So DH drives 1 1/2 hours to look at a truck and takes DD with him. I call them at lunch. Do we have a truck? No. It had scratches like a cat walked all over it. Typical DH response since this truck business has been going on for years now.
I get home and ask DD, where is your dad and DS. She says they are on the 4 wheelers. Ok. So then DS txted DD asking do we have everything for hamburgers for supper? And I'm like, do not even tell me that fool took my son on a 4 wheeler on a main road to the store. Then a massive rainstorm starts. So I am like, now he has got him stuck out in the rain on 4wheelers, he's a goner when he gets back. I am blowing up both phones with no response. Then a truck pulls in, so is somebody brining them home? And why is my garage door going up? Apparently, the entire family thought it would be funny to surprise me, which they did. Considering I walked past the open detached garage door 3 times not noticing both 4 wheelers where still home.
So now I am the owner of a mammoth Toyota Tundra that looks like a semi. We both got raises this week, me an unexpectedly good one, so I feel like they are spent before I even got it.
DD's contribution to the conversation with DH, "Mom called you and idiot."
I had asked a couple weeks ago about vacation ideas departing from Chicago.
I had been leaning towards Michigan, but my sister has done a few trips to that area already and suggested Milwaukee instead. So now the plan is to go to Milwaukee for a couple nights and meet up with our cousin, then rent a cabin at a nearby Jellystone campground (chain campground with a pool and lots of kids activities) for a couple nights. My parents are camping snobs who stuck to state and national parks, so I’ve never been to one of these corporate campgrounds.
Post by supertrooper1 on Jun 21, 2018 8:20:14 GMT -5
In the last week, I have had 2 people email me about upcoming job opportunities. Both of these people would have no clue that I'm burned out in my current job and am looking for a change. One job would be for a supervisor position, but I would lose my law enforcement retirement. The other one is with a sister agency and I'm going to apply. It's a female only announcement. The downside is I would probably have to spend 6 months in Georgia at school, which I don't think DH would want to do. And I don't want to be away from DS that long. Off to work on my resume...
MIL is back in the hospital. Her UTI wasn't getting any better after 3 days of antibiotics and she was starting to hallucinate again, so off she went on Tuesday. I have suggested that palliative care might be an option for MIL. DH is going to visit her today to talk with FIL and the doctor about it. FIL is beside himself. MIL can't eat unless FIL feeds her, so he feels the need to be there all day long.
In other news, my neighborhood and the surrounding communities got slammed by torrential rains and flooding last night. There are many roads that are impassible, including a major one by my house. The trolley line is also closed until further notice. No idea when any of this will be cleaned up.
I suggested that DH talk about some of our marital issues in therapy and got told that it was none of my business what goes on between him and his doctor. OK. Apparently he told her our marriage is awesome and no problems anyway. The reason- is not because our marriage is awesome. It is OK/ good, but has it's good points and bad points. But the reason is because he is so obsessed with himself and his career, so the marriage part doesn't even register to him.
So the update for twerks is that today I asked if he would take the kids to camp and he did his typical snotty response. Yes, DW super sarcastic. Like dude, I can't read your mind and why the sarcasm anyway, since I plan my entire schedule around your career and plans for your day anyway. So no progress on that.
We are going on our trip next week, so hopefully that will be good.
Post by erinshelley21 on Jun 21, 2018 10:04:29 GMT -5
Met with college friend that has his own agency yesterday. He made me a really good offer that is going to be hard to turn down. WFH, come into the office at least 1-2 days/month (more if I want just for socialization since that's part of my problem right now), and he would hand me business to maintain as he gets it because he doesn't have time for it. All of his staff he has worked with previously at another agency and they have either left that agency to come work with him or come out of retirement to work for him. We have the same idea of what our job as an agent in terms of advising and quality vs selling and quantity. He also takes care of most of the overhead which is what is holding me back from continuing where I'm at.
Now I just need to figure out how to get out of where I'm at and still sleep at night if this is what I end up doing. I've been burned by agents twice and don't want to do that to someone else. Both of those times though I didn't have a contract as the agency owner so I didn't have any argument to fight it. Now I'm the agent without a contract and can just start walking with most of my book. I would leave about 25% of it where it is because I don't want the headaches those accounts create.
I told him I need some time to think. My school district had an opening that interests me as well as our county both with decent hours. Not sure what the pay and benefits would be. So, we will see.
My broken toe still hurts. I've done 4 treatments now so hoping I see some change soon.
We were able to get DD1 into a different summer program for two weeks. They go swimming twice per week and she's going to bring a coloring book for those times. It's times like these that I'm thankful she can adapt to new situations easily and is a social butterfly. She waved goodbye the first day, took off and is making new friends. She's still bummed about no swimming, limited activities and misses her friends at camp but she's taking this like a champ. Her cast is covered in signatures and pictures and she's checking off the days on her calendar but no big complaints. I hope her arm will be healed for our vacation next month. She was asking me about having dots on her arm and leg after I picked her up last night and were they hives. She didn't eat anything with milk but now I'm nervous about how diligent the counselors are being with food around her.
