Post by covergirl82 on Jun 27, 2018 7:08:38 GMT -5
Dear phone,
Why did you have to go and die last night, when I've only had you 6 months?
Sincerely, I won't be getting another Google Pixel 2
Dear Verizon,
I'm not going to be a pleasant customer today if you don't work with me to get me a great deal on another phone. You've been warned.
Sincerely, Hell hath no fury like a mom without her phone
ETA - Update: The Verizon person was able to get it to restart in a diagnostics mode and then run some system cleanup because apparently it was "overloaded" or something. She said if it happens again, I just need to contact her and she'll send me a warranty replacement. Whew! Glad it was a relatively easy fix.
Dear Self - You need to let go of your anger. There is nothing that you can do about what happened to DD over the past school year. The parents of the kids don't care. The teacher doesn't care. The principal doesn't care. The administration doesn't care. We're done with the school system, and on to better things. But you're letting them all get to you. You haven't been able to sleep well in months, and it's affecting every aspect of your life. Let. It. Go. Self
Dear New School Event - Please go well tonight. I'm hoping for lots of kids and lots of friendly faces. Despite only a few hours of sleep again, I will put my best foot forward. I need this to go well. Anxious New Parent
Dear Potential New Client - You're contacting me at the worst possible time! I totally wanted to work with you in April, but now we're running into back-to-back difficult weeks with a vacation, DH's work travel, and no camp scheduled for my kids. I will do my best to make it work, but I may need you to be a little patient! Signed, I know I can help you, I just need to carve out the time.
Dear DH, Could you please pick up the house today and do some dishes? I know you're just getting back into the summer vacation groove and you're going through some weird moody shit, but I can't be the only one dealing with chores when I roll in from work and you've been home all day. It's not fair or sustainable. Signed, Tired mom
Dear PTA, After last night's marathon meeting, I'm getting nervous. I might have been crazy when I signed up to be on the board. I'm not a stay at home mom like the rest of you. This PTA world is not built for working parents. I really hope I don't hate the school year. Signed, Feeling overwhelmed
ETA: Dear WP, I don't know what to do about my kids and an ADHD diagnosis. We absolutely see signs of it my kids, DD2 especially. Close friends and family who work in special ed think it's too early to get a diagnosis. But our pediatrician is pushing hard to get them screened, even though school hasn't brought it up yet. DH wants to just do what the pediatrician says, but I don't think he's looking at the long term implications of a diagnosis that we jump the gun on. If we didn't have close family telling us no, I'd probably just do what the pedi recommends. But when I balance the pedi recommendations with the input from the resources we have available who see my kids all the time, I get stuck. I have no idea what to do next. I feel totally overwhelmed and conflicted. Signed, Stuck
I'm team "wait" on a diagnosis, but I'll caveat that with my confession that I have a different view on healthcare than what is typically popular. Have you considered trying diet changes (e.g., reduce/eliminate food dyes and sugar)? I've heard that sometimes diet changes can help ADHD. There is a book titled "Cure Your Child With Food" by Kelly Dorfman that might be worth checking out.
twinmomma, My DH and I went through the same thing with our DD. She had some signs of ADHD in Kindergarten. At her yearly check up during that summer, we mentioned our concerns to the pedi - lack of focus, defiance, fidgeting, not getting her work done. She gave us some surveys to give to her teachers. We ended up holding off on the surveys because we didn't want to cloud the teachers' views on DD. Instead, we waited until the parent-teacher conference to ask them if they saw any indicators. They didn't have any concerns, so we let it go. I figured that they would know my child pretty well at that point since they spent several hours a day with her. Pedi was ok with that. Pedi also told us to make rules about getting school work done and sticking to them. Once we set the expectations with DD, she has done a lot better. She still has periods where she doesn't get her school work done, but some talking and punishment get her back on track.
Post by justcheckingin73 on Jun 27, 2018 9:37:12 GMT -5
twinmomma, when I joined the PTA as Secretary, there was a whole new board and everyone had a ton of ideas and of course wanted to make their mark. I sat quietly as I knew 50-75% of those ideas would never happen. But the 2+ hour meetings is what got to me the most. I did my one year and got out. There is no reason for meetings that long.
Dear Coworker,
I realize you were on PTO yesterday but your lack of urgency around the monitor issue at the event that I had to take care of is annoying. I was the one dealing with the emails from the team yesterday and this morning. I had to pay for the rental and now you’ll “look into it”. I’m sure you’ll come up with some great excuse as to how the hotel messed up the order. I’ll believe it when I see the initial receipt of the order from you which I don’t think exists. Because what I think happened is that they didn’t respond to your email and you forgot. Like usual. I’m mad but also worried as I know you’re on a performance plan and one mistake could be it for you. I don’t want to see you get fired but I’m also sick of doing your job.
Signed, Get it together!
