@ week of 7/16

[estrellita]

I think H needs an intervention. Last 2 nights he's been letting A sleep in her chair again. Ugh! We're never going to break this habit if he just keeps doing it over and over! I'm so over even trying to help. What's the point if he's just going to keep giving in?

[awick14]

grover O no. I hope she isn’t in too much pain. Kids are not the most graceful.

[awick14]

estrellita- does he realize that what he is doing is just making things worse? I would be tempted to not do anymore bedtimes and make him do it. At least until he starts doing it without the chair.

[luv2rn4fun]

Jul 19, 2018 15:00:36 GMT -5 awick14 said:

estrellita- does he realize that what he is doing is just making things worse? I would be tempted to not do anymore bedtimes and make him do it. At least until he starts doing it without the chair.

estrellita- I agree with this! Or, I would get your DH to take E elsewhere and leave you and A to sleep train for a few nights. If he doesn’t want to “follow the program” then it’s on him to eventually fix this later. It’s fine if he is ok holding her all night (as in he is the one doing it so it’s not like she wakes up and expects you to now deal with the problem...but it would be good for A to learn to self soothe as well) but when he reaches a breaking point and decides he wants to do something about it then it’s on him because he’s creating a habit that is going to be even harder to break.

Curious...how does she sleep at daycare? Any issues there or only at home because your DH allows it?

[estrellita]

Jul 19, 2018 15:00:36 GMT -5 awick14 said:

estrellita- does he realize that what he is doing is just making things worse? I would be tempted to not do anymore bedtimes and make him do it. At least until he starts doing it without the chair.

I keep telling him he needs to let her sleep in the PnP. Usually we rock her a bit until she's asleep, put her in the bedroom, and she sleeps ok most of the time. She'll start screaming at some point MOTN and that's when H brings her out to the living room and doesn't bring her back in. I appreciate that part of it is letting me sleep but then he whines about needing to hold her all night. So DON'T. She'll never learn how to sleep on her own if we don't try at all!

Of course she's just about at the weight limit for the bassinet insert so I'm not sure where to go from here. Putting her in the bottom part won't be easy and I don't want to move the crib into our room if we can help it

[estrellita]

Jul 19, 2018 15:22:52 GMT -5 luv2rn4fun said:

Jul 19, 2018 15:00:36 GMT -5 awick14 said:

estrellita- does he realize that what he is doing is just making things worse? I would be tempted to not do anymore bedtimes and make him do it. At least until he starts doing it without the chair.

estrellita- I agree with this! Or, I would get your DH to take E elsewhere and leave you and A to sleep train for a few nights. If he doesn’t want to “follow the program” then it’s on him to eventually fix this later. It’s fine if he is ok holding her all night (as in he is the one doing it so it’s not like she wakes up and expects you to now deal with the problem...but it would be good for A to learn to self soothe as well) but when he reaches a breaking point and decides he wants to do something about it then it’s on him because he’s creating a habit that is going to be even harder to break.

Curious...how does she sleep at daycare? Any issues there or only at home because your DH allows it?

She sleeps ok there. She takes shorter naps, maybe a half hour at most, usually 3-4 per day. She usually sleeps in the car too so she just cat naps all day. So, it's not great sleep minus the few times she'll randomly take an hour long nap, but they've never seemed to have any concerns.

[luv2rn4fun]

Jul 19, 2018 15:26:39 GMT -5 estrellita said:

Jul 19, 2018 15:22:52 GMT -5 luv2rn4fun said:

estrellita- I agree with this! Or, I would get your DH to take E elsewhere and leave you and A to sleep train for a few nights. If he doesn’t want to “follow the program” then it’s on him to eventually fix this later. It’s fine if he is ok holding her all night (as in he is the one doing it so it’s not like she wakes up and expects you to now deal with the problem...but it would be good for A to learn to self soothe as well) but when he reaches a breaking point and decides he wants to do something about it then it’s on him because he’s creating a habit that is going to be even harder to break.

Curious...how does she sleep at daycare? Any issues there or only at home because your DH allows it?

She sleeps ok there. She takes shorter naps, maybe a half hour at most, usually 3-4 per day. She usually sleeps in the car too so she just cat naps all day. So, it's not great sleep minus the few times she'll randomly take an hour long nap, but they've never seemed to have any concerns.

