@Week of 8/20

[luv2rn4fun]

How’s it going this week?

I am watching our friend’s boys today. It hasn’t been the easiest day (misty because the older two, their kid and C, aren’t really agreeing on much of what they want to do and aren’t playing the best together). I think C likes having them here but it also hard for him to go with the flow more and not always get his way (which he doesn’t anyway but it probably feels like I am choosing their desires over his, whereas it’s usually me vs him LOL).

We went for a walk but C was over it so we didn’t get far. We did get to paint some cards for their mom...that was interesting but it’s done! They actually all napped and their LO is taking an unprecedented good nap! Thank God because I needed the break today!

Preschool Back to school night tonight! Met C’s teacher yesterday (she came to our house for a visit/meet and greet). She’s very nice and C actually did surprisingly really well with her- better than I expected!! He even talked LOL!!

The other boys will get picked up, I will put dinner on the table for my boys, and then DH will do dinner, bath, teeth, pjs...I will put both to bed when I get home. Going to be busy!

[HoneySpider]

Nap time has been difficult again, he doesn't want to go down and then after he gets up he's super cranky. Ugh.

I know realistically we are done having kids (there are 100 reasons why) but for some reason I can't get to the point of saying with 100% certainty I'm done. I keep saying I'm 99% sure. I think more than anything I'm having hard time letting go of the IDEA of more kids and just in general accepting that this part of my life is done.

When I was pregnant I said 500 times I'm never doing this again.

[estrellita]

HoneySpider I feel the same way. At the hospital with A I told myself I am NEVER doing this again. Actually during pregnancy too with all the pain I had! I like the idea of 3 kids but the more I think about it, the more I don't want to do the pregnancy, birth, and newborn stages all over again. But there's still that tiny part of me that just can't get rid of stuff or say for sure. I'm starting to come around to getting rid of stuff though because there is SO MUCH stuff!

[estrellita]

I'm worried about A. Started on Tue. DC called and said A had a fever. H stayed home with her yesterday (worked at home). This morning her fever was still up so I stayed home with her. Mid morning it was back to normal but she was still really sleepy and not eating well. She took a couple really long naps and keeps fighting her bottle. Her fever went back up at like 4 to 99.9 then again up to 101 something when H got home. We called the nurses line and said if she still has the fever tomorrow to bring her in. I really don't want to call into work tomorrow again! Ugh. I wish I knew what was wrong. She seems fine other than being tired and not really eating anything. Poor baby

[ewall]

HoneySpider I too am having all the feeeelings about being done. I never want to be pregnant again, I don't much like newborns, yet here I was earlier this evening contemplating a third. I think it boils down to everything now with C is the "last time."

estrellita sounds like a virus or maybe her ears. Poor little girl, hope she is better tomorrow.

[ewall]

Wait, never mind. I just remembered I spent 10 straight days with both of my children home 24/7 and about lost my mind I'm good with two.

But luv2rn4fun is rocking it with all those kiddos at her house! Have you tried painting with water yet? Give the kids big paint brushes and a bucket of water, have them paint the concrete. My grandparents let us do this as kids, and we thought it was SO fun, haha.

[luv2rn4fun]

Aug 23, 2018 20:00:09 GMT -5 ewall said:

Wait, never mind. I just remembered I spent 10 straight days with both of my children home 24/7 and about lost my mind I'm good with two.

But luv2rn4fun is rocking it with all those kiddos at her house! Have you tried painting with water yet? Give the kids big paint brushes and a bucket of water, have them paint the concrete. My grandparents let us do this as kids, and we thought it was SO fun, haha.

Aww, you are so sweet!! Being home with kids 24/7 is HARD! I would totally have a 3rd though...I have learned with 4 that it’s really not much harder once you have 2+. It’s mostly the annoying stuff like putting on 4 diapers for nap, 4 pairs of shoes to go outside, grab all 4 water bottles to go on a walk, sunscreen x4, etc.

