Monday morning

[udscoobychick]

How was everyone's weekend?

The shower for my sister went well.  The food all turned out pretty well, and I was only a half hour behind schedule lol.  The coladas were probably the biggest hit, understandably!  I didn't finish the baby blanket in time, but it's done now, so I'll ship it to her.  I was happy to get home on Sunday, though!  DH and I went to a winery and a brewery (and my favorite food truck was there!) and then went home to relax, which was nice.

[doriswe]

I had such a good, but exhausting, weekend! Had dinner with the bf Friday night and then he ended up sleeping over. I couldn’t sleep so I tossed and turned most of the night. Got up at 6:30 to get ready for the day.

Saturday was an all day bachelorette party and it was soooo much fun! We drank, we danced, and we laughed! The last of us crashed around 1 AM and we were all up by 8. We lounged around chatting for a few hours before driving home. I showered and then the kids and I headed to Milwaukee. We’re doing orientation today and then hopefully hitting up their public market and art museum.

Ok...so I need some advice. The exclusive talk happened last week and neither of us are in a rush to meet their others’ children. Mine are older and they’ve only really known me as single for the past 7 years. I’m going to have to navigate this conversation and can’t figure out how to do. The last time I did this DS was 3, so it was just the “moms friend” kinda thing. Also, I think I’m overthinking this because I haven’t had a bf in so long and am like “is this real?!?”

[tiramisu]

My weekend was really good. Friday I went to the food truck event and listened to the jazz trio. Hit up a bar later on with a friend. Saturday I went to water fitness, ended up meeting up with a friend for coffee in the afternoon, then did laundry until kinda late and relaxed at home afterwards. Yesterday I got a mani-pedi, then met up with a friend who's moving out of state soon. I just ran a couple errands after that and got myself set up for this morning.

This evening I have date #2 with the dorky cute software engineer. We're going to an Italian restaurant for dinner.

[bullygirl979]

doriswe, I gotta admit, I'm a little "SQUEE!" about you using the BF term. And regarding your kiddos, I mean they are both older and of the dating age. Why not just be casual about it and just say that you've met someone who you enjoy hanging out with. Your kids have known over the years that you've gone on dates, yes?

[bullygirl979]

Weekend was good!

Saturday I went to yoga and then to the car dealership. I'm in a quandary as I found a car that I really like but it's a dark blue. P is trying to talk me out of it as he says the dark cars (dark blue, black) are a b*tch to keep clean and they show scratches and paint swirls really easily. So, not sure what to do.

Later on Saturday our neighbors hosted a happy hour, which was really a partial celebration for P and I, which was super sweet. Sunday was my mom's birthday so we did stuff for that.

[udscoobychick]

bullygirl979, the flip side to that is that light cars show dirt. The dark cars show salt in the winter, too. I think you're screwed either which way unless you pick a tan car, and I personally hate that color, so I'd just get whatever you like and not worry about it.

[tiramisu]

doriswe I agree with bullygirl979 about how to handle things with your kids. You have a boyfriend or you're seeing someone exclusively both sound like normal things to say.

ETA: Bully, I say get whatever car you want. They all show dirt, dings, scratches, etc. Besides, it's a car. It won't always look pristine. They're meant to get us places and it's a bonus that they look even kinda nice doing it.

[bullygirl979]

tiramisu and udscoobychick, I've never owned a dark car and have become fairly anal about how my car looks (apparently my quirks about a squeaky clean house have transferred to a squeaky clean car, ha). P knows how anal I am so he is trying to warn me it that it will take more effort to keep this one clean, as opposed to a lighter color car. I guess I just need to be real with myself and figure out if the effort is worth the pretty blue color!

[idahome]

Weekend was good. Went to the mall yesterday afternoon and spent a gift card on clearance clothes: ankle jeans (in a smaller size) and 2 shirts. After that it was time to review documents for work.

Today has been going well. Making progress on contract reviews. Ne d to schedule some time to talk to my boss about a proposal and complete my mid-year self evaluation.

Tonight I have to call in to see if I have to report for jury duty tomorrow. Can’t decide if I want to report or not.

[spindle92]

bullygirl979, my last 3 cars have all been black and I said I was done with a dark color but my new car is almost black (midnight metallic gray) and I love it. I just spend A LOT of money at the carwash.

[doriswe]

Jul 23, 2018 9:06:55 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

doriswe, I gotta admit, I'm a little "SQUEE!" about you using the BF term. And regarding your kiddos, I mean they are both older and of the dating age. Why not just be casual about it and just say that you've met someone who you enjoy hanging out with. Your kids have known over the years that you've gone on dates, yes?

They really haven’t known that I’ve dated but I suspect they did know, if that makes sense. And I’ve never dated anyone long enough to have had to the talk with them. Honestly, neither probably cares! I do want to be mindful since DS has been through a slew of xh’s girlfriends.

[bullygirl979]

Jul 23, 2018 20:58:08 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Jul 23, 2018 9:06:55 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

doriswe , I gotta admit, I'm a little "SQUEE!" about you using the BF term. And regarding your kiddos, I mean they are both older and of the dating age. Why not just be casual about it and just say that you've met someone who you enjoy hanging out with. Your kids have known over the years that you've gone on dates, yes?

They really haven’t known that I’ve dated but I suspect they did know, if that makes sense. And I’ve never dated anyone long enough to have had to the talk with them. Honestly, neither probably cares! I do want to be mindful since DS has been through a slew of xh’s girlfriends.

But XH has also introduced DS to a lot of the GFs, yes? And if you don't plan on introducing the kids to him until you know it's more serious I think you can say that.

[doriswe]

Jul 24, 2018 7:32:32 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Jul 23, 2018 20:58:08 GMT -5 doriswe said:

They really haven’t known that I’ve dated but I suspect they did know, if that makes sense. And I’ve never dated anyone long enough to have had to the talk with them. Honestly, neither probably cares! I do want to be mindful since DS has been through a slew of xh’s girlfriends.

But XH has also introduced DS to a lot of the GFs, yes? And if you don't plan on introducing the kids to him until you know it's more serious I think you can say that.

all truths. Now that I think of it, both knew I had a tinder. I’m overthinking this lol!!

[udscoobychick]

Jul 24, 2018 8:03:28 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Jul 24, 2018 7:32:32 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

But XH has also introduced DS to a lot of the GFs, yes? And if you don't plan on introducing the kids to him until you know it's more serious I think you can say that.

all truths. Now that I think of it, both knew I had a tinder. I’m overthinking this lol!!

Yeah, if you're going to wait until it's more serious, then I think you can just be very matter-of-fact about it.  DH's son was ~15 when I was introduced to him (DH and I had been together about 5 months or so), and it was just like "This is my girlfriend, Scooby.  Scooby, this is DS."  I think DH had mentioned me to him previously, so it didn't catch him off guard.