Celebration - I had a very relaxing weekend. We only made it to the wedding due to tornado warnings most of the day Saturday. I cleaned most of my house Friday, so I made some soup, read a book, piddled around the house. It was great. DD got her model cell done.
Major Vent: DS applied for a job at our small town, local owned grocery store. Basically, he went in and talked to the owner. He asked him 4 times, plus sent a message. I was proud of him, because he did this all himself (I am not really keen on the idea of a real job at 15), but he took the initiative and was very adult and polite about asking to be considered for the job. 2 other boys also wanted the job.
DS found out on Snapchat that one of the other boys were hired. He didn't know if it was true or not, so he went in Saturday and told the owner again he was interested. The owner said, I'll let you know. It was true and he had hired the other boy. I am not sure how you can be an adult and run a business if you can't even give a straight answer to a 15 year old boy. The boy that was hired told DS today that the owner put the three names in a hat and drew one. W. T. F.
I had to explain to DS this is not, in any way, how anyone in the history of work, has ever conducted an hiring process. Normally, if you have 3 candidates, they come in for an interview, you are asked about past work history, why you want the job, etc... Then the best candidate is picked. If you follow up with the business and they have already hired, you are told, sorry, we have already hired, or we went with a different candidate.
I hate that his first experience with applying for a job was with someone so stupid.
Post by HeartofCheese on Sept 10, 2018 8:45:48 GMT -5
Celebration: lots to celebrate! I'm still dating doctor and playing the field. The best of both worlds so far. Also coaching my daughter's soccer which is awesome. And apparently I stick out like a sore thumb, b/c another mom came over and after striking up a convo, she made a point of letting me know she's divorced. So hopefully I get to know her over the next few weeks. I could seriously use a divorced mom friend.
Vents: Work is absolutely insane. Dating basically occurs during sleeping hours, b/c there's no other time. I came in at 3am today b/c I was so freaked out htinking about work. Also, the X is still the X. Still see him a lot and he takes everytime as an opportunity to start a fight in front of the kids. When I suggest we talk about it later, he either says he doesn't want to talk to me ever again or says I'm trying to control him. So he's awesome. Still.
Post by covergirl82 on Sept 10, 2018 8:47:24 GMT -5
Celebration: Weekend was good, but busy. DS had his first tackle football game on Saturday morning. His team lost, 6-20. I thought DS played well, but there aren't a lot of strong players on the team. DH (head coach) is going to move DS from back-up QB to starting QB because he's quicker and knows the plays better than the kid who was starting QB. After the game, we went to lunch and then let the kids play some games at Dave & Busters (we had a buy $20 in game credits, get $20 free coupon!), and then stopped at Costco before heading home. Sunday was church, then DD had a friend over to play, then we had small group. I did not get the cleaning done I was hoping to, so I'll have to work on that on my free nights this week.
Vent 1: This week is going to be super busy at work. We're starting merit planning, but the merit increase is prescribed this year, which we've never done as long as I've been here (9 merit planning cycles). I'm anticipating a lot of questions from leaders.
Vent 2: My dog has some sort of infection in her ear. It's red, warm, and kind of puffy. I really don't have time to take her to the vet due to work (and they are always 15-30 minutes behind), so I'm hoping when I call them today they can just let me come pick up a prescription.
Post by erinshelley21 on Sept 10, 2018 9:12:28 GMT -5
Celebration: I had a lot of fun at the wedding we went to Saturday night for a friend from college. DH was grumpy before going because they "aren't his favorite people" but even he ended up having a good time. I think he realized he was being an asshole so that was helpful. My bff from college is in town for 2 weeks and we have plans for lunch with another friend on Thursday and then she may come stay all night next Thursday. We joked about sleeping in our camper but we might actually haha.
Vent: The week is going to be crazy and I'm already tired thinking about it. Plus my motivation the last couple of weeks is lacking. August may have been a little too crazy and fun.
Celebration: DS1's first soccer game went well! The rain held off just long enough to squeeze the game in. I think the kids enjoyed themselves. DS1 started crying during the last quarter because he wasn't able to get the ball. I had to explain to him that in order to get the ball, he had to get his foot in there and try. Hopefully something will click for him soon.
