Tuesday vents, celebrations, randoms

[waverly]

Celebration- we had a really good weekend. All the plans came together. I saw an old friend from high school.

Vent- it was super steamy out the whole time and we were mostly outside. Seeing the old friend was good but also awkward and brought up lots of memories. She had been not a brideszilla but a non inclusive bride leaving me out of things like the rehearsal dinner and place where they were getting their hair done. I had to call and ask when the rehearsal was she never told me, and I was in the bridal party. So her lack of effort was part of the reason we didnt stay in touch and then I took my cue from her and stopped trying. It’s just sad. But at least it was pleasant to see each other.

Randoms- another friend was supposed to be at the same location so I looked in her FB and she wasn’t there. But I saw she met up with all the crazy ladies from our sorority. It seems like we had the sane group and the crazy group. And that she was at another event with one of my friends the day after we were there.

It’s just hard because I moved away. It’s hard trying to stay in touch with any friends. Especially because my family is demanding of my time when I visit so I never include friends in visits. I did read somewhere to add to your calendar weekly like a new person to text or something so maybe if I have a schedule and reminder it will help me keep in touch better with everyone.

[twinmomma]

waverly, My best friends and I all live in the same state, but it's like we each picked a corner and moved far away from our central college location after graduating. To keep in touch, we usually have an email chain going at all times. Some weeks we're really on top of it and all responding frequently, other weeks we just kind of say hey and don't have a lot to share. But it's a low stakes conversation to keep each other connected. Then we try to get together in person every 2-3 months. It's the most frequent we've been able to pull off with our locations and schedules. Maybe try an email thread instead of texts? It feels like less pressure to email to me.

This week I'm headed to a work conference and the kids are staying with their dad at his place for the first time. This feels like a good way to transition it, since I won't be sitting in my empty house all alone. And it's a good transition for them too, since they're used to him taking care of them while I travel. It's easing us all in to this new normal.

I'm looking forward to the conference a lot. I need some inspiration and motivation to get myself back in gear at work!

[mae0111]

My DDs started at their new school today. I didn't sleep at all and my anxiety is through the roof. I'm sad that my baby is in kindergarten. I'm worried that my big will have trouble adjusting. I'm overwhelmed thinking about all of the activities that will be starting. I'm mourning summer.

A job just came up that is like 5 mins from home, which is rare. My mornings would be 25 min race to school, then 30 mins back the other way. And pick-up would be an issue unless DH started to step up. I'm excited about the idea of earning money and using my brain in a different way, but I'm not excited for other reasons. I've applied, and gone through the interview process, at this company 4 separate times in recent years, and the job always falls through. Like - the hiring manager loses the requisition, or they completely change the spec so it's nothing like what I applied for, etc. The company seems a mess, but the job as described is right up my alley. So I think I'm going to apply and see what happens... and I'm terrified...

[covergirl82]

Celebration - We had a fun camping trip over the weekend. We went to a town 2 hours away that is German-themed. DH enjoys going because his maternal grandma was from Germany. They also have the largest Christmas store in the US (Bronner's, if you've heard of it), and we like to go there to get the kids' teachers an ornament for a Christmas gift. We also did some back-to-school shopping at the outlet mall close by. Under Armor had 40% off store-wide, which is a pretty good sale for them.

Vent - I am the lead for communications for our biggest processes of the year, which are happening now. Our department exec approved the communications last week, but then came back twice with additional changes. Because I don't have the organization's special font, I couldn't make the changes in some of the places, so someone else had to do them. Then we got an email "reminder" that basically chastised us for how something was communicated. Overall it's been pretty frustrating this year to have barely enough time to put together the communications and get them approved, only to have the exec come back after the fact and make changes after the original approval, and also get chastised for one of the communications. At least it's a short week and I'm working from home today so I can keep my bad mood to myself.

ETA: Vent 2 - I forgot to mention, I'm trying to stave off a UTI (I started feeling symptoms first thing on Sunday morning), that I'm thinking I got after we went to a water park on Saturday.  (I hate water parks, btw.  I just feel like they're cesspools of germs.)  I started taking garlic and priobiotc supplements Sunday morning and drinking a lot of water.  So far it's been working, I just hope it continues that way.

[rere]

Vent 1. Ds is covered in turkey mites. Dh was with him and said he probably didn't spray off well. I realize he is 15, but you still need to make sure he doesn't half ass something like that.

Vent 2. Volleyball games all week. The one night off, there is a meeting about Dds class trip.

Vent 3. Dh was on the phone all night, I presume to his sister. He woke me up at midnight coming to bed. Hello, I have to work today.

So in all, nature is trying to take us all down.

