Week of June 4

[shauni27]

mrsgoontz, thank you! Sage has, knock on wood, not had any diaper rashes yet, but I want to have ideas on hand!

pandora89, huge, huge hugs. Around 4 weeks is when we started adding bottles and by 6 weeks I was totally done breastfeeding. I did continue to pump just because it was cheaper than buying exclusively formula, but I stopped when I returned to work at 12 weeks. It was the BEST decision. I was in tears constantly trying to get him to nurse right and it made things so difficult. I felt like I couldn't leave the house. Honest to god I was miserable and I totally sympathize with what you are going through. At first it was really hard for me to stop, because like you, I wanted to breastfeed for at least a few months, but once I did, it just freed me up and made me a much happier person, better mom and more enjoyable wife (lol). I wish you peace and good luck with whatever you decide to do. And please, feel free to PM me if you need additional support.

[shauni27]

guys. S sleeps SO well at home. He will usually do an eleven to twelve hour night and then AT LEAST an hour nap in the morning (usually closer to 2) and then another 2 hour nap in the afternoon. He is so good at this.

But at daycare? He just DOES NOT NAP. Yesterday he took one 15 minute nap. The day before he took a 30 minute nap. I am so frustrated. He is fine and happy and dandy at school but then he gets home and he is a bear. He will fall asleep on the drive home and I let him sleep for about 30 minutes once home because he clearly needs it. But it is frustrating because we hardly get time with him at night before he goes to bed anyway.

I wish there was a solution. I love love love our daycare but MAN I wish they had babies nap in a different room.

[ivy]

Jun 7, 2018 7:26:34 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

guys. S sleeps SO well at home. He will usually do an eleven to twelve hour night and then AT LEAST an hour nap in the morning (usually closer to 2) and then another 2 hour nap in the afternoon. He is so good at this.

But at daycare? He just DOES NOT NAP. Yesterday he took one 15 minute nap. The day before he took a 30 minute nap. I am so frustrated. He is fine and happy and dandy at school but then he gets home and he is a bear. He will fall asleep on the drive home and I let him sleep for about 30 minutes once home because he clearly needs it. But it is frustrating because we hardly get time with him at night before he goes to bed anyway.

I wish there was a solution. I love love love our daycare but MAN I wish they had babies nap in a different room.

My DD did the same exact thing. She was a TERRIBLE napper at daycare but did well at home after she was 8 months or so. She fell asleep on the way home every afternoon and it was a challenge to keep her awake past 6:30 every night. It turned around about a year ago when she was ~16 months or so. In her case, I think it was because they moved from the infant to the toddler room and they have their own cots with blankets from home and they were finally ALL on the same sleep schedule. It's hard when some are awake and others are trying to sleep. She just couldn't adjust to the noise. I wish I had something more helpful to offer than wait it out. It's tough mama. 

[scm1011]

Hugs, pandora89. Mastitis is AWFUL. If you want to continue breastfeeding, have you sought help from a LC to help with latch? Pumping is brutal and I don't blame you for not wanting to deal with that exclusively. If you're just done that's ok, too. You already gave E so much by pumping this first month, and having such a stash to use going forward is amazing! Don't feel guilty if you want to quit. You're doing great, mama.

[scm1011]

shauni27 I had the exact same experience as ivy with daycare naps. C also barely napped in the infant room (it was often 15-20 minutes in the morning, 15-30 minutes in the afternoon, or maybe one short nap all day), but once he moved up to toddlers he started napping like a champ (2-3.5 hours in the afternoon). So as frustrating as it is, you might just need to ride it out. I know what its like to have minimal time on weekday evenings, hugs.

[cactuscookie]

Man, I had the exact same experience with daycare naps in the infant room. I had no idea it was so common! It seems like they should come up with a different system if it isn't working for so many babies.

Like everyone else, the solution was just moving her up to the room with the 1-year-olds, where all the kids napped at the same time.

[thoseareradishes]

If your kid had a 15 month appt, did they get any shots? What about 18 months?

[pooh8402]

Jun 7, 2018 14:29:48 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

If your kid had a 15 month appt, did they get any shots? What about 18 months?

15 no, 18, I think so?

[King26]

Jun 6, 2018 17:39:58 GMT -5 pandora89 said:

E is one month tomorrow! Time is really flying by.

I have mastitis, it is awful. I had a bad fever, chills and my head throbs anytime I move. H is back to work so taking care of a new born when I felt like that was lots of fun. I picked up the antibiotics so I hope that helps things, fast.

I think I am done breastfeeding/pumping. E still won’t latch and so I’m pumping round the clock and constantly have clogs. I also hate being attached to a pump. I cried all day about this today because I really wanted to make it further (at least 6 months). I think I’m going to keep going until Monday. I have a months worth frozen as well so we will give him that and once that’s complete switch him to formula.

I could only breastfeed 6 weeks and was super upset about it. However, after crying about it for a week I realized both j and I were so much better off and we were both happier. It's hard. Hugs

[King26]

Hey ladies,

Haven't checked in I'm a few weeks. Life is crazy because it's the end of the school year. J is 9.5 months old and is crawling everywhere! He has just one little tooth which kills me. I feel like we may be in a bit of a sleep regression but he was waking just once a night which is great but has been up early in the monring. I'm glad I'm getting to check in and see how everyone is doing!! I hope since next week is my last week of school I'll be on more often.

[pandora89]

Thanks everyone, I cried again reading everyones responses. Now that I have started the antibiotics and have started to feel better, I am second guessing quitting right away. I think I am going to go until 6 weeks and re-evaluate then. I have to be on the antibiotics for 10 days and it's better to keep feeding/pumping to alleviate the pressure so might as well take it a few more days.

[dellabear]

pandora89, I really struggled with BFing my first child and my doctor referred me to a lactation clinic. They really helped. If you want to keep going I really suggest either a lactation dr/consultant. If you don't, that's totally cool too. I personally hated pumping with a passion so I know how you feel. Hugs.

[dellabear]

R turned 2 this week, where does the time go?! We went on a weekend trip to Jasper, my BFF flew out to join us, and it was lovely. No sign of Harry and Meghan though. Hah

We're still in limbo over moving back home. I have a job offer but am trying to negotiate relocation. In the meantime I've interviewed for a promotion in another city with a much lower COL and better prospects for DH so we may end up there instead. But it's a bit nerve wracking to go somewhere completely new. What if we hate it? So sick of limbo! We've been contemplating this move since January.