She’s 6 months old now?

She should be sleeping more than that. And getting ready to drop to two naps soon. It could all be a snowball effect...not napping well leading to worse sleep at night. Who knows. But seems like she sleeps by herself there? Does she sleep on her own for naps at home?

[estrellita]

Jul 19, 2018 16:32:19 GMT -5 luv2rn4fun said:

Jul 19, 2018 15:26:39 GMT -5 estrellita said:

She sleeps ok there. She takes shorter naps, maybe a half hour at most, usually 3-4 per day. She usually sleeps in the car too so she just cat naps all day. So, it's not great sleep minus the few times she'll randomly take an hour long nap, but they've never seemed to have any concerns.

She’s 6 months old now?

She should be sleeping more than that. And getting ready to drop to two naps soon. It could all be a snowball effect...not napping well leading to worse sleep at night. Who knows. But seems like she sleeps by herself there? Does she sleep on her own for naps at home?

7.5 months. They put her in the crib to sleep, they aren't allowed to let the babies sleep anywhere else so they transfer her if she falls asleep anywhere else. Honestly, on the weekends she ends up sleeping in the car seat, being held, etc because we're on the go a lot. I'm really kicking myself for getting this house because I thought it was going to be easier for them to share a room. I think if she had her own room it would be easier. Blah.

[luv2rn4fun]

Jul 19, 2018 18:06:37 GMT -5 estrellita said:

Jul 19, 2018 16:32:19 GMT -5 luv2rn4fun said:

She’s 6 months old now?

She should be sleeping more than that. And getting ready to drop to two naps soon. It could all be a snowball effect...not napping well leading to worse sleep at night. Who knows. But seems like she sleeps by herself there? Does she sleep on her own for naps at home?

7.5 months. They put her in the crib to sleep, they aren't allowed to let the babies sleep anywhere else so they transfer her if she falls asleep anywhere else. Honestly, on the weekends she ends up sleeping in the car seat, being held, etc because we're on the go a lot. I'm really kicking myself for getting this house because I thought it was going to be easier for them to share a room. I think if she had her own room it would be easier. Blah.

It might have been easier with her own room but lots of kids share rooms and it ends up working out ok. You guys just have to work with what you have!

Personally, I would try to keep things consistent for A, even if that means letting go of some social events for a little while (or go to them but work around a schedule that works for her and have her mostly sleeping in the same place/environment). Routine is key for a lot of kids. I get that it’s not always easy and it’s defi not fun to be scheduled around naps (trust me, I have SAH for 3.5 years now and I am rarely flexible with naps and bedtime...a little more so now that L is getting older but not much). Also, for awhile we would be on the go for AM nap and then we always made sure to be home for a good PM nap (so he at least got one decent nap in). That helped a lot!

Hang in there! Sleep deprivation sucks! I hope A sleeps for you soon!

[estrellita]

luv2rn4fun Thanks! E was so flexible and STTN pretty early so this is much different for us. I want her to be a little flexible but I know we need to work on naps in the PnP or crib (E isn't in his room much during the day) and having her sleep in the PnP and NOT the chair. She's slept so well in there the few times we've tried it. The problem is she flips out when H puts her down and leaves the room or if she wakes up and he's not there. Or she'll wake up when he comes in later because our floor is horribly creaky (we have a fan on and a rug on the floor but that and the bed are both so loud!).

[estrellita]

So apparently I'm taking over the thread with my kid problems tonight. Lol. But this one.. ugh. E punched another kid today. Like the teacher told me she said he hit the other kid and he corrected her and said no, he punched him. He told us too, that yes, he punched B. The reason? He didn't like him. WTF kid? He obviously had a punishment at DC and he had already lost TV privileges after his tantrum this morning so he also lost treats and only got one story. We also talked to him a few times about what happened and how it's not nice, keep your hands to yourself, etc. I have no idea why he's doing this and of course I blame myself because that's what I do, lol. I'm trying to let it go as a kid thing but usually he only does stuff in retaliation and not just because he doesn't like someone, so it's bothering me

[awick14]

((estrellita)) most kids go throw a hitting/punching/hurting people phase.

This does not mean your a bad mom, or that there is anything that you could have done to prevent this.

