Don't come home without that truck. And I better get a heads up if I have to drive you 1 1/2 hours away to pick up a truck after I get off work.
Signed, over it.
DH again,
Yelling at DS because he needed a towel was unnecessary. I am not sure what life lesson you are trying to teach with a towel. Plus, I have done the same thing and got mad because someone took the last towel. Pick your battles.
Signed, not on your side
Dear Target/or myself,
Admittedly, I have not bought new curtains in a while. But why when I buy a product with a picture of 2 full curtains on it, and it is very expensive, so you would assume there are 2 curtains in it, I get home, one curtain. I now see in teeny tiny print, one panel. Now I have a mad kid with one curtain.
Dear DH, Thank you for finally seeing the light and joining the 21st century! Getting a smartphone with text messaging is a big step. Thank you for realizing that our communication issues often stem from the fact that you are completely inaccessible when I need you. I'll try to just take this win and not focus on the fact that you also just really want to use Instagram more now that your students showed you how to use it and you can't on your giant tablet. A win is a win. Signed, Grateful wife
Dear coworkers, Bear with me. This is my first go round with a new project and it's not going to be perfect. Just take a chill pill, please? Thanks, Stressed
Post by covergirl82 on Jun 20, 2018 9:17:22 GMT -5
Dear Costco,
Thank you for adding a 2-day delivery for household and non-perishable food items and offering free delivery for purchases of $75+. (Because who doesn't typically spend at least $75 at Costco?) You even exceeded my expectations by delivering it the next day.
Signed, Happy lady who was down to her last roll of paper towel (but who didn't have time to drive an hour (round trip) to the nearest Costco and didn't want to pay more elsewhere)
Dear Kids - It's so early in the summer. It's not even technically summer yet, I suppose. Can you please get along? I'm tired of the fighting. I want to do so many fun things with you, but we will do absolutely nothing if you can't get along. Love, Mommy
Dear DD1- We're out of the awful school, and moving to the awesome school. I miss my nice girl. The thoughtful, considerate one that I love so much. She's been replaced by a mean girl, and I don't like it. So now that you're out of the environment, let's go back to being a nice person, OK? I'll help you as long as you're not screaming at me. Love, Mommy
Dear DH - I keep telling you that I need more attention than an a$$ grab and you asking me what I'm doing later in order to "turn it on". You ignore me until you're ready for action. I don't work that way. I've been very direct with you. You're not listening. Also tired of the dry spell
Dear DS, I am rearranging my work times (and so is DH) to not have you sit at a super boring camp after and before care for a long time. Please be nicer when I pick you up. Love, Mom who is trying
Dear DD, Please stop fake crying, I will not respond to it, and neither with dad. Love, No more crocodile tears
k3am - let me know if you find out how to get a new servicer. Ours keeps putting our payment into a forbearance account and sending us a letter daily. Their statements have random payment amounts that we didn’t make on them, on the wrong dates. None of their numbers true up and there are tons of reversed payments. My bank account shows a payment each month and a catch up payment for an off cycle escrow reset they didn’t communicate to us. No idea why they show five payments this month and two additional payments and reversals, or why they aren’t applying the money to our loan. My bank account shows one payment that matches the actual payment amount. DH called and they said they received the payment and there’s no issue with our loan. No answer on the letters or statement - like zero understanding of the issue and why things don’t match, “it’s fine though” from them. If they do something insane like push us into foreclosure I am going to sue the everloving S out of them.
Dear Me You need to find something that is just for you. That doesn't involved DD, DH, or the Dog that happens at least once a week. Burnt out Me
Dear DH I was hoping after therapy last night you would talk a little. But no you sat and said not a word all night. Then I'm trying to take my pills and you start unbuttoning my pjs which I got pissed about. Zero to 60 isn't my thing especially when the house is full of elephants. Wife who is going to snap soon and force you to talk which never actually helps but will cause the elephants to get smaller.
Dear DD I'm glad you had more fun at work with me than you did at Ad Club but no you have to go back to Ad Club as mommy needs to work with only her work hat on today. Mommy who needs a break
Dear Dog Why are you being so needy? It is too hot for you to want to snuggle with me in bed. I love you to pieces but give me some space, okay. Dog mom
I’m going to be gone a week. I promise the 200 year old company will be fine without me. Please, for the love of all that is holy, chill out.
Sincerely, Employee Who Needs a Break Badly
Dear Family:
I need this vacation to be awesome. I’m falling into a funk and I really need everyone to pull together for me. I don’t ask you for much. But I’m telling you: I need this. So no fighting, no making things tougher than they need to be, no talking things to death. Just fun and easy sailing.
