Yippee! Finally Friday

[mommyatty]

Yesterday I was off to get a crown on a tooth and to see a friend who lives in England and was here visiting. So my BFFs were both at my house, celebrating 30 years of friendship for the three of us.

It’s back to work for me today. Long day packed with meetings.

This weekend, we have no formal plans. We need to take the kids to try on uniforms. We will probably buy a couple of new shirts and then buy the rest at the uniform resale our PTO puts on. I can’t believe school is about to start!

[covergirl82]

Today I am working, but I'm WFH so I can do laundry and get some groceries at lunch. We're leaving on Sunday for a week-long camping trip. We're splitting the week in Mackinaw City (going to Mackinac Island for a day - one of my favorite places!) and then spending a few nights in the town my maternal grandma grew up in (and it's Homecoming weekend, which I went to every year growing up, so it will be fun to share it with my kids).

DH and I are trying to decide what to do tomorrow. DS's friend's brother is playing the state little league championship game (and they are undefeated, so they are favored to win), so DS and I might make the 2-hour drive (one way, so 4 hours roundtrip) to watch the game. If I take DS to that game, DH and DD will have a daddy-daughter day and probably go to lunch and a movie.

I'm super excited for some time off, but I need to bust my butt today to get some things done before the end of the day!

[twinmomma]

So ready for the weekend!

DH is moving out to stay with his parents. It's been a weird week with him still home. But we decided that even though he's the childcare during the day right now, it'll be better for us if he isn't still living under the same roof. He'll just come over during the day when I'm not home. I'm hoping that makes things a little cleaner and helps me get my head on straight and get into a new routine.

For fun, the girls and I have a birthday party on Saturday and then I'm doing yoga and hanging out with my BFF on Sunday. I really need some BFF time, so I'm looking forward to that a lot.

[mellym]

We have a family reunion tomorrow with many of my great aunts/uncles and cousins who have never met our kids. It's supposed to be 90s and humid but my cousin has water for swimming. There's going to be karaoke and I can't wait to watch all the kids sing. DH's work has an open house tomorrow in the morning so he's going to take DD2 and DD3 to show them what he does. I'm going to get some one on one time with DD3.

No plans Sunday so we might go to the pool or movies and finish up school shopping. Also working on our packing list for our road trip and buying any last minute things.

[twinmomma]

mellym, Kid karaoke is the best! My girls got a karaoke machine for their birthday and it provides some hilarious entertainment when they get into it!

[freezorburn]

We have arrived at XILs for the beginning of DS’s month with his dad. XH gave me a paw print from the dog and one of his favorite toys. He will also give me some ashes to take home.

And then we proceeded to have some weird and awkward conversations about the dog that opened up a bunch old wounds. We have so much material for our next divorce coach session. Thank goodness, because I was worried that the coach might be getting bored from listening to us.

[erinshelley21]

twinmomma hugs to you while all of this gets rolling!

Today is the final day of the weird, messed up week. I think I've worked like 8 hours total due to the craziness. I'm getting my hair done at lunch, which will include wine. After I'm meeting up with my bff to get some class reunion prep done.

Tomorrow is the reunion. The kids will go with me to pick up veggie trays and other snacks. Then I'm taking them to mil, picking up the cake and such, then nephew is our personal uber for the night and will drive DH and I to the venue and pick us up. Love having a licensed, responsible nephew. Also very much looking forward to the pizza and wing buffet.

Sunday is our anniversary. We have zero plans Haha. Our state fair started today so I think we are going to hear down there for a couple hours on Monday.

[campermom]

Looking forward to this weekend!

Tonight we are doing our Date Night In box. It’s Aloha themed.ive bought most of the ingredients for the meal and H downloaded Spotify for their playlist. It seems like we are having pulled pork. And maybe cookies with Macedonia nuts and white chocolate chips? I’m not sure yet bc I haven’t opened the box.

Has anyone done one of these?

Tomorrow night we are going to Real Madrid vs Juventus!!! I don’t think the big names like Ronaldo will be there because he literally just started training with Juventus the other day since he was off after the World Cup. It’s disappointing but my DS is being a trooper about it.

H works during the day both days this weekend so I'll need to figure out when to get my 7 miler in, but I trudged through my 9 miler last night with 730 ft elevation gain. It was rough but I’m on week 4 of my first marathon training and have not missed a run yet so I feel good about that, and H has been awesomely supportive.

[polecat8]

Tonight, DS1 has a birthday party at a local indoor swim park.
Tomorrow we'll be packing for vacation to Niagara Falls Canada with my family. I'm hoping that we don't forget anything.
On Sunday, we'll get up at our normal time (sometime between 7 and 8am), have some breakfast, and hit the road. We'll be on the road for 4 hours. I'm hoping we can get lunch in Buffalo with our friends who live there. Then we'll explore the falls and hope for a low key evening.
I'm worried that DS2 will sleep for us on vacation. He is a crappy sleeper and the one night that my parents had him a few weeks ago was a total fail. If sleep is elusive, at least I have my family around to help.

[mae0111]

DH left about an hour ago, with the kids, to visit his mom for the weekend. Sweet, sweet freedom. I've been with the kids all summer, and last week DH was away from Sun at noon until Saturday morning. I'm behind on EVERYTHING. So I'm spending the weekend doing deep cleaning and purging while my "helpers" can't stop me. I already went for a long walk to get my workout in, and I'm diving into the basement play area.

Despite a 5lb weight gain this summer, I'm ordering bad-for-me Chinese food and watching what I want on TV. Maybe swim by myself without listening to bickering.

