Post by covergirl82 on Jul 16, 2018 9:56:13 GMT -5
Celebrations: 1. DS is going to throw out the first pitch tonight at our city's minor-league baseball team. (We did this as part of his birthday, which is officially on Thursday.) He's already been nervous about it (to the point of making his tummy hurt) since last Friday, so I'm hoping he does ok when it gets time to actually throw out the pitch. 2. We got to see one of DH's best friends (and his family) from high school/college yesterday when they had a little time in between family visits. They live in the DFW area, so we don't get to see them much, but we enjoy seeing them when we can when they visit home.
Vent: DS missed day 2 of the 2-day camp we signed him up for with the local minor-league baseball team because of a tummy ache from being nervous about throwing out the first pitch at today's game. I'm not really happy about spending $85 for him to only go for one day (and it was only a half-day camp). I think DH being gone all last week had something to do with it too. I'm betting if DH had been home to take him to the camp on Friday, he would have actually gone and it would've been ok once he got there.
ETA: Random/Confession: DS is turning 9 on Thursday, so I finally am letting him be done with a booster seat in my car. He's about 4'5" and the shoulder belt seems to fit appropriately without the booster. He was beyond thrilled last night when I told him.
We had a decent weekend - met my new nephew, playdate with the kids, went to Ikea. Kids and DH left for camp last night. Then DH ruined it all with a bunch of depressed, cryptic text messages about the state of our marriage. We go from feeling like we can save our marriage to him freaking out about how much he sucks as a husband and that nothing can ever change. Literally, he is wallowing in self-pity about how bad he is and all his bad habits. And doing absolutely nothing to resolve any of it or show that he's even trying. I'm so over it. It's making me wish for divorce, if only to get off this roller coaster. It really sucks.
Celebration: we slept in late this morning. So late that we missed breakfast at school so we stopped at Chick fil a for a special breakfast and we had a great time.
Vent: I was stung by a wasp yesterday and now my head feels like a I have a giant bruise on the back of it.
Vent/Celebrate - I come in to work to a email after being gone for vacation about a 2 day out of town trip in 2 weeks. One day I have all the doctor's appointments scheduled for the kids and it is the last few days of my nieces an nephews being in town. However, it sucks in timing and notice for several, duh, so they will offer it again.
Vent/Celebrate - the nephews and niece are in for three weeks. The kids are thrilled! My brother is in for several days also. Vent- my mom is already insane - as usual when they are in. She agreed to have everyone stay at her house last night. She has 3 bedrooms for both my brothers, her, and 5 kids. Um no. She goes nuts and overextends everyone every year and then is a raving maniac by the time we leave. She also has it stuck in her head that we will all take a trip together next year. Not really going to sign on for that one anytime soon, since she stuck my brother and I with the tab on the last trip - and didn't tell us about it until time to pay.
Celebrate - I didn't have to use a day and half vacation last week because we were closed due to a water main break. Yay more vacation.
Vent/Celebrate - I am back to work. However, I am in my office, alone, in peace and I have no one to take care of until I go home later.
Post by justcheckingin73 on Jul 16, 2018 11:19:43 GMT -5
It was a good weekend.
Celebration: we had our friends over on Saturday and their daughter picked up my DD and their DS from a bonfire so we could enjoy some cocktails. Here’s to friends with college-aged kids
Vent: PMS is kicking my butt again. I really hate this time of the month - I overeat, feel like crap and feel like I’ve wasted any efforts I made the rest of the month.
Celebration/vent: we are going out of town this weekend so I was able to get my car in to get serviced while we’re out of town. I’ve had a couple of issues that needed to get fixed for a while, including my A/C which isn’t working on the passenger side. And now I can add another issue to the list as one of my tires that I just filled is low again. Hopefully it’s a slow leak and patchable. Hello $1K+ bill.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Jul 16, 2018 11:43:58 GMT -5
It was a pretty good and very laid back weekend.
Saturday I did my ride and then took DD to gymnastics. Can I just say that she's such a hot mess in there? She does everything she's supposed to...eventually. She's like the crazy spastic kid in with a bunch of other kids that seem like they're 6 instead of 4. Or maybe my kid is just completely ridiculous. I can't tell.
After all that my hamstring was really hurting so we hung out at home and played board games and watched TV.