Mom/Wife/DIL
Dear Daughter:
Oh, you are definitely my child. And yes, we can pack your clothes tonight for our trip that starts on Friday. No, you cannot pack toys yet. Because once they are packed, the bag is Off Limits.
twinmomma, I hope your DH's new smartphone helps with his communication issues. 186momx who's H still can't respond to text messages
Dear mommyatty, work Leave the lady alone and let her have a vacation. I bet if you do she will come back being 100% happier. If you don't she is going to come back like a cranky vengeful bear. Also in need of a vacation
Dear DS2, Where did my happy little sleeper go? It used to be so easy to get you to bed at night. Now you fight and cry most of the time and then are wide awake from 3-5 am. What happened? I wish you could tell me. Signed, For the love of g*d, please go the f$@! to sleep and stay that way tonight
Dear DS1, Why do you get up at 6am when I am trying to sneak out of the house to go to work? And why are you so chipper and happy when you get up? Signed, How do I bottle that?
Dear DD, Thanks for being daddy's late evening buddy. Momma has been so tired and falling asleep on the couch at 8:30 the past few nights. I'm glad you guys have some video games to bond over. Signed, I'm glad you sleep in too
Dear DH, Thanks for bearing with me as I try to get in shape. And thanks for not minding that I switched my workouts to the evening since DS1 has been up at night. There are only 35 days left in this exercise program and I plan on making it up to you. Love, Your very appreciative wife
Dear self, I'm proud of you for sticking to this exercise program and seeing the progress. It's not always easy, but we are committed to finishing what we started! Signed, You got this!
Dear DD, Chill. Please. I can’t handle your almost painful amped up personality. Yes, the sitter is a boy. Yes, he’s tall and cute and has good hair. No, he will never be interested in a ten year old. Just be yourself and play like a normal kid, pleeeaaassseee!
Love, Mom who sometimes can’t believe your little .... quirks
Dear DH, If you put on the google calendar that you are working late, don’t be surprised that the kids and I have other plans. You KNEW DS had soccer practice last night - having a snit fit when we weren’t home was ... bizarre. Then today being upset when DS told you yes you can watch a documentary with him but only after his date with mommy, it doesn’t make sense. We have LIVES! We don’t just sit here and pine for you - it shocks me that you really thought we did?? Also, yes ham sandwiches and fruit salad are dinner sometimes. How is that different than buying a sandwich for dinner at Panera? Which, by the way, better stop! If we have to eat at home so do you.
Wife who can’t wait for you to travel next week (and again, yes we will be out every night next week until 9 - the fact that you seem unable to process that, when we do it every year, boggles my mind).
Post by covergirl82 on Jun 20, 2018 14:29:51 GMT -5
2chatter, has your H's therapist mentioned Borderline Personality Disorder or Narcissistic Personality Disorder? Because thinking the world revolves them and a lack of concern for how their behavior impacts others are hallmarks of those disorders.
Post by traveltheworld on Jun 20, 2018 15:26:36 GMT -5
Dear DS,
Having you call me at work to complain that Daddy ate all the food that the nanny made for lunch and you now have no lunch was hilarious. Especially since Daddy was right.there. You'd think the two of you would have this "Daddy WFH" thing figured out by now. It's been a year.
Signed, Amused mom
Dear DD,
I love how much you talk. I really do. But please take a break once in a while. Between your brother and you, I feel like I'm going insane.
covergirl82 - no idea as he doesn’t discuss therapy with me at all. It’s possible though. I’m 99% sure my ExH is NPD. So, apparently that’s my type. I act as if he is and we live our lives and he can join in - my niece was here Monday night when he got home and then a neighbor came over and one of the kids had a friend over and DH was all kinds of .... something (between annoyed and amazed) and our lives.
The thing that drives me the craziest about DH is that he is a picky food snob, but not that snobby. No fast food or chain restaurants for the most part, Jimmy Johns is OK, but Panera is not. Makes no sense.
But yeah so for sports nights if he is home, I still have to think of something or in general. I think I had this discussion already that if I ask after lunch that is too soon. So I don't ask until a minimum of 4pm. So yesterday he acts all inconveniences because I defrosted chicken, doesn't want chicken, but doesn't want to answer questions about what he wants for dinner even though it is 5:30. So he finally decides on hot dogs.
