What’s a rainbow baby?

[Jalapeñomel]

I could google, but I don’t really want to read about everyone’s BFPs.

[seeyalater52]

Live birth/success after loss.

ETA: although it looks like a poster in GP just used it in a very different way to mean success on the first month trying. I shouldn’t let that bother me but it really REALLY does.

[scm1011]

Aug 5, 2018 11:20:42 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

Live birth/success after loss.

ETA: although it looks like a poster in GP just used it in a very different way to mean success on the first month trying. I shouldn’t let that bother me but it really REALLY does.

WTF. That pisses me off too, and is just not accurate. As you said, rainbow baby is success after a loss.

[loira]

Aug 5, 2018 12:19:49 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Aug 5, 2018 11:20:42 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

Live birth/success after loss.

ETA: although it looks like a poster in GP just used it in a very different way to mean success on the first month trying. I shouldn’t let that bother me but it really REALLY does.

WTF. That pisses me off too, and is just not accurate. As you said, rainbow baby is success after a loss.

Oh dear, yeah. I don't personally use the term "rainbow baby". It's just not my style. But it is very common in the PGAL world and I'm not keen on it being misused like that.

ETA: I took a gander over there, and apparently it was used correctly to refer to PGAL, so I shall let my rage subside.

[seeyalater52]

Aug 5, 2018 16:02:11 GMT -5 loira said:

Aug 5, 2018 12:19:49 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

WTF. That pisses me off too, and is just not accurate. As you said, rainbow baby is success after a loss.

Oh dear, yeah. I don't personally use the term "rainbow baby". It's just not my style. But it is very common in the PGAL world and I'm not keen on it being misused like that.

ETA: I took a gander over there, and apparently it was used correctly to refer to PGAL, so I shall let my rage subside.

I admit I may have jumped the gun since her intro and other posts all indicate that she started trying for #1 in July so I stand corrected. It kinda makes sense people might have assumed she was referring instead to cycle 1 success though, given that.

[cherryvalance]

I'm still confused by the post, lol. Doesn't it say "cycle 1, TTC#1"?

[lagom]

Aug 5, 2018 18:50:04 GMT -5 cherryvalance said:

I'm still confused by the post, lol. Doesn't it say "cycle 1, TTC#1"?

Yeah, I just read her history and don't get it. She says cycle 1 multiple times, and says they just started trying.

[cherryvalance]

Aug 5, 2018 19:51:45 GMT -5 lagom said:

Aug 5, 2018 18:50:04 GMT -5 cherryvalance said:

I'm still confused by the post, lol. Doesn't it say "cycle 1, TTC#1"?

Yeah, I just read her history and don't get it. She says cycle 1 multiple times, and says they just started trying.

Well, I wish them luck! I'm glad I wasn't the only one confused. It's been a hectic few days and I feel dumber, lol.

[Jalapeñomel]

Aug 5, 2018 21:11:47 GMT -5 cherryvalance said:

Aug 5, 2018 19:51:45 GMT -5 lagom said:

Yeah, I just read her history and don't get it. She says cycle 1 multiple times, and says they just started trying.

Well, I wish them luck! I'm glad I wasn't the only one confused. It's been a hectic few days and I feel dumber, lol.

I had to go look too. I’m as confused as you guys are...cycle 1 TTC #1 seems to say that this is your first time trying ever. Maybe she had a miscarriage with an unplanned pregnancy?

[icedcoffee]

I lurked on GP the other day and had to leave when I felt my blood pressure rising. Haha.

[compassrose]

Aug 6, 2018 7:04:45 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

I lurked on GP the other day and had to leave when I felt my blood pressure rising. Haha.

I had to quit GP months ago. Jalapeñomel and I had been there way too long. 

[scm1011]

Aug 6, 2018 12:17:14 GMT -5 compassrose said:

Aug 6, 2018 7:04:45 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

I lurked on GP the other day and had to leave when I felt my blood pressure rising. Haha.

I had to quit GP months ago. Jalapeñomel and I had been there way too long. 

I had to do that at a certain point, too. When you're on cycle 20+ and there are women complaining that they're frustrated that they've been trying for 4 whole cycles and aren't pregnant yet you have to leave before you lose it. 

[pooh8402]

Aug 6, 2018 12:30:03 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Aug 6, 2018 12:17:14 GMT -5 compassrose said:

I had to quit GP months ago. Jalapeñomel and I had been there way too long. 

I had to do that at a certain point, too. When you're on cycle 20+ and there are women complaining that they're frustrated that they've been trying for 4 whole cycles and aren't pregnant yet you have to leave before you lose it. 

I quit there after I had been there 13 months. Some of the ladies and I remained in communication later, but I had to leave all the whining about "*sigh...* TTC #1, Cycle 4, CD24, 8dpo. Ugh, the TWW sucks. Why is this taking so long? Should I POAS now?" When I was looking at clomid and ovidrel and IUIs.

[loira]

Yeah, after I had to make the heartbreaking decision to TFMR at 24 weeks, I moved myself over here when I started to TTC again. I didn't need everyone to suffer the same struggle (certainly would not wish it on anyone), but I felt better in a community where people understood TTC struggle. Although I did receive a lot of lovely support on GP right after it happened, but I feel like that was in a different time, when there were a lot of GP women who were having a hard time - I moved over here with Pooh and a lot of TTTC women who had been on GP in 2014.

[shauni27]

I feel like I want to call her out, but I won't. Her entire post history indicates that this is their first cycle every trying for baby. But I also understand that she may have had a loss previous to trying so I won't say anything, obviously. I will just try to believe her and assume that talking about her loss is too hard or something.

I remember leaving GP to come over to TTTC. I think we were a year in and had scheduled our appointment with the RE. It was SUCH a great transition to come from a board of people being pregnant every damn week to a supportive and understanding board. You guys saved my sanity.

I, too, am like loira, and do not personally use the term rainbow baby for myself but I know how significant it is in this community.

[Jalapeñomel]

Aug 7, 2018 7:53:55 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

I feel like I want to call her out, but I won't. Her entire post history indicates that this is their first cycle every trying for baby. But I also understand that she may have had a loss previous to trying so I won't say anything, obviously. I will just try to believe her and assume that talking about her loss is too hard or something.

I remember leaving GP to come over to TTTC. I think we were a year in and had scheduled our appointment with the RE. It was SUCH a great transition to come from a board of people being pregnant every damn week to a supportive and understanding board. You guys saved my sanity.

I, too, am like loira, and do not personally use the term rainbow baby for myself but I know how significant it is in this community.

I asked.

[icedcoffee]

I only lurked on GBCN until I had a horrible appointment with an RE and I came over to TTTC to post. You guys brought me out of lurkedom! So---I never posted on GP, but I lurked enough to know how it goes over there.

[shauni27]

Jalapeñomel , report back if you hear anything! ETA: you should tag her in your comment so she sees it and answers you, Jalapeñomel.

[compassrose]

Aug 7, 2018 14:11:05 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

Jalapeñomel , report back if you hear anything! ETA: you should tag her in your comment so she sees it and answers you, Jalapeñomel.

She only has like 12 posts. Guessing she ghosts.

[Jalapeñomel]

Aug 7, 2018 15:01:01 GMT -5 compassrose said:

Aug 7, 2018 14:11:05 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

Jalapeñomel , report back if you hear anything! ETA: you should tag her in your comment so she sees it and answers you, Jalapeñomel.

She only has like 12 posts. Guessing she ghosts.

She clarified, and it was as suspected.

[shauni27]

I am glad we all held our tongues because most of us know a loss is rough regardless of when and how it happens. I am glad she clarified though!