Last week of August Thread

[boiler717]

T started school again today! He sobbed at drop off. I am worried about accidents and that he’s the youngest in the room (Montessori, so he’s with kids up to 6). I hope it goes better than his last school.

[shauni27]

boiler717, so cute! Fingers crossed he has a good day!

[boiler717]

cactuscookie loira ivy I know T is pretty easy going, but to me it sounds like they might be overtired? Can you start the routine earlier and have more time for stories once in Pjs? If we run late he’s much more likely to be difficult, probably both from being overtired and us trying to hurry him along. We also “race” to get ready before bed and if we can do it in a set amount of time he gets to pick a “bonus book.” Or I will do something while my husband gets him ready and whoever finishes first gets to pick the bonus book (he loves it when we yell back and forth “IM WINNING!!” So we are probably raising him to be a jerk ). He seems to do better with that than taking books away for not listening (which we also do but is less effective).

[boiler717]

thoseareradishes we had good luck with using a doubler and peeing on the potty before bed (well before we potty trained he was peeing on the potty before bed) www.target.com/p/sposie-booster-pads-30ct/-/A-53623257

[mpc]

The power is out at work and at the daycare. There are backup generators, so they had some lights at the school. Everyone was eating breakfast when we dropped off but it seemed extra loud and chaotic. Our computers seem to have power, and a couple lights in the office, but no AC either here or there. I'm not sure how long we'll last today if it doesn't come back. A coworker told me it's already been out for 2 hours. (we use a daycare that's at work. Not in the same building, but just around the corner.)

[boiler717]

shauni27 at T’s old school they would attach a biting toy (like chewbeads or a tether) to the kid and if they tried to bite a friend they would say “it’s not okay to bite friends, if you need to bite use this.” A lot of kids need the sensory input from biting, due to teething or whatever, and giving them something safe to bite helps.

[ivy]

Aug 28, 2018 7:28:31 GMT -5 boiler717 said:

cactuscookie loira ivy I know T is pretty easy going, but to me it sounds like they might be overtired? Can you start the routine earlier and have more time for stories once in Pjs? If we run late he’s much more likely to be difficult, probably both from being overtired and us trying to hurry him along. We also “race” to get ready before bed and if we can do it in a set amount of time he gets to pick a “bonus book.” Or I will do something while my husband gets him ready and whoever finishes first gets to pick the bonus book (he loves it when we yell back and forth “IM WINNING!!” So we are probably raising him to be a jerk ). He seems to do better with that than taking books away for not listening (which we also do but is less effective).

Oh we've tried moving the time around with no difference in behavior. I think it's generally just hard for kids this age to wind down at the end of the day. Though I have to say, she's been getting much better over the last week or so. There haven't been any tears over getting in the bath or refusals to get in pjs at night. I think this is more of a phase we're going through - and hopefully nearing the end of!

[shauni27]

mpc, no AC? In your neck of the woods? Big fat nope.

boiler717, if he has his paci he is totally fine and he chews that. But we do not want him using it so much (he would have it in 24/7 if he could). Knock on all the wood, so far it is just us. He stayed home with H yesterday and he said that he only had to deal with the biting issue once, unlike Sunday when he bit me 4 times (with bruises each time!)

[scm1011]

boiler717, I agree - if they can do it themselves its developmentally appropriate! And look at your sweet T; I hope he has a good first day

[mpc]

ahhh, sweet AC, power is back on
Got a call from the elementary school that they are doing a "critical incident" drill today.   The teacher told us they try to make it fun for the kids...

[thoseareradishes]

Thanks for the suggestions! I ordered a couple of cloth diaper covers to try putting over her regular diaper. I'm hesitant to size up because the 5's are already pretty big on her. I'm going to try the sposie pads if the cloth cover doesn't work. Hopefully they won't give her a rash if I need to try them.

[shauni27]

mpc, liked your latest comment for the AC, not the incident drill.

[mpc]

OK, tell me what you think about this. Last night I was talking to my mom and she asked if none of my friends are throwing me a shower. I said nope, with this one being so soon after the last and both of them being girls, it doesn't really seem like there's anything we need. Buying clothes or other similar stuff seems almost like a waste. And the only stuff we need is the boring or expensive stuff no one wants to buy anyway. She thinks this is sad and suggested she could throw a small brunch at her house for a small-ish group. She said we could do gifts to pamper mom, rather than the baby.

So, it does sound fun to me. But is it weird, or crossing a line? It would have to happen quick since delivery is scheduled in about a month.

[mpc]

Also, whatever happened to daylily?

[scm1011]

Aug 28, 2018 11:17:08 GMT -5 mpc said:

OK, tell me what you think about this. Last night I was talking to my mom and she asked if none of my friends are throwing me a shower. I said nope, with this one being so soon after the last and both of them being girls, it doesn't really seem like there's anything we need. Buying clothes or other similar stuff seems almost like a waste. And the only stuff we need is the boring or expensive stuff no one wants to buy anyway. She thinks this is sad and suggested she could throw a small brunch at her house for a small-ish group. She said we could do gifts to pamper mom, rather than the baby.