Dear Back,
What is wrong with you? It doesn’t feel like sciatica but it’s above my butt on the right side. It might be a muscle strain but it hurts and I don’t want it to impact my running.
twinmomma, I would wait. FWIW, our ped asked us to work on behavior over the summer and see how the start of 1st grade goes with a different teacher before doing an eval.
Dear DH,
Stop calling me Mom. It grates on every last nerve when the little humans are already saying mom, mom, mom, mom all day long.
Dear airline, A five hour delay with three of it sitting on the tarmac before deplaning was not acceptable. I fly a lot with you, please get it together. Signed, I like my miles but this was unacceptable
twinmomma, I think most kids get a diagnosis around 6-7 years old. Are they having problems in school? If so, you could get a 504. If not, then I don’t see a problem waiting.
I am proactive and tend to push for answers and sometimes there can be long wait times at providers. On the other hand some of that kind of testing needs the kids to be at a certain cognitive level. I think I would trust the pedi if the pedi thought they were old enough for a diagnosis.
Are they the youngest in the class? Sometimes kids are thought of as ADHD when really they are just a year behind their peers in age. Those with an August birthday with s September 1 cut off for example.
You have killed my body. My muscles are officially dead. We have walked 30 miles in 3 days with tons of stairs and hills. Everything hurts. I didn’t realize I needed to work out and get in shape for a vacation. Nor did I realize how much walking you would want to do.
I asked my friend who is a nurse if I should be taking DD to the doctor for an injury she got at daycare yesterday. Her response was to wait and see how she feels in a few days because we run the risk of getting reported to CPS for abuse. We thankfully have all the paperwork from school about the accident, multiple witnesses and DDs account of it that all add up, but it’s still a sad commentary on the world today.
Signed, Mom of a kid who took a foot to the vag during water slide day at school and had quite a bit of blood coming from an unknown injury.
PS it’s okay if you laughed reading this. I know it must hurt, but it’s still kinda funny.
I'm sorry about your DD - I hope she's better soon. If it's a daycare center, did they get the injury on video? And I agree with you about a possible CPS visit being a sad commentary on the world. About 8 years ago, a friend's two kids were riding dirt bikes at their house and collided. Both were inpatient in the hospital for a few days. My friend got a visit from CPS, but it was super short. The CPS person could tell within a few minutes that it was truly an accident and it wasn't an abusive or bad living situation. I was also worried about a CPS visit when DS had just turned 4 and he fell out of the top bunk of our travel trailer and we took him to ER because he was exhibiting concussion symptoms. Then a tooth got knocked out a few days later when DS's mouth collided with DH's knee when DH was waiting to catch DS at the bottom of a waterslide (and I called both the pedi and dentist about what we should do). We never got a CPS visit.
DD I'm glad you are having so much fun at gymnastic camp. But when I say bedtime earlier than your normal time can we not have the meltdown. I'm saying bedtime because you are exhausted and the tears and tantrums just prove my point. I was so glad you woke up happy and energized this morning. Love Mom
Dear DH Get over it. I mowed the grass yesterday. It needed to be mowed all weekend and Monday but you weren't available or in the mood. So I did it after I got DD from camp yesterday. It took me 15 minutes! You pouting and all upset over me mowing it when you got home from therapy wasn't needed. Also you bought all this expensive gear for paintball and then choose not to wear it because you were hot. You have a giant goose egg on your head, can't hear out of one ear, and have a hickie sized welt on your neck all from being hit in the head with paintballs. No I'm not going to coddle you because you were stupid and didn't wear the gear to prevent it.
k3am - we have had allllll kinds of injuries - including to private parts - and the only time CPS was called was when DS got stitches on his face and we refused air flight to children’s for some non existent lung issue. He was coughing (because he had screamed for a couple hours and was a toddler) and they did a chest X-ray. They said it was some dire thing and I called my BFF who was pediatric ER nurse and she said an adult doctor read the films and that’s only a thing in adults. In the intervening time Children’s refused the transfer because ... there was nothing on the films. CPS never even made it up there, but I was beyond irate. My dad had died that morning and we had been there 8 hours. I filed a complaint with the hospital.
If you go to your regular doctors I think it will be fine?
I love you but I’m sort of ready for you to be over.
Love, Sick of my MIL
Dear Hilton Head:
I still love you. I promise this hasn’t ruined you for me.
Love, Beach Girl Stuck in Her Condo With Whiny Children and MIL Who is Reading About the Fall of Communism, Aloud, to Her Son Who Won’t Tell Her to Shut the F Up
Post by greenmonkey1 on Jun 27, 2018 14:07:48 GMT -5
k3am If you're concerned I'd take her to your regular pediatrician or maybe see if they could call ahead to the ER/urgent care (not sure if you can do that). It sounds like you have enough documentation that in the event CPS is called it would be cursory. Sadly, some people over-report. I suppose that is better than under reporting and a kid who is really being abused falling through the cracks.