Sunday I didn't run b/c of my hamstring so I slept in until 6 am (seriously, why I woke up so early I don't know). I ordered groceries online and then hung out iwth the kids. I decided we needed to go do something but I kind of wanted to read my book so I set up the sprinklers and a baby pool. They played outside for 3 straight hours and a neighbor came by for a bit.
During this time I lounged with a fan directly on me AND IT DID NOT HELP THE HEAT. We had popsicles and I kept eating ice and drinking ice water and putting my feet in the pool to stay cool. I did finish my book so that was nice.
My dog is on hospice per the vet. I planned to have her euthanized at home next week but she nipped at me (has never happened before, literally) when I tried to help her up, so it may be sooner.
DD leaves for camp Wednesday night and I don’t know how she would feel being gone so I will have her say goodbye before.
I need to get the kids into decent clothes and get pics of them with the dog (DS comes home in a swimsuit and likes to shower and put on PJs). DD has soccer camp 6-9 this week. As a side note, her legs are like ROCKS from all the sports.
DH was like a normal human this weekend. Wunderlist has changed our lives - the shower light has been out for a month so I added it to the list and he changed it on the scheduled day. Unreal.
Celebration: we got a lot done Saturday, organizing the toy room. Still a lot to do, but we love the new shelves. Plus, we put the old bookshelves into DS’s room, which gave us a lot of organizing room that was desperately needed. Since DH refuses to put his shoes in his closet, they are now on shelves. So yay.
Vent: When I get migraines, I have really vivid, intense dreams that don’t go away easily when I wake up. I had one last night where I dreamed I was fired. It was weird and completely unrealistic, but I couldn’t completely go back to sleep because I kept trying to figure out what we were going to do, how I was going to get a new job, if I should start my own law firm, etc. Or I would have tacked on dreams, like I was interviewing for a new job, trying to explain why I got fired when I didn’t know why. All. Night. Long. In fact, I woke up this morning and thought, “Well, I don’t have to get dressed because I don’t have a job to go to. How am I going to explain this to the kids?”
Random: I mentioned this to one of my subordinates, who said “No shit, I had the same dream!” How freaky is that? Neither of us has done anything wrong. Certainly nothing to get fired for. In fact, he’s up for a promotion.
I was down and out with a migraine all weekend. Still took DD to the b-day party Saturday afternoon and ran errands afterwards. DH was really nice and took her to get air so I could nap for an hour or so but I was out when they got home and they scared the crap out of me when they woke me up. After that the dog got very protective of me and growled when anyone came near me. Sunday everyone let me sleep late and then DH took DD out for the afternoon. They did a craft at Cabelas and then both skated at the indoor roller rink. It was so nice having 3 hours of alone time in the afternoon. All I did was sit in the dark room and veg with my book.
twinmomma, I understand your roller coaster and how much toll it takes. I've been doing it for too many years and some days or weeks I just want out.
Celebration: We went to the waterpark and had a blast with the kids on Saturday
Vent: In laws text us during church that they are going to stop by sometime during the day? It was 4:30pm when they arrived, and DS was at a birthday party with DH. So DD and I went to dinner with them. I wish that they would give actual time frames for when they are showing up.
186momx, I honestly feel like I would have more sympathy for him feeling depressed if it wasn't solely the result of his own life choices and the place we've gotten to in our marriage. To me, I'm stuck feeling like "too little, too late" right now and having a hard time figuring out how to be supportive and move forward.
Post by traveltheworld on Jul 16, 2018 13:03:46 GMT -5
We had a good weekend, despite having to work.
I'm lamenting the fact that my kids are now 6 and 3. I love the 3 - 5 years, DD (3) is just so adorable right now. DS is fun too, but he is no longer at the silly pre-schooler age.
WPs with older kids - tell me that older kids are awesome too?!
Celebration- We had a really great weekend. We had a great date night. We executed a plan to clean out the attic of our garage because an animal had been getting up their and pooping. Argh. We went to a play.
Vent- The weekend was probably a bit too busy, but it probably went slightly better than our lower pace weekends because I want to do lower pace, but then the kids fight more.