So, it does sound fun to me. But is it weird, or crossing a line? It would have to happen quick since delivery is scheduled in about a month.

Honestly? I'd raise my eyebrows a bit. Maybe a brunch celebrating the coming baby that explicitly says no gifts? 

And good question about daylily!

[cactuscookie]

Aug 28, 2018 12:27:30 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Aug 28, 2018 11:17:08 GMT -5 mpc said:

OK, tell me what you think about this. Last night I was talking to my mom and she asked if none of my friends are throwing me a shower. I said nope, with this one being so soon after the last and both of them being girls, it doesn't really seem like there's anything we need. Buying clothes or other similar stuff seems almost like a waste. And the only stuff we need is the boring or expensive stuff no one wants to buy anyway. She thinks this is sad and suggested she could throw a small brunch at her house for a small-ish group. She said we could do gifts to pamper mom, rather than the baby.

So, it does sound fun to me. But is it weird, or crossing a line? It would have to happen quick since delivery is scheduled in about a month.

Honestly? I'd raise my eyebrows a bit. Maybe a brunch celebrating the coming baby that explicitly says no gifts?

I'm pretty sure I'd be okay with it. I like brunch. I'd probably just bring a bottle of wine. I'm not terribly creative.

[icedcoffee]

Aug 28, 2018 11:17:08 GMT -5 mpc said:

OK, tell me what you think about this. Last night I was talking to my mom and she asked if none of my friends are throwing me a shower. I said nope, with this one being so soon after the last and both of them being girls, it doesn't really seem like there's anything we need. Buying clothes or other similar stuff seems almost like a waste. And the only stuff we need is the boring or expensive stuff no one wants to buy anyway. She thinks this is sad and suggested she could throw a small brunch at her house for a small-ish group. She said we could do gifts to pamper mom, rather than the baby.

So, it does sound fun to me. But is it weird, or crossing a line? It would have to happen quick since delivery is scheduled in about a month.

My friend had a sprinkle thrown for her and her kids are just under 2 years apart. I think it’s fine as long as you don’t list a registry. She didn’t so people brought very small gifts like diapers or an outfit. Keep it small and don’t mention gifts. Provide good food and some cake and there’s absolutely nothing to judge in my opinion. I was happy to celebrate her and enjoy good food for the afternoon.

[loira]

Aug 28, 2018 7:53:46 GMT -5 ivy said:

Aug 28, 2018 7:28:31 GMT -5 boiler717 said:

cactuscookie loira ivy I know T is pretty easy going, but to me it sounds like they might be overtired? Can you start the routine earlier and have more time for stories once in Pjs? If we run late he’s much more likely to be difficult, probably both from being overtired and us trying to hurry him along. We also “race” to get ready before bed and if we can do it in a set amount of time he gets to pick a “bonus book.” Or I will do something while my husband gets him ready and whoever finishes first gets to pick the bonus book (he loves it when we yell back and forth “IM WINNING!!” So we are probably raising him to be a jerk ). He seems to do better with that than taking books away for not listening (which we also do but is less effective).

Oh we've tried moving the time around with no difference in behavior. I think it's generally just hard for kids this age to wind down at the end of the day. Though I have to say, she's been getting much better over the last week or so. There haven't been any tears over getting in the bath or refusals to get in pjs at night. I think this is more of a phase we're going through - and hopefully nearing the end of!

Same here. I think A just needs to get out the last bit of energy before bed.

But I love the idea of turning it into a competition, boiler717. A loves winning so much. Heh, I think she might take after me.

[cactuscookie]

Aug 28, 2018 13:43:45 GMT -5 loira said:

Aug 28, 2018 7:53:46 GMT -5 ivy said:

Oh we've tried moving the time around with no difference in behavior. I think it's generally just hard for kids this age to wind down at the end of the day. Though I have to say, she's been getting much better over the last week or so. There haven't been any tears over getting in the bath or refusals to get in pjs at night. I think this is more of a phase we're going through - and hopefully nearing the end of!

Same here. I think A just needs to get out the last bit of energy before bed.

My theory is that H just really doesn't want to go to bed. Sleeping is boring, playing is more fun. I get it; how many adults do you know that wake up in the morning chastising themselves for staying up too late the night before? I know I do it all the time.

Also she doesn't like to do things that aren't her idea, so she fights going to daycare and eating dinner too. She's just...very two.

[loira]

Aug 28, 2018 13:52:53 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

Aug 28, 2018 13:43:45 GMT -5 loira said:

Same here. I think A just needs to get out the last bit of energy before bed.

Also she doesn't like to do things that aren't her idea

Well, I mean, do YOU? I don't, haha. I agree though, FOMO plays a part in it for A as well.

[thoseareradishes]

Aug 28, 2018 12:27:30 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Aug 28, 2018 11:17:08 GMT -5 mpc said:

OK, tell me what you think about this. Last night I was talking to my mom and she asked if none of my friends are throwing me a shower. I said nope, with this one being so soon after the last and both of them being girls, it doesn't really seem like there's anything we need. Buying clothes or other similar stuff seems almost like a waste. And the only stuff we need is the boring or expensive stuff no one wants to buy anyway. She thinks this is sad and suggested she could throw a small brunch at her house for a small-ish group. She said we could do gifts to pamper mom, rather than the baby.