I typically meal plan and we just do it, but this week since we had lot of food leftover and are going on vacation, I didn't want to buy for meals just lunches when I grocery shopped. So today I defrosted ground turkey since chicken was obviously a problem, and see what he wants to make for that? Not sure since we had tacos already and the plan is for tortellini tomorrow. Maybe pasta tonight and tacos tomorrow? And now with sports, yes we can't cook a full dinner and take DS to baseball and sit their the whole time. If he is home one of us goes and one of us cooks. If he isn't home, then I take a picnic and if kids are still hungry after the picnic they microwave chicken nuggets.
So I guess my letter to DH is:
Dear DH,
Stop being so grumpy and picky about food. Be nice when we ask you what you want for a meal, Ok? Because we are only being nice because you are so grumpy otherwise it would be you get what you get, and well you throw fits about food, so that part doesn't work. And also, I think it is because of your parents, so yes they are nice people now but their parenting skills were not so great, so lets not hold them up as models.
2chatter, My SIL once told me a good therapist should be contacting other family members and getting intel on their patient. If it is a survey or just asking if there is anything you would like them to discuss. That the therapist can't tell you what they talk about or are working on but if he/she only gets info from just the patient then they are only getting one side of the story. This was so obvious the one time I met with DH's therapist and I got thrown under the bus. I'm this controlling witch who won't let him do anything without my permission and doesn't allow him time to do any of his hobbies or have downtime and have grandiose expectations. Yes taking the sheets out of the dryer when they are dry and putting them on our bed is too high of an expectation LOL. Which is just one of the reason I don't like DH's therapist.
Post by erinshelley21 on Jun 20, 2018 20:15:19 GMT -5
Dear college friend, You just might get your way this time and have a new producer to add to your team. Signed, I wish I was as certain about my potential as you are
Dear DH, I appreciate you being completely okay with whatever I decide to do as long as I do something. I do wish you would tell me if you think I could really be successful at this job if given a honest chance like this. I know you don't like to say things one way or another though so I can make my own decision and that it doesn't mean you don't care. Love, your wife who is really lucky to have you P.S. thanks for letting me go workout this evening. Sorry your moms tractor is trying to kill you right now.
Post by supertrooper1 on Jun 20, 2018 21:23:48 GMT -5
Dear self, Learn how to count so when you have to inventory items, it doesn't take you twice as long as it should. Signed, Counting 71 boxes shouldn't be that hard.
Dear SIL, When your brother tells you that there is no news on your mother (who is in the hospital again, btw), the appropriate response is not complaining about how your air conditioning broke at your house today. And when your brother tells you that neither of those things are related and he doesn't care about your air conditioning, the next appropriate response is not that you haven't had time to call your father because it is too darn hot in your house. Signed, WTF?
Dear DS2, Thanks for sleeping all night last night, but why does 5:30 am have to be your new wake up time? I wouldn't mind so much except that you are very cranky in the morning. Why don't you sleep a little longer? You might not be so cranky then. Love, Momma
Dear mother nature, Thanks for unleashing your fury in the form of 2+ inches of rain in an hour on my neighborhood. There was so much flooding and roads collapsing that it took me a while to find some roads that I could drive on to get to work. Luckily, I live on a hill so no flooding on my street. Signed, How do we get back on your good side?
Dear Kids - It's so early in the summer. It's not even technically summer yet, I suppose. Can you please get along? I'm tired of the fighting. I want to do so many fun things with you, but we will do absolutely nothing if you can't get along. Love, Mommy
Dear DD1- We're out of the awful school, and moving to the awesome school. I miss my nice girl. The thoughtful, considerate one that I love so much. She's been replaced by a mean girl, and I don't like it. So now that you're out of the environment, let's go back to being a nice person, OK? I'll help you as long as you're not screaming at me. Love, Mommy
Dear DH - I keep telling you that I need more attention than an a$$ grab and you asking me what I'm doing later in order to "turn it on". You ignore me until you're ready for action. I don't work that way. I've been very direct with you. You're not listening. Also tired of the dry spell
I see your husband has the same seduction techniques that mine has.
Dear colleague, It was totally unprofessional of you to just randomly extend your 1.5 week vacation into 2.5 weeks midway through because of “flight changes”. But I have to say, things have run so much smoother around here in your absence. With you gone, the rest of your team actually steps up and gets things done, whereas when you’re here your “it’s all good” attitude to everything leads them to just shrug and not deal with issues. Plus meetings have been so much better without you randomly babbling nonsense. Signed, You really don’t have to come back