing to her mouth, and I was like...ooooh...molars. I peeked in her mouth and saw a half-grown molar. So then I gave her some Tylenol and twenty minutes later, she was a different person, and she was super cute and fun for the rest of the night.

[mpc]

oh my gosh I am not even considering giving DD her own spoon yet lol. scm1011. shauni27. She makes enough of a mess as it is. I've seen at daycare all the kids sitting at the table with their own spoons, and I guess she might try there, but I haven't broached that at home. I'm pretty sure I didn't let DS have his own spoon til he turned 2. I remember him moving to that class and me worrying how he was going to eat his yogurt with no one to feed him. haha. he was content being spoon fed though. DD is much more independent so she probably won't tolerate it til then.

[thoseareradishes]

Jun 5, 2018 16:30:25 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

Jun 5, 2018 13:54:29 GMT -5 loira said:

Congrats on the house, belovedbride07 ! I feel your pain on the 2 year old tantrums. A's molars took FOREVER to come in, made her super emotional and ragey, and the worst was before they erupted. I finally figured out it was her teeth when I decided to try giving her a dose of tylenol and discovered she became a much happier kid.

We went through this a few days ago! H was a DISASTER Saturday morning. She was whining all morning. We went out to lunch and she wouldn't eat her  macaroni and cheese because of the stretchy cheese strings. Then she threw a cheese sauced fork at me. I grabbed it from her and she started screaming.

So later, after her nap, she was laying on the floor, crying "owie, owie, owie" and pointing to her mouth, and I was like...ooooh...molars. I peeked in her mouth and saw a half-grown molar. So then I gave her some Tylenol and twenty minutes later, she was a different person, and she was super cute and fun for the rest of the night.

Yeah I feel pretty bad that we didn't notice E was getting her molars.  There was a couple of rough bedtimes that I think Tylenol would have helped.  Opps.  

I haven't given E a spoon very often, she mostly just plays with it.  She's a really good eater, doesn't make a huge mess, but she loves to rip her bib off.  Drives me nuts.  However, I do love at the end of the meal when I tell her she can take her bib off and she tears if off and hands it to me (or drops it on the floor).  It's so cute!

[thoseareradishes]

Jun 5, 2018 12:05:03 GMT -5 janegold said:

Jun 5, 2018 10:06:58 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Daycare has definitely led the way in a lot of these kind of milestones with C because I don't know WTF I'm doing half the time. Hopefully he'll come home potty trained one day lol. 

Ha, I am secretly hoping the same.  

Also, B won't let me brush his teeth anymore and I am telling myself it's okay because they brush them at daycare.  I just let him suck on the toothbrush every morning and hope that good habits are forming there somewhere.  Argh.

I haven't been brushing E's teeth since she hates it and I figured she needed a break from traumatic things happening to her.  Maybe she will forget she hated it?  

[Chrysanthemum]

Hey everyone! I haven’t posted lately, the end of the school year has been wild. I’m officially on summer hours now though and LOVE it.

C turned 17 months old recently and we are also in the throes of teeth brushing and learning to use a spoon. Also, he’s finally a pretty good walker! FWIW, an electric toothbrush and a YouTube video of a brush your teeth song work 75% of the time for us. Other than that, I’m just looking forward to my few weeks of time off soon so we can do all kinds fun day trips!

belovedbride07, We’re also considering an FET in the next 6 months to a year and are building a new house and i just had a job change. Good luck to you!

[shauni27]

thoseareradishes, S rips off his bib constantly too. I HATE IT.

[turboteal]

thoseareradishes, I'm so glad E is feeling better!

I'm 18 weeks now, and I think I'm starting to put on some weight. I had gained maaaybe a pound at 15 week apointment, which was weird considering how much bigger my abodmen was looking, but I think I'm up about 3 now. Next week is our anatomy scan, I'm excited to see baby again! I've also been trying to see if I can feel baby, lately I think I can feel a little something now and then, I'm hoping maybe I can correlate some feelings with what I see on the scan. I think we're also going to tell people what we're having after that. I don't want to do a gender reveal and didn't want it to be a big deal at all but by not telling people it seems to have made them want to know more, so that kind of went the wrong way. We're just going to tell family first and then let everyone else know when they ask again without making a thing out of it.