While the kids were at the nature preserve, even though I sprayed them our bug spray did not have Deet, so apparently it was ineffective, and they were covered in mosquito bites. So I bought new bug spray. But, and I am not sure if this is bug related, DD has a big lump on her inner thigh. She did not hit it on anything, and it was still there this morning. I gave her cortisone and benedryl, and I am doubting whether it will have gone away or not. So I think we have a visit to the pedi in our future whether today or tomorrow. I have to call the doctor today, but they were closed for lunch when I tried to call earlier.
Post by erinshelley21 on Jul 16, 2018 13:07:47 GMT -5
Celebration: I start easing into my new job on Wednesday and will finish up my meetings on Thursday. I can't believe this is almost over. We just left my favorite client. I cried before I could even get my words out and he teared up too.
Vent: I have to take my car in to get an oil change and some other things done on Monday. I'm expecting it to cost more than I want to pay but not enough to justify just trading it. I'm not financially ready to trade it but I'm also not financially ready to pay for lofty repairs either.
Post by covergirl82 on Jul 16, 2018 13:08:47 GMT -5
traveltheworld , I loved 3-5, but I also love my kids' current ages...maybe more? They are more independent, so I feel a lot less overwhelmed when it comes to daily routine-type things. It is less work to entertain them, because they will entertain themselves most times now. We can have real conversations about things. It's pretty great.
ETA: I may have a different opinion in a few years when we hit the tween/teen years.
I'm lamenting the fact that my kids are now 6 and 3. I love the 3 - 5 years, DD (3) is just so adorable right now. DS is fun too, but he is no longer at the silly pre-schooler age.
WPs with older kids - tell me that older kids are awesome too?!
I really enjoy my 5 year old now. She and I are super bonded, but yes comparatively speaking she does seem so much younger. DS is 7, and doesn't really want to cuddle as much anymore. But it is so nice that he can help out more with chores. He does dishes now, and when we had a huge storm he was helping with shoveling. When he is 8, I plan to be able to leave him for 10 minutes or so to run to the store for something in case of an emergency, and since DH often traveled that would be really nice to only have to take one kid. I also am really enjoying sports with him. Well basketball was a bit painful, but I am really enjoying baseball with him since he is starting to show maturity that he didn't have in baseball or cub scouts. I am just looking forward to him being more responsible and independent and me helping him to be that way. I mean of course it is sad when they grow up, but that doesn't mean that I don't like these ages too. Ask me again when they are tweens or teenagers though.
twinmomma, the days DH self sabotages himself and pulls the "I can't do anything right" drives me crazy and he totally goes in spurts. What I've learned lately is if I want him to be helpful and on an level emotional basis him has to get tons of alone time is critical but then I start getting snotty because I'm not getting any down time and feel like I'm the mom of two (teenage angst husband and a teenage 7 year old). Right now DH's dad is having issues and DH has this huge guilt trip going on but he refuses to talk about it at all so DD & I are walking around on eggshells and have a giant elephant in the house. Therapy is a double edge sword in our house. Some weeks it helps other weeks he is worse off but then you all know my feelings about his quack therapist. DH leaves Friday for another weekend of paintball and fun and DD and I can't wait for some girl time.
I'm lamenting the fact that my kids are now 6 and 3. I love the 3 - 5 years, DD (3) is just so adorable right now. DS is fun too, but he is no longer at the silly pre-schooler age.
WPs with older kids - tell me that older kids are awesome too?!
It's really nice to have something come up, work or fun, and not have your first thought be "Oh no, what am I going to do with the kids." They are fun to talk to and hang out with also. DD is a great shopping and lunch partner now. Both of mine are still cuddly.
However, after having a teenager on vacation, who you had to drag out of bed and huffed and puffed about what to eat, sometimes, they are a pain.
traveltheworld, I love how independent DD is at 7. She wakes up makes her own breakfast and has even gotten to rinsing her dishes out in the sink. No coming in and waking my at 7 on a Saturday morning anymore. She plays quietly and then feeds herself breakfast.
Now the attitude we've had this summer hasn't been much fun and makes me worry about the teen years.
waverly - both of my kids have gotten cellulitis from bug bites. Several times on legs, once each around their eyes (which was super scary). Definitely worth a trip to the pedi.
Kids went to camp this morning, thank Jesus. I went to the grocery store ALONE. It was glorious.