So, it does sound fun to me. But is it weird, or crossing a line? It would have to happen quick since delivery is scheduled in about a month.

Honestly? I'd raise my eyebrows a bit. Maybe a brunch celebrating the coming baby that explicitly says no gifts? 

Yeah I'm here too.  I wouldn't feel comfortable with it because I know people would feel obligated to give gifts.

[cactuscookie]

Aug 28, 2018 14:24:39 GMT -5 loira said:

Aug 28, 2018 13:52:53 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

Also she doesn't like to do things that aren't her idea

Well, I mean, do YOU? I don't, haha. I agree though, FOMO plays a part in it for A as well.

Exactly. The difference is that I understand that there's no choice. Sure, I'd rather play all day - but I have to work, and therefore she has to go to daycare. I'd rather stay up and read for hours, but I have to get up in the morning, so I make myself go to bed at a reasonable time. Toddlers don't understand these sorts of consequences. They're just thinking, hey, I can pull my own undies up so I must be independent, I should get to choose my own bedtime. 

[belovedbride07]

shauni27, to ditto ivy, we read Teeth Are Not for Biting daily during the biting stage. I still have it memorized. LOL

Luckily for me bedtime is fine in our house (knock on wood!); it's the morning routine that KILLS me. And what's terrible is they'll do it nicely for DH, but it's a huge battle for me. At our old place he could help me and then go to work, but now he leaves right after breakfast so the whole potty/teeth/sunscreen/getting dressed process is on me. I live for weekends when he can take care of it for me!

I'm so sorry about the HG, cherryvalance. I hope it passes soon!

mpc, I've found that the whole "shower rules" of the mom internet does not seem to line up to what people I know do IRL. People are totally not shy about hosting their own showers, having them for second+ kids, etc.  I'd totally come to a friend's "pamper mom" brunch!

My beta officially came back negative; I was still kind of hoping that I somehow had a dud batch of HPTs. I'm not so much sad about not having another baby right now because I was kind of stressing the logistics and money and everything, but the fact that this means we probably won't ever is hard to come to terms with. (We have one mediocre embryo left that I'm not even sure is worth transferring, and I'm not up to cycle again anytime soon anyways.)

[pooh8402]

Aug 28, 2018 11:17:08 GMT -5 mpc said:

OK, tell me what you think about this. Last night I was talking to my mom and she asked if none of my friends are throwing me a shower. I said nope, with this one being so soon after the last and both of them being girls, it doesn't really seem like there's anything we need. Buying clothes or other similar stuff seems almost like a waste. And the only stuff we need is the boring or expensive stuff no one wants to buy anyway. She thinks this is sad and suggested she could throw a small brunch at her house for a small-ish group. She said we could do gifts to pamper mom, rather than the baby.

So, it does sound fun to me. But is it weird, or crossing a line? It would have to happen quick since delivery is scheduled in about a month.

I would have no problem with that. Sounds like fun!

[shauni27]

Aug 28, 2018 17:17:46 GMT -5 belovedbride07 said:

shauni27, to ditto ivy, we read Teeth Are Not for Biting daily during the biting stage. I still have it memorized. LOL

Luckily for me bedtime is fine in our house (knock on wood!); it's the morning routine that KILLS me. And what's terrible is they'll do it nicely for DH, but it's a huge battle for me. At our old place he could help me and then go to work, but now he leaves right after breakfast so the whole potty/teeth/sunscreen/getting dressed process is on me. I live for weekends when he can take care of it for me!

I'm so sorry about the HG, cherryvalance. I hope it passes soon!

mpc, I've found that the whole "shower rules" of the mom internet does not seem to line up to what people I know do IRL. People are totally not shy about hosting their own showers, having them for second+ kids, etc.  I'd totally come to a friend's "pamper mom" brunch!

My beta officially came back negative; I was still kind of hoping that I somehow had a dud batch of HPTs. I'm not so much sad about not having another baby right now because I was kind of stressing the logistics and money and everything, but the fact that this means we probably won't ever is hard to come to terms with. (We have one mediocre embryo left that I'm not even sure is worth transferring, and I'm not up to cycle again anytime soon anyways.)

I’m sorry about th negative beta.

[ivy]

Big hugs belovedbride07. It’s so hard when you feel like the choice is taken away from you. Thinking about you.

[loira]

Aug 28, 2018 19:34:54 GMT -5 ivy said:

Big hugs belovedbride07 . It’s so hard when you feel like the choice is taken away from you. Thinking about you.

This for sure. So many hugs belovedbride07.

[loira]

boiler717, T is so stinking cute! I hope everything goes well.

[konapoppy]

Aug 28, 2018 11:50:01 GMT -5 mpc said:

Also, whatever happened to daylily?

I think she gbc gbcned in a big thread but not over anything that big. Sorry, that wasn’t too helpful.

[starryfish]

mpc sorry but I would side eye it.


I super judged my friend who hosted her own second baby shower and listed registries on the invite. Not cool.