I have heard of the painting with water before and have been meaning to try it! Thanks for the reminder- we just might do this after nap on Tuesday! Today, I had them go outside and filled the water table up (C wanted to do water table but the other older boy didn’t so he helped me take the trash out and get the mail LOL) and play in the back so my house wasn’t too destroyed before I had to leave for Back to school night!

[estrellita]

I checked A's temp after I was done pumping this morning and it was normal. Realized it was Fri and I normally work earlier so I rushed to get into the shower. Got out and H tells me he got 100.4 in one of her ears. Grrr. She's also still not really eating. She normally takes 5oz bottles but MOTN she had 4, then this morning she only drank a little over 1oz. This is really not typical for her. I'm going to see how she is in a little bit and decide if I should take her to the doctor. Poor girl, I just want her to feel better!

[luv2rn4fun]

((Hugs)) estrellita. I hope A feels better soon.

[bk1]

estrellita I hope A is feeling better soon! Poor girl



We are moving the girls into the same room. The plan is to turn C's room into a playroom and try to contain the clutter in the house. I'm still unsure if this is a good plan, but the girls are both very excited about it. 

[HoneySpider]

estrellita and ewall Glad I'm not alone! DH goes back to work next week so once I'm home all day alone with both boys I might be feeling more confident about being done. He has been a HUGE help.

[bk1]

We are going to start TTC for #3 in a couple months. We have plenty of reasons not to but we both want 3. I'm super excited and nervous.

[melsamoony]

DS's last day of daycare was today and he starts preschool Monday. I am having so many feels.

I really don't think I will have more than 2. I was 1 of 3....all of us girls and it always felt like 2 on 1 and I was on both sides of that equation and I hated it. It still happens as adults even!! I love my sisters but I think for me I would rather stop at 2. I have mixed emotions about being done and this baby hasn't even arrived!

I think any time you are making a decision about kids whether to have more or to stop it is hard. In the end whatever decision you make is the right one....at least that is what I tell myself 😉

[grover]

I'm kinda bummed that, again, IF took the decision out of our hands. Had we not had to do the IF treatments that resulted in twins for #2, we would have stopped at 2. We both like that with 2 we could do man to man defense, and each kid had own bedroom, and not needing new car, etc. Plus there's no way we can help with college times three.

[melsamoony]

Aug 24, 2018 18:31:22 GMT -5 grover said:

I'm kinda bummed that, again, IF took the decision out of our hands. Had we not had to do the IF treatments that resulted in twins for #2, we would have stopped at 2. We both like that with 2 we could do man to man defense, and each kid had own bedroom, and not needing new car, etc. Plus there's no way we can help with college times three.

((hugs)) I am sorry.

[luv2rn4fun]

((Hugs)) grover. Sorry the decision was made for you guys. All of those reasons you listed are the big ones on DH’s list for stopping at 2. You guys will figure it out and it will all work out. They will all be so close in age that they will be good friends.

bk1- I am so excited for you guys! Wishing you all the best as the girls share a room and as you guys TTC for #3!! I am going to live vicariously through you 😀

[estrellita]

I think A is back to mostly normal. Her fever is gone and she's eating a little better, though still not great. She's stuffy so I'm thinking it was just a cold. She's eating Cheerios right now so she seems better!

E had been doing well with no accidents but has had a few this past week. A couple poop accidents (including one just a few min ago, H is still cleaning him up) and he's wet the bed twice. This morning I think it was him getting up and us not coming in to get him fast enough. I decided we're going to take the knob cover off his door but stress he needs to stay in his room unless he has to go potty. I hope we're not setting ourselves up for disaster! We did move the cover to the hall door so he can't escape out into the living room or anything.

[estrellita]

E finally figured out that he can go out of his room. He's come out twice since we left his room to go potty. Lol. I told H we just need to deal until the novelty wears off! Hopefully that will be soon..