@ week of 8/13

[estrellita]

How are the little ones this week?

A finally rolled back to belly! She did it like 3 times so I know it wasn't just a fluke this time

[ewall]

estrellita Way to go, A!

I'm getting my period back at 8 weeks postpartum even though I'm breastfeeding because DD is sleeping 8 hours straight. Why can't I have my cake and eat it too? Oh well, I guess I will take the sleep and deal with the period.

[ewall]

Oh and C is starting to smile and make beginnings of baby babble

[estrellita]

ewall Boo! I think I'd take having AF back if A STTN consistently, lol. I don't pump MOTN but she does still wake up. So weird how it's different for everyone! (Sorry if that was a bragplaint, lol)

[luv2rn4fun]

estrellita- way to go A!

ewall- yay for smiles, baby babble, and sleep...major boo to AF. I would take that trade off though...L still doesn’t consistently STTN and he’s 2 next month (although his normal 1 wake up is a quick go in and remind him it’s still night night and back to bed...but sometimes just having to get up makes it hard for me to go back to sleep, especially if it’s after 4a).

C has started waking up earlier because his window is open and “it’s light out”. He screams and requests books...I gave them the first couple days but I don’t want this to become a thing. I told him tonight that he needs to stay in bed til his clock says 7. We’ll see how tomorrow morning goes...today I told him over the monitor it was too early and he just stayed up there for about 20 min.

[krystee]

E is sitting pretty well for short periods now! He now LOVES the fisher Price crawl around car, which was J's favorite forever. Best money we have ever spent!

Whenever J wakes up MOTN, he comes into our bed. However, he is like a silent ninja and doesn't wake me up at all. I prefer this to being woken up and having to take him back to bed. Can I let him keep doing it?

[luv2rn4fun]

Aug 14, 2018 15:14:08 GMT -5 krystee said:

E is sitting pretty well for short periods now! He now LOVES the fisher Price crawl around car, which was J's favorite forever. Best money we have ever spent!

Whenever J wakes up MOTN, he comes into our bed. However, he is like a silent ninja and doesn't wake me up at all. I prefer this to being woken up and having to take him back to bed. Can I let him keep doing it?

If it doesn’t bother you or your DH then I would say yes. DH and I don’t want either kid in our room (we both are grumpy without sleep and hopefully someday we will have a consistent sex life LOL) so it’s not for us, but lots of people like having a family bed and go with whatever works to ensure everyone gets the most sleep. I know a lot of our friends allow their kids to sleep in their room...plus, the extra cuddles are always nice! I would love it if either boy would actually nap with me as a “treat” but that would just turn into a bad habit that would be hard to break.

[krystee]

luv2rn4fun yeah, I have pretty much abandoned all hope of a regular sex life, so the more the merrier at this point!

[luv2rn4fun]

Aug 14, 2018 17:36:08 GMT -5 krystee said:

luv2rn4fun yeah, I have pretty much abandoned all hope of a regular sex life, so the more the merrier at this point!

((Hugs)). I think it’s pretty normal, unfortunately. Right there with you except I still have hope that someday things might change (not likely though as my DH has never had much of a sex drive). Our only “regular” is that I reach a point where it annoys me that he doesn’t make an effort and then we end up having sex, usually once a month but have gone as long as 7 months after L was born. It’s not a good cycle to be in, for either of us.

[awick14]

estrellita- yay for A!

ewall- I’m sorry that sucks. (Don’t read my complaint at the end of this, lol)

luv2rn4fun- I hope he stays in his bed until 7 for you!

krystee- I can’t believe he’s getting old/big enough to sit on his own!

Since I had my IUD removed near the end of Aug I have had increasingly painful cramps, and they are getting so much worse now. They initially felt like before my period cramps and now they feel closer to early labor cramping. Urg.

(And sex makes them way worse! 😳)

At 18 months postpartum I have not had a period yet, so maybe this is a lead up to that. Urg! Dh thinks I should see a doctor about them, but I have no idea when I will do it in the next week or so. But I have an appointment with my loss specialist Sept 12th, so hopefully I can make it to then and ask them about it. (I will also be talking to them about my irregular period pre pregnancy, and see what they think I should do about that, as I ended up taking clinic while ttc last time)

[estrellita]

awick14 Ugh, I hope you get some relief soon!

[luv2rn4fun]

Hope the cramps go away soon awick14. That sounds very painful 🙁. ((Hugs))

[bk1]

luv2rn4fun G has been the same way this summer. She use to sleep until 7-7:30 and now she is up between 6-6:30. She has an okay to wake clock set to turn green at 7. If she gets up before 6:30 we put her back in bed, but if it's after that we let her stay up. It's annoying because the girls have been pushing back bedtime and I'm not finished getting them to bed until at least 8:30 most nights. Last night it was almost 9. 


DH told me last week he wants to try for #3. He brought it up twice and said he had been thinking about it for a few months. I am on the fence about it all. He would rather try sooner then later but I told him I have 3 months of b/c pills left and I want to stay on them for at least that long while I think about it. I did not see that one coming! 

[pooh8402]

ewall, liked for STTN, but boo for AF. E didn't STTN, we EBF after 3.5 months, I had the mirena IUD, and I still got AF back at 5.5 months. Boo.

Not much to report here. We had our parent-teacher conference at daycare, and apparently my kid is a genius, lol. They said he was ready for preschool like 4 months ago, but they had to wait based on age.

[luv2rn4fun]

((Hugs)) bk1. I usually get C in his crib sometime 7:45-8:15. He doesn’t fall asleep til closer to 9 though (and usually needs me to go up there one more time to tuck in again.

That is awesome news with your DH! Good luck deciding! Will your DH ultimately be ok if you decide that you are good with two? Does he mainly want to have a third kid or try for a boy? Do you get more help now?

