Ok remember the tax issue. I had posted it was resolved and instead of owing 20K it was 3K. Turns out that was the wrong year. So back to our accountant to file an amended return for the 3K. Still waiting from our tax attorney on the 20K. It was mostly due to DH not doing his IRA rollover paperwork correctly, so while DH wanted to negotiate an amount, I said no fight them on it because most we didn't owe, but I figured we would owe something though.
FF to today, and we get an $800 check in the mail for that year (the correct year) and DH texted a picture to our tax attorney who says yep case closed. Instead of owing 20K, now we got $800 back? I mean good news I will take it, but dang IRS- that's just crazy.
DDOT Question. I forgot what DDOT means, but not my question. So regarding my "infection" turns out it was something like irritant dermatitis. Doctor gave me a potent topical steroid which was 90% effective. But when I stopped the steroid the swelling is starting to come back. I tried calling the doctor 3 times now, and no call back. Which is unusual because they are usually right on top of things. The last call was fine you wont talk over the phone, let me schedule an appointment, and still nothing. I understand holidays and he is OBGYN, so there may be some emergency C-sections etc, so minor swelling is the least of their concerns, but it's been a week and 3 phone calls. What should I do besides keep calling? I feel like I am being a pest and this was his way of saying I can't give you any more steroids so figure it out, but I don't know what to do. An over the counter cortisone cream does nothing, and I don't want to get back to the point it was before and lose the progress we made.
DDOT DD had her well baby visit on 6/15 and I asked about her sinuses as she has had a runny/plugged/snotty nose for a good month. Doctor said to switch up allergy meds. Fast forward to today and she is still constantly plugged up and snotty and the pollen count has gone way down. I've been giving over the counter cold meds off and on but she isn't sleeping well and you can tell her face is puffy and hurts. I'm leery about taking her in to the doctor since she basically blew me off last time and it takes a good week to get in. Any ideas on how to clear her sinuses to make her feel better?
TWERK- DH hasn't talked to his dad or any family since his emergency visit to his dad over the 4th. He was all about sending him to assisted living but now nothing. The whole thing is driving me bonkers and DH is back to being silent and not talking since Tuesday night therapy.
DDOT - DH is vacationing hard this vacation, which means I’m doing all the work. Laundry, meal prep, cooking (unless grilling, but I still do all prep) meal clean up. I’ve made all the daily plans, done all the research for stuff to do. I did all the packing, shopping, and prep. We go home tomorrow. Wonder when my vacation starts...
I told him if it’s time for her that it will be at home (I don’t care what it costs) and it will be the week he is out of town and the kids have camp all day - and I told him it’s because I can’t handle losing my dog AND deal with him, and he said he understood. He KNOWS he’s being a psycho jerk and can’t stop it. Hopefully it sinks in that his wife wants to be alone to grieve because she won’t get to if he’s here.
Next I’m going to tell him that he has to go to therapy. I mean, since he seems agreeable for the moment, might as well.
Post by covergirl82 on Jul 12, 2018 14:55:56 GMT -5
2chatter, I'm sorry about your dog. Hugs to you. I recall that she's been with you a long time and been with you through some rough parts of your life. If it's her time, I hope you are able to have a vet come to your house so she's comfortable and you get a private/personal goodbye.
covergirl82, mommyatty, she just turned 7. She is also getting her two top teeth in and we always seem to get major sinus drainage when she is teething. She blows her nose like a champ so getting the mucus out isn't the problem its her feeling crappy and taking it out on everyone else.
Post by freezorburn on Jul 12, 2018 15:46:44 GMT -5
Lots of drama around my dog this week. Not sure if I mentioned that XH took him back east last fall to live with his parents. Over the weekend he developed an issue with his hind legs and things were looking sketchy for a few days. XH thought he would need to be put to sleep. But a couple days ago the dog started to drink water again and medicine seems to be helping now. He likely has a strained knee ligament and a spinal injury, but hopefully a combination of meds, weight loss, and rest will buy him a little more time. Apparently he gained 10 lbs since going to live with XILs (we used to keep him at 55#). The vet now wants to re-evaluate in 10 days.
I’m supposed to go out there at the beginning of August to take DS to spend the month with his dad. Selfishly, I hope the dog is still well enough that I can get a nice visit with him. But mostly I don’t want him to suffer any longer than he has to.
