Week of 8/13

[thoseareradishes]

Sending lots of good thoughts grover.

[cactuscookie]

Mushe, it's so hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel and then have it snatched away. This time will seem like a blip in your memory someday, but right now, it's a huge struggle. So many hugs.

grover, thinking of you and the babies. I hope it's just a SCH or something.

[belovedbride07]

Big hugs, Mushe. NICU life is hard.

I'm praying everything is okay, grover.

Today is transfer day! DH took the day off and I'm trying to get some work in; we'll drive out there this afternoon and then, not gonna lie, I'm not disappointed that my doctor wants me to take 72 hours of bed rest. I've got some activities planned that the kids can do on the bed or couch with me, and they're really into reading library ebooks on the ipad so I'll download a few new ones, but really DH is going to take charge this weekend.

This morning during pre-breakfast snuggle time the kids were talking about how my bed is so big so there is room for the whole family -- mommy, daddy, DS, DD -- and then DS says, "and baby! a real baby!" I definitely hope so. <3

[cactuscookie]

Aug 16, 2018 11:09:02 GMT -5 belovedbride07 said:

This morning during pre-breakfast snuggle time the kids were talking about how my bed is so big so there is room for the whole family -- mommy, daddy, DS, DD -- and then DS says, "and baby! a real baby!" I definitely hope so. <3

Pre-breakfast snuggle time sounds like something we need to incorporate into our morning routine!

[Mushe]

Good thoughts, belovedbride07! I can’t believe your twins are so big! I’m having an ‘I’ve been here forever’ moment. 😆

[belovedbride07]

Aug 16, 2018 11:27:51 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

Aug 16, 2018 11:09:02 GMT -5 belovedbride07 said:

This morning during pre-breakfast snuggle time the kids were talking about how my bed is so big so there is room for the whole family -- mommy, daddy, DS, DD -- and then DS says, "and baby! a real baby!" I definitely hope so. <3

Pre-breakfast snuggle time sounds like something we need to incorporate into our morning routine!

It’s one of my favorite parts of the day! DS is such a cuddle bug, he needs that time when he first wakes up. Right now he’s obsessed with watching Tasty videos, so we watch them on my phone. DD can take it or leave it; some days she stays with us and others she goes and plays or follows DH to the kitchen to help.

[shauni27]

Aug 16, 2018 11:27:51 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

Aug 16, 2018 11:09:02 GMT -5 belovedbride07 said:

This morning during pre-breakfast snuggle time the kids were talking about how my bed is so big so there is room for the whole family -- mommy, daddy, DS, DD -- and then DS says, "and baby! a real baby!" I definitely hope so. <3

Pre-breakfast snuggle time sounds like something we need to incorporate into our morning routine!

We do this too and it allows us to all slowly wake up. I love it. S will have his milk in our bed (though today with it being day one of milk no longer in his bottle it was a bit of a mess and less relaxing than normal!) and just cuddle and play. my husband will stay in bed longer than me and just cuddle together, while I get my makeup on. Then it is off to breakfast. 

[turboteal]

Hoping everything is ok grover!

Such good news from your scan katespade! It's such a huge relief to get past those milestones. Are you feeling baby move yet? That was the next great thing that happened after my scan and it made such a difference in daily reassurance!

[katespade]

Aug 16, 2018 15:03:18 GMT -5 turboteal said:

Such good news from your scan katespade ! It's such a huge relief to get past those milestones. Are you feeling baby move yet? That was the next great thing that happened after my scan and it made such a difference in daily reassurance!

I'm sure I was driving them crazy during the scan, because I couldn't stop asking questions. I was born with only one kidney and one ovary, so I was like, "You can see everything, right? And there's two of everything she's supposed to have two of? And they're all where they're supposed to be? And they're all the right shape and size?" lol.

I was so shocked when I started feeling her move at 16 weeks! I was not expecting it to start that early, but when I described the feeling to my OB she agreed that it's definitely baby I feel. I'm still only feeling it sporadically (maybe 1-2x/day), but I pushed on her while they were doing the extra cervical length checks during my scan yesterday and she pushed back.

[belovedbride07]

Transfer done! We did PGS; 5 of our 6 survived thaw, and 2 of the 5 came back as genetically normal. One was described as "top notch" and is hopefully nestling into my uterus right now; the other was "so-so" and is going back in the freezer for us to decide what to do later. My beta is 8/28.