Vent: It has been raining almost nonstop since Friday afternoon. Everything is flooded. Some schools are closed because roads are impassible or power is out. We tried going to the mall yesterday to let the kids run of some energy in the play area and the power in the mall went out. So we fought our way home and have been watching movies, playing video games, or playing on the ipad ever since. I'm working from home today so I don't have to deal with the traffic nightmare and so I can take DD to the orthodontist at 3pm.
Vent: DH is sick. His right ear and sinuses are blocked and starting to cause him pain. He needs to go to the doctor and get some antibiotics before it gets any worse, but he is dragging his feet. Last time this happened, the ENT put a tube in his ear right in the office. I was with him when that happened, and it was not pretty. Since I am working from home today, his butt is going to urgent care as soon as my 11am meeting ends (because I need someone to keep DS2 occupied while I'm on the phone).
rere, big kudos to you and your son for having great work ethic and ambition already at 15! Sorry he had a bad first experience.
Vent: I broke my toe back in March from stubbing it and have done laser treatments and two cortisone shots since then. I didn't have any problems on vacation in August and we were pretty active so I jumped back on the elliptical for the first time in months and we also went for a 4 mile WALK as a family on Saturday. I'm now hobbling around because every step causes pain in the whole side of my foot. Going back to the doc tomorrow.
Good weekend but I’m glad it’s over. DD was paid by check to babysit and did mobile deposit all on her own.
Both 80th birthday parties for FIL went well but can I vent that with DH’s extended family (25 people) I always end up at the very end of the table and actually asked to stay home this time for that reason? Sure enough, I was beside DS and DH had his bad ear to me so I spent some time in my head. Very boring. I swear guys I am social and not a victim type person but SILs and MIL hang out (none of them have kids under 21) and I am the only person my age - everyone else is 30 and under or 50 and up. I have friends of those ages but it’s weird with this family. I’m just over it. Upside? DH is the middle child and his brother and sister are close - so he now wants to travel again for Thanksgiving - so I will find a vaca rental that will allow our dogs and we won’t have to do that whole scene!
Good weekend: Took DD and DS to a welcome back grad student picnic that the other faculty and I in the department were throwing (who also brought their kids). They had a blast. It was very cute to watch them playing lawn games with the grad students at the park. Also, I took all the weird beer from our basement, and they drank a ton of it.
Vent: I hate visa applications, I am going to China next month for work, and need to apply for my visa now (well, it's a little late, but the invite just came through). I appreciate the expediter that I am using and have used before. Although they seem to nickel and dime you for services. I just want to pay and have them fill out everything, where is that button?
We laid pretty low this weekend since DH and I were still getting over the flu. Saturday we had fun, but it was SO RAINY! We were worried our pool would overtop. In 6 years, it’s never been that close before.
I don’t know why, but this year I am all over Halloween prep. We have the kids’ costumes, I’ve taken in the pants for DS, his Captain Hook hat will be delivered today, I got a cauldron for DD to carry to hold her candy, and I used the eye patch on one of our $1 Target pumpkins to make his pumpkin match his pirate outfit. I’m never this on top of things. The only thing I really have left to do is hem DD’s witch costume because it’s a little long. I’m waiting though because she’s growing like a weed right now.
Work has been calmer than usual recently, which means I’m working like a normal human, like 40-45 hrs a week instead of like a crazed psycho. It’s been nice.
we had a good weekend. got some cleaning done, laundry, walked to the zoo (weather was gorgeous and clocked about 3.5 miles). I'm also planning out our travel schedule for 2019. I've spent the last 2 years being so focused on life with twins (pregnancy plus their first 18 months of life) that I feel like I'm finally able to plan and do some fun stuff.
Post by supertrooper1 on Sept 10, 2018 10:17:37 GMT -5
My weekend starts today. This is my first weekend with DS in school full time and I have 2 days to myself. I'm catching up on the DVR and then need to find energy to pick up the clutter. Tomorrow the housecleaner is coming and I booked a massage.
I saw this in my FB feed too and it was good to put it into perspective. She's not a bully. She's not mean or rude, really. She just... is 5, and if she doesn't get her way or feels threatened, she pushes back using one of the few options she thinks has.
I asked her old DC teacher about it on FB messenger, and her response was: "My first question is why DD felt the need to defend herself. Unless of course, someone cut in front of her in line... that girl is REALLY worried about her place in line."
