How about some TWERKS and DDOTS

[judyblume14]

TWERK - a million years ago, I mention a role that was created in my department that felt like it was made for me.  I finally met with my boss and his boss about it last week. i applied. And now I wait.

DDOTS - timing is a funny thing.  Of course, just days after applying to that job, a former colleague (now- C-suite at another company) called to tell me about an opportunity he thinks I'd be great for.  The commute is hellacious, but I may still reach out to his contact just to chat.  The real DDOT here though is that I can now say I've experienced the following:  While on a call with an C-level executive of a financial services firm, he used the term "drag queen."  Which was...unexpected.

[waverly]

DH has verbally accepted the counter offer and also received the paperwork from HR from old/ current job.

He went in today to put his resignation and turn in his computer at new job. I said that has to be an awkward conversation. Now he is talking about leveraging his more money to buy a franchise or flip houses- sigh. Why can't he just be happy working an awesome job. But whatever. He has to be extra in everything that he does.


Infamous SIL's wedding is this weekend, and we are all sick with colds.

[2chatter]

I secured a private Uber driver for $10 a trip for oldest DD. That beats $43 a trip. By a long shot. His kids are grown and he’s also taking me to/from the airport. Relief all around. He will drive DD two days a week and I feel like I can breathe.

SS is applying to the program that wipes his record for 24 months good behavior. Didn’t even see the judge.

DH is WFH (yay!) and is going to pick up lunch for me and pick up DD. I almost can’t process all of that. Ha.

[mustardseed2007]

DS has started playing cards with other kids in after care instead of doing puzzles all by himself. He's still not playing with kids in his grade on the play ground. At least not consistently as far as I can tell. We have another birthday party on Saturday and we also have a play date but the play date is with an old friend at the old school.

DS is also doing really well with school work. Better than the other dyslexic kids - which could be due to SO many things - but at least I feel good about doing all the extra tutoring we're doing.

And we're signing DS up for Robotics after all. Sigh.

[mustardseed2007]

Sept 6, 2018 10:59:03 GMT -5 2chatter said:

I secured a private Uber driver for $10 a trip for oldest DD. That beats $43 a trip. By a long shot. His kids are grown and he’s also taking me to/from the airport. Relief all around. He will drive DD two days a week and I feel like I can breathe.

SS is applying to the program that wipes his record for 24 months good behavior. Didn’t even see the judge.

DH is WFH (yay!) and is going to pick up lunch for me and pick up DD. I almost can’t process all of that. Ha.

What is this? Is this through Uber or just you working it out with the guy? 

[justcheckingin73]

We are on day 3 of our first floor being completely torn up. DS is having fun with his scooter since it’s just concrete but I am struggling. Making meals and school lunches take twice as long since our kitchen is basically in the garage, the refrigerator is in the dining room and the coffee and toaster oven is in the living room.

DH typically gets up at least once a night to go downstairs and watch tv either because he can’t sleep or he gets hot. Last night he tossed and turned and was having a horrible time. I also couldn’t sleep so it’s been a rough few days. I’m trying to stay positive because I’m getting new floors and a new kitchen which is something I’ve been waiting for for years. But, man, this is getting tough and it’s only day 3! Hopefully the flooring will be complete in a couple of weeks. 

I’m really looking forward to my work trip this week. Leaving Saturday and coming back Wednesday. 

[supertrooper1]

First week of kindergarten is going well. DS decided on his own yesterday that he was going to have hot lunch instead of the cold lunch I packed. DH immediately jumped to the conclusion that another kid in his class signed up DS for hot lunch? I never could get out of DS why he chose hot lunch instead of cold lunch because DH kept putting words into his mouth.

DH seems to have willed himself a man cold. He came home from his first day of school last week to tell me that several of his coworkers were sick and that he was going to get sick. And yesterday he came down with a man cold.

The drama continues with my swing shift coworker. She chose to stay in our office on this last bid, but now is unhappy that the other person on swing shift with her has more seniority and is taking her weekends off. If weekends off were so important to her, she should have bid for a different location that guaranteed weekends off.

[covergirl82]

Getting the kids on the bus from home has gone well so far (we're on week 2 of school). I really enjoy having more time with the kids 2 mornings a week (DH gets them on the bus 2 days also, and then my parents or I cover Fridays). They also get to sleep in until 7:00 (before they would have to get up around 6:15/6:20), which is so much better for them, especially for DS now that he doesn't get home from football practice until around 8:00/8:15. It also makes my work day seem shorter on the 2 days I get them on the bus - I get online from about 6:00-7:00, then work in the office from around 8:30-4:00.

DS has his first tackle football game on Saturday. I'm vacillating between excited (because he's so excited to play - he's been waiting to play tackle football since he was 5) and nervous (injuries).

I have never bought new lamps for our living room - we've used two mismatching (but coordinating) lamps I got years ago at garage sales. I recently ordered a pair of lamps from zulily and they should be delivered today!

