State of the Ute 9/04

[rikiteacup]

Happy September!

1. Where are you at on this journey (TTC #, Month/Cycle, CD)?

TTC#1, cycle 5, CD20, 5DPO

2. Any upcoming tests?

I think I will test on Sunday. I will be 10 DPO and my H's birthday is pretty soon so it would be nice to have a BFP. I got 50 Wondfo HPTs so I can test away this cycle!

3. What's your biggest worry about a new baby?

Daycare costs. They are just insane in my area ($1200+ for a newborn).

4. Questions, random?

I am amazed at people who have very little knowledge of their body. I've seen on another forum a lady asking when she should take a HPT because she ovulates during her periods so CD 14 would be a good date to test, right?

[grace]

1. Where are you at on this journey (TTC #, Month/Cycle, CD)?

TTC#2, cycle 3, CD 2

2. Any upcoming tests?

No, just started a new cycle. Always a discouraging time for me.

3. What's your biggest worry about a new baby?

Making time for my son, having the energy to devote to 2.

4. Questions, random?

I definitely want to try again but a new cycle is always daunting! It's such an emotional roller coaster for me, and I'm being a big whiner because I haven't even been trying for long.

[megstoo]

1. Where are you at on this journey (TTC #, Month/Cycle, CD)?
TTC#1, cycle8, CD21??

2. Any upcoming tests?
I'm in the 2WW, right now I'm 4dpIUI. Just to make sure my trigger shot worked I took an OPK and an HPT. I knew what the results be before hand but was just curious anyways. I go in for BETA on Friday Sept 14th.

3. What's your biggest worry about a new baby?
Everything - the biggest being cost (daycare etc).

4. Questions, random?
This 2WW is killing me. When I had my IUI last week they said I'm supposed to eat and drink like I'm pregnant but continue on with normal life. I went to fill an Rx which is something I've taken for a while and actually asked the pharmacist if it's safe to take during pregnancy... it's not.
I'm going out with friends for a trivia night tonight and then a bunch of us from the support group from the RE on FB are meeting on Sat for dinner.
Also DH has been incredibly sick this weekend so he's not wanting any sex which I get but damnit now is NOT the time for him to be sick. I'm not talking just tired, he actually has the flu and I do feel bad.  

Sorry TMI:  Can I also add that I HATE the 2 pills that got added since IUI.  It's like a damn smurf crawled up there and died.  (1 of the pills is blue and has to be taken vaginally twice a day).  

[achi]

1. Where are you at on this journey (TTC #, Month/Cycle, CD)? TTC #2, cycle 4, CD 3


2. Any upcoming tests? Not right now, just started this cycle.


3. What's your biggest worry about a new baby? Mostly about how it will affect my time. How much time I’ll have for DS, for H and for me. Now that DS is 3 we have a really solid routine that gives both H and I some “me time” and my MIL takes him overnight on a weekend every 3-4 weeks so we have a solid 24 hour break. Having another baby will change all of that.


4. Questions, random? No questions, I just forgot how much TTCing sucks. I was pretty good about not getting in my head the first two cycles but the last cycle made me pretty nutty.

[biogirl21]

TTC#2, cycle 2, CD 40, approx 9 DPO

I plan to test tomorrow morning, though I know chances of a positive at 10 DPO are low. But I'm going out of town for 8 days so I'm willing the test to be positive so I can tell my husband in person rather than over the phone. If it's negative tomorrow, I'll probably wait until Sunday.

3. The cost of daycare worries me too. It's very reasonably priced where we live now, but we are probably moving to a new city by next spring and it's more expensive there.
I also worry about logistics. Like I said, we might be moving in the spring, but I don't really want to. But I work an hour away from where we live and I'm sick of the drive, though I don't do it every day since I have someone I stay with down there during the week. But I can't stay with them with a baby, the baby can't stay with my husband (well, it could, but that would make breastfeeding even harder than it is already and there is no way I will be away from my baby that long- it's easier to be away from my 4 year old since we can talk on the phone and facetime). So yeah, debating the merits of moving to where my husband doesn't have a job vs. me getting a small apartment for me and the hopeful baby.

4. I'm already over TTC. It sucked last time since it took so long(20 months) but it seems to suck more this time since I'm an ultrasound technologist and I scan 17/18/19 year olds periodically who are pregnant, some of them with their 2nd or 3rd child, and it just sucks. I'm constantly thinking how just plain unfair it is that these children can get pregnant and here I am struggling and scheduling sex and there's so many wonderful women on the TTTC board struggling and yet teenagers can get pregnant at the drop of a hat. Ugh.
I'm also feeling in this weird spot where we had TTTC last time, but I got pregnant easily with Clomid, so I don't feel like I belong on the TTTC board, but at the same time I'm not confident it will happen this time without a little intervention, but my OB/GYN wants me to wait a little bit and going to an RE will be really difficult due to time and distance. I feel a little lost. And I know that if it takes as long as last time, I will not survive the emotions and pain. So I'm feeling melodramatic but it felt good to vent a bit.

[jennistarr1]

TTC#2 since July2017 CD32

My typical cycle is 33 days so maybe...but our sex was either unproductive or mistimed this cycle, we weren't trying because my husband was worried about his colonscopy...so my random is he got an all clear on his colonscopy!!!

My biggest worry is just looking around our house at all the stuff we already have and just the overwhelming task of purging it all

[Susie]

1. Where are you at on this journey (TTC #, Month/Cycle, CD)?

TTC #2, cycle 6, CD 9

2. Any upcoming tests?

Nope.