DH is not speaking to me, which is super. He asked me about the plans for the holidays (my family vs his, Thanksgiving and Christmas). We ended up in a huge fight because I told him I wasn’t going if he planned to be drunk for the majority of the weekend. That’s what happened last year. And most other trips to see his family. Between the history and what happened in Jan that nearly caused me to leave with the kids, I’m not spending the weekend watching him get drunk. He was LIVID. He’s so angry that he can’t be hammered all weekend. I told him he can totally drink all weekend, but the kids and I weren’t coming.
Bottom line is that he doesn’t want to keep himself in check, and wants me to tend to the children by myself all weekend while he does his thing. Nope.
mae0111, good for you. Hold your ground. I would rather stay home with the kids than tend them at the in-laws while he is plastered.
Her bump isn't red or hot that I can tell, but it still could be cellulitis, so we'll see. I got in for later today. 3 doctor appointments this week- isn't that fun? I have the gyno follow up and DD and I have the dentist on Thursday.
A coworker wrote a grant that on something that I have a lot of knowledge. She wanted me to help her pick out incentives. Somehow I ended up doing all the research. The company called me for the Purchase Order number. I called to ask her what it was. She said, Oh I thought you did it. IT IS NOT MY GRANT. I HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH IT. I just got suckered into the work. If I get a call on this from the director........
DD calls in her own prescription refills, fills out her own camp paperwork, makes meals, babysits, completes assigned administrative tasks (like sorting a mountain of mail), etc. and she is FUN - we run around, play games, watch shows (she loves things DH hates, which helps). She has her little box of boundaries and knows as long as she stays in it she gets tons of upside and opportunities and freedom from me. Every new year is my new favorite age - but I think 16 will take the cake with driving. 1.5 years to go....
And the ten year old is a mini version of the same, but messier and with more tears. She likes to have heart to hearts and is really deliberative after being impulsive, so there are lots of discussions that she initiates about people and outcomes and situations. She’s also a hard core planner, so she has already cleared the agenda for her birthday trip (Chicago again) and her invite list for her sleepover (late September), Halloween party invite additions, and is researching Thanksgiving crafts.
DS at 6 is still sweet and cuddly and makes me laugh - he and I discovered the Netflix series “Who Was...” (like the books) this weekend and it’s fun to “have a show” we both enjoy.
twinmomma and @mom186x - I feel like I walk a razors edge with DH and how the kids perceive things. They are also relieved when he’s out of town, sometimes, and that really sucks. Have you figured out how to talk with them about that? I don’t want to go the Mental health road for a variety of reasons, but feel like there needs to be better dialogue....I’m stuck.
2chatter, your middle DD sounds like my DD other than she isn't messy and so far no major tears but she loves to plan and have very weird conversations. DD picks up on stuff going on with DH too much so we have a pretty open conversation about it. I told her that daddy's dad was having issues (we don't have a relationship with him) and it was really bothering daddy so he might be on the phone more than normal and crankier. She also will just pipe up and go daddy I know you had fun paintballing so when is your next game as I can't wait for another girls weekend with mommy. That really pisses him off but she is telling him the truth. DH also has very little interest in what she is doing and she told me that was fine as she has XYZ all interested so that is okay, but she laps up his attention when she does something he likes to do so part of me knows it does bug her.
For the self sabotage/ I can't; I've nipped that in the bud with DD. She used to pull the I can't all the time so I started having her do 5 push ups each time she said it and after 2 weeks she very seldom says it. Then we had to have the conversation about the difference between I can't do it vs reading it in a book. Her teacher said she kept skipping the word in class and when she did say it would auto do push ups so I had to explain to the teacher who thought it was great but made it hard for the word of the week. Now DD has fancy ways of saying can't and has been called out on it especially at gym. "Coach A I really don't think that it is possible" and Coach A goes that is just a fancy saying way of telling me you can't which isn't allowed in my class. LOL
2chatter I don't think my kids really pick up on it. They just turned 6, so I don't think they're observant enough to know DH is not like other dads. He also saves it up for me generally. Late night freak outs.
Post by sweetptater on Jul 19, 2018 8:52:01 GMT -5
callmekd, 2chatter, my DS LOVES this show. I need to start watching it with him because he'll watch then want to discuss and I'm left searching my memory from my grade school lessons (or googling, which is more likely).