We're going up to visit H's parents and some of our friends in Austin this weekend, haven't been in a long time! This will be our first visit post his parents' separating, so for the first time we are getting a airbnb (so we can bring our dog) instead of staying at their house, which they sold. His mom is being kind of crazy saying we can't even bring the dog to her apartment when we visit because she didn't pay a pet deposit, which I'm like...I don't think that applies to dogs coming over for a few hours, only to dogs living with you, but whatever. His dad made a comment a couple months back about how he understands that we haven't been back to Austin yet since we can't stay with either of them, which had us like, oh, I guess that's his way of telling us we can't stay with him? Haha.
The other weird thing to navigate is that his dad is dating someone, and we don't know if his mom knows. However it's been going on since around February I think, and we feel like his dad might want us to meet/hang out with her this weekend too (he tried to set up a lunch with us and her a couple weeks back when they were in town but our schedules didn't work for it). H feels like he is lying to her or being sneaky if she doesn't know and he doesn't tell her, but he doesn't want to be the one to tell her. H also feels weird about it since their divorce isn't final yet. I have no experience or idea on what to tell him, other than to find out if we're going to meet her this weekend and if so, mention it to his mom, maybe via text so in case she doesn't know she can react however she wants without us being right there for it. I don't even think she will react badly or anything, she was the one who initiated the divorce, but it's just awkward. :/

[mrsgoontz]

Jun 6, 2018 9:51:57 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

thoseareradishes , S rips off his bib constantly too. I HATE IT.

Look up pullover bibs on Amazon. They have been a LIFE SAVER for us. 

thoseareradishes I'm so glad to hear E is doing better. I've been traveling for work and checking GBCN on my phone and it's hard to respond from there. I've been thinking of you guys often. 

turboteal that can be awkward. It's hard when it's your H's family as well. I try to be respectful of letting H navigate family things like that but you want to be supportive. H's dad is super awkward too. Like, I'm not allowed in the house because it's messy (which it is but come on, sometimes I need to pee) and we never hear from him unless he needs something. Then, he will call out of the blue about once every other year and ask why H is mad at him and never reaches out. Um...ok. BUT I'm also going to be in austin this weekend for my cousins graduation. I hope you guys have a fun trip, Austin is such a fun city. 

C started daycare this week and it's glorious. He is adjusting to the napping and new environment but he comes home exhausted and has been sleeping great. Plus, we got our first bday party invite from a kid in his class. Don't know them at all but I wanna go lol. 

Also, I'm sure you all know this but C had a bad bought of diaper rash (yay teething) and the only thing that got rid of it was corn starch. I'm amazed. I don't know why I hesitated to try it for so long but that stuff is miraculous. 

[shauni27]

mrsgoontz, tell me of this corn starch miracle? What did you do, make a paste with it? How long did you leave it on? alllll the deets, please.

[pandora89]

E is one month tomorrow! Time is really flying by.

I have mastitis, it is awful. I had a bad fever, chills and my head throbs anytime I move. H is back to work so taking care of a new born when I felt like that was lots of fun. I picked up the antibiotics so I hope that helps things, fast.

I think I am done breastfeeding/pumping. E still won’t latch and so I’m pumping round the clock and constantly have clogs. I also hate being attached to a pump. I cried all day about this today because I really wanted to make it further (at least 6 months). I think I’m going to keep going until Monday. I have a months worth frozen as well so we will give him that and once that’s complete switch him to formula.

[mrsgoontz]

Jun 6, 2018 17:29:50 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

mrsgoontz, tell me of this corn starch miracle? What did you do, make a paste with it? How long did you leave it on? alllll the deets, please.

I’ve seen 2 ways discusses most. We just sprinkled/spread the powder on the red areas after I wiped and patted dry. It keeps them dry like no other. I’ve also read a lot of people will mix corn starch and petroleum jelly together and that works well also.

We just did it with every diaper change. At the time it was more than usual since we were trying to keep him as dry as possible. Now that his rash is gone I will just sprinkle some on him before bed time and he wakes up as dry as the Sahara.

Seriously, his poor bottom was almost blistering and this cleared it up in 36 hours like it was never there.

[loira]

pandora89, you do what's best for you. It can feel so rough in the moment, though. My friend and I recently recorded a podcast about our struggles to breastfeed and even 2 years later it brought up all the emotions. I feel like SO MANY mums in Canada breastfeed (at least on the west coast) and I definitely felt the pressure to keep at it. Luckily my public health nurse was super supportive about switching to formula and gave me a ton of information on it.

[thoseareradishes]

pandora89 , hugs. It's a hard decision. I used soy lecithin for clogs and it helped so much. Just an idea if you want to try something. But obviously, if you are ready to be done, that's a-okay too