Post by erinshelley21 on Jul 11, 2018 6:45:39 GMT -5
Dear WP, The search is over. I'm accepting the job with my friend! My interview went well yesterday and while I would love to work at that company, there is no way the pay will justify the hours, commute, or me being gone 10+ hours per day. According to my timehop, said friend texted me a year ago and asked if I was ready to come work for him yet so that's kind of cool I think. Signed, thanks for being my sounding board
Dear DD, You are 16 months old. Waking up every 3 hours is ridiculous. You're crying it out staring tonight. I hate that it's come to this but mama can't do it anymore. Love, we will all be happier In the end
Dear erinshelley21, Congrats! I'm so happy that you found a good solution after all the stress you've been under. Signed, TwinMomma
Dear work, I'm feeling super pumped and energized with all these new projects! But also... holy moly. This is a lot. Maybe slow it down juuuust a tad? Thanks, Overwhelmed
Dear DH, You do not get to complain that there is no clean underwear for our children when you are the one who is home all day. Wash the laundry? Maybe? Might solve all your issues. I'm glad you realized how ridiculous you sounded last night when I pointed out that you either need to do laundry or go buy more because our kids can't just go commando. Signed, Wife who doesn't get you
Dear kids - Stop. The. Fighting. And the whining. And the tattling. And the teasing. Just be nice to each other and let’s enjoy the rest of our vacation. Mmmmkay?? Love, Mommy
Dear DH - Stop telling me everything I’m doing wrong with the kids. You spent an hour alone with them yesterday and you were ready to pack up and end our vacation. There’s a lot of unlearning that DD1 has to go through. We have made tremendous progress in just a few weeks. Just encourage me. Don’t blame me. Wifey
Dear parents - I’m so sad you’ve accepted an offer to sell my childhood home, but I’m so, so happy you’re dumping a 120-year-old monster that is impossible to maintain. It’s a good choice. Enjoy the next one. Love, Kiddo
I’m not happy you’re not working. I’ve been Googling the issue, checking cables, rebooting and nothing is working. Are you broken? Do you need a new cable? I wish I knew for sure so I don’t waste money buying a new one.
Signed, Marketer, not tech person
Dear DH,
I’m so glad you didn’t do the dishes yesterday. That means I get to find time to do them today. Because Lord knows that I don’t have enough to do during the day with a full time job, making breakfast, lunch and dinner for the kids, taking kids to dentist appointments, and let’s not forget my taxi service for DD and her social life.
You are six. There is no reason for you to be the last person to get ready and out of the house every single morning. You should also be able to do all of your morning stuff without us asking you 100 times.
Love, Mommy who is out of patience
Dear Chiropractor,
I think I love you already. I wasn't sure if I believed in this stuff but I couldn't take the pain any longer and I already feel better after one session.
Signed, Believer
Dear In Laws,
Next time you take the kids for a day, can you let us know what time you're bringing them back home because I don't appreciate it being after their normal bed time. Also, don't appreciate the fact that you had them with alcoholic BIL all day without telling us. Signed, Frustrated
Going on vacation the week that most of the faculty have grants do and not having the college serve as back up is a huge issue. Most of us end up working down to the wire because we are swamped with other things.
Signed, The money that I am applying for funds your salary
Dear DS,
Quit it with the attitude, I only ask 3 times for you to do something before you lose a privilege, we've been doing it this way since you were 2. I don't care if other kids in your summer camp team don't listen. You will listen or you will not get to do fun things. Signed, it isn't this hard
mellym, I was skeptical about chiropractors before I went to one, and now I go once a month. I love it! I feel like it helps me stay healthier, and one leg is slightly shorter than the other, so once I get it adjusted, it alleviates pain without medication.
Post by supertrooper1 on Jul 11, 2018 9:40:28 GMT -5
Dear office mate, I just did more work in the last hour and a half than you have done all week. And I don't need to hear every few minutes about your drama or whether or not you should be volunteering for more OT. Signed, Ready for vacation
Dear period, As much as I dislike you, I'm glad you started now instead of while I'm on vacation. Signed, In need of vacation romance
Dear Little Sis Thanks for giving DD a couple auntie days. She was so excited you were coming over today to do stuff with her. I really hope you are up for her bouncing energy. Enjoy & remember you are teacher and one 7 year old should be easier to deal with than teenagers Big Sis
Dear DD You don't like going to Ad Club you don't like going to work with me as they are both boring. So may I ask what you do want. Gym camp is only 3 weeks a summer 1 week each month. We all have to work and one on one babysitters are too expensive. So you either need to deal or tell me what works better for you as the god awful whiny has got to stop. Mom and school doesn't start until September so lets stop talking about it!
Dear DH Texting saying you have a big mess of steel to clean up after therapy was nice but getting home at 8 and then looking at me like I should have saved you a big plate of dinner wasn't okay. Also freezing me out because why was necessary? Wife
You are almost 6. If you are tired during the day, sleep more at night. Do not take a nap at summer camp. I love you so much, but I don’t want you to be awake when I am falling asleep at 930pm and I don’t want to find you awake and eating all the hard boiled eggs when I get up at 530am. No naps. Sleep at night. Love, Mommy
PS - good job choosing the egg and not the ice cream though. Proud of you on that.
Dear summer camp,
I know you are a daycare center so you’re equipped for most of the kids to take a nap after lunch. But for the love of all things holy, do not let my rising first grader take a 2hr nap ever again.
If there’s gonna be daytime naps, they will exclusively be at home when I can benefit from them.