Post by greenmonkey1 on Jul 12, 2018 16:00:47 GMT -5
waverly Can you call and ask to speak with the nurse (during business hours)? He/she might be able to give you a course of action or at least you can mention you've called three times over x number of days with no response. If that doesn't get you a response I would call and ask to speak with the office manager. Without knowing how the office manages messages it is possible the doctor has not gotten the message (vacation, someone else transcribes messages and forgets to pass it along, etc). Hopefully either the nurse or the office manager can get you some help.
DDOT Our silverware has a habit of going missing, particularly spoons (I am about to replace silverware for the 2nd or 3rd time). Now I wfh/sah and the kids are off for the summer so the only person left is DH. Now, he takes a lunch in whatever is immediately convenient - stack of tuperware/fruit/silverware in his hands/grocery bag/plastic bag/work bag/etc. And his car is a disaster. So it is feasible to think silverware may be getting lost in his car/office or accidentally thrown away. He of course claims he has nothing to do with missing silverware and he has no alternative suggestion for to where our spoons are disappearing. So we have a mystery cutlery thief?
2chatter I'm so sorry. We had to put our dog down on Saturday and it's been horrible. DH is absolutely heartbroken. So is DD. If it needs to happen I hope you can do it the way that is best for you. Hugs.
greenmonkey1, he has a "medical secretary" which I think is really a secretary but she might have a teeny bit of medical training. She makes sure he gets the messages and calls back. I did speak to her once last week in which she apologized because he was coming off a 2 week vacation and the holiday etc. and said she would make sure to give him the message which was Thursday I think. The rest of the time, I only get the voicemail. I will call again tonight or tomorrow I guess, and see if I can speak to a nurse or office manager. They don't really have a nurse like the peds office does, but they have a nurse practitioner, so maybe she would call me back, but the problem is that it is the same medical secretary.
I've always hated their secretaries because most of them never answer their phone make everything go to voicemail and then call you back. Well usually call you back. It usually takes 2-3 phone calls. But this one had been better than most until now. The doctor goes through a lot of them, but I have a feeling it is the office not the doctor that is the problem. Meaning all the doctors go through secretaries quickly. Why not have more front desk staff and less "assigned to a certain doctor staff" and maybe separate appointment making staff than prescriptions like most other offices.
DDOT - DH is vacationing hard this vacation, which means I’m doing all the work. Laundry, meal prep, cooking (unless grilling, but I still do all prep) meal clean up. I’ve made all the daily plans, done all the research for stuff to do. I did all the packing, shopping, and prep. We go home tomorrow. Wonder when my vacation starts...
+1 For once I would like a vacation planned for me. If I left it up to everyone else, we would be in the hotel the entire time. Dh will only do what I plan, but somehow I am too much of a planner. I wish they would drop me out on a trail somewhere so I can just be in charge of myself for a while.
186momx, see if you can get a referral to an ENT. We had to keep a log of DS's "sick" days before they were willing to admit that it wasn't just a handful of illnesses and an actual bigger problem.
Update- OBGYN called back. Secretary put me on hold to ask the dr (which means she never asked a week ago) and then the call dropped somehow. 😡 I called back and got a prescription and appointment.
186momx- have you seen an allergist? She may need something stronger than OTC allergy medicine. And she may be allergic to something other than pollen. I’m allergic to grasses and mold spores. When everyone else goes “aaaah! It rained and cleaned out the air! My allergies are so much better,” I become a snotty, runny mess because mold spores are popping.
TWERK: Nixed the green jumpsuit. Found a much cuter black one last night at the mall. DDOT: We RSVP-ed no to the family reunion because DH is out of town for a show and I don't want to drive 3-4 hours each way for a day trip with the kids by myself to hang with his extended family that we barely know. Bracing myself now for MIL's many attempts to change my mind.
Post by covergirl82 on Jul 13, 2018 8:13:12 GMT -5
I think I'm going to apply for a job this weekend. It's for a compensation and benefits role, but the job summary indicates it will have a strong focus on compensation, which is my area of specialty. I would probably get a 15-20% pay increase to move, plus have a bonus opportunity, which I don't currently have. I'm not unhappy where I'm at, but if I can keep a similar level of schedule flexibility and working from home a day a week and as needed, then it may be a good move. The additional income is enticing because DH and I are working to pay down debt, and this would help us do it a lot faster.
I always get a little unsure about changing jobs, because the last time I did that, it did not work out at all (it was an "independent contractor" job that really wasn't - I was treated like an employee in all aspects of the job except being employed by the company I was doing work for) and I came back to my current employer as the job I had vacated was still open.
Does anyone remember me telling you about my friends baby who had the heart defect?