[traveltheworld]

Minor annoyances keep popping out in my life: SIL was supposed to come visit her Dad on Tuesday. Typically when she visits her Dad, she stays with us. I texted her on Tuesday to ask when she'd be here, and she responded that it'll be a few hours. Didn't see her all night, didn't respond to my texts. Finally texted BIL later that night to see what's going on - apparently she had a headache so decided to delay her trip. Asked both SIL and BIL when she'd be here. No response. Last night at 8:15 p.m. she walks in the door. Both kids were so excited to see her that they staid up late and were cranky this morning. Ugh.

I'm worried that DS is not a nice kid. He makes friends easily, but can't seem to foster good relationships. And he has minimal empathy. He is bright and engaging, but seems to care very little about other people. I was venting to DH last night about this, and DH's response was (and this is a straight quote): "well, even if he is a psychopath, there's not much more we can do. So we'll just have to keep trying and live with it." Not helpful DH, not helpful.

[k3am]

DH TWERK: He's still waiting on his formal offer letter. No ETA. The lag in time means he's talking himself out of leaving. I'm hopeful the offer actually comes through and is good enough that he seriously considers it.

DD TWERK: Aftercare is doing better. She still complains about beforecare. Today she said she doesn't play with any friends in before care other than her old friend (OF) from daycare... OF also happens to be someone we had requested DD be separated from in daycare. According to DD, "OF doesn't like her to talk to or play with other people." (This was one of the reasons we separated them.) So DD's assignment today is to talk to one other kid at before care and find out their name and favorite movie. Fingers crossed.

[k3am]

Oh yeah, another DD TWERK... today is DD's 1 year post second surgery anniversary. We have her follow up MRI on 9/20 - FX that everything is clear. I think if it is, we'll get the option to move her to annual MRI's.

[sdlaura]

traveltheworld I’ve read the articles in The Atlantic about child psychopaths and have to admit that I found many of the traits similar to my own kids sometimes, especially my son. It’s pretty terrifying, but I think a lot of the traits can also be normal little kid things. I hope so, anyway

[2chatter]

mustardseed2007 - there was a driver in our neighborhood who would arrange in advance with you. She moved but recommended another driver for her private clients. I stopped traveling so much, so I asked my neighborhood women’s group and one of the women uses him and highly recommended him (she’s a family lawyer and one of the few balanced voices in our book club so I trust her opinion). If you ask around or post on your neighborhoood Facebook I bet you have one there - the ones here will handle junior high and up, no car seats.

traveltheworld - sounds like a response from my DH. Sometimes I just want to scream.

[xctsclrx]

Mine: Back at work and now back in the groove. DD is sleeping 7 pm to 2-3 am. and then waking up at 0530 so not too shabby. Next week I am jumping in on the health and fitness so you ladies over there, call me out if I don't.

DH isn't loving his new job. Doesn't hate it, but is finding it difficult to make friends. He likes to enjoy his work environment a little more.

New: We received a check today from a company we have never hear of and is in a different country. No idea why we got it. It also took 3 months for it to get here. We will be researching tonight.

[callmekd]

xctsclrx - that check sounds like a scam?

[callmekd]

DD1 started kindergarten today. she was so excited. I'm trying to avoid the PTO.

[mustardseed2007]

sdlaura , traveltheworld , have your kids had any head injuries? I listen to The My Favorite Murder podcast and they always talk/joke about the serial killers that have had head injuries and I laugh our loud...and then I think about how DD fell out of a shopping cart that one time....

ETA: This was meant to be a joke too...hopefully that came off but re-reading it I'm like....mmmmm maybe I'm an idiot.

[traveltheworld]

Sept 6, 2018 12:32:40 GMT -5 mustardseed2007 said:

sdlaura , traveltheworld , have your kids had any head injuries? I listen to The My Favorite Murder podcast and they always talk/joke about the serial killers that have had head injuries and I laugh our loud...and then I think about how DD fell out of a shopping cart that one time....

ETA: This was meant to be a joke too...hopefully that came off but re-reading it I'm like....mmmmm maybe I'm an idiot.

LOL.  No, I totally took it as a joke.  And sdlaura, I've read that Atlantic article too.

Honestly I think DS is borderline on the autism spectrum.  He reminds me a lot of my BIL (DH's brother).  They both seem to lack the ability to relate to people.  Most adults don't see it as DS is very engaging with adults and older kids, and he can be affectionate and caring with close family members. He's just not very "nice", and is almost never considerate.  Everyone always compliments us on how bright and knowledgeable DS is, but all I want is a nice kid!!!

[rere]

Still combating the lice. I have put something in her hair almost every other day, mine too just in case. I am using the expensive nit comb every other day. Surely I am getting this. I bought tea tree oil to put in our shampoo. Now I am worried about DH, he says he doesn't have it, but I haven't formally checked him, but he has been an ass about the entire thing.