Related story - I used to teach hs with a woman's whose hs aged son played baseball. He was hit with a pitch in the head during practice one day, but had no noticeable injuries so she didn't know. Coach never said anything to her and neither did her son. Later that evening he displayed concussion symptoms so she took him to the ER. Son, being embarrassed, told the ER docs and nurses he didn't know what happened. Mom clearly had no idea what happened. You can imagine what came next. Thankfully neither the cops nor CPS were called because the son finally fessed up to the hospital people, but my coworker said it was awful because they kept treating her like she abused her son. Lots of telling and retelling the story, lots of questions, all in separate rooms from her son. Her son was...a challenge. Very smart and very, very entitled. Mom didn't help with the entitled piece (she fueled it to be honest) so he was not the most pleasant child of a staff member with whom I had to interact.
Somehow I messed up DH’s birthday. He started criticizing me at breakfast because I pay too much attention to the kids on the weekends... OK weird. And then he said I just go shopping at Meijer and Target all the time which isn’t true as I have been to them 2-3 times in a year. So I got hurt, and now he is mad at me for being hurt because it is his birthday. Last time I went to Meijer was to buy space heaters for the house when the heat was out. And I now go to Once Upon A Child to save money on kids clothes instead of Target.
This is kind of in response I think that he just does what he wants at least one day on the weekend, and all of us are supposed to work around him. So his answer to that is that instead of him being aware of other people I should just be selfish like him.
I do really want his birthday to go well so I am not sure how to turn it around. Although it looks like maybe he is napping so maybe it’s just pre nap crankiness.
Beach Girl Stuck in Her Condo With Whiny Children and MIL Who is Reading About the Fall of Communism, Aloud, to Her Son Who Won’t Tell Her to Shut the F Up
Oh no, no, no, no, no mommyatty , run away, run to the beach. Leave the whiny kids with crazy MIL and DH, who seems a bit crazy to sit and listen about the fall of communism on vacation. Take yourself to the beach! Hilton Head is not meant to be spent indoors. Take a cooler, and a book, and a chair, and break free! Kind of like to fall of the wall, since they are on that subject.
Actually, on my crazy MIL vacation, we left the kids in the condo, they were beached out for the day, with crazy MIL and SIL, who seemingly did not like the outdoors. DH and I took a cooler mid afternoon down to the beach. By the time we left the beach early evening, there were no more drinks in the cooler. MIL was a bit more tolerable that evening.
Dear Friends, Let’s have a laid back trip this weekend. The only thing I ask is that we choose where we go with the goal of driving once and walking between bars, venues, etc at night. I don’t want to run all over Austin ISO fun because that isn’t fun. It’s a beat down.
I really want to relax
Dear DD, I am super nervous about your all day trip to the hydrous wake park on Saturday. Please don’t get hurt as I have exactly zero plans to be sober. Yes I will only be an hour away from you. No I don’t want to have that be important. Last year while I was on this trip your sister almost needed stitches and the year before your brother puked. It’s not your turn. If anything happens I will most likely send one of my friends who is local to you or your dad so you won’t even get me for an injury so don’t get injured. Also I was dead effing serious about being in a life jacket all the time. Your autonomic stuff would be super inconvenient in the middle of a lake. The rules aren’t different than the lake house. You seemed to think I wasn’t being realistic and know this - I will kill you if you drown.
Dear Work, I have a family and it is NOT acceptable to work this much. Expected back up and out the house in less than 8 hours on the am. No fair! Signed, I think I'm leaving
Thank you everyone! I really appreciate the support and insight and ideas. I think we'll likely wait until the fall to do anything official, especially since part of the process involves teacher feedback. The first round of parent/teacher conferences is usually in early November, so that seems like a good time to shoot for based on what we hear from the teachers. It does seem like it'll take a while to get on the schedule for the eval, so if we shoot for a date then, we can always cancel.
Dear Firework fanatics New city law says you can only light off the ones you can buy in town on July 3rd & 4th. Lighting off 1 mortar at a time last night that you picked up in Washington last night at 7pm, 8pm, and 8:30. My poor dog was beside herself and I ended up having to give her a pill after the 8pm bang but her shakes and freaking had already kicked in. FYI it wasn't even dark so you just lit them off 1 at a time nicely spaced to avoid detection and to be a jerk. Me who is going to call the police tonight if it happens again and who needs to call the vet for more pills since I only have 4 left and we have days until the 4th when I really will need them.
I’m sorry I thought you were faking it about your eye hurting when it turns out you have an abrasion on your cornea. But remember The Boy Who Cried Wolf? Yeah, that’s you.
Signed, Not MOTY but I DID Take her to Urgent Care
Dear Condo Owner,
Thank you for letting us check out late so DD can hang out here longer and complain about her eye. I really appreciate your flexibility.