I did get the schedule for before/aftercare Friday afternoon. During the first two hours of the day, there is no schedule. It's all just breakfast and "free play" indoors. Afterschool, the only things on the schedule are outside play, snack, 15 mins of "friendship time" and more outside play. DD doesn't know what "friendship time is" and says that they only play outside. So... $832 for her to sit around and play on the playground.
Post by traveltheworld on Sept 10, 2018 10:33:56 GMT -5
We had a pretty low key weekend. I was so busy all week that I totally forgot that DD's ballet class started on Saturday, so she missed that. My poor second child. We went to the library and then to DS's hockey try-out. Mini side-tangent vent: why do libraries put in iPads and computers for gaming? That's all my kids wanted to do. I couldn't get them to concentrate on picking any actual books.
DH and BIL came home late Saturday night and yesterday we just chilled.
I saw this in my FB feed too and it was good to put it into perspective. She's not a bully. She's not mean or rude, really. She just... is 5, and if she doesn't get her way or feels threatened, she pushes back using one of the few options she thinks has.
I asked her old DC teacher about it on FB messenger, and her response was: "My first question is why DD felt the need to defend herself. Unless of course, someone cut in front of her in line... that girl is REALLY worried about her place in line."
I did get the schedule for before/aftercare Friday afternoon. During the first two hours of the day, there is no schedule. It's all just breakfast and "free play" indoors. Afterschool, the only things on the schedule are outside play, snack, 15 mins of "friendship time" and more outside play. DD doesn't know what "friendship time is" and says that they only play outside. So... $832 for her to sit around and play on the playground.
awesome. glad you saw it.
and lol to being worried about her place in line. I get like that too.
Weekend was blah. DD wasn't feeling good between being constipated and something else she spent the weekend lounging on the couch reading, watching TV, or snoozing. I had planned a quiet weekend but this was way quieter than I expected. I read an entire paperback novel on Saturday.
Vent-DH went on this overnight backpack camping trip with friends. He left Saturday at 9 and said he would be back Sunday afternoon. I needed to make/can tomato juice and he was insisting on helping me. I texted at 12. Finally got a text back at 3:30 saying they were in X and at DQ. So an hour from home and he figured he would be back by 5. I was pissed and texted back saying so no dinner for you?, we've been waiting for you for hours. So DD and I processed the tomato juice on our own and then he was all put out that we didn't wait for him and he didn't eat at DQ so he was starving. This hike was small 1.5 miles to the lake and 90 minutes from home so why it took so long to get home was besides me and he said the group was really slow moving and didn't wake up on Sunday. I guess I just should plan that on his adventures not to expect him back when he says he will be. What I really want to do is tell him no he can't run off and have fun on his own but if I do that just once I will never hear the end of it from him or his damn therapist on how I won't let him do any of his hobbies and just make him sit at home. Argh!
Good news is it is raining! We really need some rain here in the PNW.
Post by twinmomma on Sept 10, 2018 13:24:35 GMT -5
Weekend was good, but didn't get quite everything done. I came back from my conference Friday night, it was STBXH's weekend with the kids, so I had the house to myself all weekend to recover. Did dinner with friends on Saturday night and otherwise just cleaned and organized. When he moved out, he just kind of grabbed stuff and left a trail of dust and random mess in his wake. Between work and the conference, I hadn't had time to deal with it. So I cleaned, rearranged furniture, bought a few new decor items that are more my personal style. Feels good but also a little weird. For example, took down my photo wall of all our wedding, maternity, family photos. It just felt weird to have it on display still. I need to find some different pictures to put back up so that the girls don't miss it as much.
Post by greenmonkey1 on Sept 10, 2018 14:32:51 GMT -5
My Microsoft Word is acting up and its is driving me bananas. I really need to run a full virus scan, but it takes forever and I rarely have that time to leave the computer running with the kids around.
The laptop is about 4/5 years old so I anticipate some is age, but I need it to last until my dissertation is done because I do not want to purchase SPSS again.
Weekend was good. 2 soccer games for DD2 on Sat, then DH and DD1 went to help my parents at their new house while DD2 and I cleaned up at home, did laundry, and tried to chill out. Sun we all felt like crap. Nothing specific, just completely exhausted. I still feel like I have a hangover or something, and have not had more than a glass of wine or one spiked seltzer in an evening for, like, months. So maybe we've got a bug or something? Or maybe the start of the school year kicked our collective butts.