I already miss the little buggers... :-)

[sunbutter]

We are....still moving and packing....

But we were just gifted two tickets to see Trevor Noah tomorrow night!

Now I have to figure out what to wear. Any cute date night dresses or pants you have seen at the malls lately? I have access to most major chains. Not too short as I like to down play my upper legs.

[supertrooper1]

It is supposed to be busy this weekend at work, so in preparation for that I was scheduled mandatory OT 3 days in a row. I'm not looking forward to it at all. DH helped me get meals ready for 3 days by grocery shopping and cooking a bunch of chicken for me so I could prep meals last night. At least my chatty coworker has training today, so I have one more day without her.

[mommyatty]

sunbutter, I’m pretty much in love with Loft’s entire collection of dresses.

[mustardseed2007]

freezorburn, you see a divorce coach? What is that?

I'm so glad it's Friday. Although I'm in the office on my own today (as in all the assistants are gone, so as the junior - and female - attorney I am handling the phones. I hate that). But I'm going to meet some ladies that I went to school with and/or worked with in the past. They are all lawyers and at this point we are all in house. I am really looking forward to talking with this little group because although we're not all in the same kind of place in our lives, we do all share the fact that we do the same thing and being in a group of women like that is not very common for me.

Tomorrow I'm driving out to the country to do a bike ride on the road. I always get nervous about that. Then I have a hair appointment in the afternoon. Which is 911 because I have gray all over. After that I'm planning to go with my family to eat sushi. DS has been begging for it and since my hair will look nice I definitely need to go out.

Sunday we have a lunch for my Aunt who is turning 70. It'll be nice to see my cousins there too. Hopefully after all of that I can come home and clean something. Our house is getting ridiculous.

1 week away from taking off for a full week with DS before he starts school at his new school!!

[sunbutter]

Aug 3, 2018 8:45:44 GMT -5 mommyatty said:

sunbutter, I’m pretty much in love with Loft’s entire collection of dresses.

Well, that is easy. I’m hoping that i can escape a bit early today and check it out before picking up the kiddos.

[rere]

Still in training. Hopefully unwind tonight with some wine.

Tomorrow we may take the kids to an outlet 2 hrs away to school shop and go to Dave and Busters. I'm not in the mood to make a concrete plan, so if not tomorrow, we are all off Monday and go then.

Sunday, hopefully laid back. Dh had been wanting to barbecue, so we may do that.

Plus the regular run and church.

[phdmomma]

Ds is home from summer camp today because he may have blown his ear drainage tube out, so much pus. We have a 10:30sm with the ent. I might take him out to lunch then and go grocery shopping.

[justcheckingin73]

Tonight we have a festival in our town which has food, rides and a beer tent. I told DH that I’d go if we took turns with DS since I told him that I normally get stuck doing all the kid work and never have any fun. His response? I wish he’d just walk around on his own. Ugh! #1 I don’t know if I want him walking around by himself or even with a friend. #2 maybe you could acknowledge and own that you get to have all the fun when we go places?!

That turned in to a vent...otherwise nothing big planned. I need to start packing and reducing items on the first floor in preparation for our floor and kitchen remodel. However, it will be in the 90s so I’m guessing that won’t be getting done if we spend a lot of time in the pool. Our pool is old and had sprung a leak so we can’t run the filter.  We need to replace it soon but I’m not sure what the schedule looks like for that so we’d better take advantage of it while it’s hot. 

[186momx]

DD and I are so far having a very quiet curl up in bed morning. Planning on going to open gym tonight. Saturday Jerry's our local employee owned is having th were it 57 year anniversary sale so will be going and hoping to get a good sale on paint and a new water heater. Other than that no plans.

[covergirl82]

justcheckingin73, I agree with you about not walking around alone or with friends. I don't let my kids do that either, even at the school carnival. Pedos and kidnappers love it when kids are unchaperoned in a big crowd, and I just don't trust anyone.

[freezorburn]

mustardseed2007

We worked with a Collaborative Divorce Coach during our separation and divorce, and have an informal agreement to check in with him 3-4 times a year. He is a licensed mental health professional who also is familiar with the collaborative law process.

In our case, we spent about 6 months with our coach on de-escalating conflict and improving communication before we brought the lawyers into our process. Basically he provided a space where we could process all the emotional stuff and go into the negotiation process with a mostly mutual understanding of each other’s priorities. And because he is an LMHC, those sessions were an appropriate place to vent and process a lot of those emotional hot points.

When I was interviewing lawyers, I got the impression really quickly that people probably unload a lot of stuff on their lawyers. And the lawyers aren’t really trained to handle the emotional side of things, so they cut straight to the legal stuff and clients are left not really knowing what to do with the emotional baggage they are lugging around. Counseling helps, but with the divorce coach I am able to directly address XH and work on problem solving in a way where we both get heard. And he can’t keep verbally attacking me without consequence, because he has to be accountable for anything he says in front of the coach.

[mustardseed2007]

freezorburn,That's really cool. It's really cool you both were up for that!

[akafred]

Tomorrow we leave for our week in Punta Cana. We’ll see how it goes. DD is in a fantastic mood today so I will take that .

[freezorburn]

Aug 3, 2018 15:30:21 GMT -5 mustardseed2007 said:

freezorburn,That's really cool. It's really cool you both were up for that!

Yeah it’s pretty lucky. I think with DS’s challenges, it was worth it to go through all of the counseling part of the work, so that we can have a functional co-parenting relationship. It would have been horrible if we could not get on the same page about his therapy, etc