[mommyatty]

We had a really amazing weekend. Nothing spectacular, just a lot of time together that was oddly productive.
-DD used my embroidery machine to make a cute little pencil case for her teacher (with a lot of help).
-We played board games. We found a 1936 penny, which led to a science activity of soaking pennies in vinegar and salt to make them shiny and learning about the world in 1936.
-I cleaned out DD’s shorts and skirts drawer, where I found a pair of 2T shorts. She’s a 6, y’all.
-3 pairs of DD’s old unisex shorts fit DS and he’s in love with them.
-We went swimming for about 4 hours because it was so beautiful out on Saturday.
-We watched a movie as a family, which is quickly becoming our favorite weekend evening activity.
-I ordered Halloween costumes, received them, and altered DS’s pants since they were clownishly large in the waist. DD doesn’t want me to hem her full-length witch’s dress but we will have to before Halloween.
-I looked at gifts for Christmas for my team. I think I’m going to order personalized business card holders for them to take on Work trips.

Then last night my throat started hurting and DH and I both woke up really sick. I’m staying home today and calling in to meetings and answering emails. DH went to run errands. And this afternoon we have DD’s checkup.

[mustardseed2007]

Saturday DH went with my sister and my cousins to take the kids to the zoo while I did my training ride. I had no idea that H was going to go and I felt rotten for missing it. We then went to lunch with my mom and then Barnes n Noble with the kids. That's one of our favorite indoor activities and we got them some books and we got a present for a birthday party this weekend.

Sunday was supposed to be the neighborhood grill out but it got canceled b/c all my volunteers canceled on me "due to the weather" and I was pissed b/c there wasn't any rain. But whatever. We went and got sushi and played board games instead.

Monday I had my first olympic distance triathlon. By the time I was on the bike there was a torrential downpour so everyone was totally soaked. It was smooth road though so the event kept going and I was able to finish. After I got home, we then cleaned up the house some and worked on DS' spelling words before seeing Hotel Transylvania 3. We haven't seen 1 or 2 but that didn't matter too much, I guess. The kids had a blast doing that. Then DS wanted to walk around the neighborhood. Which...I did not want to do b/c I had just done a triathlon, but I did anyway b/c kid wants to be active.

Basically it was a good, low key, not at all productive weekend.

[twinmomma]

Vent: Our company won a big award. I worked on it a TON to get it. It took a lot of time to draft together all the entry info, on site visits, interviews, etc. Today was the day we could finally announce to the employees. And it tanked. It got slid in as a line item in a company meeting, no one understood what a big deal it was, and then we moved on to memos and other stuff. I'm so bummed out. This thing was like my baby and winning it was a huge deal for us. And the delivery by management got totally demolished.

[covergirl82]

twinmomma, that's really disappointing on the communication of the award. I'm sorry. We are raising the hiring rate across our company (it's gone up $2 in less than a year, so it's a big deal), and it got lined-itemed as well. I mentioned to my director and another director who is involved in communications that we should make a big deal about it and get some positive press internally and externally, but nothing has happened yet. It's a big increase for the lowest-paid employees, which is really exciting for them, and should get us positive press in the community, but so far nothing has been done. I'm sure once an executive figures out it's a big thing and it's "their" idea to get a bunch of positive press, something will actually happen.

[ilovelucyvv]

twinmomma, so frustrating about that award

Vent: DH and I have different attitudes about school again. I guess I shouldn't be surprised. He wanted to me to reschedule DD's eye doctor appointment so that she wouldn't have to miss a few hours of school during an afternoon. Well when I called the eye doctor they said the soonest openings are Jan/Feb, so yeah not happening. He's known about this appointment for months because I put it on his work calendar. If he cared that much, he should have said something a lot sooner. It's Kindergarten. I think missing a few hours to see a doctor is not a big deal.

[phdmomma]

Vent/ Celebration? This weekend was great, but busy, we were up north with my in-laws including SIL and her 1 year old twins who don't seem to be eating table food yet and therefore seem to be cranky because they are hungry. Not my monkeys, not my circus. At dinner MIL mentions that we are all wearing red, yellow, and orange to her mother's funeral later this month....which is news to me. Apparently they told DH and he forgot to tell me, which I said very clearly, because I was planning on us all wearing black. Jcrewfactory website to the rescue, got appropriately colored clothing for sale with extra promo deal last night, so all four of us are now covered.

Today is DS's first day of school. I hope that first grade goes well.

[erinshelley21]

Here's a roller coaster of celebrations and vents since they are all related:

Celebration: My realtor sent me a text Saturday that someone was going to look at my office Sunday evening! She sent me a follow up text this morning that the prospect is interested but noticed an active water leak which was likely an a/c line. She didn't know where it was but thought I should go check it out.
Vent: It didn't take long for me to find the leak because the ceiling in my old office FELL in. Light hanging, wet insulation all over the soaking wet carpet, and a huge hole in the ceiling. I just stood there and laughed because of course this happens when someone MIGHT want to buy the damn building.
Celebration: Realtor doesn't think this will sabotage the deal if there is one coming. Brother and I got the mess cleaned up, claim is already turned into insurance and the hvac guys are coming this afternoon to confirm and let me know what they think is going on.

