@ week of 8/13

[luv2rn4fun]

((Hugs)) pooh8402. That’s really frustrating. Would an ok to wake clock work? We don’t have one but I hear (on here) that they are sometimes great. C was waking up early (still is but not as bad)...at first I was giving books but that made it worse (earlier wake up) so one day I said it was still bedtime and that his window was open so he needed to be quiet. He actually listened and it hasn’t been much of a problem the last few days...he just sits quietly in his room til I am come to get him at 6:30 (he goes to bed at 8, asleep around 9 so I feel this is pretty fair and reasonable).

[pooh8402]

Aug 17, 2018 15:01:24 GMT -5 luv2rn4fun said:

((Hugs)) pooh8402. That’s really frustrating. Would an ok to wake clock work? We don’t have one but I hear (on here) that they are sometimes great. C was waking up early (still is but not as bad)...at first I was giving books but that made it worse (earlier wake up) so one day I said it was still bedtime and that his window was open so he needed to be quiet. He actually listened and it hasn’t been much of a problem the last few days...he just sits quietly in his room til I am come to get him at 6:30 (he goes to bed at 8, asleep around 9 so I feel this is pretty fair and reasonable).

We have one. It doesn't help when one parent isn't enforcing its use by allowing the child to get up before it lights up. We (excuse me, *I* ) have it set for 6 am.

He goes to bed about 8:30, usually asleep by 9.

[luv2rn4fun]

Aug 17, 2018 15:04:37 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

Aug 17, 2018 15:01:24 GMT -5 luv2rn4fun said:

((Hugs)) pooh8402. That’s really frustrating. Would an ok to wake clock work? We don’t have one but I hear (on here) that they are sometimes great. C was waking up early (still is but not as bad)...at first I was giving books but that made it worse (earlier wake up) so one day I said it was still bedtime and that his window was open so he needed to be quiet. He actually listened and it hasn’t been much of a problem the last few days...he just sits quietly in his room til I am come to get him at 6:30 (he goes to bed at 8, asleep around 9 so I feel this is pretty fair and reasonable).

We have one. It doesn't help when one parent isn't enforcing its use by allowing the child to get up before it lights up. We (excuse me, *I* ) have it set for 6 am.

He goes to bed about 8:30, usually asleep by 9.

Sorry 🙁. How did your DH respond when you mentioned this strategy isn’t helping? Do you think he will be willing to get on board and consistent with making E stay in his bed? Maybe try a rewards system if E does stay in his room (without either of you there)?

I get he doesn’t like hearing E cry but waking up for the day at 4:45 is not good either. My boys would be so exhausted and overall horrible to be around all day. I would hope that a week or so of consistency would help you guys all get to where you want to be (6a wakeup), which would help everyone get the sleep you guys all need.

[pooh8402]

Aug 17, 2018 15:40:07 GMT -5 luv2rn4fun said:

Aug 17, 2018 15:04:37 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

We have one. It doesn't help when one parent isn't enforcing its use by allowing the child to get up before it lights up. We (excuse me, *I* ) have it set for 6 am.

He goes to bed about 8:30, usually asleep by 9.

Sorry 🙁. How did your DH respond when you mentioned this strategy isn’t helping? Do you think he will be willing to get on board and consistent with making E stay in his bed? Maybe try a rewards system if E does stay in his room (without either of you there)?

I get he doesn’t like hearing E cry but waking up for the day at 4:45 is not good either. My boys would be so exhausted and overall horrible to be around all day. I would hope that a week or so of consistency would help you guys all get to where you want to be (6a wakeup), which would help everyone get the sleep you guys all need.

He didn't really say much because we were all doing the morning routine (at least I was, I leave the house an hour earlier than they do). I'm going to sit down with him tonight. Maybe get some ear plugs on my way home.