The kids are NOT dealing with "mommy is resting" very well, but I'm happy to snuggle into my bed and finally de-stress after the anxiety-filled week I've had in preparation for today. Now it's just a matter of waiting...

[grover]

Thanks all. Nothing since this morning. OB thinks combination of progesterone suppositories irritating and possibly a little dehydration. Focused on hydrating today at work and trying to take it easy.

[luv2rn4fun]

Aug 16, 2018 19:42:15 GMT -5 grover said:

Thanks all. Nothing since this morning. OB thinks combination of progesterone suppositories irritating and possibly a little dehydration. Focused on hydrating today at work and trying to take it easy.

Good update grover! Been thinking of you and babies and sending prayers your way!

[mpc]

Day 2 pickup was rough. He cried and said he thought we had left him there and weren't coming. Wednesday we let him go to aftercare for 1 hr, but yesterday he did before care for an hour and after care for 2 hours. He's decided he likes kindergarten but not this before/after care. Ugh. I'm going to leave today to pick him up half an hour earlier, but eventually he will have to get used to it because there's only so much we can do.

[pooh8402]

So glad everything is okay grover!



This morning was my LAST progesterone dose! Hallelujah!

[belovedbride07]

mpc, aw, poor kiddo!

pooh8402, yay! I hope I "get" to do them for a couple more months, but boy am I looking forward to shots being over!

grover, I was so glad to see your post last night!

[pooh8402]

belovedbride07 I hate the shots with a passion. I asked to switch to endometrin at my 8 week appointment. I didn't care that I had to pay OOP. Worth it.

[belovedbride07]

Aug 17, 2018 13:04:23 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

belovedbride07 I hate the shots with a passion. I asked to switch to endometrin at my 8 week appointment. I didn't care that I had to pay OOP. Worth it.

I just went over my post-transfer instructions and realized PIO is only until 9 weeks! I was thinking they were longer because I'm on heparin and that goes until ~12. I can't tell you how excited I am. I would totally pay OOP (well, I'm already OOP, but what's more money at this point? :-P) for something easier/less painful!

[Mushe]

mpc, such a heartbreaker! DS had a hard time with before/after care too, but we worked it out. It wasn’t never his favorite, but that’s the option, so 🤷‍♀️

[oneslybookworm]

Hang in there, Mushe. NICU life sucks. Prays that the stress eases up soon.

So glad for the good update grover!

loira and shauni27, we are also OAD and I have no idea what we’ll say if G ever mentions a sibling. Adopting again is so far off our radar that, I just can’t even imagine.

G followed “dada” up with “mama” yesterday! Got both on video!!

[loira]

shauni27, oneslybookworm, my mum's helpful advice was "it's like getting a dog when your kid wants a dog and you don't - only worse. Sure, there are benefits to your kid, but you know who's really going to be stuck doing all the work and picking up the poop." Haha, thanks, mum. I do feel a little bit bad for A, because I was an only who was terrible at making friends. When I was a kid, I always wanted a brother or sister (that I could force to play with me). Lol, then my brother was born when I was 11 which was... not the same thing, and at that point I wanted to be an only child again. Hopefully A has an easy time making friends because I'm not about to change our plans unless it's something H and I want.

[oneslybookworm]

Aug 19, 2018 10:38:33 GMT -5 loira said:

shauni27, oneslybookworm, my mum's helpful advice was "it's like getting a dog when your kid wants a dog and you don't - only worse. Sure, there are benefits to your kid, but you know who's really going to be stuck doing all the work and picking up the poop." Haha, thanks, mum. I do feel a little bit bad for A, because I was an only who was terrible at making friends. When I was a kid, I always wanted a brother or sister (that I could force to play with me). Lol, then my brother was born when I was 11 which was... not the same thing, and at that point I wanted to be an only child again. Hopefully A has an easy time making friends because I'm not about to change our plans unless it's something H and I want.

I completely get it. My closest sibling was 9 years older, the other two were 16 and 19 years older, so I was practically an only child. But I hated my sibling (he was a jerk), so I see the side of “having a sibling isn’t always a ready made friend.” Either way, A will be wonderful and happy. No worries!