Won one and lost one this week. My one night off, and I have a class trip meeting. I just want to sit around a fire tonight. I don't really care about details of the trip, just tell me where I am going and when.

So far my classes are going well. I am just annoyed that I am scheduled for several off hours meetings in the next week, but no one can really tell me for sure if they are happening, when exactly they may be. I don't' run well on a moving schedule.

[xctsclrx]

callmekd, Kind of where I am leaning, but it required a signature. That is throwing me off. It would be a pretty weird scam. Giving you $400. Maybe it is hoping to get your bank information when you try and deposit it?

[k3am]

Ugh... just got a message from DD's teacher about a "problem from beforecare" that's spilling into school day... Apparently, she and another student (fully named - I guess in elementary they can do that because even if they don't say who did it, the kids will?) have been shoving and hitting each other. Today DD pushed the other kid because she cut in front of her in line for assembly.

My kid is a bully. I don't even know where to start.

[xctsclrx]

k3am, I would not rush to that judgement unless she has had bullying tendencies before. This might have been the reason she didn't like before care. She and another girl not getting along. I would hear the whole story (teachers miss a lot) and then talk to her about appropriate responses.

[callmekd]

k3am I agree with xctsclrx. she's not necessarily a bully. DD1 bit a classmate a few times in pre-K last year. she was struggling with adjusting.

[mommyatty]

Sept 6, 2018 12:53:54 GMT -5 xctsclrx said:

callmekd, Kind of where I am leaning, but it required a signature. That is throwing me off. It would be a pretty weird scam. Giving you $400. Maybe it is hoping to get your bank information when you try and deposit it?

Exactly. Also, they will wait a couple of days, then ask you to return the money as it was improperly sent. Because it’s likely a bogus check, it will show as a fraudulent account in a week or two, likely after you have sent them your money. So they get the $$$$ and you are out whatever you sent them.

[k3am]

xctsclrx, callmekd, I believe it because hitting/pushing has always been an issue for her. Always when she feels that someone has wronged her somehow (perceived or actual).

DH and I are debating.. ideally, he'd take off work early to go talk to her teacher and the CDC to get some more details, but that also is kind of rewarding her behavior because the thing she wants the most in the world is to not go to CDC...

[186momx]

k3am, In K there is tons of pushing and shoving and trust me even when the kid tends to pick on another student it really doesn't go anywhere in K because they don't expect them to not be hands on. I would ask for a phone call and schedule it after school. I would totally explain that DD doesn't like before care or after care and this possible could be her way of getting you to do what she wants. It would be interesting if this kid is the same as the old daycare kid who she was separated from.

[186momx]

Twerks/DDOTS-First day of school was great. Lots of happy, had a homework assignment, lots of energy. Day 2 yesterday was horrible, 8 people didn't turn in their homework so the whole class got in trouble, Papa ate her snack and she had a meltdown on the way home from aftercare. She doesn't even like the crackers. She fought over dinner, was a mess at gymnastics, had another meltdown on the way home from gymnastics, spent 10 minutes pooping once we got home and then was starving. Fell asleep in her 2nd bowl of stew and then spilt it all over the floor getting down from the table. This morning she totally didn't want to get up, couldn't tie her shoes, and just dragged her feet. Also she didn't go to the bathroom at all on the 1st day of school. Went yesterday and something happened while she was in the bathroom and she said she can't ever go to the bathroom at school again because everything was bad. So she isn't drinking all day so she doesn't have to pee which is causing the 10+ minute poo sessions at night. I'm trying really hard not to message the teacher and let DD figure it out on her own will give it until Monday I think.

[k3am]

Sept 6, 2018 13:27:44 GMT -5 186momx said:

k3am , In K there is tons of pushing and shoving and trust me even when the kid tends to pick on another student it really doesn't go anywhere in K because they don't expect them to not be hands on. I would ask for a phone call and schedule it after school. I would totally explain that DD doesn't like before care or after care and this possible could be her way of getting you to do what she wants. It would be interesting if this kid is the same as the old daycare kid who she was separated from.

Different kid, actually. Up until today, I had no idea DD was having issues with this kid - she is one of two people that DD talks about as being her friend. 

[phdmomma]

186momx, What grade is she in? I wonder what happened in the bathroom.

DS started school on Tuesday this week (first grade), and I haven't heard a whole lot from him. So I guess that is good? It seems like he would mention if things aren't going well. There are a couple of the same kids in his class from last year.

[2chatter]

k3am - DS had no qualms about pushing back, hitting back and sometimes initiated when he felt wronged so when I was told last year there was an issue I jumped to the wrong conclusion — it really was 98% another kid who DS talked about a lot as his friend. So even with DD’s proclivity I would wait until you hear the real full story from the teacher. His teacher said “look I didn’t want to say much but let’s just say it’s not worth saying anything or punishing your son at all beyond talking about rules, etc, this is more a case of I have to document what is happening, not because of your son”.