[luv2rn4fun]

Aug 17, 2018 15:45:15 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

Aug 17, 2018 15:40:07 GMT -5 luv2rn4fun said:

Sorry 🙁. How did your DH respond when you mentioned this strategy isn’t helping? Do you think he will be willing to get on board and consistent with making E stay in his bed? Maybe try a rewards system if E does stay in his room (without either of you there)?

I get he doesn’t like hearing E cry but waking up for the day at 4:45 is not good either. My boys would be so exhausted and overall horrible to be around all day. I would hope that a week or so of consistency would help you guys all get to where you want to be (6a wakeup), which would help everyone get the sleep you guys all need.

He didn't really say much because we were all doing the morning routine (at least I was, I leave the house an hour earlier than they do). I'm going to sit down with him tonight. Maybe get some ear plugs on my way home.

I hope it goes well tonight! I was going to recommend ear plugs too.

[HoneySpider]

melsamoony LOL dreams are so weird!

[katespade]

I found this at a resale store for $1.95, and I couldn’t resist. 😍

[estrellita]

Difficult babies get easier at some point right? Please? I'm going insane. We're on our way home and she's screamed for like, half the drive. We left so that she shouldn't have needed a bottle until we got home. She fell asleep when we left. Woke up after maybe 20 min just screaming. She wouldn't let up so we stopped. Fed her but she didn't finish the bottle. Changed her even though she wasn't that wet. Put her back in the car seat and she started screaming again. I get that she probably didn't want to be in the car seat but come on. She off and on screamed most of the way back. I kept reaching back to give her the paci but she didn't want that. Her screaming makes me super anxious so I was having a really rough time and didn't know what we could do other than let her just scream. I'm so sick of this. She does this a lot at home too if she's not being held. I'm just stressed and frustrated that she's so unhappy 90% of the time. She's wonderful the other 10%!

Sorry for the brain dump. Constant baby screaming plus constant 3 year old whining is really dragging me down. My mental state is horrible right now. How do other parents do it? I feel like such a terrible mom.

[katespade]

estrellita - (((((HUGS))))) I have no experience or anecdotes to share, but I can tell you with 100% certainty that you’re not a terrible mom. I’m sorry that things are so rough right now.

[ewall]

estrellita hugs! I only have the whiny 3 year old right now and am ready to lose my mind over that. I often tell the baby to cut it out or deal with it (lol like she understands but I guess it helps me survive in the moment) when she's fussy for no reason and I'm trying to deal with DS. Two kids is tough!

[bk1]

Big hugs estrellita. I find the first year extremely hard even in the best circumstances. I hope she eases up on you soon.

[HoneySpider]

((estrellita))

[krystee]

Hugs, estrellita. Two kids are hard, especially when one of them is three. Add a challenging baby on top of that, and you are a saint!

I feel like I am not living life right now. Work is the amount I think most people would have in three full-time jobs (or at least it's three times the amount I have ever had in previous jobs). I work every night after bedtime. And E wants to go to bed so early that we don't have any time to go outside and play after work. It's basically diapers, bottles, bath, and bed at 6:50. It sucks. I feel like we give him no attention beyond feeding and changing him because there is no time!

And then DS1 has tons of TV time because I am running around like a lunatic to get a baby in bed. Fortunately preschool and daycare (he goes half day to each every day) both spend lots of time outside.

I don't want to wish this season away...I want there to be more time in a day so I can actually enjoy my last baby!

[awick14]

Aug 15, 2018 22:48:40 GMT -5 katespade said:

krystee - I had an exciting purchase this weekend! $80 for 22 pocket cloth diapers and 26 inserts! I was way more excited than I probably should be about diapers. 😂

I would be very excited about this! Lol

[awick14]

((estrellita))

[estrellita]

krystee I feel the exact same way. A is so tired by 6:30 most nights. We barely have time to get home, feed ourselves and E, give A a bottle, give her solids, bath (not every night), I need to pump, plus spend any actual time with them. We try to keep the TV off so E plays instead, but sometimes it's easier to just let him watch a couple shows so we can get stuff done. I try to make sure we get more quality time on the weekends but that doesn't always happen either