Post by traveltheworld on Jul 11, 2018 11:32:43 GMT -5
Dear Work,
Please slow down. It's summer. We only get nice weather for a few months, please let me enjoy it with my kids.
Signed, Tired employee
Dear MIL,
I love you. But do you have to scare my child every time DS ends up spending any significant amount of time with you? Last year it was all the talk about death, and this year was all the talk about home alarm systems and break-ins. DS refused to leave my side last night, which made it very difficult to do anything and certainly didn't help my work situation.
Post by greenmonkey1 on Jul 11, 2018 11:47:03 GMT -5
Dear Amazon -
Using local delivery drivers (Uber) who drive personal cars is fine. Maybe a sticker for the windshield or something so that I can identify why there is a car just idling in my driveway? My boys play outside by themselves while the baby naps and we have no fence. I get a little leary when there is a car just sitting there.
Signed, I don't want to lose my quiet time
Dear DS2 -
I get "sneaky is your thing", but could we scale that back? Finding you sitting in the backseat of the car eating coughdrops is not ok. I am trying to effectively parent you without breaking your spirit, but you are making this hard.
Dear Former Employer - I’ve been gone for a year. I gave you 3.5 months notice. You chose not to begin the recruiting process until 2 months after I left. Then, against all advice, you downgraded the job from an SVP to a VP. In Jan, my replacement started. YOU JUST FIRED HIM. I’m not looking so bad now, am I guys? Hugs + Kisses, Wouldn’t come back if you tripled my salary
shakinros, Oh no, naps for big kids are only when parents say so and it needed. I had DD (7) "nap" for an hour yesterday at the office as she was a whiny mess, she didn't sleep but when I said she could get up we both were in a better frame of mind.
Dear Sis Calling me because you are having a hard time getting the pool float to blow up isn't an emergency. big Sis who is shaking her head
Post by erinshelley21 on Jul 11, 2018 15:24:40 GMT -5
186momx, my MIL doesn't understand what constitutes as an emergency either. We were camping with friends and her and my mom were swapping DS and trying to move the carseat. She called DH and began the call with "we have an emergency" which consisted of her not being able to get one of our two carseats out of my mom's car. She has her own seat in her vehicle and didn't need it and like I said, we have 2. That wasn't even CLOSE to an emergency. The other day when she defined the post on our new canopy being dented as a "big problem" even though it still works, I told her I was making a flow chart so she could determine if it was an actual emergency or problem since she clearly can't.
Post by erinshelley21 on Jul 11, 2018 15:28:14 GMT -5
Thank you all for the love. I had an off the record conversation with my BIL who is a client and he informed me off the record he's downsizing his business so I'm off to an awesome start 5 hours in lol.
Post by vavavictoria on Jul 11, 2018 18:29:39 GMT -5
Dear phdmomma tell me about this only telling them something three times. How did you start it? What do you take away if they don’t listen? And is it on the third time or the fourth? My almost 4 year old DD doesn’t listen to a damn thing I tell her and it makes me crazy.
Dear phdmomma tell me about this only telling them something three times. How did you start it? What do you take away if they don’t listen? And is it on the third time or the fourth? My almost 4 year old DD doesn’t listen to a damn thing I tell her and it makes me crazy.
Typically I will ask DS and now DD to do something, like put their shoes on or go to bed no more than three times, if they don’t listen I will count to three. I also warn them of the consequence if they don’t listen. Like for not putting on shoes you don’t get to go one the playset before getting in the car. Or last night DD wouldn’t go upstairs to get ready for bed, just kept playing with her dolls, I asked, then counted, then carried her wailing over my shoulder. If they don’t listen often the consequences lead to tears, but after a few rounds of tears they listen about 90% of the time. I started when DS was 2.5 when we were expecting DD out of panicking about having two kids. I also started with DD around that age. It sucks at first, but now they get it, and know that this is their opportunity to listen, or there will be a consequence. DS is now 6 and DD is 3.5, and it works most of the time. I try not to be emotional when I’m warning them, which helps.
I also warn them about what request it is, ie this is my third and final request, I won’t ask again. You will lose privlidge “x” if you choose not to listen.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Jul 12, 2018 5:16:52 GMT -5
Dear Boss,
I don't want to bother you on your vacation but your refusal to resolve things before you left when I told you - these are the two things we need to resolve before you go...I Just don't know dude.
Signed, Calling you on vacation now.
Dear DS' New School,
That was adorable that you sent him a welcome letter with a gift card to a snow cone place. When he tore the letter open and asked if it had money in it we were confused why he'd ask that and said no...so now he's impossible to live with over his "credit card" that he got in the mail.
Thanks for being welcoming! I'll try to cub my anxiety about cost and everything else now.
Post by covergirl82 on Jul 12, 2018 12:53:30 GMT -5
Dear DCP/friend,
I was not happy to hear that my kids were forced to be outside for almost 3 hours yesterday afternoon in the almost 90 degree heat. Heat is one thing that can trigger DS's migraines. They told me they had to be outside because the babies/toddlers wake up from their naps when the door opens because it squeaks. I've sent books and workbooks for my kids to do during nap time so that they are quiet. This didn't seem to be an issue before you started caring for your grandkids (one baby, one toddler). You are the one who let your daughter live at home with her two kids, so if bedtime is rough if they didn't get a full nap, that is a result of your decision. And the door squeaking issue can be resolved with a few squirts of WD-40. The kids like spending the summer with you, but I'll find another child care option for future years if this continues to be an issue.
Signed, My kids that I pay you to care for are not less important than your grandkids that you watch for free