I got my IUD out today. It was an easy removal, she even commented that it has been her easiest in a while. I also got a referral back to the loss clinic here so that I can ask what they think I should do again this time. (Daily injections? Or just aspirin?) I started myself on daily aspirin just in case we get pregnant while waiting for my appointment.

[luv2rn4fun]

Yay awick14!! Prayers TTC #2 goes smoothly for you! So excited for you guys!

estrellita- ((Hugs)). Totally not your fault! You are a great mom! FWIW I am reading this book specifically on three year olds and it talks about how at 3 they are in equilibrium and somewhat agreeable and at 3.5 they are in disequilibrium and so much chaos. Definitely find myself relating to what she says. And C is also back to hitting again and his tantrums are insane...like he plays in his crib forever at nap time so I end up waking him up (later than normal) so bedtime isn’t horrible, just for him to literally scream for 20-30 min. I try holding him, talking to him, walking away...nothing helps. Plus, he doesn’t listen to hardly anything I say- I feel like I am talking to myself half the time and am constantly having to literally help him with my request (go to the bathroom before we leave, take your diaper off, grab your water bottle, etc). The book actually recommends the kid be in daycare as much as possible because they are the worst for mom and it’s too hard for anyone to handle LOL. At least preschool starts in 5.5 more weeks!

[luv2rn4fun]

We bought these cubes storage cabinets (2 of them) for the playroom/living room! DH assembled one last night and it looks so much better! He’s building the other right now and we will mount them to the wall tomorrow! This means we are getting rid of 2 pieces of ugly furniture, the boys can actually use their kid table for puzzles/coloring/stickers/eating/etc, and it should stay cleaner! Oh, and the PNP full of toys will be gone!! So excited!

I am watching our friends two boys (nearly 4 and 26 months) 2-3 days per month starting Tues. I am so anxious how this is going to go! I can’t drive them anywhere and the nearest park is one mile away. I might see if we can go to the park (I have a double bob and baby carrier) or we just might ride bikes/toys in the front and then move to the backyard, do lunch as a picnic in the back before naps. Then I will have a good 2 hours after naps before they are picked up so planning on snack and then water table.

[estrellita]

luv2rn4fun That's interesting that the book recommends daycare! I'm definitely a believer in some sort of daycare/preschool sort of arrangement for both the parents and kids sakes. But yeah, I think it just bothered me so much that he didn't seem phased by it. "Yeah, I punched B. I just didn't like him." Uh, ok. Usually hitting is because someone pushed him or took a toy or something. We've of course told him that's not ok either, but at least those times were provoked. It sounded like the other kid did absolutely nothing to "deserve" it. Hopefully it's not going to be an ongoing issue.

[estrellita]

E fell a little bit ago in the play room and face planted. So much blood Poor kid was so freaked out. I'm debating if it was good we have wood floors because it was easier to clean up or bad because he probably wouldn't have gotten hurt as badly on carpet. Speaking of, what's the best way to clean it out of a shirt (mostly white) and a throw pillow? That's all it got on other than the floor luckily. I used a baby wipe to start cleaning it off the pillow and rinsed the shirt with cold water but didn't do anything else yet because I'm snuggling A for a bit (I know, I'm being a hypocrite and she should really sleep in the PnP!).

[grover]

estrellita, I soak blood stains in water + oxyclean powder, then touch up with oxyclean spray just before tossing in the wash. I had a light colored shirt with blood stains from A's sprained knee come out clean this way (though her white leggings that had a poopslosion did not make it.)

[pooh8402]

Coming from a nurse: hydrogen peroxide will get blood out of almost anything. I pour it directly on the stain and scrub (that should work for the pillow). Then wash in COLD water with whatever detergent.

[estrellita]

grover pooh8402 thanks! I scrubbed the shirt with some soap, rinsed with cold water, sprayed with Oxiclean spray, then washed with some Oxiclean. It's still down in the dryer so I'll have to see if it worked ok. I'm hoping since I didn't let it sit too long that it'll be ok. I haven't done anything with the pillow other than wiping it off as best I could but I'll try the peroxide! I was trying to find if we can for sure wash the pillows but didn't see washing instructions on the tag. I think as long as they get dried well they should be ok? I think they're dryer safe, they're just plain pillows with I think a microfiber fabric. H swears we've washed them before but I can't remember!