Weekend Update

[mommyatty]

We had 2 families over to swim today. It was so fun! Plus we cleaned the hell out of our house, so now I also have a super-clean house!

So why am I now nervous that no one had a good time?? Am I the only one who does this?

[mae0111]

mommyatty, nope. I totally do that. I'm always a mess before people come over, and then I have a great time, and then I'm a mess after they leave. I second guess every comment, every conversation, every food item I served, etc... yay anxiety...

[mae0111]

We had a family weekend after DH was gone all week. DH and DD1 spent some time together on Saturday morning/early afternoon, and DD2 and I hung out. Then we all swam. Today we went on a hike together, then DH had some stuff to do outside while I refereed... then more swimming.

Honestly all I wanted was a break after solo parenting all week... did not happen. Next weekend DH said he's going to try to take the kids to see his mom (5 hrs away), but it depends on if he gets his work done. I will have the house to myself for 2.5 days. Sweet, sweet freedom. If he doesn't go, I am leaving on Saturday morning and going somewhere by myself for several hours.

[akafred]

Saturday was LOW KEY. Picked DD up from camp and she was in the BEST mood ever. Seriously amazing. I expected grumpy and annoying, I got happy and laid back. We came home and she went upstairs and watched tv and probably napped a bit, came down and snuggled with me for 15-20 glorious, calm minutes, then we all played Clue for an hour, and then she went back upstairs. Came down for dinner and napped on me a bit then went to bed early. Not a single conflict or disagreement of any kind on Saturday. I literally cannot remember another time that has happened in her life.

Sunday we had to go get school supplies, so there was a bit more demand on her. Prying her away from the iPad to go to lunch and school shopping was a challenge, but the outing itself was fine. She is excited for school this year, so that is good. It will be a different class this year as at least 2 girls who went there last year are going to go to public school next year. One because of cost (I heard her dad is out of work), and the other because her little brother will be in kindergarten this year and they had kept them together the last 2 years but now all 3 kids will be in public school. Also her friend who has autism and ID is moving on to middle school, so that is bittersweet. I believe there will be 4 or 5 kids moving up from kindergarten so DD will be lonely in the upper grades. One sixth grader, two fourth graders, and then quite a few 1st-3rd graders. Will be interesting to see how it plays out.

[akafred]

Also, my brain was in some kind of weird holding pattern leading up to and during the week DD was at camp. That was it’s “big thing” and it wouldn’t let me get excited about or really think about our trip to DR (we leave Saturday!!!). But now that DD is home, that is all I can think about. I bought a bunch of clothes and stuff on Amazon for the trip, and I cannot wait!

[campermom]

We came back from vacation-camping for a week in Williamsburg. The mountain of laundry is done, most of the camper is put back together. It’s cleaned out at least which is my least favorite part. Our next trip is a weekend in a Gettysburg in august.

I’m still on summer break and my summer work days are almost over so I have a good chunk of time that I’m not working. I’m taking the kids to a nature center and park today.

akafred I cannot wait to hear all about it! Take notes! I’m curious how DD will do with French speaking at camp, how she likes the activities, what she thinks of the trapeze! Let me know what you love! Food details! Our trip there is in November.

[traveltheworld]

Jul 29, 2018 18:44:27 GMT -5 mae0111 said:

mommyatty, nope. I totally do that. I'm always a mess before people come over, and then I have a great time, and then I'm a mess after they leave. I second guess every comment, every conversation, every food item I served, etc... yay anxiety...

Me too! I go over every conversation in my mind trying to discern if I had said anything I shouldn't have.

We had an ok weekend. DH was in classes all weekend and I had the kids to myself. We went to the pool, took DS to his golf lesson, goofed around the driving range afterwards and generally had a pretty low key weekend. I was exhausted. Doesn't help that I had to get up at 5 this morning to catch a flight.

[justcheckingin73]

I do the same thing mommyatty. Last night I was worrying about things I said almost a year ago. Let it go brain!

mae0111, DH takes the kids to his hometown a couple of times a year and the 2-3 days I get alone are magical. I hope you get that weekend!

It was a good weekend. We got DD her laptop - and I ended up getting her a MacBook. It was a better price than the ones we were looking at thanks to a sale on top of student deals at Best Buy so I went against what I said and bought it. She of course loves it.

We also went to look at pools. It will be more challenging than we thought to install since we already have a deck in place so they will come out, take a look and let us know the install price so we can get a better idea of total cost. We have a number in mind so if they go way over that we will have to rethink replacing it but if they come under, we’ll likely do it.

[mustardseed2007]

mommyatty, yes!! I ALWAYS do that.

It actually gets in the way of me having people over. But it doesn't matter, I also do it when I go places. Like this weekend when I took the kids to a pool party. Why do I even talk to people if I'm going to hate myself for it later? Jk. Kinda.

Portions of the walkway in front of my house have disintegrated, so I'm getting quotes to have it removed and concrete pavers installed. This is part of my long term plan of slowly making our house not look like crap anymore. First bid came in at 2500-3000 dollars (he's going to get me a firm bid this week). Good lord I had no idea about the cost.

Which, by the way, is how I feel about all home improvement of all kinds. For once I'd like to think something would cost me 1000 bucks and find out it's only 300. Something!

[rere]

I hate having people over for that reason. I am not a very good entertainer. I am better at last minute stuff so I don't have a lot of time to overthink.

I am in a funk after the weekend. It was non stop with the cousins. Over Friday night, boating all day Saturday, birthday party Sunday. Mom wanted them to spend the night. Bad idea. They are almost sick of each other at this point. DS called at 7:30 last night and said he wanted to come home. He couldn't take any more.

I am also probably going to cancel out on my class reunion next weekend. None of my close friends are going. And 2 didn't think to tell me they canceled their revelations. Nice. One because she is going with her husband on a business trip to New York.

Now I am having a pity party for myself. This particular friend, I have always felt a generation behind. Her parents worked hard to pay for 5 kids through school and produced a doctor, engineer, nurse, dental hygienist, and married in a pharmacist, MBA, a teacher and lawyer. My friend, the hygienist has pretty much only worked a day a week since her kids have been born. She has 5 kids. She's like are you going to have more kids. I say I can't afford them, we want to be able to give to the two we have. This thought never crosses her mind, because she's never had to worry about it. While I made it through college, the lack of support and dysfunction in my household is something I feel I am still trying to make up for in life. So now I am sitting here pouting because I am feeling less successful and the only place my work wants to send me is the state capital these days and when I did get to travel, it was Milwaukie or Phoenix, in July. Not rational, but pity parties usually are not.

[phdmomma]

We went a state over to bury DH’s grandma and stayed in the super crappy hotel that is tradition to stay in. It was a lovely service and I am glad we went. We got home on Sunday and shoveled the big pile of dirt that the garage people left on our driveway, while the moving company unloaded my parents stuff at their new apartment in town. While all of this is going on, DH’s grandma passed away. I’m leaving work early to take both kids to the dentist.....I’m tired and emotionally spent.