I would LOVE a third but DH is firmly done. I have mostly accepted it and just try to focus on the positives and be thankful for our two amazing boys- we are truly blessed and I didn’t think we would get here back in 2013/2014. In reality, 3 would be pretty hard because we don’t have a ton of help (and DH isn’t as helpful as I would like him to be, better than he used to be but most parenting does fall to me and I rarely get a break unless they are asleep...doesn’t help that L is still nursing). But I would still go for it if DH were on board- I am probably one of those that will never be fully “done” with wanting to be pregnant and experience all the “firsts” again.

[HoneySpider]

T is 4 weeks old! It's flown by.

[bk1]

luv2rn4fun He definitely wants a boy, but he keeps saying he wants another baby. C is almost the age G was when C was born. I wonder if that's what is making him really feel it. C is feeling less like a baby and more like a toddler and he keeps saying he misses having a baby around and wants another one. While in theory I'm for it, the reality of being a SAHM to 3 kids and financial aspects ( I would have to get a new car because I can't fit another car seat in mine, etc) are something to really be thinking about. We do fine right now with the four of us. Adding another would be a stretch for sure. I think he would be fine either way. He said it was up to me because he knows I would take the load of the work. 

MIL does help, but less so then when it was just G. MIL seems to be resistant to taking C because she is a Mama's girl and misses and asks for me when I'm away. So while she would help, I'm assuming it would be less rather than more. My mom is very little help because she has been taking care of my grandma. I completely understand that.

[luv2rn4fun]

HoneySpider- that went super fast! Happy 1 month to T!!

[luv2rn4fun]

bk1- makes sense. L is definitely less of a baby now too (except the nursing part) and it has always made me sad that he is the last. It’s hard to let it go and they grow up so fast. But it is a lot of work (although I envision the third just tags along and there isn’t as much of the “being home for naps” going on) and I do see the positives of just two- so much easier to get out with them for our adventures to the lake, Disneyland, zoo, etc. The people that I know that either have 3 or are pregnant with 3 have a lot of help and most of them also have two incomes. DH’s biggest factor is financial (I would also need a bigger car, preschool is expensive, he doesn’t want a big age gap because he turns 40 in Nov/doesn’t want another kid because “he’s old”/wants to retire by 60). But the “no help” factor is a pretty big one for both of us.

[melsamoony]

Guys DS turns FOUR on Saturday. How did this happen? He starts real preschool a week from Monday.

I am feeling lots of feels. The hormones aren't helping. DS was overtired today and was crying and I almost joined in.

[katespade]

I don't even have words for how relieved I am.

Anatomy scan was perfect. She was dancing around and doing back flips the whole time, her heart rate was 147 bpm, she has everything she's supposed to have, everything measured the size it's supposed to be, everything is exactly where it's supposed to be, and my cervix is a million miles long (> 5cm). I'll still have a couple of extra growth scans between now and full-term, but we get to graduate from MFM and have the rest of the monitoring done with the regular OB.

<3

[krystee]

I am so happy for you, katespade!

melsamoony it goes too fast! I can't believe my baby is going to preschool! He is walking the same hallways as eighth graders. This is too weird for me!

bk1 good luck with your decision! I fee very confident I only want two, but I still get a little pang when I hear people talk of #3. Babies are so sweet and it is such a fleeting time. It needs to slow down! I don't want more babies, but I want my two to be babies for a much longer time!

[krystee]

Oh, and I forgot to share my exciting purchase! I just got a used City Select jogger in amazing condition for $80! I think it's five years old, but looks barely used!

[grover]

krystee, you're more than welcome to come steal baby snuggles over here next spring! hahahaha- my hands will be full so the invitation is open LOL

[katespade]

krystee - I had an exciting purchase this weekend! $80 for 22 pocket cloth diapers and 26 inserts! I was way more excited than I probably should be about diapers. 😂

[krystee]

Aug 15, 2018 22:31:48 GMT -5 grover said:

krystee, you're more than welcome to come steal baby snuggles over here next spring! hahahaha- my hands will be full so the invitation is open LOL

I am definitely taking you up on that offer!

[estrellita]

A STTN the last 2 nights 😮 We probably won't get a 3rd now that I said something but it's been nice, lol. Coincidentally, H has slept on the couch the last 2 nights (he falls asleep there and doesn't want to come into the bedroom really late when he wakes up again). I'm wondering if he's just too loud when he comes in, lol. If the secret to her sleeping is H sleeping on the couch, then I'm all for it! Haha

[HoneySpider]

I had a dream last night that all of a sudden one night T grew these ridiculously long legs and was running all over the place and I was just all "my baby!" 

I have no desire to ever be pregnant again but boy do I love the newborn phase. I am going to be sad to have no more babies.

[pooh8402]

E woke up at like 4:15 this morning. Dh went in there at first but E still wouldn't go back to sleep. So DH brought him into the living room where I was trying to sleep (I was tossing and turning so I left the room allow DH to sleep, had no idea he was in E's room) and turned on the TV! At 4:45 am!

I immediately turned it off and brought E back to his room where he proceeded to scream and cry, and H gave up and brought him to our room instead and turned on the TV there!

I'm like dude... you gotta stop rewarding his early wake ups with TV. He'll never learn to sleep in. Dh can't stand to listen to him cry, so he does the TV so he can get more sleep.


Ugh. E was actually a decent sleeper before I went to night shifts. I think DH had been doing this crap while I was working and now we've got bad habits.

[melsamoony]

HoneySpider I had a dream my baby was born the size of a toddler and walking and talking. I tried to breastfeed her and she told me "no that is gross." I was like how did I birth a child and not a baby lol!