3. What's your biggest worry about a new baby?

The cost of daycare x2.

4. Questions, random?

I finally had to tell a friend a couple weeks ago that I needed a break from her pregnancy stream of consciousness.  She's ~7 months pg with her #2, and although she knows I am unsuccessfully TTC #2 she took the approach that since I have been pregnant before and have a child, so surely I would be in for all of the pregnancy grousing.  She would text me to occupy herself at every appointment, so mid-work day I'd get blow by blow texts of the 1 hr gestational diabetes test, then the 3 hr., and how she was feeling at different stages of the test, etc.  The kind of stuff you might co-bitch about with someone who was pregnant at the same time as you, or maybe was very recently pregnant... but maybe not what you bitch about to somebody who would love (in the big picture) to need to take a gestational diabetes test.  Now I feel like an asshole about it, especially because she has gone completely radio silent since then, but talking about every little detail and being her sounding board for all things pregnancy was just too punishing for me. 

[jennistarr1]

Sept 6, 2018 9:03:47 GMT -5 Susie said:

I finally had to tell a friend a couple weeks ago that I needed a break from her pregnancy stream of consciousness.  She's ~7 months pg with her #2, and although she knows I am unsuccessfully TTC #2 she took the approach that since I have been pregnant before and have a child, so surely I would be in for all of the pregnancy grousing.  She would text me to occupy herself at every appointment, so mid-work day I'd get blow by blow texts of the 1 hr gestational diabetes test, then the 3 hr., and how she was feeling at different stages of the test, etc.  The kind of stuff you might co-bitch about with someone who was pregnant at the same time as you, or maybe was very recently pregnant... but maybe not what you bitch about to somebody who would love (in the big picture) to need to take a gestational diabetes test.  Now I feel like an asshole about it, especially because she has gone completely radio silent since then, but talking about every little detail and being her sounding board for all things pregnancy was just too punishing for me. 

How did you put it?

[Susie]

Sept 6, 2018 14:05:29 GMT -5 jennistarr1 said:

Sept 6, 2018 9:03:47 GMT -5 Susie said:

I finally had to tell a friend a couple weeks ago that I needed a break from her pregnancy stream of consciousness.  She's ~7 months pg with her #2, and although she knows I am unsuccessfully TTC #2 she took the approach that since I have been pregnant before and have a child, so surely I would be in for all of the pregnancy grousing.  She would text me to occupy herself at every appointment, so mid-work day I'd get blow by blow texts of the 1 hr gestational diabetes test, then the 3 hr., and how she was feeling at different stages of the test, etc.  The kind of stuff you might co-bitch about with someone who was pregnant at the same time as you, or maybe was very recently pregnant... but maybe not what you bitch about to somebody who would love (in the big picture) to need to take a gestational diabetes test.  Now I feel like an asshole about it, especially because she has gone completely radio silent since then, but talking about every little detail and being her sounding board for all things pregnancy was just too punishing for me. 

How did you put it?

It was actually sort of ancillary to another issue, so complicated to explain.  She wanted to plan our annual multi-family group vacation for summer 2019 a year in advance and on the opposite coast from where I live (i.e. the coast where she lives) because she wasn't sure she'd be "up for" the flight with a baby who would be ~6-9 mo.  Which... I mean I understand that not being ideal, probably because a couple years ago I was the one flying cross country for this trip with a baby.  I was just really hurt that now that she has a due date, it was all, oh now we can plan way out again, forgetting that other people are still TTC, and could even (if lucky!) have a more compelling reason (like a due date) to need to stay on their home coast next summer.  If I'm not pregnant, sure, I can do the flying.  It was the feeling of being bet against that hurt.  When she was TTC, we didn't even talk destinations until we were within 9 mo.  So I asked her to please table the destination discussion until we get to about 9 mo out and we have more info about everyone's needs, and the rest of it kind of followed.  

[jennistarr1]

Good job Susie!

Well I just got a BFN on CD 33 19dpo

My periods have always been regular and now I'm late and had spotting this month. So I can't even be happy about being normal anymore.

Whatever I don't care

Yes I do

[achi]

Sept 6, 2018 14:38:57 GMT -5 Susie said:

Sept 6, 2018 14:05:29 GMT -5 jennistarr1 said:

How did you put it?

It was actually sort of ancillary to another issue, so complicated to explain.  She wanted to plan our annual multi-family group vacation for summer 2019 a year in advance and on the opposite coast from where I live (i.e. the coast where she lives) because she wasn't sure she'd be "up for" the flight with a baby who would be ~6-9 mo.  Which... I mean I understand that not being ideal, probably because a couple years ago I was the one flying cross country for this trip with a baby.  I was just really hurt that now that she has a due date, it was all, oh now we can plan way out again, forgetting that other people are still TTC, and could even (if lucky!) have a more compelling reason (like a due date) to need to stay on their home coast next summer.  If I'm not pregnant, sure, I can do the flying.  It was the feeling of being bet against that hurt.  When she was TTC, we didn't even talk destinations until we were within 9 mo.  So I asked her to please table the destination discussion until we get to about 9 mo out and we have more info about everyone's needs, and the rest of it kind of followed.  

You did the right thing by standing up for yourself. TTCing is a complete mindfuck which doesn’t need to be made worse by the people who are supposed to be supporting you.

[rikiteacup]

Susie Good for you for speaking up. I would have done the same thing. Unless somebody specifically tells you they want to know all about your PG and updates are welcome, the best thing to do is not talk about it. It is a sore subject for a lot of women.