Anyway he was born 5 weeks early spent a 4 weeks in the NICU then had his surgery.
Good news: he got to go home last week yay!
Bad news: he had to go back into the hospital yesterday. Not heart related but because he caught a virus.
Hopefully he gets to go home again next week.
So this family has been through the ringer over the last few months. Finding out that their kiddo was sick then being born prematurely, surgery, now the virus.
The dad works in the same project I do in a leadership role.
The main boss told him this week that he has been missing too much work and they want to remove him from the leadership role.
OMG what a jerk. His kid had just been re admitted to the hospital. He has also only taken 4 weeks of work off. Two at the beginning. One for surgery week and one the first week home from hospital which was the 4th and the office was dead.
My broken toe is still giving me problems. I'm over it and just want to be able to exercise and feel normal again. Doc gave me two cortisone shots in my toe this week. We are leaving for one of my best friend's weddings for the weekend and it hurts to stand too long. I guess I will be medicating with booze so I can get my dance on.
Add me to the list of always being the planner of everything. DH never complains about what I sign us up for and is always game so that helps. Guess who packed all the things for this weekend including beach plans for Sunday. It feels like I packed up the whole house with needing dress up clothes, play clothes, beach and all the baby stuff. DH gets home late last night and goes, well what do you mean - what did you all have to pack? I didn't pack one thing for him since he's meeting me at the venue later tonight. See ya and don't forget your stuff tonight.
Post by covergirl82 on Jul 13, 2018 8:51:33 GMT -5
xctsclrx, that makes me sad for your friend/the dad. A girl I used to work with came back from mat leave, but then her baby was sick and in the hospital for a little while during the illness, so she missed a lot of work. Our manager fired her a month after she returned from leave due to missing too much work. The lack of compassion in these types of situations makes me sad.
xctsclrx, That makes me sick. In the grand scheme of things, your boss wants to hurt someone's career and livelihood, and put out such a negative perspective on the company as a whole, because of 4 weeks of time off? That's how you alienate your entire work force and make it clear that everyone is just a number. Not how you motivate your staff and gain trust and loyalty. Ugh.
I’m overwhelmed trying to figure out middle DD’s fall sports. Soccer for sure, but of gymnastics, swimming and volleyball - not sure which direction to guide her. Leaning toward volleyball as she needs to catch up on skills there, whereas gymnastics is for fun and swimming there’s plenty of time.
Oldest is now going to try out for high school volleyball and defer golf if she makes it. So she will start training very soon in pretryout open gym - one more place to be. She was spending 2-5 hours at the range every day but it’s been raining - hoping to get back on track there tonight.
I know these are sports related but they are also my DDOTs — keeping up with these three kids is wearing me out, y’all.
Twerk: DH has been nice since he got home at 10:30 PM. He got DS ready and took him to camp - it’s a new record.
I have a feeling my boss doesn't know the FMLA rules and my friend probably hasn't applied for FMLA. He has been using his PTO.
What is really sad about all of is that the boss and my friend (the dad) have a good relationship. My friend fills in for boss when he is on vacation. There is a relationship there.
Boss doesn't have empthy. Someone slipped a self help book under his door because his people skills suck.
He aknowledges that he is an ass, but refuses to make any changes. He is really good at the technical side of the job and is awful at the people management side. This is a major company. His department is a very small section of it. His department has a lot of turnover. He likes running lean. Which means running all of his employees ragged, and heaven forbid someone takes time off. We have lots of single points of failure.
I might be job searching myself soon but wanted to stay in one spot for 5 years to make job searching easier. I'm coming up on 4 years in January.
I already have an update. DD is trying out for volleyball and I am signing her up for a camp at my Alma Mater next week. Lots of driving but thankfully no work conflicts. Chaos is high with a fourteen year old.
I already have an update. DD is trying out for volleyball and I am signing her up for a camp at my Alma Mater next week. Lots of driving but thankfully no work conflicts. Chaos is high with a fourteen year old.
Are these are the days that you are counting down until they can drive themselves?
My oldest SS is turning 16 on Sunday. He is getting his license Monday. I am terrified and excited at the same time.
I don't want to go the the store. Here is $10 SS go to store and grab some milk and bread.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Jul 13, 2018 10:22:15 GMT -5
xctsclrx, he maybe able to have his leave characterized as FMLA leave. FMLA isn't paid anyway (unless there is a state law that requires pay) and employers can require that you use PTO and FMLA concurrently. So if he's been out for a qualifying reason but did not apply for FMLA, he may be able to still characterize the leave he's been on as FMLA.