It's a busy week. Kids are in school, I set up a bunch of dr appointments that I've been putting off. Piano lessons start up, PTO meeting, fall social, more soccer next weekend. I'm trying to get some meetings set up for my small business in between everything.
Post by librarychica on Sept 10, 2018 17:50:06 GMT -5
Celebration: we had a nice weekend and a lovely date night Saturday. The girls behaved for my parents and had fun.
Vent: my first grader wet herself at school today. She says she raised her hand and her art teacher didn’t see her. According to her, she peed a little, eventually was called on, cleaned herself up and snuck out a paper towel to clean her chair. She says her friends wouldn’t play with her because she smelled and she told everyone she forgot to take a shower.
Idk how accurate this tale is. I do know she peed herself — that much was obviously. I am confused as to how a bunch of adults all didn’t notice.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Sept 10, 2018 18:59:11 GMT -5
I had my first 50 mile bike ride and it went well. Meanwhile DH dropped DS off at his playdate and took DD to gymanstics. Immediately after my ride I went and picked DS up from his play date with an old friend. I can't tell you how much I love that mom and will miss being in school with her and her kid. They're the best.
We were home for 30 mins and then went to that birthday party, DS was not thrilled at doing so much and then was not thrilled about how things went. There were some bright spots but low spots too. I went ahead and emailed one of his classmates about a play date. My house is not read and I'm not ready but I felt like it would help. She hasn't answered yet so we'll see.
Went out to eat with my mom after all that b/c she had surgery today. Even minor surgeries end up being precarious b/c of all her health conditions. She just got out of surgery and I'm still worried about her.
Sunday I we all just chilled. The kids were thrilled to have a "stay at home day". Plus it rained so that was good for the grass.
Next weekend is going to be just as busy as this one so. Ugh.
Post by traveltheworld on Sept 10, 2018 21:44:57 GMT -5
Ack, my annoyance with DS's school/class continues. First it was the whole "parents can come join the first 15 minutes of class, every class" thing, then it was the whole "wear a different colour every day this week" thing, then now DS came home with his first home reading book and the teacher assigned him a level A book. He was at level H at the end of Kindergarten last year and had improved significantly over the summer. According to DS, he had tried to tell his teacher that level A is too easy for him, but she didn't believe him. DS is not the type of kid who'd shy away from voicing his opinions so my inclination is to believe him on this one.
I guess we'll leave it for a few days and see if the problem will self correct itself.
Celebration: My kids' teachers are so, so amazing. I had emailed them to give a heads up on the transitions in our family. And they've been amazing about checking in with me, sending home extra packets of stuff for me and their dad to each get a copy, and double checking on which days they're with each of us. I am just blown away at how attentive and helpful they've been so far this year.
Post by librarychica on Sept 11, 2018 7:47:57 GMT -5
traveltheworld, we are doing the every color a different day for two weeks thing too. To support the kindergartners learning their colors.” DD came home yesterday in her pink and orange dress “today was red day. Do I even have a red shirt?”
Ack, my annoyance with DS's school/class continues. First it was the whole "parents can come join the first 15 minutes of class, every class" thing, then it was the whole "wear a different colour every day this week" thing, then now DS came home with his first home reading book and the teacher assigned him a level A book. He was at level H at the end of Kindergarten last year and had improved significantly over the summer. According to DS, he had tried to tell his teacher that level A is too easy for him, but she didn't believe him. DS is not the type of kid who'd shy away from voicing his opinions so my inclination is to believe him on this one.
I guess we'll leave it for a few days and see if the problem will self correct itself.
I missed the wear a different color every day. My kid likes certain shirts and he picks them out himself, plus if I don't have that color I am not going out to buy one. There is probably a good reason why we don't have it in the first place.
I would email the teacher about the book thing. Not in an accusatory way, but in a hey DS "said" type of way and I am trying to get the whole picture because level A really is too easy for him. It might be something like the entire class is reading this story so I can accurately gauge the reading levels, or we are learning something about this particular book.
Then if she comes back with well "I think it is appropriate for him" you guys can schedule and conference and discuss it sooner rather than later. Then maybe also discuss the rest of the little things.