DD1 did get excused from the last week of school. The mom that I had a confrontation with over my accusing her daughter of being mean reached out and asked where we’d been. I told her that there had been some additional incidents with students and the teacher that the school was unwilling to deal with, so she was excused for the year.
Then she asked if DD wanted to have a a play date with her daughter. The one that would get up and leave her to sit alone at lunch. The one that announced that DD couldn’t use her bat, in front of everyone, but let the rest of the softball team use it. The one that told DD that she would only be her friend of DD gave her all of her hatchimals.
I replied with “I hope you guys have a good vacation. I’m looking forward to getting my old kid back. After this year she’s worried and unsure of herself. She needs to understand that friendship doesn’t come with strings - she doesn’t have to give away her things for people to like her, and that true friends won’t demand that or hurt her physically. And a good teacher doesn’t bully. It’s sad that we have so much work to do in order to undo the year.“
mae0111 - was that still too indirect for the not so smart mom to understand? Or does she want to use your DD to teach her DD how to behave, because she knows her DD is the problem, but saying that is hard? Regardless, keep on keeping on - but seriously, I have to know what this woman knows/doesn’t know.
I have no TWERKS except that DS's hand-waving thing has subsided a bit. But I also just got notified that his neurology appointment has been scheduled. Debating whether to still go. I'll probably still keep the appointment since it's not till end of August and just see where things are at by then.
My other TWERK/random - DH is eating crackers for me right now. I'm not sure why. I feel bad because he is a great husband and Dad. But...everything he does just annoys me.
DH is eating crackers for me. I get he has a lot going on his parents divorcing, parents decline in health both physical and mental, grandma passing, over booked at work, his much looking forward to hike being cancelled but he refuses to talk about everything and it is just sitting there festering. Therapy was no help Tuesday and I'm loosing my shit. DD is acting out, the dog is extra needy, DH is being a toddler, and I really need a break. So when he asks what's for dinner after I get home from gym and he had been home for 2 hours I got snippy and then when I said it was ready he let his eggs sit and get cold as he figured I would bring it to him. He hang out outside after DD went to bed so I could have space but it wasn't the space I needed as the elephant was still in the damn house. Both DD and I are very happy he leaves tomorrow right after work to go to his paintball tournament and shoot people all weekend. I just hope he comes back in a better mood.
I'm supposed to finally get my dishwasher fixed tomorrow morning! No dishwasher for 5 weeks has been a killer.
186momx - having a functional dishwasher is like nothing else after not having one. It’s very first world problem for me to say that, but ours was installed last week and it’s changed my stress level, for real.
And our new one has lights. That I never knew even existed and now I don’t think I could live without.
We just got news that someone passed away at work. She was in a supporting organization. I know she was a bit on the unhealthy side, and had just had pneumonia, but she was only in her 60's and had a daughter and granddaughter. I don't get why she had to die.
Looking for adulting help.... DH and I have always been paid on the first and fifteenth. That remains my schedule, but DH is now paid on the 8 and 22nd. All of our bills are aligned to the first and fifteenth.
Does it make sense that this is an issue? It’s really that his check on the 8th should cover the mortgage and insurances and auto due on the first, and my check plus the remainder of his is what we live on. I can’t cover all of the fixed expenses with my check on the first. The check on the 22nd covers all the expenses against the 15th and is where we fund sitters and kids expenses and we have always had enough carry over, and now we don’t. His pay cut came down to $200/month so we would not even really notice that.
I can’t get my head around this. I need all the money to come in at one time to align to when bills are due. Or the payments need to move to be aligned to a different date. Or they can come at different dates but be due in line with HIS checks and not mine as we would then have all income in the account at the same time. Or?? This is making me crazy.
2chatter, for one month, forego anything that goes into savings. Then treat his check on the 22nd as matching with your check that comes on the 1st and the one on the 8th as matching the 15th. So you’ll have to kind of stutter-step, but then you’ll be back on track.
2chatter , personally I would start moving due dates on some of the bigger bills. We pay our mortgage on the 16th for example, and have any date I think between the 1st and the 20th to choose to pay it. Some of them maybe you can't move, but I would check and see what can be moved and what can't. I would align them more with his paycheck at least the bigger ones.
Even if I had extra money that mommyatty suggested (and I would keep that in checking), I would find it annoying that the bills are not lined up with the paychecks the way that I want them to be.
2chatter, for one month, forego anything that goes into savings. Then treat his check on the 22nd as matching with your check that comes on the 1st and the one on the 8th as matching the 15th. So you’ll have to kind of stutter-step, but then you’ll be back on track.
This is what I would do.
Another option is you can have everything deposited into a savings or money market then transfer the amount needed to cover the bills. This is what I would prefer to do but DH and I were getting paid every week which is nice in some ways but also sucks too. But my idea behind it at one point was once that savings account would have a maximum balance that I would allow. Once it hit, say 3000 or something, the extra would be moved to our actual savings.