New vent: I've tried being super wife and mom all morning. Tuesdays are a shit show with MIL working and childcare being out of sorts. DH wanted to mow before it got too hot so I told him my work could wait and I'd keep DD. Between that and this office mess, I've gotten like 2 minor tasks done. Now I'm home for 5 seconds while I wait on the hvac company to be available to meet and DH suggested I get the bunny out to run around while I'm working. Yes, because I want to have to turn around every 2 minutes to see what the rabbit is doing while I TRY to work this afternoon. It's all really not a big deal but I was starting to get super annoyed and needed to bitch.

[covergirl82]

ilovelucyvv, I agree with you...missing a few hours of K for an appointment is no big deal. Until doctors, dentists, etc. start having more evening hours, it's nearly impossible to get kids into appointments without taking them out of school.

[2chatter]

The weekend was crazy and good and the puppies are very fun.

But I am back to work so ... vent ... annual meeting was just announced and is in less than two weeks while DH was supposed to be away (he moved his trip for me) and DD has her specialist pain management appointment. So I will be gone three days and have to arrange dog walkers and kid pick up and see if the sitter can stay until 6:30. Super stressed. Ugh.

[supertrooper1]

Today was the first day of kindergarten for DS. He and I were both excited, DH has been anxious since yesterday morning about it. I took a couple of hours off to take him and drop off went well. It's not much of a change for DS since his two years of preschool were 2 doors down from his kindergarten classroom. Several kids from his preschool are in his class, including the girl that he walked to preschool with most days.

I'm back at work after 4 days off. It was nice to be gone but I'm putting out fires. One included getting our sister agency fraud department involved after a chain of emails last week, none of which I was included. I took 5 minutes looking at the data and realized there probably wasn't any fraud in this situation. The agent from the sister agency and I got on a conference call, presented the data and the company suggesting the fraud realized it was just a error in data updates. Why did a bunch of my other coworkers not see this? SMH.

[justcheckingin73]

This weekend seemed so long which is good, I guess! And all of the days seemed to run together. Saturday, DD’s first cross country meet was cancelled because of weather so I was able to go to the grocery store and then started packing up for the remodel. DSS was able to sell our treadmill so that was out of the house.

Sunday and Monday was more packing and moving into the POD we rented. We took breaks here and there but the weekend was kind of a bust.

Next Saturday I leave for London for work so I lose another weekend and will miss DDs XC meet. I come back Wednesday.

Right now I’m so overwhelmed with the house being in disarray, school and sport schedules and taking on 3 international events in addition to everything else that was already overwhelming me at work. Every time I try to organize my projects, I end up getting distracted or feel like I need to move something forward so right now I’m feeling incredibly discombobulated.

[traveltheworld]

DS's first day of school was today. Drop off was complete chaos. I was hoping that he'd be in the same class as some of his buddies from kindergarten, but he is not. I think I was more disappointed about that than he was, since I really liked those parents and wanted to leverage DS's friendships into adult friends for me. His teacher is also brand new, and had the most deer in the headlights look this morning. Hopefully she'll turn out ok.

I also went to drop off DD at pre-school, only to realize that her first day is actually tomorrow. Total mom fail.

I also got just got notified that I have to do an international trip in the middle of September. It's to a really cool European city, so I'm excited about that, but it'll make for a very chaotic week for the kids and DH.

[akafred]

I have a sinus infection. It’s the roughest week of my typical month so I worked all day yesterday. Then I got a text from my friend about having dinner. Our kids are in the same class so I knew if I said no I would have a pissy kid on my hands. And my meds made me feel halfway decent so I went. It was cool, but I was so ready for bed. Got home and DD loved the book she is reading so much she read 3 chapters. That never happens so I let her keep going. She did great! So then I get her off to bed and I am going to sing on the monitor (she wants this every night so we still have one), and she comes back down for “one more hug.” She says, “I’m glad you’re my mommy instead of HER” (meaning her birth mom), so we had some adoption related stuff to work through. She finally goes up to bed and I get in the recliner to sleep because of my back and congestion, get nice and settled with my remotes on my right and my phone in my hand, and something slides on my left side. I reach for it and it MOVES!

I hop up real quick and see a damn lizard scurry across the room. You guys, I don’t live in Florida, and we don’t see this shit here. It runs back under the chair. So I had to stay up and wait for DH to come home. He traps it and takes it outside. I finally got to bed at 11pm.

[covergirl82]

Terrifying, akafred!!

[mustardseed2007]

akafred, nope nope nope on touching something that's alive like that! Hell nah!

traveltheworld, my friend got a call last year asking why her child missed the first day of school. She got the first day wrong by one day also, but in the other direction. So really, you're ahead!